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Vanilla dinner date
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a vanilla dinner date tonight the first in two years . Will i remember how to behave . Do i talk about my swing life etc any thoughts "
Be yourself, relax and try to have fun. I know it's cliche, but it's true
I go on quite a few vanilla dates when I am away with work, unfortuneitly fab isn't as popular everywhere as it is in Ireland and the U.K. but I like them and you'd be surprised at how many vanillas are just as naughty as us Fabbers.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Would only bring up Fab if your looking to introduce him to the lifestyle. Personally it would be the last thing I'd bring up on a first date unless they already know you. |
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I had my first vannila date in 16 years a few weeks back. It's great. Wouldn't have mentioned the fabbing though as it was very casual and we didn't click sexually.
It was so relaxing I was happy for days.
Have a nice time and dont forget to report back with how it went. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would only bring up Fab if your looking to introduce him to the lifestyle. Personally it would be the last thing I'd bring up on a first date unless they already know you. "
Totally agree, enjoy your night OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wow guys thank u so much . U have mirrored my own thoughts . Just feel i need some normal life for a while and step out of my comfort zone of fab "
Totally agree with you! Think I'm gooy eyed from FAB lately!! It's great to just take a step back!! Good luck with your Date, let us know how u get on!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not sure if you will suss out his mindset in first meet. It's your private sex life also. You obviously like him if you agreed to this as it's no longer the norm for you. I think treat it as exactly what it is, a vanilla dinner date, see how it goes but I personally wouldn't be laying it all up on the table as he knows your real life I assume and if it doesn't go well you have the worry of it being out there. If and when thing's progress and you see him again if it gets to the bedroom and thing's get adventurous...it will open up the opportunity to discuss it and you will know when. Go with what you feel comfortable with but keep in mind the private nature of this lifestyle and how it can be perceived in the vanilla world.
Hope you have a fab vanilla time. Interested to know how you get on. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I will let u all know how it pans out guys . And i always go by my guy instinct and it rarely lets me down . When i joined fab i made a deal with my self when i stoppped enjoying it i would step back from it . But have had fantastic experiences and made great friends |
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Keep the fab scene to yourself. See how you both get on, enjoy the "vanilla date" it's not fab related...if in time things progress and if you want than bring fab up... but for the time being enjoy it... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Keep the fab scene to yourself. See how you both get on, enjoy the "vanilla date" it's not fab related...if in time things progress and if you want than bring fab up... but for the time being enjoy it..."
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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago
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it says something when a vanilla brings out more nerves than a fab one...
The fab ones are usually more fun and more relaxed in my opinion.
at least you know the person sitting opposite to you at the table is fairly openminded if nothing else |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its been so long since I had a normal non fab date I wouldn't know how to act  it may be nice for a change when someone asks what are you into they mean hobby wise rather then sex lol |
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Well if u think this will go further long term I would put a hold on sex on d first date r so n if he thinks ur worth waiting for then he will wait for u . At least then u know he's not just after a quick fuck excuse my upfrontness . Wish u good luck , u will know bye d end of d nite how it's going to go . Enjoy urself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a vanilla dinner date tonight the first in two years . Will i remember how to behave . Do i talk about my swing life etc any thoughts "
Probably not the best conversation topic for a 1st date lol!
Enjoy yourself. |
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"Oh enjoy!!! xxxx
If you cooking he will fall in love with you!! ha ha lol im not cooking to night lol "
just enjoy yourself ive had few vanilla nites out for dinner and they went well but wouldnt mention fab at all and only first base allowed lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Well i will know soon enough as im leaving work to go meet him . Thanks for all the positivity and i will update u later . Havent felt this nervous on years but excited too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well i will know soon enough as im leaving work to go meet him . Thanks for all the positivity and i will update u later . Havent felt this nervous on years but excited too "
Just ...Don't drop the hand, and you don't need to meet in the dark corner of the room
It's OK for people to overhear  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Well what can i say . It was a really lovely eve . The conversation flowed . The setting was very romantic and i do feel that my experience on fab helped alot as it has given me back my confidence in my self so the rest fell into place . And the good night kiss was lovely . So yes roll on date no 2 . The eve was just what i needed |
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"Well what can i say . It was a really lovely eve . The conversation flowed . The setting was very romantic and i do feel that my experience on fab helped alot as it has given me back my confidence in my self so the rest fell into place . And the good night kiss was lovely . So yes roll on date no 2 . The eve was just what i needed "
Aw that's lovely to hear!!! Well done and hope it's the start of something wonderful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well what can i say . It was a really lovely eve . The conversation flowed . The setting was very romantic and i do feel that my experience on fab helped alot as it has given me back my confidence in my self so the rest fell into place . And the good night kiss was lovely . So yes roll on date no 2 . The eve was just what i needed "
Delighted to hear ya had good time... Jock |
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"Well what can i say . It was a really lovely eve . The conversation flowed . The setting was very romantic and i do feel that my experience on fab helped alot as it has given me back my confidence in my self so the rest fell into place . And the good night kiss was lovely . So yes roll on date no 2 . The eve was just what i needed "
glad to hear you had a great nite and all the best for date no 2 x
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By (user no longer on site)
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If u think it might possibly lead somewhere more than just a few dates I would avoid mentioning fab or swinging at all, EVER!, unless u want him to join you. In my experience vanilla guys can get quite intemidated by a female being so sexually experienced and comfortable and insatiable. Delighted for you though. I know it's not easy!  |
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