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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Having had a wee nosey on the Ireland forum this past while back , I think a thread away from the same old, same old would be nice. People who wouldn't normally feel comfortable chatting, joining in chats/subjects due to the "regulars" and mundane, negative, played out and desperate posts, do comment. A positive comment, a compliment to anyone who joins in. Anything else rather than the"usual"  Happy Tuesday, sexy swingers  |
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By *andZCouple
over a year ago
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Agreed OP, we come on and look through posts and find we have nothing to add in them. Unfortunately people have more to talk about when they are giving out  and we aren't newbies but it can be hard for someone to join a chat when they see people answering like they all know each other! I hope that this doesn't sound like a moan lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A thread that brings the fun back into the forums would be great ...Mc Joy are really friendly, chatty and have great pics"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right. New here. Well, again. Used to be a forum addict, but stopped posting as it took up too much of my time. Was off the site for about 6 months doing vanilla things.
Nice to see some of the "oldies" are still here.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lets! Fun, fantasy, freedom with mutual respect and something for everyone. There's a lot more to the Ireland forum. I for one hope to get a bit of the good craic and lighthearted banter back that we're world famous for |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Any meets to nite tulmore me my girl here looking for fun inbox just came back from London we are looking for fun now in tulamore Ireland xx"
I'll see what I can do....no promises mind  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Agreed OP, we come on and look through posts and find we have nothing to add in them. Unfortunately people have more to talk about when they are giving out and we aren't newbies but it can be hard for someone to join a chat when they see people answering like they all know each other! I hope that this doesn't sound like a moan lol "
I love a wee moan as much as the next lol Thing is, this is a forum to share, give and get advice, share laughter and help each other in not so good times through advice and experience. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Blondeandblue u have amazing pics
I especially love ur August one
Tina Thanks, Tina! Luuurrrvvveeee your pics! Such a variety xx Beautiful xx
Thank u  "
You're welcome, beautiful x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Isn't that a pleasant idea. one I hope that works. but it's not by accident that the soaps with the most drama usually get the biggest audience. We are all human after all.
Having said that, great idea op. Well done. so, have ye seen the beautiful sunrises/sunsets we have been having? And, isn't it uncommonly but pleasurably warm?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Agreed OP, we come on and look through posts and find we have nothing to add in them. Unfortunately people have more to talk about when they are giving out and we aren't newbies but it can be hard for someone to join a chat when they see people answering like they all know each other! I hope that this doesn't sound like a moan lol "
... come and join in... you'll figure it out as you go along... most of the time it's good craic and lots of genuine fun people on here... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Blondeandblue u have amazing pics
I especially love ur August one
Tina "
A absolute pleasure to chat with, a lovely couple. Need to invest in a fireside rug though 
Always love to see positivity and the prospect of good aul banter on here, OP! |
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"Blondeandblue u have amazing pics
I especially love ur August one
Tina
A absolute pleasure to chat with, a lovely couple. Need to invest in a fireside rug though
Always love to see positivity and the prospect of good aul banter on here, OP! "
Don't forget the hot tub Pete
A total gent and one of the nicest guys we've had the pleasure of chatting to xx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Blondeandblue u have amazing pics
I especially love ur August one
Tina
A absolute pleasure to chat with, a lovely couple. Need to invest in a fireside rug though
Always love to see positivity and the prospect of good aul banter on here, OP! "
100%, Pete Positive, fun, craic. Luck? Nahhhh. Good vibes  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Isn't that a pleasant idea. one I hope that works. but it's not by accident that the soaps with the most drama usually get the biggest audience. We are all human after all.
Having said that, great idea op. Well done. so, have ye seen the beautiful sunrises/sunsets we have been having? And, isn't it uncommonly but pleasurably warm? "
I do enjoy our diverse weather, yes. Brings us crops, water and all we enjoy daily  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like this. I've tried before joining in threads but it's definitely not easy if you're not a regular.
Shame cos it would lift the boredom of a Tuesday night :0) or any night really lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Blondeandblue u have amazing pics
I especially love ur August one
Tina
A absolute pleasure to chat with, a lovely couple. Need to invest in a fireside rug though
Always love to see positivity and the prospect of good aul banter on here, OP!
Don't forget the hot tub Pete
A total gent and one of the nicest guys we've had the pleasure of chatting to xx
Tina "
How about splitting the difference and I'll put the kettle on and fill the paddling pool |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like this. I've tried before joining in threads but it's definitely not easy if you're not a regular.
Shame cos it would lift the boredom of a Tuesday night :0) or any night really lol x"
Exactly, Mrs Kitten. This is our forum to share with, express, chat. Time to get the use of it with fun and what it's here for xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love the chat in here, its must less depressing than face book feed
Oh and I made chocolate pavlova today, I'm sending you all a virtual slice, extra raspberries
Jess"
I LOOOOOOOVE pavlova. Hope the meringue is sticky and chewy ??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love the chat in here, its must less depressing than face book feed
Oh and I made chocolate pavlova today, I'm sending you all a virtual slice, extra raspberries
Jess
I LOOOOOOOVE pavlova. Hope the meringue is sticky and chewy ???"
Sticky and chewy and soft and billiowy... and chocolate chunks in there, double cream and raspberries would make even good Friday feel good never mind a Tuesday |
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"Having had a wee nosey on the Ireland forum this past while back , I think a thread away from the same old, same old would be nice. People who wouldn't normally feel comfortable chatting, joining in chats/subjects due to the "regulars" and mundane, negative, played out and desperate posts, do comment. A positive comment, a compliment to anyone who joins in. Anything else rather than the"usual" Happy Tuesday, sexy swingers "
Super idea, fair play. Seems to be so many frenemies posting on other threads us blow ins don't have a clue what's going or or being implied.
Nice to see some positivity about.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love the chat in here, its must less depressing than face book feed
Oh and I made chocolate pavlova today, I'm sending you all a virtual slice, extra raspberries
Jess
I LOOOOOOOVE pavlova. Hope the meringue is sticky and chewy ???
Sticky and chewy and soft and billiowy... and chocolate chunks in there, double cream and raspberries would make even good Friday feel good never mind a Tuesday"
Double cream AND chocolate chunks ........ahhhhhhhh you are killing me here ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Having had a wee nosey on the Ireland forum this past while back , I think a thread away from the same old, same old would be nice. People who wouldn't normally feel comfortable chatting, joining in chats/subjects due to the "regulars" and mundane, negative, played out and desperate posts, do comment. A positive comment, a compliment to anyone who joins in. Anything else rather than the"usual" Happy Tuesday, sexy swingers
Super idea, fair play. Seems to be so many frenemies posting on other threads us blow ins don't have a clue what's going or or being implied.
Nice to see some positivity about.
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Well us blow in's and all are here to enjoy the chatting and craic. I got blew into Dominos today in that wind! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like this. I've tried before joining in threads but it's definitely not easy if you're not a regular.
Shame cos it would lift the boredom of a Tuesday :0) or any night really lol xExactly, Mrs Kitten. This is our forum to share with, express, chat. Time to get the use of it with fun and what it's here for xx"
Too right ladies, come add positivity and your wit to this forum..we all a wee irish community after all... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I love the chat in here, its must less depressing than face book feed
Oh and I made chocolate pavlova today, I'm sending you all a virtual slice, extra raspberries
Jess
I LOOOOOOOVE pavlova. Hope the meringue is sticky and chewy ???
Sticky and chewy and soft and billiowy... and chocolate chunks in there, double cream and raspberries would make even good Friday feel good never mind a Tuesday
Double cream AND chocolate chunks ........ahhhhhhhh you are killing me here ! "
Good way to go though! lol xx |
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"Having had a wee nosey on the Ireland forum this past while back , I think a thread away from the same old, same old would be nice. People who wouldn't normally feel comfortable chatting, joining in chats/subjects due to the "regulars" and mundane, negative, played out and desperate posts, do comment. A positive comment, a compliment to anyone who joins in. Anything else rather than the"usual" Happy Tuesday, sexy swingers
Super idea, fair play. Seems to be so many frenemies posting on other threads us blow ins don't have a clue what's going or or being implied.
Nice to see some positivity about.
Well us blow in's and all are here to enjoy the chatting and craic. I got blew into Dominos today in that wind! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like this. I've tried before joining in threads but it's definitely not easy if you're not a regular.
Shame cos it would lift the boredom of a Tuesday :0) or any night really lol xExactly, Mrs Kitten. This is our forum to share with, express, chat. Time to get the use of it with fun and what it's here for xx
Too right ladies, come add positivity and your wit to this forum..we all a wee irish community after all... "
Indeed!! Bitta craic, mutual fun and banter. A bit of light hearted craic. Life is too short. Embrace the good xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like this. I've tried before joining in threads but it's definitely not easy if you're not a regular.
Shame cos it would lift the boredom of a Tuesday night :0) or any night really lol xExactly, Mrs Kitten. This is our forum to share with, express, chat. Time to get the use of it with fun and what it's here for xx"
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By (user no longer on site)
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I like this post especially the bit where the OP says that forums are about advice and help... i have something that although i suspect what the advice will be, i'd like to hear peoples thoughts  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like this post especially the bit where the OP says that forums are about advice and help... i have something that although i suspect what the advice will be, i'd like to hear peoples thoughts "
Fire away. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ok, here goes. I want hinest advice and not some plank trying to be smart...
6 years ago i met the most beautiful, stunningly gorgeous woman in the world and fell for her hook, line and sinker. From the minute i clapped eyes on her i was besotted. Totally blown away and we became very close. I dont think there is a day that has gone by in the past 6 years we havent messaged each other and we see each other whenever we can. One problem. She's married. She assurred me that she doesn't love him and he is only in the house because they have children. He sleeps in a room on his own and i know in my heart that she has no notion of ever getting close to him again. I'm getting impatient. 6 years is a long time to learn to accept her situation and i have been very understanding. What is your advice? Have you been un this position? I know for a fact that she loves me but is love enough for me to carry on??? |
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"Blondeandblue u have amazing pics
I especially love ur August one
Tina
A absolute pleasure to chat with, a lovely couple. Need to invest in a fireside rug though
Always love to see positivity and the prospect of good aul banter on here, OP!
Don't forget the hot tub Pete
A total gent and one of the nicest guys we've had the pleasure of chatting to xx
Tina
How about splitting the difference and I'll put the kettle on and fill the paddling pool "
Oh shur go on so
Well make our own "bubbles" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok, here goes. I want hinest advice and not some plank trying to be smart...
6 years ago i met the most beautiful, stunningly gorgeous woman in the world and fell for her hook, line and sinker. From the minute i clapped eyes on her i was besotted. Totally blown away and we became very close. I dont think there is a day that has gone by in the past 6 years we havent messaged each other and we see each other whenever we can. One problem. She's married. She assurred me that she doesn't love him and he is only in the house because they have children. He sleeps in a room on his own and i know in my heart that she has no notion of ever getting close to him again. I'm getting impatient. 6 years is a long time to learn to accept her situation and i have been very understanding. What is your advice? Have you been un this position? I know for a fact that she loves me but is love enough for me to carry on???"
I think the only person who can answer this is you. Is ove enough? Or do you want to experience all the normal things that being a couple brings too, socialising and spending special occasions like birthdays and Christmas together?
If it's the latter then it sounds like love isn't enough and you maybe need the security of being in a relationship too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok, here goes. I want hinest advice and not some plank trying to be smart...
6 years ago i met the most beautiful, stunningly gorgeous woman in the world and fell for her hook, line and sinker. From the minute i clapped eyes on her i was besotted. Totally blown away and we became very close. I dont think there is a day that has gone by in the past 6 years we havent messaged each other and we see each other whenever we can. One problem. She's married. She assurred me that she doesn't love him and he is only in the house because they have children. He sleeps in a room on his own and i know in my heart that she has no notion of ever getting close to him again. I'm getting impatient. 6 years is a long time to learn to accept her situation and i have been very understanding. What is your advice? Have you been un this position? I know for a fact that she loves me but is love enough for me to carry on???"
In the word's of Johnny Logan...what another year...or few if you love her and truly believe that she will leave once the kid's are old enough to understand. Family breakdown is never smooth but if their marriage is gone it is inevitable. A tough situation to be in. Can I ask why you are questioning the situation after 6 year's? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Ok, here goes. I want hinest advice and not some plank trying to be smart...
6 years ago i met the most beautiful, stunningly gorgeous woman in the world and fell for her hook, line and sinker. From the minute i clapped eyes on her i was besotted. Totally blown away and we became very close. I dont think there is a day that has gone by in the past 6 years we havent messaged each other and we see each other whenever we can. One problem. She's married. She assurred me that she doesn't love him and he is only in the house because they have children. He sleeps in a room on his own and i know in my heart that she has no notion of ever getting close to him again. I'm getting impatient. 6 years is a long time to learn to accept her situation and i have been very understanding. What is your advice? Have you been un this position? I know for a fact that she loves me but is love enough for me to carry on???"
I've been there, yes.I have been the one that wasn't loved,(my version of love) deceived in my marriage. I can tell you this...Love isn't enough. I walked away, struggling, building my life as a single women and getting to know myself. In my experience, I didn't know what love was, until I knew what it wasn't. Balls, courage and self worth determines our future. I'm doing me, my way. You get what you accept. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok, here goes. I want hinest advice and not some plank trying to be smart...
6 years ago i met the most beautiful, stunningly gorgeous woman in the world and fell for her hook, line and sinker. From the minute i clapped eyes on her i was besotted. Totally blown away and we became very close. I dont think there is a day that has gone by in the past 6 years we havent messaged each other and we see each other whenever we can. One problem. She's married. She assurred me that she doesn't love him and he is only in the house because they have children. He sleeps in a room on his own and i know in my heart that she has no notion of ever getting close to him again. I'm getting impatient. 6 years is a long time to learn to accept her situation and i have been very understanding. What is your advice? Have you been un this position? I know for a fact that she loves me but is love enough for me to carry on???"
Wow! 6 years on the hook... it sounds as though she is both enjoying having her cake & eating it.
I suppose one advantage is you must have got to know her very well so you must think she's worth waiting for. Does she know about here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok, here goes. I want hinest advice and not some plank trying to be smart...
6 years ago i met the most beautiful, stunningly gorgeous woman in the world and fell for her hook, line and sinker. From the minute i clapped eyes on her i was besotted. Totally blown away and we became very close. I dont think there is a day that has gone by in the past 6 years we havent messaged each other and we see each other whenever we can. One problem. She's married. She assurred me that she doesn't love him and he is only in the house because they have children. He sleeps in a room on his own and i know in my heart that she has no notion of ever getting close to him again. I'm getting impatient. 6 years is a long time to learn to accept her situation and i have been very understanding. What is your advice? Have you been un this position? I know for a fact that she loves me but is love enough for me to carry on???I've been there, yes.I have been the one that wasn't loved,(my version of love) deceived in my marriage. I can tell you this...Love isn't enough. I walked away, struggling, building my life as a single women and getting to know myself. In my experience, I didn't know what love was, until I knew what it wasn't. Balls, courage and self worth determines our future. I'm doing me, my way. You get what you accept. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Love.....the most beautifully destructive, fantastic, complacent, and emotionally misused pain and pleasure to grace our souls. F***k that lol hence.......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok, here goes. I want hinest advice and not some plank trying to be smart...
6 years ago i met the most beautiful, stunningly gorgeous woman in the world and fell for her hook, line and sinker. From the minute i clapped eyes on her i was besotted. Totally blown away and we became very close. I dont think there is a day that has gone by in the past 6 years we havent messaged each other and we see each other whenever we can. One problem. She's married. She assurred me that she doesn't love him and he is only in the house because they have children. He sleeps in a room on his own and i know in my heart that she has no notion of ever getting close to him again. I'm getting impatient. 6 years is a long time to learn to accept her situation and i have been very understanding. What is your advice? Have you been un this position? I know for a fact that she loves me but is love enough for me to carry on???"
Only you can decide that. Is there a definite, time-specific exit plan, does she talk about the future in detail, if not, my gut feeling would be that she is quite happy with the status quo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Love.....the most beautifully destructive, fantastic, complacent, and emotionally misused pain and pleasure to grace our souls. F***k that lol hence....... "
love or obsession and infatuation? It can be hard to tell the difference sometimes xx |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Agreed OP, we come on and look through posts and find we have nothing to add in them. Unfortunately people have more to talk about when they are giving out and we aren't newbies but it can be hard for someone to join a chat when they see people answering like they all know each other! I hope that this doesn't sound like a moan lol "
I wouldn't see this as a moan but the experience most have when they join any club or group, by posting joining in yes people get to know u here most would know each others online persona's rather than having actually having met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ok first of all thank you to the ones who have given their opinions. I very much appreciate them all. No1) does she know about here? No. She doesn't. I come here to mainly keep in contact with people i have made friends with here. People who i respect and have a lot of time for and have befriended me.
N02) why has it taken 6 years to question the situation?..... it hasn't. I have questioned it every day since i met her but wanted the alternative view of people who are swingers and no3) do we talk about the future, have a plan or strategy? No. We dont and when i bring the subject up it gets brushed aside and i am told her marriage has nothing to do with me which obviously i dont agree with.
So, to cut a long story short, i'm lust as to what to do. I really wouldn't wish this on anybody because ot haunts you every minute of every day. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I learned something new today.
Wombats poo in cubes.
Cube shaped poo!
 Can't beat a bit of education!
keeps the brain rocking on..."
Wombats and such are educational Global they are. Keep an eye out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok first of all thank you to the ones who have given their opinions. I very much appreciate them all. No1) does she know about here? No. She doesn't. I come here to mainly keep in contact with people i have made friends with here. People who i respect and have a lot of time for and have befriended me.
N02) why has it taken 6 years to question the situation?..... it hasn't. I have questioned it every day since i met her but wanted the alternative view of people who are swingers and no3) do we talk about the future, have a plan or strategy? No. We dont and when i bring the subject up it gets brushed aside and i am told her marriage has nothing to do with me which obviously i dont agree with.
So, to cut a long story short, i'm lust as to what to do. I really wouldn't wish this on anybody because ot haunts you every minute of every day. "
I think #3 should indicate pretty clearly where you stand. Nobody is forcing you to remain in a situation which may have seemed great at the start but is now making you unhappy. The choice is yours. |
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"Ok first of all thank you to the ones who have given their opinions. I very much appreciate them all. No1) does she know about here? No. She doesn't. I come here to mainly keep in contact with people i have made friends with here. People who i respect and have a lot of time for and have befriended me.
N02) why has it taken 6 years to question the situation?..... it hasn't. I have questioned it every day since i met her but wanted the alternative view of people who are swingers and no3) do we talk about the future, have a plan or strategy? No. We dont and when i bring the subject up it gets brushed aside and i am told her marriage has nothing to do with me which obviously i dont agree with.
So, to cut a long story short, i'm lust as to what to do. I really wouldn't wish this on anybody because ot haunts you every minute of every day. "
My humble opinion is that you have to take care of yourself, your emotions and mental health. Just don't let yourself get used, that's ok for a bit of slap and tickle but not for the real stuff. You have to be your own best mate and give yourself the best chance at contentment. |
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"Ok first of all thank you to the ones who have given their opinions. I very much appreciate them all. No1) does she know about here? No. She doesn't. I come here to mainly keep in contact with people i have made friends with here. People who i respect and have a lot of time for and have befriended me.
N02) why has it taken 6 years to question the situation?..... it hasn't. I have questioned it every day since i met her but wanted the alternative view of people who are swingers and no3) do we talk about the future, have a plan or strategy? No. We dont and when i bring the subject up it gets brushed aside and i am told her marriage has nothing to do with me which obviously i dont agree with.
So, to cut a long story short, i'm lust as to what to do. I really wouldn't wish this on anybody because ot haunts you every minute of every day. "
It's destruction to your soul. It's daily hurt, hoping, despair and wanting. I know it's hard, believe me. You either grieve what isn't, or continue the unknown. It's pain, tortured times, but you can go through the cold turkey and come out the other side. Happy to be a friend to you if you want a chat x |
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"Ok first of all thank you to the ones who have given their opinions. I very much appreciate them all. No1) does she know about here? No. She doesn't. I come here to mainly keep in contact with people i have made friends with here. People who i respect and have a lot of time for and have befriended me.
N02) why has it taken 6 years to question the situation?..... it hasn't. I have questioned it every day since i met her but wanted the alternative view of people who are swingers and no3) do we talk about the future, have a plan or strategy? No. We dont and when i bring the subject up it gets brushed aside and i am told her marriage has nothing to do with me which obviously i dont agree with.
So, to cut a long story short, i'm lust as to what to do. I really wouldn't wish this on anybody because ot haunts you every minute of every day. "
You can't make a decision for somebody else, you can only do what's best for you.
Personally, from your two points, I would think she know's exactly what she's doing. However, perhaps lay it all out on the table and just tell her how you feel and where you'd like to see things going. If she doesn't see things the same way, after 6 years too, or doesn't appreciate your want for a resolution the I think you have your answer.
A life spent waiting around isn't a life lived. I can't begin to understand how it feels but the pain you may feel if it ends will pass as new opportunites arise whereas the torture will continue if you don't act. |
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"Ok first of all thank you to the ones who have given their opinions. I very much appreciate them all. No1) does she know about here? No. She doesn't. I come here to mainly keep in contact with people i have made friends with here. People who i respect and have a lot of time for and have befriended me.
N02) why has it taken 6 years to question the situation?..... it hasn't. I have questioned it every day since i met her but wanted the alternative view of people who are swingers and no3) do we talk about the future, have a plan or strategy? No. We dont and when i bring the subject up it gets brushed aside and i am told her marriage has nothing to do with me which obviously i dont agree with.
So, to cut a long story short, i'm lust as to what to do. I really wouldn't wish this on anybody because ot haunts you every minute of every day. It's destruction to your soul. It's daily hurt, hoping, despair and wanting. I know it's hard, believe me. You either grieve what isn't, or continue the unknown. It's pain, tortured times, but you can go through the cold turkey and come out the other side. Happy to be a friend to you if you want a chat x"
Awh wow! That is so kind of you. Please dint think i'm suicidal or anywhere close. Yes, i get depressed and questiin my own sanity but i'm an extremely strong character. I live for happiness and am a live wire. In my job as an entertainer i need to be happy and smiling which i always am but deep inside i'm a totally different person which is sad |
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"Ok first of all thank you to the ones who have given their opinions. I very much appreciate them all. No1) does she know about here? No. She doesn't. I come here to mainly keep in contact with people i have made friends with here. People who i respect and have a lot of time for and have befriended me.
N02) why has it taken 6 years to question the situation?..... it hasn't. I have questioned it every day since i met her but wanted the alternative view of people who are swingers and no3) do we talk about the future, have a plan or strategy? No. We dont and when i bring the subject up it gets brushed aside and i am told her marriage has nothing to do with me which obviously i dont agree with.
So, to cut a long story short, i'm lust as to what to do. I really wouldn't wish this on anybody because ot haunts you every minute of every day.
You can't make a decision for somebody else, you can only do what's best for you.
Personally, from your two points, I would think she know's exactly what she's doing. However, perhaps lay it all out on the table and just tell her how you feel and where you'd like to see things going. If she doesn't see things the same way, after 6 years too, or doesn't appreciate your want for a resolution the I think you have your answer.
A life spent waiting around isn't a life lived. I can't begin to understand how it feels but the pain you may feel if it ends will pass as new opportunites arise whereas the torture will continue if you don't act."
WBW. Anytime you want a chat, a scream, someone to offload to, gimme a wee message. Helps to get it out of the system to someone neutral. Any time!! Really mean that, hun. Over and out, Fabber's. X |
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"Ok first of all thank you to the ones who have given their opinions. I very much appreciate them all. No1) does she know about here? No. She doesn't. I come here to mainly keep in contact with people i have made friends with here. People who i respect and have a lot of time for and have befriended me.
N02) why has it taken 6 years to question the situation?..... it hasn't. I have questioned it every day since i met her but wanted the alternative view of people who are swingers and no3) do we talk about the future, have a plan or strategy? No. We dont and when i bring the subject up it gets brushed aside and i am told her marriage has nothing to do with me which obviously i dont agree with.
So, to cut a long story short, i'm lust as to what to do. I really wouldn't wish this on anybody because ot haunts you every minute of every day. It's destruction to your soul. It's daily hurt, hoping, despair and wanting. I know it's hard, believe me. You either grieve what isn't, or continue the unknown. It's pain, tortured times, but you can go through the cold turkey and come out the other side. Happy to be a friend to you if you want a chat x
Awh wow! That is so kind of you. Please dint think i'm suicidal or anywhere close. Yes, i get depressed and questiin my own sanity but i'm an extremely strong character. I live for happiness and am a live wire. In my job as an entertainer i need to be happy and smiling which i always am but deep inside i'm a totally different person which is sad"
Well, even entertainer's, smiley souls need some"deep" soul searching. Anytime. X |
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Willy, the reason I asked why you were questioning it was because obviously you were having doubts so that you put it out here and we'll done for that too btw not an easy task to expose yourself emotionally like that but I think apon rereading this you have kind of answered your own question. You are in limbo as is her husband and while this situation may currently suit her, nobody is winning. Maybe she need's the catalyst of you walking away to do something about the situation and that doesn't guarantee that you will be with her but it frees you up to move on with your life and maybe the other's involved too. I wish you well and hope that you find what truly makes you happy and that it is totally reciprocated. |
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"Willy, the reason I asked why you were questioning it was because obviously you were having doubts so that you put it out here and we'll done for that too btw not an easy task to expose yourself emotionally like that but I think apon rereading this you have kind of answered your own question. You are in limbo as is her husband and while this situation may currently suit her, nobody is winning. Maybe she need's the catalyst of you walking away to do something about the situation and that doesn't guarantee that you will be with her but it frees you up to move on with your life and maybe the other's involved too. I wish you well and hope that you find what truly makes you happy and that it is totally reciprocated. "
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"I learned something new today.
Wombats poo in cubes.
Cube shaped poo!
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Me too! We must have both been reading the W book of the Encyclopedia Brittanica at the same time. Isn't it exciting & sad getting close to the end of it all?
I wonder who did it. |
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I still can't drive a car at 43.
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You live in London even if you could drive you wouldn't be able to drive, it's just nose to tail. I used to be a cycle courier in London, absolutely loved it!
I'm 40 & can't drive & still see no point in it. |
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I still can't drive a car at 43.
You live in London even if you could drive you wouldn't be able to drive, it's just nose to tail. I used to be a cycle courier in London, absolutely loved it!
I'm 40 & can't drive & still see no point in it."
I know.
I'd go off my head sitting in traffic.
I'm happy being a pedestrian. |
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