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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi. I am new here. Well been on here over a week. I have known about fab from a friend who had been on for couple of years and she enjoyed it.
In the week I've been on. I have had to block several demanding pushy and very stalking guys. One actually got seriously creepy because I got verified. I am carefull with whom I talk. To whom I give my kik name to. And I am taking my time to meeting anyone. Any advice I would very much appreciate. Thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi. I am new here. Well been on here over a week. I have known about fab from a friend who had been on for couple of years and she enjoyed it.
In the week I've been on. I have had to block several demanding pushy and very stalking guys. One actually got seriously creepy because I got verified. I am carefull with whom I talk. To whom I give my kik name to. And I am taking my time to meeting anyone. Any advice I would very much appreciate. Thank you.
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Leave!!   "
Behave you or it's the cane!!!
Welcome op (opening poster) fab is brilliant with the right attitude and filters. Be clear on what you want from it and be careful...after that, it's enjoy. Happy fabbing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi. I am new here. Well been on here over a week. I have known about fab from a friend who had been on for couple of years and she enjoyed it.
In the week I've been on. I have had to block several demanding pushy and very stalking guys. One actually got seriously creepy because I got verified. I am carefull with whom I talk. To whom I give my kik name to. And I am taking my time to meeting anyone. Any advice I would very much appreciate. Thank you.
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Leave!!
Behave you or it's the cane!!!
Welcome op (opening poster) fab is brilliant with the right attitude and filters. Be clear on what you want from it and be careful...after that, it's enjoy. Happy fabbing "
OP means opening poster?  I've been getting that wrong for 10 years  |
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"Hi. I am new here. Well been on here over a week. I have known about fab from a friend who had been on for couple of years and she enjoyed it.
In the week I've been on. I have had to block several demanding pushy and very stalking guys. One actually got seriously creepy because I got verified. I am carefull with whom I talk. To whom I give my kik name to. And I am taking my time to meeting anyone. Any advice I would very much appreciate. Thank you.
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Leave!!
Behave you or it's the cane!!!
Welcome op (opening poster) fab is brilliant with the right attitude and filters. Be clear on what you want from it and be careful...after that, it's enjoy. Happy fabbing "
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Not the long cane I hope!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some women set their mail filters so they don't receive mail. They prefer to search for and contact who their attracted to themselves. Might be an option for a while till you get used to the site . Welcome to the forums  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've set my settings so I don't get any messages from not verified users. I have found the forums and I am very interested to read the posts. Lots of advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi. I am new here. Well been on here over a week. I have known about fab from a friend who had been on for couple of years and she enjoyed it.
In the week I've been on. I have had to block several demanding pushy and very stalking guys. One actually got seriously creepy because I got verified. I am carefull with whom I talk. To whom I give my kik name to. And I am taking my time to meeting anyone. Any advice I would very much appreciate. Thank you.
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Leave!!
Behave you or it's the cane!!!
Welcome op (opening poster) fab is brilliant with the right attitude and filters. Be clear on what you want from it and be careful...after that, it's enjoy. Happy fabbing OP means opening poster? I've been getting that wrong for 10 years "
That's what I understood it to be but hey I could be wrong lol what do you think it is? Ten years...you old dog lol |
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"I've set my settings so I don't get any messages from not verified users. I have found the forums and I am very interested to read the posts. Lots of advice. "
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Oh don't mind the Filters!!
I've mine set to "Any Female can contact you"... doesn't work!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love honesty and a great sense of humour ????
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Madame B wasn't joking!! "
No I wasn't sub it would have to be a very long cane to reach the twilight zone where you are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's what I understood it to be but hey I could be wrong lol what do you think it is? Ten years...you old dog lol"
original poster. Both are applicable and understandable so neither of us is wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love honesty and a great sense of humour ????
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Madame B wasn't joking!!
No I wasn't sub it would have to be a very long cane to reach the twilight zone where you are
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Phew!! "
Butt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love honesty and a great sense of humour ????
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Madame B wasn't joking!!
No I wasn't sub it would have to be a very long cane to reach the twilight zone where you are
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Phew!!
Butt"
Oh can i get in on this as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op set your filters, take your time and dont let anyone pressure you. Also filters are helpful and stick with being on here or on kik were you can block if needed.
Their can be great fabbers on here including the madame B and sub lol so enjoy xx  |
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Welcome to this crazy fab world. As others said put your filters on, don't reply to those ur not interested in (this is harsh but necessary cause ul find ur either spending all ur time replying or ul get stuck in d loop of them then replying to ur reply etc etc). Also use ur 'private notes' in ur menu, block at will & even bulk delete if necessary. Fab is a swingers site & u already know u don't want to sleep/meet with lots so don't waste ur time entertaining the rest.
Also bear in mind fab online mainly (obv not every1) consists of timewasters, keyboardwarriors, spectators & ppl who just wants 1-1fucks so check verifs, see forums for socials, ul soon figure out who's what. Never be afraid to pm another member for advice & always listen to ur gut, if something feels dodgy then shut it down, stay safe above everything else xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi. I am new here. Well been on here over a week. I have known about fab from a friend who had been on for couple of years and she enjoyed it.
In the week I've been on. I have had to block several demanding pushy and very stalking guys. One actually got seriously creepy because I got verified. I am carefull with whom I talk. To whom I give my kik name to. And I am taking my time to meeting anyone. Any advice I would very much appreciate. Thank you. "
Sounds like you're doing OK. Be way more careful than usual, you won't believe how easy it is to hear exactly what you want, only to find out afterwards that it was just words to get you nekkid. Enjoy your time but don't get used. |
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"I love honesty and a great sense of humour ????
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Madame B wasn't joking!!
No I wasn't sub it would have to be a very long cane to reach the twilight zone where you are
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Phew!!
Butt"
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There's always a butt! |
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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago
Dublin West |
Like others have said take your time.
Talk to many, if they pushy then block them. Use the forums and the chat room to get a feel for people.
The decent guys will go at your pace.
Keep Fab life and real life totally seperate. Get a Fab email address, use kik and dont be giving out your number to anyone till you ate 110% sure they not a head melter.
Remember apps like facebook will try and link you up in real life if you use your phone to access here so be carefull there too and dont be afraid to set stuff to friends only and dont use face pics here that you use other places as people can reverse search them on the internet.
Use the profile notes if you are a site supporter to keep track. if you see someone being horrible in the forums make a note on their profile to remind you later.
Always have a vanilla meet (coffee or something) or a few of them before you go further and if you can buddy up with one of the other girls so she knows who you meeting then all the better.
And talk to the girls that are more verified. They will know who the decent guys are and point you in the right direction. Dont assume a couple is actually a couple or a woman is actually a woman unless they well verified. Many lads pose as women and couples to attract females.
You can have a great time here if you dont let it get to the point that you are getting annoyed at people. You will need skin like a rhino sometimes.
And sadly some lads for whatever reason will send you cock shots. I'm not really sure why they find the need to do this but you will get used to blocking them eventually.
Enjoy the site, dont let it melt your head and if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck its probably a duck.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Like others have said take your time.
Talk to many, if they pushy then block them. Use the forums and the chat room to get a feel for people.
The decent guys will go at your pace.
Keep Fab life and real life totally seperate. Get a Fab email address, use kik and dont be giving out your number to anyone till you ate 110% sure they not a head melter.
Remember apps like facebook will try and link you up in real life if you use your phone to access here so be carefull there too and dont be afraid to set stuff to friends only and dont use face pics here that you use other places as people can reverse search them on the internet.
Use the profile notes if you are a site supporter to keep track. if you see someone being horrible in the forums make a note on their profile to remind you later.
Always have a vanilla meet (coffee or something) or a few of them before you go further and if you can buddy up with one of the other girls so she knows who you meeting then all the better.
And talk to the girls that are more verified. They will know who the decent guys are and point you in the right direction. Dont assume a couple is actually a couple or a woman is actually a woman unless they well verified. Many lads pose as women and couples to attract females.
You can have a great time here if you dont let it get to the point that you are getting annoyed at people. You will need skin like a rhino sometimes.
And sadly some lads for whatever reason will send you cock shots. I'm not really sure why they find the need to do this but you will get used to blocking them eventually.
Enjoy the site, dont let it melt your head and if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck its probably a duck...."
What he said |
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"Like others have said take your time.
Talk to many, if they pushy then block them. Use the forums and the chat room to get a feel for people.
The decent guys will go at your pace.
Keep Fab life and real life totally seperate. Get a Fab email address, use kik and dont be giving out your number to anyone till you ate 110% sure they not a head melter.
Remember apps like facebook will try and link you up in real life if you use your phone to access here so be carefull there too and dont be afraid to set stuff to friends only and dont use face pics here that you use other places as people can reverse search them on the internet.
Use the profile notes if you are a site supporter to keep track. if you see someone being horrible in the forums make a note on their profile to remind you later.
Always have a vanilla meet (coffee or something) or a few of them before you go further and if you can buddy up with one of the other girls so she knows who you meeting then all the better.
And talk to the girls that are more verified. They will know who the decent guys are and point you in the right direction. Dont assume a couple is actually a couple or a woman is actually a woman unless they well verified. Many lads pose as women and couples to attract females.
You can have a great time here if you dont let it get to the point that you are getting annoyed at people. You will need skin like a rhino sometimes.
And sadly some lads for whatever reason will send you cock shots. I'm not really sure why they find the need to do this but you will get used to blocking them eventually.
Enjoy the site, dont let it melt your head and if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck its probably a duck....
What he said"
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Agree with above poster! |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
Welcome to fab! It's a rough place, always remember it's just a means to hook up, it can provide plenty of fun but you have to make sure you're in control of it. Never get rushed into something, listen to your gut feeling, if any doubt it's a no goer. |
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A friend showed me her "dating site fishy" in box after a few days of not even being online and she had rude messages and dick pics, I hate to think what fab ones are like.
I would use the forums and also contact a few guys first, I'm.sure this does happen, just not sure when or who does it? Haha
Oh and maybe block me! I have been known to send really long waffling messages at weird hours of the day.
I have abet you an ass pic to help counterbalance the dick ones. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi,
Women get a raw deal, as soon as a new profile goes live every single guy gets excited and she will get mail from every end of the country!
My advice would be set filters 1St, don't reply to those that don't interest u.
Maybe start out by contacting only verified people,(saws the unverified guy lol!
Don't get 2 worried, experienced swingers are normally quite normal, nice fun people, they didn't get well verified by being Un likeable!
Have fun x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi. I am new here. Well been on here over a week. I have known about fab from a friend who had been on for couple of years and she enjoyed it.
In the week I've been on. I have had to block several demanding pushy and very stalking guys. One actually got seriously creepy because I got verified. I am carefull with whom I talk. To whom I give my kik name to. And I am taking my time to meeting anyone. Any advice I would very much appreciate. Thank you.
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Leave!!
Behave you or it's the cane!!!
Welcome op (opening poster) fab is brilliant with the right attitude and filters. Be clear on what you want from it and be careful...after that, it's enjoy. Happy fabbing OP means opening poster? I've been getting that wrong for 10 years
That's what I understood it to be but hey I could be wrong lol what do you think it is? Ten years...you old dog lol"
Welcome back Red...
Would pm you but seems you blocked everyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Keep being cautious. Insist on verifications, pics, phone calls, coffee meets 1st if you like. As a lady you can! Go to socials and get to know people. Seeing a familiar name on a verification is a real help.
Try not to get overwhelmed. Remember you are here for fun on your terms, not anyone else's.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Keep being cautious. Insist on verifications, pics, phone calls, coffee meets 1st if you like. As a lady you can! Go to socials and get to know people. Seeing a familiar name on a verification is a real help.
Try not to get overwhelmed. Remember you are here for fun on your terms, not anyone else's.
Good luck "
Thank you. I've learnt my lessons.
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"I am being patient. I've noticed people don't read profiles either. I've asked to please not send any dick pics.
Thanks for the reply "
Put a word or phrase in your profile , near the end that they quote in messaging you to prove they read your description
And ignore the rest |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am being patient. I've noticed people don't read profiles either. I've asked to please not send any dick pics.
Thanks for the reply
Put a word or phrase in your profile , near the end that they quote in messaging you to prove they read your description
And ignore the rest"
Don't bother - men know about this ... and just skip to the end to look for the password |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi. I am new here. Well been on here over a week. I have known about fab from a friend who had been on for couple of years and she enjoyed it.
In the week I've been on. I have had to block several demanding pushy and very stalking guys. One actually got seriously creepy because I got verified. I am carefull with whom I talk. To whom I give my kik name to. And I am taking my time to meeting anyone. Any advice I would very much appreciate. Thank you.
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Leave!!
Behave you or it's the cane!!!
Welcome op (opening poster) fab is brilliant with the right attitude and filters. Be clear on what you want from it and be careful...after that, it's enjoy. Happy fabbing OP means opening poster? I've been getting that wrong for 10 years
That's what I understood it to be but hey I could be wrong lol what do you think it is? Ten years...you old dog lol
Welcome back Red...
Would pm you but seems you blocked everyone "
Thanks home, only just saw this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi. I am new here. Well been on here over a week. I have known about fab from a friend who had been on for couple of years and she enjoyed it.
In the week I've been on. I have had to block several demanding pushy and very stalking guys. One actually got seriously creepy because I got verified. I am carefull with whom I talk. To whom I give my kik name to. And I am taking my time to meeting anyone. Any advice I would very much appreciate. Thank you.
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Leave!!
Behave you or it's the cane!!!
Welcome op (opening poster) fab is brilliant with the right attitude and filters. Be clear on what you want from it and be careful...after that, it's enjoy. Happy fabbing OP means opening poster? I've been getting that wrong for 10 years
That's what I understood it to be but hey I could be wrong lol what do you think it is? Ten years...you old dog lol
Welcome back Red...
Would pm you but seems you blocked everyone
Thanks home, only just saw this. "
Whoops Hine |
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