FabSwingers.com > Forums > Ireland > Confidence
Confidence
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Does it hold you back from meeting people you really want to meet?
I know it does for me, I know myself I'll be fine once the initial few minutes are over but making that intial break to meet is soo hard   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
When I first started this yea i did. Still hits me sometimes but mostly it's either they like me or they don't. Can't be everyone's double vodka I suppose. But you're beautiful.. just be yourself  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
It's like a first date experience, will there be chemistry will they fancy you etc I have a lot of respect for the single woman on this because me and himself can calm each other down and we have each others back. Just want to say op that your pictures look amazeballs, classy and sexy  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"Does it hold you back from meeting people you really want to meet?
I know it does for me, I know myself I'll be fine once the initial few minutes are over but making that intial break to meet is soo hard "
Relax, I'm not that intimating in reality   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
It's always a worry, especially if you pay too much attention to some of the eejits on here. If they like me they like me, if they don't oh well, these days I concern myself more with the fact that I might not like them! lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"When I first started this yea i did. Still hits me sometimes but mostly it's either they like me or they don't. Can't be everyone's double vodka I suppose. But you're beautiful.. just be yourself "
So it's a double vodka you want then |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'm going to focus in on the phrase "hold you back from meeting the people you really want to meet"
Never disqualify yourself from a potential date. You dont know what they will say, you don't know how they perceive you. Let them say no.
Aim for the stars. Just let them know you are interested. It doesnt need to be funny or sexy. Just simple works better.
If they are not interested so be it. Rejection sucks but there are worse things. It takes courage to step forward and face potential rejection. But the rewards are spectacular. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I've recently met someone I had put off meeting for months for that very reason. Turns out I was completely wrong to worry and had loads in common and amazing chemistry. Your beautiful girl and if they asked you to meet there's obviously a reason |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"When I first started this yea i did. Still hits me sometimes but mostly it's either they like me or they don't. Can't be everyone's double vodka I suppose. But you're beautiful.. just be yourself
So it's a double vodka you want then "
Always |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
When I Joined Fab I was very much like that , low in confidence and felt very nervous to meet... probably the fact you interact over messages allowed me to show my sense of humour. Now I have a little confidence and as someone said aim for the Stars ya never know what might happen worst they can say is no thanks and ya move on... have met some great people on here though and look forward to meeting many more |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I was talking a bit about this yesterday to someone. On a nature of a site like this without the face pictures it's always going to be a bit more nerve wracking. Then the perception vs reality of non-face pictures can make you wonder as well.
Still much better to try and fail then not try at all. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
first woman i ever met from the internet I was a nervous wreck and completely fooked it up..it was the first time so didn't know what I was doing really..any other subsequent meets have been grand..no need to be nervous its just a laugh really |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
first woman i ever met from the internet I was a nervous wreck and completely fooked it up..it was the first time so didn't know what I was doing really..any other subsequent meets have been grand..no need to be nervous its just a laugh really "
Now you just do it before she says yes |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
first woman i ever met from the internet I was a nervous wreck and completely fooked it up..it was the first time so didn't know what I was doing really..any other subsequent meets have been grand..no need to be nervous its just a laugh really
Now you just do it before she says yes "
 what |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"It does sometimes. I get nervous before every meet even repeat ones. But it's mixed with excitement too.
Don't worry, I'll put you at ease straightaway "
How sweet   |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Love all the comments, nice to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. I love the butterflies beforehand, if they're not there there's no point to it. It's the couples that intimidate the fuck out of me . Even though I reeeeaally want to meet some. I guess I need to just bite the bullet and start getting what I want.That's why I'm here after all. x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it hold you back from meeting people you really want to meet?
I know it does for me, I know myself I'll be fine once the initial few minutes are over but making that intial break to meet is soo hard "
What your feeling is a totally normal reaction. Probably enhanced because of the situation and circumstances involved....You go girl... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm going to focus in on the phrase "hold you back from meeting the people you really want to meet"
Never disqualify yourself from a potential date. You dont know what they will say, you don't know how they perceive you. Let them say no.
Aim for the stars. Just let them know you are interested. It doesnt need to be funny or sexy. Just simple works better.
If they are not interested so be it. Rejection sucks but there are worse things. It takes courage to step forward and face potential rejection. But the rewards are spectacular. "
Fuckin' A, dude.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I don't get nervous for fab stuff any more but had some real life dates recently and I just can't seem to settle into being myself, usually there's fab in common and no pressure of relationships etc, have to say it's freaking me out and now I'm worried I was too stand offish and may have put him off |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I don't get nervous for fab stuff any more but had some real life dates recently and I just can't seem to settle into being myself, usually there's fab in common and no pressure of relationships etc, have to say it's freaking me out and now I'm worried I was too stand offish and may have put him off "
Want me to join both of you at same time might help you relax |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I don't get nervous for fab stuff any more but had some real life dates recently and I just can't seem to settle into being myself, usually there's fab in common and no pressure of relationships etc, have to say it's freaking me out and now I'm worried I was too stand offish and may have put him off
Want me to join both of you at same time might help you relax "
That's a great idea and so generous of you  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Love all the comments, nice to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. I love the butterflies beforehand, if they're not there there's no point to it. It's the couples that intimidate the fuck out of me . Even though I reeeeaally want to meet some. I guess I need to just bite the bullet and start getting what I want.That's why I'm here after all. x"
Couples should be easy. Pay the Mrs a minimum of 60% of the attention. They will be delighted with you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it hold you back from meeting people you really want to meet?
I know it does for me, I know myself I'll be fine once the initial few minutes are over but making that intial break to meet is soo hard "
im always very positive and confident on a first meet.i suppose when you start chatting on the phone you know. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Well, with "a lot riding on" an initial first good impression (pun intended) of a meet, a few nerves is understandable 
Given the option though, would find a FAB meet much easier to do than a cold approach in a night club. Easier to get to chat about sex in first convo too. GO FAB! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I feel like I'm being an idiot now
Off to perve my hotlist and see who's up for meeting. "
The nervousness of it all is what makes it do exciting for me looking at your profile, you can be sure you are already on a lot of hotlists....including mine x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it hold you back from meeting people you really want to meet?
I know it does for me, I know myself I'll be fine once the initial few minutes are over but making that intial break to meet is soo hard "
Ah I hav to feel nerves n anticipation of a meet. If not no point.
I'm not evrynes type..nor dem mine. So jus go for it!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it hold you back from meeting people you really want to meet?
I know it does for me, I know myself I'll be fine once the initial few minutes are over but making that intial break to meet is soo hard
As one op already said, you look gorgeous and have a fantastic figure which you should take confidence from. Having said that, it is certainly not easy on the nerves at times. Stick with it if the play and fun is better than the pre-meet nerves.. enjoy "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I think nerves are normal. I'm meeting a guy tmw and I'm nervous although we've met for coffee already. It's an excited nervous though so it's all good. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think nerves are normal. I'm meeting a guy tmw and I'm nervous although we've met for coffee already. It's an excited nervous though so it's all good. "
can't remember arranging that luv!!!! Lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I think nerves are normal. I'm meeting a guy tmw and I'm nervous although we've met for coffee already. It's an excited nervous though so it's all good. can't remember arranging that luv!!!! Lol "
Lol. Was good to see you again last week, even if it was brief! x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I think nerves are normal. I'm meeting a guy tmw and I'm nervous although we've met for coffee already. It's an excited nervous though so it's all good. can't remember arranging that luv!!!! Lol
Lol. Was good to see you again last week, even if it was brief! x "
same here luv we'll have to do something about that x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Few glasses of wine into you
And some dutch courage is needed.and you will be grand. I myself was same, when meeting first, i can be quiet shy, but with the right guy make a difference, if their chatty especially, its easier, on a one too one i am not as shy, but i would like too go too a social, thats when im more nervous, coz i get tongue tied, and clam up. But hope too do it sometime. Walking in on your own is no fun either, i would love too meet other people on fab. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I can work myself up into a right state especially if I'm really into the person I'm meeting.
Love the build up and the nerves, if that's not there I'm not sure what the point is in meeting. I'd be confident enough not to be taken for a gobshite but I'm far from cocksure when it comes to meeting and expectations of what will happen. Sparks will fly or they won't |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
"Few glasses of wine into you
"
Don't do that op, it gives you the wrong courage. It's better to have a clear head when meeting. Try to battle the nervousness with other means than drugs. It's only natural to be nervous and it would be a bad sign if you weren't. It's the thrill of meeting and it's a great feeling |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I feel like I'm being an idiot now
Off to perve my hotlist and see who's up for meeting. "
That's more like it....I'd say most would be delighted to meet you. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
on the hill NordWest of |
"Well u don't need too get d*unk on the stuff, it just make u more relaxed, a glass of wine, and no one mentioned drugs, "
I think it's better to share a glass of wine with the meet rather than turning up already elevated on drink. It wouldn't impress me when my meet turns up with a whiff of drink. As for myself being a single woman meeting alone I'd never numb my senses. But each on their own...btw alcohol is a drug |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"
first woman i ever met from the internet I was a nervous wreck and completely fooked it up..it was the first time so didn't know what I was doing really..any other subsequent meets have been grand..no need to be nervous its just a laugh really
Now you just do it before she says yes "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Anyways your a gud. Looking woman, so u should have no bother meeting any guy, just be yourself, OP "
Totally agree op a stunning woman have confidence there is no man " out of your league "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
I'm trying to think, this might sound weird but I've never been d*unk with any of my meets . I just get sleepy when I get d*unk so it's better I stay away from the stuff and like DH said, for safety I like to have my wits about me.
Had a hotel meet before and he whipped out a bag of half way through the night. Complete turn off for me, just not my thing. I would never meet him again but hey each to their own.
I think I'm just over thinking my nerves. I can only be myself as can anyone else. It's all about chemistry at the end of the day. So saying that.... where's the hot couples at |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"There is nothing wrong with having a few glasses of wine on a meet. I'm sure we all have a glass or two of vino "
Course there's not. I guess it's just been timing etc with me that's stopped me. Maybe I need to start . |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"There is nothing wrong with having a few glasses of wine on a meet. I'm sure we all have a glass or two of vino
Just don't drink two bottles lol "
if I drank two bottles of wine id be on my back and not on a good way |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Well u don't need too get d*unk on the stuff, it just make u more relaxed, a glass of wine, and no one mentioned drugs,
I think it's better to share a glass of wine with the meet rather than turning up already elevated on drink. It wouldn't impress me when my meet turns up with a whiff of drink. As for myself being a single woman meeting alone I'd never numb my senses. But each on their own...btw alcohol is a drug "
This...apart from affecting your ability too. I've never been d*unk and never intend to ever either...such a turn off when you see or meet someone whose tipsy or pissed. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Nerves are good! Theyre your bodies way of getting you ready. The day i dont get nervous before a meet is the day ill give up this lifestyle.Thinking is good but over thinking can end things before they get a chance to develop.
So Op,you are a beautiful lady and are blessed with a thing called an invisible crown. Wear it and own it girl! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nerves are good! Theyre your bodies way of getting you ready. The day i dont get nervous before a meet is the day ill give up this lifestyle.Thinking is good but over thinking can end things before they get a chance to develop.
So Op,you are a beautiful lady and are blessed with a thing called an invisible crown. Wear it and own it girl! "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I would never suffer from lack of confidence or get nerous. But on here has set back my confidence a good bit. Chatting to a lady getting on well, chatting about meets then swap face pics and no more replies. Happened 3 or 4 times lately. It's a real confidence blow and shallow of some ladies. A simple message saying ur not my type would at least be friendly. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Nothing worse than one person being hammered
Met a woman recently who put zed in every sentence
Had hit the chardonnay too early
I got out of there pronto
1 or 2 glass limit is perfect |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nothing worse than one person being hammered
Met a woman recently who put zed in every sentence
Had hit the chardonnay too early
I got out of there pronto
1 or 2 glass limit is perfect "
oh yah one or two is grand. No one said u had too exceed it, even non alcoholic wine, for those non drinkers out their, too much of everything is bad theirs a limit too everything, if i meet a guy i drink non alcoholic if they don't approve, but i love my gkass of wime, each too their own |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nothing worse than one person being hammered
Met a woman recently who put zed in every sentence
Had hit the chardonnay too early
I got out of there pronto
1 or 2 glass limit is perfect oh yah one or two is grand. No one said u had too exceed it, even non alcoholic wine, for those non drinkers out their, too much of everything is bad theirs a limit too everything, if i meet a guy i drink non alcoholic if they don't approve, but i love my gkass of wime, each too their own"
glass of wine i mean
Damn keyboard |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nothing worse than one person being hammered
Met a woman recently who put zed in every sentence
Had hit the chardonnay too early
I got out of there pronto
1 or 2 glass limit is perfect oh yah one or two is grand. No one said u had too exceed it, even non alcoholic wine, for those non drinkers out their, too much of everything is bad theirs a limit too everything, if i meet a guy i drink non alcoholic if they don't approve, but i love my gkass of wime, each too their ownglass of wine i mean
Damn keyboard "
Keyboard or pint glass |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Nothing worse than one person being hammered
Met a woman recently who put zed in every sentence
Had hit the chardonnay too early
I got out of there pronto
1 or 2 glass limit is perfect oh yah one or two is grand. No one said u had too exceed it, even non alcoholic wine, for those non drinkers out their, too much of everything is bad theirs a limit too everything, if i meet a guy i drink non alcoholic if they don't approve, but i love my gkass of wime, each too their ownglass of wine i mean
Damn keyboard
Keyboard or pint glass
"
nope keyboard too early for pint glass lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I was like that at first no confidence in myself at all doesn't help that I'm very shy to but I've learnt to just get on with it "
Well u should be confident about ur appearance anyway. Ur pics are cracking. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Does it hold you back from meeting people you really want to meet?
I know it does for me, I know myself I'll be fine once the initial few minutes are over but making that intial break to meet is soo hard "
Nah only the trick of finding a person who wants to meet me holds me back. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Well, with "a lot riding on" an initial first good impression (pun intended) of a meet, a few nerves is understandable
Given the option though, would find a FAB meet much easier to do than a cold approach in a night club. Easier to get to chat about sex in first convo too. GO FAB! "
While that is great, it's been so long since I've had a "normal" date that I'd love to meet someone for a few drinks where sex swinging and fab isn't a topic of conversation |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Well, with "a lot riding on" an initial first good impression (pun intended) of a meet, a few nerves is understandable
Given the option though, would find a FAB meet much easier to do than a cold approach in a night club. Easier to get to chat about sex in first convo too. GO FAB!
While that is great, it's been so long since I've had a "normal" date that I'd love to meet someone for a few drinks where sex swinging and fab isn't a topic of conversation "
I hear you man. I'm going to find it a bit of a transition myself but there's so much to be said about chatting on other topics apart from disastrous meets, veris, how long been on Fab, your personal Venue experience, etc... 
Kinda like coming out of a fun sex cult but am going to attempt my first non-fab date this year very soon. Hmmm... should I be feeling nervous now??!  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I'm glad you brought up this subject. I thought people would flock to you to chat with you, I know I would but then I need to pluck up the courage.now I feel normal, thanks. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Well, with "a lot riding on" an initial first good impression (pun intended) of a meet, a few nerves is understandable
Given the option though, would find a FAB meet much easier to do than a cold approach in a night club. Easier to get to chat about sex in first convo too. GO FAB!
While that is great, it's been so long since I've had a "normal" date that I'd love to meet someone for a few drinks where sex swinging and fab isn't a topic of conversation "
Well that was the point of my post - I've had afew vanilla dates with this guy and I've been upfront about fab etc but when I try and find conversation about non fab stuff - I struggle!! He's been in touch and don't think I've scared him off yet but it's been a vicious smack of reality. I didn't realise how much fab consumed my life especially with the socials etc. Think it's most definitely time for a break even if things go no where with this guy and get back in touch with me as a person and not lolli the fabber |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Well, with "a lot riding on" an initial first good impression (pun intended) of a meet, a few nerves is understandable
Given the option though, would find a FAB meet much easier to do than a cold approach in a night club. Easier to get to chat about sex in first convo too. GO FAB!
While that is great, it's been so long since I've had a "normal" date that I'd love to meet someone for a few drinks where sex swinging and fab isn't a topic of conversation
Well that was the point of my post - I've had afew vanilla dates with this guy and I've been upfront about fab etc but when I try and find conversation about non fab stuff - I struggle!! He's been in touch and don't think I've scared him off yet but it's been a vicious smack of reality. I didn't realise how much fab consumed my life especially with the socials etc. Think it's most definitely time for a break even if things go no where with this guy and get back in touch with me as a person and not lolli the fabber "
Boo!
Interesting pov - fab turns meeting people upside down. In non fab meets the last subject that is broached is sex....whereas in fab meets it's positively encouraged to discuss literally your ins and outs. I haven't had enough fab meets to let it effect my normal discourse but can see how it could. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Well, with "a lot riding on" an initial first good impression (pun intended) of a meet, a few nerves is understandable
Given the option though, would find a FAB meet much easier to do than a cold approach in a night club. Easier to get to chat about sex in first convo too. GO FAB!
While that is great, it's been so long since I've had a "normal" date that I'd love to meet someone for a few drinks where sex swinging and fab isn't a topic of conversation
Well that was the point of my post - I've had afew vanilla dates with this guy and I've been upfront about fab etc but when I try and find conversation about non fab stuff - I struggle!! He's been in touch and don't think I've scared him off yet but it's been a vicious smack of reality. I didn't realise how much fab consumed my life especially with the socials etc. Think it's most definitely time for a break even if things go no where with this guy and get back in touch with me as a person and not lolli the fabber "
even do some sort of class as a hobby to stimulate your brain in a different way if you're not happy leaving fab, i think its harcourt street doing salsa classes now, bit of fun i suppose |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Well, with "a lot riding on" an initial first good impression (pun intended) of a meet, a few nerves is understandable
Given the option though, would find a FAB meet much easier to do than a cold approach in a night club. Easier to get to chat about sex in first convo too. GO FAB!
While that is great, it's been so long since I've had a "normal" date that I'd love to meet someone for a few drinks where sex swinging and fab isn't a topic of conversation
Well that was the point of my post - I've had afew vanilla dates with this guy and I've been upfront about fab etc but when I try and find conversation about non fab stuff - I struggle!! He's been in touch and don't think I've scared him off yet but it's been a vicious smack of reality. I didn't realise how much fab consumed my life especially with the socials etc. Think it's most definitely time for a break even if things go no where with this guy and get back in touch with me as a person and not lolli the fabber "
Think a few of us are having a collective "Fab Aha moment" here today Lot to be said about a convo with someone you fancy that doesn't revolve all around sex, kinks and fantasy. I think you should go for it Lolli... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I have the opposite problem, just returning to the scene after a two year absence and recent coffee meets have all involved fab and swing story talk when I'm so used to having non swing conversations the last while lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I'm looking forward to a vanilla cuddle...With the hand not dropping or grabbing my hair. ...
ahhhh I won't hold my breath.... "
Thanks Rain, I agree... a friendly chat, a good laugh over a coffee or nice meal, nice snog, cuddles - the simple stuff is great, the sex is just a bonus. Sensuality is where it's at + |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Some men are so cocky and they have a unbelievable high option of themselves I can understand why some women would be intimidated by these types....
Me however I like to put them in their box!
Some women have low self esteem and end up leaving because of these types of people some fuck these type of guys! I feel sorry for both...
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Some men are so cocky and they have a unbelievable high option of themselves I can understand why some women would be intimidated by these types....
Me however I like to put them in their box!
Some women have low self esteem and end up leaving because of these types of people some fuck these type of guys! I feel sorry for both...
"
I think we could interchange the words men with women and vice versa in the statement above and it still stands true, I.E. The cockiness is not exclusive to men, nor the sense of self importance.
I'm backing away slowly now.... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *orguyMan
over a year ago
Tuam |
Your 100% right Ordinarylad.
What you replied to are the typical words of a bully.
This is a fun site, not a place to be trying to put others "in their box".
This type of bullying has a huge affect on people's confidence and should not be tolerated from either gender.
If you don't like somebodies level of confidence then ignore them. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Some men are so cocky and they have a unbelievable high option of themselves I can understand why some women would be intimidated by these types....
Me however I like to put them in their box!
Some women have low self esteem and end up leaving because of these types of people some fuck these type of guys! I feel sorry for both...
I think we could interchange the words men with women and vice versa in the statement above and it still stands true, I.E. The cockiness is not exclusive to men, nor the sense of self importance.
I'm backing away slowly now.... "
Completely agree...
I really should have included women....
Many women have forced women off the site too... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Not sure why men or women get intimidated here! It's Swing it's not real life! Pure escapism. I feel being on here you can be whoever you want to be and have sooooo much fun doing so! For Swing in general I think ya need to somewhat confident! You need to be and ya definitely need a thick skin. As I always say fuck the bedrudgers!!
Stay out of other people's shit and trust no one and ya be grand lol
My motto on here, Not my Circus, not my monkey!!
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I find a lot of women don't have any faith in themselfs r don't beleive in themselfs n most r gorgeous ladies , they just need that push n there on top of d world ."
Some of it is due to the way both guys and ladies treat each other on here. It's amazing the difference that a woman has in the presence of a guy that treats her like a lady...It brings out her natural beauty and restores confidence. You can almost watch her change in his presence. It happens when guys and ladies think less of themselves and what they want and focus more on giving and fulfilling the others desires. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Well, with "a lot riding on" an initial first good impression (pun intended) of a meet, a few nerves is understandable
Given the option though, would find a FAB meet much easier to do than a cold approach in a night club. Easier to get to chat about sex in first convo too. GO FAB!
While that is great, it's been so long since I've had a "normal" date that I'd love to meet someone for a few drinks where sex swinging and fab isn't a topic of conversation
Well that was the point of my post - I've had afew vanilla dates with this guy and I've been upfront about fab etc but when I try and find conversation about non fab stuff - I struggle!! He's been in touch and don't think I've scared him off yet but it's been a vicious smack of reality. I didn't realise how much fab consumed my life especially with the socials etc. Think it's most definitely time for a break even if things go no where with this guy and get back in touch with me as a person and not lolli the fabber "
Am I weird because I don't talk about sex all that much? I prefer to find out as we go along, rather than discuss it all before it happens. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Well, with "a lot riding on" an initial first good impression (pun intended) of a meet, a few nerves is understandable
Given the option though, would find a FAB meet much easier to do than a cold approach in a night club. Easier to get to chat about sex in first convo too. GO FAB!
While that is great, it's been so long since I've had a "normal" date that I'd love to meet someone for a few drinks where sex swinging and fab isn't a topic of conversation
Well that was the point of my post - I've had afew vanilla dates with this guy and I've been upfront about fab etc but when I try and find conversation about non fab stuff - I struggle!! He's been in touch and don't think I've scared him off yet but it's been a vicious smack of reality. I didn't realise how much fab consumed my life especially with the socials etc. Think it's most definitely time for a break even if things go no where with this guy and get back in touch with me as a person and not lolli the fabber
Am I weird because I don't talk about sex all that much? I prefer to find out as we go along, rather than discuss it all before it happens. "
Well Sally...you're not....lots of us don't...we're not all viewed upon as meat nor do we view others as meat to be had. There are a few regular werkly posts that would seem to give the impression that we need to keep viewing the meat...but it's the same people who post in it so you can get to know them. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Does it hold you back from meeting people you really want to meet?
I know it does for me, I know myself I'll be fine once the initial few minutes are over but making that intial break to meet is soo hard "
yeah I'd be the same but with the whole nervousness of a new meet does give me a little buzz |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Well, with "a lot riding on" an initial first good impression (pun intended) of a meet, a few nerves is understandable
Given the option though, would find a FAB meet much easier to do than a cold approach in a night club. Easier to get to chat about sex in first convo too. GO FAB!
While that is great, it's been so long since I've had a "normal" date that I'd love to meet someone for a few drinks where sex swinging and fab isn't a topic of conversation
Well that was the point of my post - I've had afew vanilla dates with this guy and I've been upfront about fab etc but when I try and find conversation about non fab stuff - I struggle!! He's been in touch and don't think I've scared him off yet but it's been a vicious smack of reality. I didn't realise how much fab consumed my life especially with the socials etc. Think it's most definitely time for a break even if things go no where with this guy and get back in touch with me as a person and not lolli the fabber
Am I weird because I don't talk about sex all that much? I prefer to find out as we go along, rather than discuss it all before it happens.
Well Sally...you're not....lots of us don't...we're not all viewed upon as meat nor do we view others as meat to be had. There are a few regular werkly posts that would seem to give the impression that we need to keep viewing the meat...but it's the same people who post in it so you can get to know them."
Phew! Thanks, thinking I was weird was wrecking my confidence |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We find it easier if you just meet with one person and then both of Ye let ppl
Introduce each other,we were at our first party Saturday night and ppl were coming up asking us are with fitcpl1991.it was so relaxed and every body welcomed us
Just make friends and chat for a few days with different ppl
Sean |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I've turned down 2 meets because I knew realistically they were way out of me league.I just wouldn't have felt comfortable.like seriously good looking  "
I wonder how they felt about that? Maybe they might now feel you're too good for them. I wouldn't contact anyone who I felt was out of my league or too active to try to arrange a meet with them. Surely though if they felt attracted enough to you to arrange a meet then how are they out of your league? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Ah sure I'm always a bag of nerves until we get there, actually meet, have a giggle about something & then it's like "what was that all about"."
Same here ,it adds to the excitement tho don't you think ? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I have a meet tonite, and i'm a bag of nerves already, but i'm not gonna give in coz if i do, i will keep putting it off. "
Go for it and good luck Angelica x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I have a meet tonite, and i'm a bag of nerves already, but i'm not gonna give in coz if i do, i will keep putting it off.
Go for it and good luck Angelica x"
Yep it does alrite, had a long chat with him lastnite on viber, so feeling more relaxed than i was, it's not him his lovely guy it seems, so makes it easier too go ahead with it, curiosity killed the cat u cud say |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
