"So a coworker who I have a massive crush on turned out to be a faber, wondering should I approach her or would it be unprofessional  "
Very dodgy territory, a lot of people would want to keep their fab activities seperate from their professional life. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So a coworker who I have a massive crush on turned out to be a faber, wondering should I approach her or would it be unprofessional
Very dodgy territory, a lot of people would want to keep their fab activities seperate from their professional life."
I know that's why am looking for advice  |
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"I'd avoid it, could think of nothing worse. If I was to do it I'd drop a subtle hint and judge her reaction and act accordingly. "
Thanks, fingers crossed I guess. |
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"Risky business,if you know her profile name or have an idea why not start there but she will probably run a mile because its too close to home."
A mere mention of knowing and the girl will delete and bolt. |
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"Risky business,if you know her profile name or have an idea why not start there but she will probably run a mile because its too close to home.
A mere mention of knowing and the girl will delete and bolt. "
Ok now am confused, should I just stick with my naughty neighbors |
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"Risky business,if you know her profile name or have an idea why not start there but she will probably run a mile because its too close to home.
A mere mention of knowing and the girl will delete and bolt.
Ok now am confused, should I just stick with my naughty neighbors "
As I see it if you come out straight with her it puts her in a really awkward and uncomfortable position. It's unfair on the women imo. I can only imagine how unpleasant going into work would be for her realising you knew. She might start worrying if you've told people, she might start worrying you'll use it against her etc. For your own career/reputation you should be wary of putting her in this position as well.
By dropping a hint it gives her the option of returning the hint or ignoring it, in which case you can both pretend neither knows. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Risky business,if you know her profile name or have an idea why not start there but she will probably run a mile because its too close to home.
A mere mention of knowing and the girl will delete and bolt.
Ok now am confused, should I just stick with my naughty neighbors
As I see it if you come out straight with her it puts her in a really awkward and uncomfortable position. It's unfair on the women imo. I can only imagine how unpleasant going into work would be for her realising you knew. She might start worrying if you've told people, she might start worrying you'll use it against her etc. For your own career/reputation you should be wary of putting her in this position as well.
By dropping a hint it gives her the option of returning the hint or ignoring it, in which case you can both pretend neither knows. "
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"Depends if you potentially want her to report you for sexual harassment really doesnt it?"
Report me after approaching her on fab??
Anyway I cut my losses and moved on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We were chatting and she fit the discretion
So your only guessing..Jez resist the temptation and think with your brain not your willy"
Try and convince my willy |
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You could send her a face pic on here with a standard message and see how she reacts to that. But I wouldnt do anything at work it could make things very uncomfortable no matter how you approach it because even the knowledge that someone she knows is aware of it could make her feel shes in a bad spot. |
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