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For the couples who met through swinging....
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Well this question is for you (or anyone else who might think it applies)
For those who met through swinging, but fell into a relationship did you first have a monogamous period or did you keep swinging throughout the early days of the relationship?
Or those who met your partners outside of the lifestyle but were open enough to let each other know early on that non monogamy was an option, did you do something similar?
I've often thought that if I met someone that I wanted to go out with who was open to swinging that I'd focus on only her until such time that the relationship had a solid foundation to work off before any swinging happened.
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I think I would try and give up swinging. A relationship needs to develop without having swinging in the background. If in time you won't to go back to the lifestyle than do so.But let the relationship develop properly.  |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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We met through swinging , and had a few months to ourselves but decided to get back to swinging , but joined as a cpl , and nave never looked back , we enjoy it together and its something that turns us on big time , we do have a fantastic sex life , but swinging brings in something a bit different as in group fun etc
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"I think I would try and give up swinging. A relationship needs to develop without having swinging in the background. If in time you won't to go back to the lifestyle than do so.But let the relationship develop properly. "
This would be my feeling too.
I'm off the mind that as long as I know swinging is a possibility at some point in the future, then I'm happy to focus on the relationship in the present
Or is that selfish? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have not met anyone to begin a relationship but I would like to comment.....
Now that I have enjoyed the lifestyle and what it offers I don't think I could ever go back to a vanilla type relationship.... So I guess the only possibility I have of having a successful relationship is to find someone open and either join me or meet someone who already has had experience in the lifestyle...... I have not looked for a partner in crime and tbh I can't see me meeting anyone now!
Still I am very happy in my current situation  |
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"I think I would try and give up swinging. A relationship needs to develop without having swinging in the background. If in time you won't to go back to the lifestyle than do so.But let the relationship develop properly.
This would be my feeling too.
I'm off the mind that as long as I know swinging is a possibility at some point in the future, then I'm happy to focus on the relationship in the present
Or is that selfish?"
what would happen if your partner,decided they didn't want to participate in the lifestyle anymore? |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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I'd go with the monogamous period if it's a relationship you are wanting instead of just a fb couple. I was in a 5 year relationship with a woman I met on a swingers site when we started going out properly we gave ourselves 6 months just us. |
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We met on another site nearly four years ago. It was only supposed to be a one night fuck date but clearly developed into a grown up and loving relationship. We never gave it up. After all, thats how we met and thats what we like. Still love it and could/would never go back to vanilla. |
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"I think I would try and give up swinging. A relationship needs to develop without having swinging in the background. If in time you won't to go back to the lifestyle than do so.But let the relationship develop properly.
This would be my feeling too.
I'm off the mind that as long as I know swinging is a possibility at some point in the future, then I'm happy to focus on the relationship in the present
Or is that selfish? what would happen if your partner,decided they didn't want to participate in the lifestyle anymore? "
As I'm not in that situation, I have no idea. Ask me if it happens!
I can only speak for myself and say that for me swinging would be very hard for me to give up for good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good question Mr.M,
I suppose if you entered as swingers, there's a good chance you could miss that almost sublime settling in period where the foundation is built... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In our case we had a few months of each other before we joined which was lovely it was hard at the start for me Mr osmium will tell u i think we closed the account about 4 times at the start cause of me we joined to early but we got back to spending time with each other and i relaxed more and got to know each other more . Then we both decided to try it again and we have had some crazy fun nights lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I would try and give up swinging. A relationship needs to develop without having swinging in the background. If in time you won't to go back to the lifestyle than do so.But let the relationship develop properly. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally, I think I'd take a break from here, make sure this person is whole & not just a good shag then when I was ready, make a new couples profile & start from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We met on this site and when we got together first and got serious we came off fab for a long time but we came back on to have a look around and have been here since but I definitely think it's a good idea to come off for a while to let the relationship develop before re-entering the lifestyle |
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We didn't have any break from here when we moved from being singles to a "real life" couple and it's worked fine for us (so far!).
For context, when we first met on here we were also meeting others as singles. We then started meeting each other more and other singles less. We progressed to meeting other couples together and stopped meeting singles separately (even though we were not an actual couple). This all happened kinda organically without any formal discussion.
When we then discuss and decided to become an actual couple, we did agree to take time off here to see if we were compatible on our own, but we soon realised that the lifestyle was an important part of what we enjoy, so we were back on here a week later. The fact that we had been already meeting other couples and attending events as a couple prior to being "formal" probably made the transition easier. |
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"We didn't have any break from here when we moved from being singles to a "real life" couple and it's worked fine for us (so far!).
For context, when we first met on here we were also meeting others as singles. We then started meeting each other more and other singles less. We progressed to meeting other couples together and stopped meeting singles separately (even though we were not an actual couple). This all happened kinda organically without any formal discussion.
When we then discuss and decided to become an actual couple, we did agree to take time off here to see if we were compatible on our own, but we soon realised that the lifestyle was an important part of what we enjoy, so we were back on here a week later. The fact that we had been already meeting other couples and attending events as a couple prior to being "formal" probably made the transition easier."
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There is no right or wrong answer, whatever makes both parties happy is the winner. If one of us wasn't comfortable with swinging we would give it up. It's supposed to be fun for both parties. I'd choose himself over anything |
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Myself and Ann met here on fab, and after a brief period of continuing to plan meets, we just seemed to phase out of the swing scene and just keep to each other  it's easy enough when I've already got the best woman on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Myself and Ann met here on fab, and after a brief period of continuing to plan meets, we just seemed to phase out of the swing scene and just keep to each other it's easy enough when I've already got the best woman on here "
You old silver tongued devil, I can definitely see what she sees in you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm loving all the stories about the couples who met on here, there is hope yet, for all us incurable romantics seeking dirty, filthy "insert your own word here" (I got in trouble for saying it the last time)   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Indeed. Some interesting perspectives. "
I'm sure many a relationship has ended because of fab. Married guys forgetting to lock mobile phones and the like. |
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"Indeed. Some interesting perspectives.
I'm sure many a relationship has ended because of fab. Married guys forgetting to lock mobile phones and the like. "
Indeed. I don't know how they hide it to be honest. I couldn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Swinging is a sprinkle. A relationship is the cake. Love is the cream. (Or jam)
It's a great addition to a relationship. But you need a solid base for your relationship first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Indeed. Some interesting perspectives.
I'm sure many a relationship has ended because of fab. Married guys forgetting to lock mobile phones and the like. "
There are relationships ended because of swinging. Swinging will not save a dying relationship. It will only speed up the downward spiral. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Indeed. Some interesting perspectives.
I'm sure many a relationship has ended because of fab. Married guys forgetting to lock mobile phones and the like.
There are relationships ended because of swinging. Swinging will not save a dying relationship. It will only speed up the downward spiral. "
If the marriage is in trouble it will end, but swinging won't necessarily be the reason for it.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Indeed. Some interesting perspectives.
I'm sure many a relationship has ended because of fab. Married guys forgetting to lock mobile phones and the like.
There are relationships ended because of swinging. Swinging will not save a dying relationship. It will only speed up the downward spiral.
If the marriage is in trouble it will end, but swinging won't necessarily be the reason for it...."
^ what annie said is more accurate and better worded. |
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"We didn't have any break from here when we moved from being singles to a "real life" couple and it's worked fine for us (so far!).
For context, when we first met on here we were also meeting others as singles. We then started meeting each other more and other singles less. We progressed to meeting other couples together and stopped meeting singles separately (even though we were not an actual couple). This all happened kinda organically without any formal discussion.
When we then discuss and decided to become an actual couple, we did agree to take time off here to see if we were compatible on our own, but we soon realised that the lifestyle was an important part of what we enjoy, so we were back on here a week later. The fact that we had been already meeting other couples and attending events as a couple prior to being "formal" probably made the transition easier."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We didn't have any break from here when we moved from being singles to a "real life" couple and it's worked fine for us (so far!).
For context, when we first met on here we were also meeting others as singles. We then started meeting each other more and other singles less. We progressed to meeting other couples together and stopped meeting singles separately (even though we were not an actual couple). This all happened kinda organically without any formal discussion.
When we then discuss and decided to become an actual couple, we did agree to take time off here to see if we were compatible on our own, but we soon realised that the lifestyle was an important part of what we enjoy, so we were back on here a week later. The fact that we had been already meeting other couples and attending events as a couple prior to being "formal" probably made the transition easier."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Indeed. Some interesting perspectives.
I'm sure many a relationship has ended because of fab. Married guys forgetting to lock mobile phones and the like.
There are relationships ended because of swinging. Swinging will not save a dying relationship. It will only speed up the downward spiral. "
Relationships don't end because of swinging, they end because the swinging started for the wrong reasons.
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