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over a year ago
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Hi ladies, ive never been with a girl but would like to try it to put on a show for the hubby. Im extremely nervous. Is anyone in the same boat? Afraid of arranging the meet but being too shy to get the ball rolling if the other girl is shy too. Any advice please?   |
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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago
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Any new experience is going to be nerve wracking but I think the key is to find someone that understands where you are coming from and who you get along really well with. I'm sure there a lots of lovely bi ladies here who wouldn't mind helping you fulfill your first time bi fantasy.
Just be sure that you all know what your boundaries are before any fun happens. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Any new experience is going to be nerve wracking but I think the key is to find someone that understands where you are coming from and who you get along really well with. I'm sure there a lots of lovely bi ladies here who wouldn't mind helping you fulfill your first time bi fantasy.
Just be sure that you all know what your boundaries are before any fun happens. "
thats great advice thank you hopefully i can get over the fear lol |
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By *cjoyCouple
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"Any new experience is going to be nerve wracking but I think the key is to find someone that understands where you are coming from and who you get along really well with. I'm sure there a lots of lovely bi ladies here who wouldn't mind helping you fulfill your first time bi fantasy.
Just be sure that you all know what your boundaries are before any fun happens. thats great advice thank you hopefully i can get over the fear lol"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Unfortunately it's the whole put on a show for the hubby would turn me right off...  "
i wouldnt meet anyone alone so if i was to arrange one he would be there but not to join in. |
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"Hi ladies, ive never been with a girl but would like to try it to put on a show for the hubby. Im extremely nervous. Is anyone in the same boat? Afraid of arranging the meet but being too shy to get the ball rolling if the other girl is shy too. Any advice please? "
Firstly are you doing it for the rigt reasons which is cause you are attracted to a female or purely for him. |
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"Unfortunately it's the whole put on a show for the hubby would turn me right off... i wouldnt meet anyone alone so if i was to arrange one he would be there but not to join in. "
But it's only to put on a show for him |
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"Unfortunately it's the whole put on a show for the hubby would turn me right off... i wouldnt meet anyone alone so if i was to arrange one he would be there but not to join in.
But it's only to put on a show for him "
no its not. Im curious... and would be more comfortable if he was there |
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"Hi ladies, ive never been with a girl but would like to try it to put on a show for the hubby. Im extremely nervous. Is anyone in the same boat? Afraid of arranging the meet but being too shy to get the ball rolling if the other girl is shy too. Any advice please?
Firstly are you doing it for the rigt reasons which is cause you are attracted to a female or purely for him. "
Straight on the profile plus as the post said put on a show for him...
All the wrong reasons |
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If it's not just for show, and you want to be with a woman, then start off with him out of the room. Let the two of you get comfortable with the situation. Then if you're happy invite him in to watch. |
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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi ladies, ive never been with a girl but would like to try it to put on a show for the hubby. Im extremely nervous. Is anyone in the same boat? Afraid of arranging the meet but being too shy to get the ball rolling if the other girl is shy too. Any advice please?
Firstly are you doing it for the rigt reasons which is cause you are attracted to a female or purely for him.
Straight on the profile plus as the post said put on a show for him...
All the wrong reasons "
Straight may be on the profile but surely that doesn't mean she can't explore her sexuality a bit more without having to label herself as bi or bi curious.
And if putting in a show for him is what her/their fantasy is then that's their preference too.
It won't be for everyone for sure, but it doesn't mean it's the wrong reason for them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Unfortunately it's the whole put on a show for the hubby would turn me right off... i wouldnt meet anyone alone so if i was to arrange one he would be there but not to join in.
But it's only to put on a show for him no its not. Im curious... and would be more comfortable if he was there"
My advice is go to a few socials or meet a couple with a bicurious female try a kiss and something with no pressure first before arranging a full meet with a female....
Nothing worse than ending up in a situation you'll regret because it's what your partner wants....
And it's not fair on the person your planning to meet either... |
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"Hi ladies, ive never been with a girl but would like to try it to put on a show for the hubby. Im extremely nervous. Is anyone in the same boat? Afraid of arranging the meet but being too shy to get the ball rolling if the other girl is shy too. Any advice please?
Firstly are you doing it for the rigt reasons which is cause you are attracted to a female or purely for him.
Straight on the profile plus as the post said put on a show for him...
All the wrong reasons
Straight may be on the profile but surely that doesn't mean she can't explore her sexuality a bit more without having to label herself as bi or bi curious.
And if putting in a show for him is what her/their fantasy is then that's their preference too.
It won't be for everyone for sure, but it doesn't mean it's the wrong reason for them. "
Said better than I could say it. |
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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately it's the whole put on a show for the hubby would turn me right off... i wouldnt meet anyone alone so if i was to arrange one he would be there but not to join in.
But it's only to put on a show for him no its not. Im curious... and would be more comfortable if he was there
My advice is go to a few socials or meet a couple with a bicurious female try a kiss and something with no pressure first before arranging a full meet with a female....
Nothing worse than ending up in a situation you'll regret because it's what your partner wants....
And it's not fair on the person your planning to meet either... "
Some really good advice there too, no pressure situations could work better for the initial curiosity  |
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"Hi ladies, ive never been with a girl but would like to try it to put on a show for the hubby. Im extremely nervous. Is anyone in the same boat? Afraid of arranging the meet but being too shy to get the ball rolling if the other girl is shy too. Any advice please?
Firstly are you doing it for the rigt reasons which is cause you are attracted to a female or purely for him.
Straight on the profile plus as the post said put on a show for him...
All the wrong reasons
Straight may be on the profile but surely that doesn't mean she can't explore her sexuality a bit more without having to label herself as bi or bi curious.
And if putting in a show for him is what her/their fantasy is then that's their preference too.
It won't be for everyone for sure, but it doesn't mean it's the wrong reason for them. "
As long as she's doing it for herself and not just putting on a show...
Nobody likes to be used like this for me personally I prefer to play with people who I know are attracted to me and not putting it on...that's just my opinion |
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By *cjoyCouple
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"Hi ladies, ive never been with a girl but would like to try it to put on a show for the hubby. Im extremely nervous. Is anyone in the same boat? Afraid of arranging the meet but being too shy to get the ball rolling if the other girl is shy too. Any advice please?
Firstly are you doing it for the rigt reasons which is cause you are attracted to a female or purely for him.
Straight on the profile plus as the post said put on a show for him...
All the wrong reasons
Straight may be on the profile but surely that doesn't mean she can't explore her sexuality a bit more without having to label herself as bi or bi curious.
And if putting in a show for him is what her/their fantasy is then that's their preference too.
It won't be for everyone for sure, but it doesn't mean it's the wrong reason for them.
As long as she's doing it for herself and not just putting on a show...
Nobody likes to be used like this for me personally I prefer to play with people who I know are attracted to me and not putting it on...that's just my opinion "
Absolutely. Attraction is very important and no one feeling like they are being used to serve a purpose. But I don't think that's what the op really meant .... perhaps it was just worded badly in the first place.  |
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"Hi ladies, ive never been with a girl but would like to try it to put on a show for the hubby. Im extremely nervous. Is anyone in the same boat? Afraid of arranging the meet but being too shy to get the ball rolling if the other girl is shy too. Any advice please?
Firstly are you doing it for the rigt reasons which is cause you are attracted to a female or purely for him.
Straight on the profile plus as the post said put on a show for him...
All the wrong reasons
Straight may be on the profile but surely that doesn't mean she can't explore her sexuality a bit more without having to label herself as bi or bi curious.
And if putting in a show for him is what her/their fantasy is then that's their preference too.
It won't be for everyone for sure, but it doesn't mean it's the wrong reason for them.
As long as she's doing it for herself and not just putting on a show...
Nobody likes to be used like this for me personally I prefer to play with people who I know are attracted to me and not putting it on...that's just my opinion
Absolutely. Attraction is very important and no one feeling like they are being used to serve a purpose. But I don't think that's what the op really meant .... perhaps it was just worded badly in the first place. "
Yes...I think so
I'd say zero pressure first and see what happens... |
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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago
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"Hi ladies, ive never been with a girl but would like to try it to put on a show for the hubby. Im extremely nervous. Is anyone in the same boat? Afraid of arranging the meet but being too shy to get the ball rolling if the other girl is shy too. Any advice please?
Firstly are you doing it for the rigt reasons which is cause you are attracted to a female or purely for him.
Straight on the profile plus as the post said put on a show for him...
All the wrong reasons
Straight may be on the profile but surely that doesn't mean she can't explore her sexuality a bit more without having to label herself as bi or bi curious.
And if putting in a show for him is what her/their fantasy is then that's their preference too.
It won't be for everyone for sure, but it doesn't mean it's the wrong reason for them.
As long as she's doing it for herself and not just putting on a show...
Nobody likes to be used like this for me personally I prefer to play with people who I know are attracted to me and not putting it on...that's just my opinion
Absolutely. Attraction is very important and no one feeling like they are being used to serve a purpose. But I don't think that's what the op really meant .... perhaps it was just worded badly in the first place.
Yes...I think so
I'd say zero pressure first and see what happens..."
I think that's the best advice the op could get |
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"Strange OP blocked me hahah. Ive never had an contact but my post above. Weird...its not a good look. ....mentioning that...."
Why not. I didnt want her thinking my post was getting at her. Maybe she took offence to it. |
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Im straight on my profile because i am straight. Im married to a man. I didnt think id be classed as bi curious if ive never had an experience with a woman before. I feel a bit stupid now if im honest. I just wanted to see what it was like to be with a woman and have my hubby watch. That is our fantasy. His fantasy is to watch and my fantasy is to experiment. Why is that seen to be a bad thing?  |
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"Im straight on my profile because i am straight. Im married to a man. I didnt think id be classed as bi curious if ive never had an experience with a woman before. I feel a bit stupid now if im honest. I just wanted to see what it was like to be with a woman and have my hubby watch. That is our fantasy. His fantasy is to watch and my fantasy is to experiment. Why is that seen to be a bad thing? "
I'm bisexual was married to a man..
I fancy and find females attractive however I'd not like to be used as a prop for a guy who's wife only wanted to please him and not be doing it for her curiosities...
It's not a bad thing....
No need to be embarrassed it's just my personal opinion nothing more....
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"Strange OP blocked me hahah. Ive never had an contact but my post above. Weird...its not a good look. ....mentioning that....
Why not. I didnt want her thinking my post was getting at her. Maybe she took offence to it."
i cant see far back enough to see the message you sent us |
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"Im straight on my profile because i am straight. Im married to a man. I didnt think id be classed as bi curious if ive never had an experience with a woman before. I feel a bit stupid now if im honest. I just wanted to see what it was like to be with a woman and have my hubby watch. That is our fantasy. His fantasy is to watch and my fantasy is to experiment. Why is that seen to be a bad thing?
I'm bisexual was married to a man..
I fancy and find females attractive however I'd not like to be used as a prop for a guy who's wife only wanted to please him and not be doing it for her curiosities...
It's not a bad thing....
No need to be embarrassed it's just my personal opinion nothing more....
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But how would you be used if i wanted to experiment myself as my fantasy? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im straight on my profile because i am straight. Im married to a man. I didnt think id be classed as bi curious if ive never had an experience with a woman before. I feel a bit stupid now if im honest. I just wanted to see what it was like to be with a woman and have my hubby watch. That is our fantasy. His fantasy is to watch and my fantasy is to experiment. Why is that seen to be a bad thing?
I'm bisexual was married to a man..
I fancy and find females attractive however I'd not like to be used as a prop for a guy who's wife only wanted to please him and not be doing it for her curiosities...
It's not a bad thing....
No need to be embarrassed it's just my personal opinion nothing more....
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its his fantasy to watch me with another woman and my fantasy to experiment. I was asking for advice from any females who are nervous and in the same boat. |
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"Im straight on my profile because i am straight. Im married to a man. I didnt think id be classed as bi curious if ive never had an experience with a woman before. I feel a bit stupid now if im honest. I just wanted to see what it was like to be with a woman and have my hubby watch. That is our fantasy. His fantasy is to watch and my fantasy is to experiment. Why is that seen to be a bad thing?
I'm bisexual was married to a man..
I fancy and find females attractive however I'd not like to be used as a prop for a guy who's wife only wanted to please him and not be doing it for her curiosities...
It's not a bad thing....
No need to be embarrassed it's just my personal opinion nothing more....
But how would you be used if i wanted to experiment myself as my fantasy? "
If you want to do it as much as he does then you're not being used at all.
There's nothing wrong with what you want and there's no need to be embarrassed.
You've obviously discussed it with your husband. Best of luck with what you seek and I hope you have an amazing time and it becomes the first step on an awesome new journey.
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"Strange OP blocked me hahah. Ive never had an contact but my post above. Weird...its not a good look. ....mentioning that....
Why not. I didnt want her thinking my post was getting at her. Maybe she took offence to it. i cant see far back enough to see the message you sent us"
I did send a message on here. Just popped a reply to your post here saying makile sure you do it for the right reasons. |
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That's your fantasy with your husband there's is nothing wrong with that. Its common knowledge majority of men would love to see two women together..yes unfortunately some what to put on a show just for the husband or partner...
Be honest with yourself and with the lady you meet..... Honest I hope it works out notching like a touch of another woman I hope you enjoy the experience.  |
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"Im straight on my profile because i am straight. Im married to a man. I didnt think id be classed as bi curious if ive never had an experience with a woman before. I feel a bit stupid now if im honest. I just wanted to see what it was like to be with a woman and have my hubby watch. That is our fantasy. His fantasy is to watch and my fantasy is to experiment. Why is that seen to be a bad thing?
I'm bisexual was married to a man..
I fancy and find females attractive however I'd not like to be used as a prop for a guy who's wife only wanted to please him and not be doing it for her curiosities...
It's not a bad thing....
No need to be embarrassed it's just my personal opinion nothing more....
its his fantasy to watch me with another woman and my fantasy to experiment. I was asking for advice from any females who are nervous and in the same boat. "
I was the same as you, and I started by just kissing and being a bit playful with the girls at socials and parties.
Like you, I was more comfortable with my partner around (not for show, just because I liked it that way) and still, my favourite scenario is ffm, or fffm.
I'm having my first Fff in two weeks time, and I'm very excited this time! I'm very relax and comfortable with this now because I already played with the girls and we had an amazing time before.
So as they said, try to get into some socials and parties slowly, and you will find out if girl play is for you too. Good luck!
Like you, I enjoy being watched at by my partner while playing, nothing to feel ashamed about, if this is your fantasy as well. I'm sure you will find plenty girls that would like to help out
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"That's your fantasy with your husband there's is nothing wrong with that. Its common knowledge majority of men would love to see two women together..yes unfortunately some what to put on a show just for the husband or partner...
Be honest with yourself and with the lady you meet..... Honest I hope it works out notching like a touch of another woman I hope you enjoy the experience. "
Seeing two women together does nothing for me at all...id rather see a girl with two fellas...but yeah op just go for it...maybe get your man to do all the running around the site organising though and sit back and relax, if its a fantasy of his im sure hed happily get it sorted quick enough. |
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"Im straight on my profile because i am straight. Im married to a man. I didnt think id be classed as bi curious if ive never had an experience with a woman before. I feel a bit stupid now if im honest. I just wanted to see what it was like to be with a woman and have my hubby watch. That is our fantasy. His fantasy is to watch and my fantasy is to experiment. Why is that seen to be a bad thing?
I'm bisexual was married to a man..
I fancy and find females attractive however I'd not like to be used as a prop for a guy who's wife only wanted to please him and not be doing it for her curiosities...
It's not a bad thing....
No need to be embarrassed it's just my personal opinion nothing more....
But how would you be used if i wanted to experiment myself as my fantasy?
If you want to do it as much as he does then you're not being used at all.
There's nothing wrong with what you want and there's no need to be embarrassed.
You've obviously discussed it with your husband. Best of luck with what you seek and I hope you have an amazing time and it becomes the first step on an awesome new journey.
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"Im straight on my profile because i am straight. Im married to a man. I didnt think id be classed as bi curious if ive never had an experience with a woman before. I feel a bit stupid now if im honest. I just wanted to see what it was like to be with a woman and have my hubby watch. That is our fantasy. His fantasy is to watch and my fantasy is to experiment. Why is that seen to be a bad thing?
I'm bisexual was married to a man..
I fancy and find females attractive however I'd not like to be used as a prop for a guy who's wife only wanted to please him and not be doing it for her curiosities...
It's not a bad thing....
No need to be embarrassed it's just my personal opinion nothing more....
its his fantasy to watch me with another woman and my fantasy to experiment. I was asking for advice from any females who are nervous and in the same boat.
I was the same as you, and I started by just kissing and being a bit playful with the girls at socials and parties.
Like you, I was more comfortable with my partner around (not for show, just because I liked it that way) and still, my favourite scenario is ffm, or fffm.
I'm having my first Fff in two weeks time, and I'm very excited this time! I'm very relax and comfortable with this now because I already played with the girls and we had an amazing time before.
So as they said, try to get into some socials and parties slowly, and you will find out if girl play is for you too. Good luck!
Like you, I enjoy being watched at by my partner while playing, nothing to feel ashamed about, if this is your fantasy as well. I'm sure you will find plenty girls that would like to help out
Alex "
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"That's your fantasy with your husband there's is nothing wrong with that. Its common knowledge majority of men would love to see two women together..yes unfortunately some what to put on a show just for the husband or partner...
Be honest with yourself and with the lady you meet..... Honest I hope it works out notching like a touch of another woman I hope you enjoy the experience.
Seeing two women together does nothing for me at all...id rather see a girl with two fellas...but yeah op just go for it...maybe get your man to do all the running around the site organising though and sit back and relax, if its a fantasy of his im sure hed happily get it sorted quick enough."
hehe. By the way what does op mean? |
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"That's your fantasy with your husband there's is nothing wrong with that. Its common knowledge majority of men would love to see two women together..yes unfortunately some what to put on a show just for the husband or partner...
Be honest with yourself and with the lady you meet..... Honest I hope it works out notching like a touch of another woman I hope you enjoy the experience.
Seeing two women together does nothing for me at all...id rather see a girl with two fellas...but yeah op just go for it...maybe get your man to do all the running around the site organising though and sit back and relax, if its a fantasy of his im sure hed happily get it sorted quick enough. hehe. By the way what does op mean? "
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"That's your fantasy with your husband there's is nothing wrong with that. Its common knowledge majority of men would love to see two women together..yes unfortunately some what to put on a show just for the husband or partner...
Be honest with yourself and with the lady you meet..... Honest I hope it works out notching like a touch of another woman I hope you enjoy the experience.
Seeing two women together does nothing for me at all...id rather see a girl with two fellas...but yeah op just go for it...maybe get your man to do all the running around the site organising though and sit back and relax, if its a fantasy of his im sure hed happily get it sorted quick enough. hehe. By the way what does op mean? "
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I'm the same. I have no interest in fucking other men. I like to fuck girls and include him in my fantasy.
Everyone has different things they like to experience, and if a swing site is for anything, it's for helping people to fulfil those fantasies.
Have fun, set boundaries and make sure everyone is on board. |
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"That's your fantasy with your husband there's is nothing wrong with that. Its common knowledge majority of men would love to see two women together..yes unfortunately some what to put on a show just for the husband or partner...
Be honest with yourself and with the lady you meet..... Honest I hope it works out notching like a touch of another woman I hope you enjoy the experience.
Seeing two women together does nothing for me at all...id rather see a girl with two fellas...but yeah op just go for it...maybe get your man to do all the running around the site organising though and sit back and relax, if its a fantasy of his im sure hed happily get it sorted quick enough. hehe. By the way what does op mean?
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"I'm the same. I have no interest in fucking other men. I like to fuck girls and include him in my fantasy.
Everyone has different things they like to experience, and if a swing site is for anything, it's for helping people to fulfil those fantasies.
Have fun, set boundaries and make sure everyone is on board."
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