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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Chatting to a guy ( nice hot looking )
For a while
Met up for coffee eventually
He wasn't feeling too great
Anyway kept on talking through messages
Said to meet up and make it up to me over another coffee
Asked him last week to meet up for coffee this week said he would let me know closer to time
He's too busy plus going out with his mates
Wasted my time on him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It could be anything. He's probably married. But it could be work, family issues or simply nerves or something he doesn't feel comfortable telling you about. Would be a lot easier if they just said sorry I'm not interested in meeting. They like being chased. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds like he's just busy?  "
Every time I suggested something he is busy
No ... timewaster...
Learnt my lesson ...
Someone who is genuinely interested will make time ... like I do... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It could be anything. He's probably married. But it could be work, family issues or simply nerves or something he doesn't feel comfortable telling you about. Would be a lot easier if they just said sorry I'm not interested in meeting. They like being chased. "
Not married. Single. He doesn't have time for fab. He shouldnt be on it.
Anyway rant over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is Christmas week..maybe he had family plans and nights out with friends already arranged, maybe give him another chance after Christmas."
Or Coldsore  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It could be anything. He's probably married. But it could be work, family issues or simply nerves or something he doesn't feel comfortable telling you about. Would be a lot easier if they just said sorry I'm not interested in meeting. They like being chased.
Not married. Single. He doesn't have time for fab. He shouldnt be on it.
Anyway rant over. "
I'm on it and I rarely meet. I dont have time for it either. Maybe he's nervous about meeting you? It happens to us all. Sadly you get used to it. Just block and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It could be anything. He's probably married. But it could be work, family issues or simply nerves or something he doesn't feel comfortable telling you about. Would be a lot easier if they just said sorry I'm not interested in meeting. They like being chased.
Not married. Single. He doesn't have time for fab. He shouldnt be on it.
Anyway rant over.
I'm on it and I rarely meet. I dont have time for it either. Maybe he's nervous about meeting you? It happens to us all. Sadly you get used to it. Just block and move on. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand .. and believe me ... I gave him plenty of chances ... no ... time to move on ... "
Go with yer gut , if you think that's it then that's It ... if ya don't then give the man a chance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is Christmas week..maybe he had family plans and nights out with friends already arranged, maybe give him another chance after Christmas.
Or Coldsore "
He could have..or the flu..or ebola hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is Christmas week..maybe he had family plans and nights out with friends already arranged, maybe give him another chance after Christmas.
Or Coldsore
He could have..or the flu..or ebola hahaha "
it's the weather for it to be fair |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I understand .. and believe me ... I gave him plenty of chances ... no ... time to move on ...
Hot or not .... sounds like he got another lady stashed away "
Each to their own |
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"I understand .. and believe me ... I gave him plenty of chances ... no ... time to move on ...
Hot or not .... sounds like he got another lady stashed away
Each to their own "
Yip .... his loss huni x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It could be anything. He's probably married. But it could be work, family issues or simply nerves or something he doesn't feel comfortable telling you about. Would be a lot easier if they just said sorry I'm not interested in meeting. They like being chased.
Not married. Single. He doesn't have time for fab. He shouldnt be on it.
Anyway rant over. "
How can you be sure he is single ? |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
I get strung along all the time, here and in real life. It's a pain but the way many ladies do things so I have to put up with it to a certain extent. It's so damn frustrating and exhausting though. Hard to meet genuine and straight up people that I fancy |
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By *ts artMan
over a year ago
Londonderry |
"Sounds like he's just busy?
Every time I suggested something he is busy
No ... timewaster...
Learnt my lesson ...
Someone who is genuinely interested will make time ... like I do... "
Have lots of time to explore things, many things from sensual too hot and kinky |
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By *ts artMan
over a year ago
Londonderry |
"Maybe he's not really into you and hasn't got the balls to tell you. Just move on.
Ffs, how much hinting do you need.. "
Hints are good,,,, horny building up of tension is even better but thats another story |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe he's not really into you and hasn't got the balls to tell you. Just move on.
Ffs, how much hinting do you need..
Hints are good,,,, horny building up of tension is even better but thats another story "
Now now...There's hinting and there's downright hinting  |
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By *ts artMan
over a year ago
Londonderry |
"Maybe he's not really into you and hasn't got the balls to tell you. Just move on.
Ffs, how much hinting do you need..
Hints are good,,,, horny building up of tension is even better but thats another story
Now now...There's hinting and there's downright hinting "
Oh is there,,,,,,, being such an innocent soul I couldn't say,,,,,, |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
With the greatest of respect, dry your eyes. Just sounds like he's not that interested in you. We can't be everyone's cup of tea.
As my dear departed mother used to say, 'you will find sympathy in the dictionary between shit and syphilis'. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"With the greatest of respect, dry your eyes. Just sounds like he's not that interested in you. We can't be everyone's cup of tea.
As my dear departed mother used to say, 'you will find sympathy in the dictionary between shit and syphilis'."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And it was a waste of time ...
Yeah ... that's the last time I ever chase a guy ... 
Ah don't give up, just get a lasso..."
mine is being put to good use |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And it was a waste of time ...
Yeah ... that's the last time I ever chase a guy ...
Ah don't give up, just get a lasso...
mine is being put to good use"
Hehehe! You got 'em hogtied there duputy?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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oh don't fret about it Redunicorn, im here for you, like a reserve parachute im waiting to be pulled
Thanks  "
Move on, if he can't make time for a simple coffee meet waste of time, im sure theres a queue of lads who would, me included |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There can be lots of reasons why someone can't commit to a meet, or does and then can't meet anyway. I hate the term timewaster. I know there are a lot of people here who arrange meetings with zero intention of turning up, but they're not the same as those who arrange and just can't make it when it comes down to it. The first are timewasters, in my opinion the second are not. It's unfair to tar all with the same brush. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand .. and believe me ... I gave him plenty of chances ... no ... time to move on ...
Hot or not .... sounds like he got another lady stashed away
Each to their own
Yip .... his loss huni x"
love comments like this..
Question.. how is it his loss if they never met? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It could be anything. He's probably married. But it could be work, family issues or simply nerves or something he doesn't feel comfortable telling you about. Would be a lot easier if they just said sorry I'm not interested in meeting. They like being chased.
Not married. Single. He doesn't have time for fab. He shouldnt be on it.
Anyway rant over. "
Maybe he just doesn't like coffee? Try asking to go for tea? Or hot chocolate! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being deceptive and putting things on the long finger can result in hurt and is not fair on anybody really. It's difficult to tell but here it seems he wants to string things along with no intention of properly meeting and every intention of maintaining the contact. That may be nerves or a sense of wanting to feel wanted and chased outweighing the actual act. Whatever it is, it's not a good way of functioning in any respect and is bad in the longrun. I'd say cut him loose Red, it can be difficult if you've taken a particular shine to him but it's really better overall. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Being deceptive and putting things on the long finger can result in hurt and is not fair on anybody really. It's difficult to tell but here it seems he wants to string things along with no intention of properly meeting and every intention of maintaining the contact. That may be nerves or a sense of wanting to feel wanted and chased outweighing the actual act. Whatever it is, it's not a good way of functioning in any respect and is bad in the longrun. I'd say cut him loose Red, it can be difficult if you've taken a particular shine to him but it's really better overall. "
Thank you. Much appreciated.
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"Being deceptive and putting things on the long finger can result in hurt and is not fair on anybody really. It's difficult to tell but here it seems he wants to string things along with no intention of properly meeting and every intention of maintaining the contact. That may be nerves or a sense of wanting to feel wanted and chased outweighing the actual act. Whatever it is, it's not a good way of functioning in any respect and is bad in the longrun. I'd say cut him loose Red, it can be difficult if you've taken a particular shine to him but it's really better overall. "
We are only hearing her side of the story.....and then there's his. Somewhere in the middle is the truth.
I agree if this was written by a man then the response would have been totally different.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Being deceptive and putting things on the long finger can result in hurt and is not fair on anybody really. It's difficult to tell but here it seems he wants to string things along with no intention of properly meeting and every intention of maintaining the contact. That may be nerves or a sense of wanting to feel wanted and chased outweighing the actual act. Whatever it is, it's not a good way of functioning in any respect and is bad in the longrun. I'd say cut him loose Red, it can be difficult if you've taken a particular shine to him but it's really better overall.
We are only hearing her side of the story.....and then there's his. Somewhere in the middle is the truth.
I agree if this was written by a man then the response would have been totally different. "
His truth is he was there with his girlfriend/partner/wife whatever. Then has the audacity to take pictures of me and my car. That's when a line was crossed.
My fault in all of this is being nice and ignoring the signs.
Real life and fab life are two completely different types.
There is no other truth.
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"Being deceptive and putting things on the long finger can result in hurt and is not fair on anybody really. It's difficult to tell but here it seems he wants to string things along with no intention of properly meeting and every intention of maintaining the contact. That may be nerves or a sense of wanting to feel wanted and chased outweighing the actual act. Whatever it is, it's not a good way of functioning in any respect and is bad in the longrun. I'd say cut him loose Red, it can be difficult if you've taken a particular shine to him but it's really better overall.
We are only hearing her side of the story.....and then there's his. Somewhere in the middle is the truth.
I agree if this was written by a man then the response would have been totally different.
His truth is he was there with his girlfriend/partner/wife whatever. Then has the audacity to take pictures of me and my car. That's when a line was crossed.
My fault in all of this is being nice and ignoring the signs.
Real life and fab life are two completely different types.
There is no other truth.
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Sorry I'm lost now.....you said earlier that he was definitely single and didn't have time for fab. No mention of him taking pics or anything just that he was making excuses for not meeting you  |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
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"Being deceptive and putting things on the long finger can result in hurt and is not fair on anybody really. It's difficult to tell but here it seems he wants to string things along with no intention of properly meeting and every intention of maintaining the contact. That may be nerves or a sense of wanting to feel wanted and chased outweighing the actual act. Whatever it is, it's not a good way of functioning in any respect and is bad in the longrun. I'd say cut him loose Red, it can be difficult if you've taken a particular shine to him but it's really better overall.
We are only hearing her side of the story.....and then there's his. Somewhere in the middle is the truth.
I agree if this was written by a man then the response would have been totally different.
His truth is he was there with his girlfriend/partner/wife whatever. Then has the audacity to take pictures of me and my car. That's when a line was crossed.
My fault in all of this is being nice and ignoring the signs.
Real life and fab life are two completely different types.
There is no other truth.
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Being deceptive and putting things on the long finger can result in hurt and is not fair on anybody really. It's difficult to tell but here it seems he wants to string things along with no intention of properly meeting and every intention of maintaining the contact. That may be nerves or a sense of wanting to feel wanted and chased outweighing the actual act. Whatever it is, it's not a good way of functioning in any respect and is bad in the longrun. I'd say cut him loose Red, it can be difficult if you've taken a particular shine to him but it's really better overall.
We are only hearing her side of the story.....and then there's his. Somewhere in the middle is the truth.
I agree if this was written by a man then the response would have been totally different.
His truth is he was there with his girlfriend/partner/wife whatever. Then has the audacity to take pictures of me and my car. That's when a line was crossed.
My fault in all of this is being nice and ignoring the signs.
Real life and fab life are two completely different types.
There is no other truth.
Sorry I'm lost now.....you said earlier that he was definitely single and didn't have time for fab. No mention of him taking pics or anything just that he was making excuses for not meeting you "
Sorry Op but this is now a complete different story and one might question your credibility |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I don't know what his story is. I've tried getting it.
He is either all for meeting or then gets cold.
So best just to move on.
Sorry about the mix up.
Having two posts at the same not a good idea. A definite blond moment. Or two. |
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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago
Derry |
You got rejected, the end. It doesn't feel nice, I get that. Everyone here as been rejected at some point or another. Consider it the price of an education. Learn from it and move on. My fingers are too big for this tiny violin.
And yes it goes without saying if a man posted this topic, he would be ripped to pieces. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh I've learnt my lesson.
1. Move on get more thicker skin
2. Look before you post an answer
3. Hide under a blanket quick "
4. Leave the drama on the tv |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh I've learnt my lesson.
1. Move on get more thicker skin
2. Look before you post an answer
3. Hide under a blanket quick
4. Leave the drama on the tv"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From one Red to another Red, always a learning curve on fab. I have filters so I have to initiate chat, usually with a wink. I don't think there needs to be a chase, as once chat started, it will be clear if mutual interest. Since I initiate chat, then I think I have shown I am interested, so I will wait on them to ask to meet and if they don't then no harm done.
As with chances, i am okay with giving second chances as long as they know there will be no third.
Just take your time OP, the good ones are worth holding out for
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"From one Red to another Red, always a learning curve on fab. I have filters so I have to initiate chat, usually with a wink. I don't think there needs to be a chase, as once chat started, it will be clear if mutual interest. Since I initiate chat, then I think I have shown I am interested, so I will wait on them to ask to meet and if they don't then no harm done.
As with chances, i am okay with giving second chances as long as they know there will be no third.
Just take your time OP, the good ones are worth holding out for
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Thanks red
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