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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I was chatting with a fellow fabber about how dull regular dating is. I love dates tbh but other sites are so...vanilla. plus at the end of the day the men on other sites are pretty much lying about what they want. They just want to remove your knickers.
In all honesty do you think a man would be okay with having a girlfriend that also maybe once in a while sees other men? Just pondering such things on a Sunday evening  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends on the man's wants. Personally if ive feelings for someone then sharing them is a no go and if they have feelings for me then i expect loyalty. If it was a fuck buddy thing though and mutually consent was given then perhaps. Generally this is no different to regular dating imo. The main difference is that here sex is expected and with regular dating sex is a hidden motive lol |
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Yes I know couples are on here thanks! What I meant was away from swinging away from the site. In real world say if gf was going out for a night would they be okay with her hooking up with someone else on occasion or something like that. Or having a fuck buddy on the side. Maybe I'm not explaining myself right  |
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"Yes I know couples are on here thanks! What I meant was away from swinging away from the site. In real world say if gf was going out for a night would they be okay with her hooking up with someone else on occasion or something like that. Or having a fuck buddy on the side. Maybe I'm not explaining myself right "
Wouldn't you be OK with him having a fuck buddy too??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I know couples are on here thanks! What I meant was away from swinging away from the site. In real world say if gf was going out for a night would they be okay with her hooking up with someone else on occasion or something like that. Or having a fuck buddy on the side. Maybe I'm not explaining myself right "
I kinda get what your saying but I think fab warps our ideas of what's "normal" and "acceptable". I don't think many men in the real world would be ok with their gf or wife shagging another man or woman on the side. It wouldn't be a monogamous relationship then, which would push it into the swing world! |
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"Yes I know couples are on here thanks! What I meant was away from swinging away from the site. In real world say if gf was going out for a night would they be okay with her hooking up with someone else on occasion or something like that. Or having a fuck buddy on the side. Maybe I'm not explaining myself right "
I understand what you're saying FPT
And it would be fine with me, once it was in the open and I knew about it.
It takes on a different concept if it's secret and behind ones back |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes I know couples are on here thanks! What I meant was away from swinging away from the site. In real world say if gf was going out for a night would they be okay with her hooking up with someone else on occasion or something like that. Or having a fuck buddy on the side. Maybe I'm not explaining myself right
I understand what you're saying FPT
And it would be fine with me, once it was in the open and I knew about it.
It takes on a different concept if it's secret and behind ones back "
Yeah I mean it would be out in the open. No secrecy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes I know couples are on here thanks! What I meant was away from swinging away from the site. In real world say if gf was going out for a night would they be okay with her hooking up with someone else on occasion or something like that. Or having a fuck buddy on the side. Maybe I'm not explaining myself right
I kinda get what your saying but I think fab warps our ideas of what's "normal" and "acceptable". I don't think many men in the real world would be ok with their gf or wife shagging another man or woman on the side. It wouldn't be a monogamous relationship then, which would push it into the swing world! "
Sometimes I'm sorry I ever found out about this site as I feel now I'm not sure if I could leave it behind. So just wondering out loud |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I know couples are on here thanks! What I meant was away from swinging away from the site. In real world say if gf was going out for a night would they be okay with her hooking up with someone else on occasion or something like that. Or having a fuck buddy on the side. Maybe I'm not explaining myself right
I kinda get what your saying but I think fab warps our ideas of what's "normal" and "acceptable". I don't think many men in the real world would be ok with their gf or wife shagging another man or woman on the side. It wouldn't be a monogamous relationship then, which would push it into the swing world!
Sometimes I'm sorry I ever found out about this site as I feel now I'm not sure if I could leave it behind. So just wondering out loud "
You wouldn't have to leave it behind if you met someone from fab who was cool with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I know couples are on here thanks! What I meant was away from swinging away from the site. In real world say if gf was going out for a night would they be okay with her hooking up with someone else on occasion or something like that. Or having a fuck buddy on the side. Maybe I'm not explaining myself right
I kinda get what your saying but I think fab warps our ideas of what's "normal" and "acceptable". I don't think many men in the real world would be ok with their gf or wife shagging another man or woman on the side. It wouldn't be a monogamous relationship then, which would push it into the swing world!
Sometimes I'm sorry I ever found out about this site as I feel now I'm not sure if I could leave it behind. So just wondering out loud
You wouldn't have to leave it behind if you met someone from fab who was cool with that "
Exactly. People meet in weirder places than this |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Sometimes I'm sorry I ever found out about this site as I feel now I'm not sure if I could leave it behind. So just wondering out loud
You wouldn't have to leave it behind if you met someone from fab who was cool with that
Exactly. People meet in weirder places than this "
Ha hmmm I dunno about that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I know couples are on here thanks! What I meant was away from swinging away from the site. In real world say if gf was going out for a night would they be okay with her hooking up with someone else on occasion or something like that. Or having a fuck buddy on the side. Maybe I'm not explaining myself right
I suppose u could meet a person who is already on the scene or meet a guy who is open minded enough to become a swinger.
Tbh Id say it would be easier for a gut find an open minded girl than a girl to find an open minded guy.
In my experience modern women are more experimental than guys
I kinda get what your saying but I think fab warps our ideas of what's "normal" and "acceptable". I don't think many men in the real world would be ok with their gf or wife shagging another man or woman on the side. It wouldn't be a monogamous relationship then, which would push it into the swing world!
Sometimes I'm sorry I ever found out about this site as I feel now I'm not sure if I could leave it behind. So just wondering out loud "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sometimes I'm sorry I ever found out about this site as I feel now I'm not sure if I could leave it behind. So just wondering out loud
You wouldn't have to leave it behind if you met someone from fab who was cool with that
Exactly. People meet in weirder places than this
Ha hmmm I dunno about that "
Oh believe me This is nothing more than a social platform for people with similar preferences. Okay,one preference in particular But nothing more than that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Sometimes I'm sorry I ever found out about this site as I feel now I'm not sure if I could leave it behind. So just wondering out loud
You wouldn't have to leave it behind if you met someone from fab who was cool with that
Exactly. People meet in weirder places than this
Ha hmmm I dunno about that
Oh believe me This is nothing more than a social platform for people with similar preferences. Okay,one preference in particular But nothing more than that"
Yes true. And I know some have met on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sometimes I'm sorry I ever found out about this site as I feel now I'm not sure if I could leave it behind. So just wondering out loud
You wouldn't have to leave it behind if you met someone from fab who was cool with that
Exactly. People meet in weirder places than this
Ha hmmm I dunno about that
Oh believe me This is nothing more than a social platform for people with similar preferences. Okay,one preference in particular But nothing more than that
Yes true. And I know some have met on here "
There you go I think you can have a more open conversation here than on tinder. And tinder has no forum |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes I know couples are on here thanks! What I meant was away from swinging away from the site. In real world say if gf was going out for a night would they be okay with her hooking up with someone else on occasion or something like that. Or having a fuck buddy on the side. Maybe I'm not explaining myself right
I understand what you're saying FPT
And it would be fine with me, once it was in the open and I knew about it.
It takes on a different concept if it's secret and behind ones back
Yeah I mean it would be out in the open. No secrecy "
That would still make them swingers though wouldn't it? I mean, you don't have to have a profile on a site like this to call yourself a swinger.... how did people swing before we had internet? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The longer I've been on the site what I'm seeking has altered... I 've made no secret I'd like a lady to be a more permanent feature in my life, I see this as an extension another avenue to seek her out.
At the outset I'd like to think the journey of discovery we'd be undertaking would suffice both parties, as time went on who knows it's something we'd need to talk through.  "
Yes so you understand what I mean I've been thinking about all this recently and maybe it's what suits me better rather than vanilla relationship as they call it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it is something you would have to sit down and discuss with each other. It might be a difficult conversation if the man you are dating has no experience with swinging.
It may be much easier if you date someone you meet on fabs?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I was chatting with a fellow fabber about how dull regular dating is. I love dates tbh but other sites are so...vanilla. plus at the end of the day the men on other sites are pretty much lying about what they want. They just want to remove your knickers.
In all honesty do you think a man would be okay with having a girlfriend that also maybe once in a while sees other men? Just pondering such things on a Sunday evening "
Ive always been very interested in an open relationship if thats what you mean....i honestly dont think im cut out for commitment, so i dont think i could bullshit myself or anybody else for that matter |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"The longer I've been on the site what I'm seeking has altered... I 've made no secret I'd like a lady to be a more permanent feature in my life, I see this as an extension another avenue to seek her out.
At the outset I'd like to think the journey of discovery we'd be undertaking would suffice both parties, as time went on who knows it's something we'd need to talk through.
Yes so you understand what I mean I've been thinking about all this recently and maybe it's what suits me better rather than vanilla relationship as they call it "
I think a lot of folk of whatever gender would probably think similarly.. certainly those who had been arounfd a while,. I guess it's the nature of the site ... I'd see the it as a progression something that might evolve, who knows what the future looks like , if there's something being part of this community has taught me it's honesty and communication is vital  |
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I've done the marriage thing and stayed faithful for 17 years although the sex was average.
Agree with you op, once on here it's hard to go back to vanilla. I'm glad I found it at a latter stages in my life. I've got the family I want and now it's my time. This suits me. If I was to meet someone and wanted a relationship with them they would have to be in this too as I would find it hard to give up  |
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"Yes I know couples are on here thanks! What I meant was away from swinging away from the site. In real world say if gf was going out for a night would they be okay with her hooking up with someone else on occasion or something like that. Or having a fuck buddy on the side. Maybe I'm not explaining myself right
I kinda get what your saying but I think fab warps our ideas of what's "normal" and "acceptable". I don't think many men in the real world would be ok with their gf or wife shagging another man or woman on the side. It wouldn't be a monogamous relationship then, which would push it into the swing world!
Sometimes I'm sorry I ever found out about this site as I feel now I'm not sure if I could leave it behind. So just wondering out loud "
....  ...me too.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've done the marriage thing and stayed faithful for 17 years although the sex was average.
Agree with you op, once on here it's hard to go back to vanilla. I'm glad I found it at a latter stages in my life. I've got the family I want and now it's my time. This suits me. If I was to meet someone and wanted a relationship with them they would have to be in this too as I would find it hard to give up "
I agree fairly new to this after 10 years of marriage not in any position to consider another relationship just NSA fun but Fab has increased my confidence again and would be hard to leave (not impossible) i say if was to look for relationship it probably more likely be on Fab.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Im the opposite, if its outside fab in a serious relationship I could never share them and i would also want to stay faithful. If I met someone outside fab, I would leave it and not think twice about it. |
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"I've done the marriage thing and stayed faithful for 17 years although the sex was average.
Agree with you op, once on here it's hard to go back to vanilla. I'm glad I found it at a latter stages in my life. I've got the family I want and now it's my time. This suits me. If I was to meet someone and wanted a relationship with them they would have to be in this too as I would find it hard to give up
I agree fairly new to this after 10 years of marriage not in any position to consider another relationship just NSA fun but Fab has increased my confidence again and would be hard to leave (not impossible) i say if was to look for relationship it probably more likely be on Fab.... "
Same as that. Swinging has helped me find out who I am and has helped my confidence and self esteem no end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tbh what I think of here and dating site people get mixed up ,and here people think more of here what there in the real world , here it cold fun and do what best for you and f the rest , that what I think |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im the opposite, if its outside fab in a serious relationship I could never share them and i would also want to stay faithful. If I met someone outside fab, I would leave it and not think twice about it."
I used to think the same. But now I dunno   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im the opposite, if its outside fab in a serious relationship I could never share them and i would also want to stay faithful. If I met someone outside fab, I would leave it and not think twice about it.
I used to think the same. But now I dunno "
Well thats the plan lol but ya never know I suppose |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im the opposite, if its outside fab in a serious relationship I could never share them and i would also want to stay faithful. If I met someone outside fab, I would leave it and not think twice about it.
I used to think the same. But now I dunno
noted  "
Now I don't think it's just a case of "okay I'm gonna date someone on fab". You meet someone where you meet them. Be it here on another site or in real life so to speak. It's all make believe right now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Had a regular pof coffee date but all I could think of was Fab and how I was gonna work around it!!! So I'm thinking I'm not in that place lol
Fab is just too much fun to think bout anything else  |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"Im the opposite, if its outside fab in a serious relationship I could never share them and i would also want to stay faithful. If I met someone outside fab, I would leave it and not think twice about it."
One could argue you're not a swinger by heart then... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Had a regular pof coffee date but all I could think of was Fab and how I was gonna work around it!!! So I'm thinking I'm not in that place lol
Fab is just too much fun to think bout anything else "
Fab is far too much fun. With the pics and forum and naughty hot people being upfront about their naughtiness  I think I'd like both. The relationship then hop on over to the nude stranger wrestling occasionally |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had a regular pof coffee date but all I could think of was Fab and how I was gonna work around it!!! So I'm thinking I'm not in that place lol
Fab is just too much fun to think bout anything else
Fab is far too much fun. With the pics and forum and naughty hot people being upfront about their naughtiness I think I'd like both. The relationship then hop on over to the nude stranger wrestling occasionally "
Naked wrestling! |
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"I've done the marriage thing and stayed faithful for 17 years although the sex was average.
Agree with you op, once on here it's hard to go back to vanilla. I'm glad I found it at a latter stages in my life. I've got the family I want and now it's my time. This suits me. If I was to meet someone and wanted a relationship with them they would have to be in this too as I would find it hard to give up "
I agree Tox...i had 20 years of marriage which involved swing for a number of years.Having children and raising them was more a priority. These days its my time, as the family has grown freeing me up to do "me"things. Im just a selfish cow really! |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"I've done the marriage thing and stayed faithful for 17 years although the sex was average.
Agree with you op, once on here it's hard to go back to vanilla. I'm glad I found it at a latter stages in my life. I've got the family I want and now it's my time. This suits me. If I was to meet someone and wanted a relationship with them they would have to be in this too as I would find it hard to give up
I agree Tox...i had 20 years of marriage which involved swing for a number of years.Having children and raising them was more a priority. These days its my time, as the family has grown freeing me up to do "me"things. Im just a selfish cow really! "
Even a selfish cow needs a juicy patch to chew on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im the opposite, if its outside fab in a serious relationship I could never share them and i would also want to stay faithful. If I met someone outside fab, I would leave it and not think twice about it.
One could argue you're not a swinger by heart then..."
Yea id agree with that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Had a regular pof coffee date but all I could think of was Fab and how I was gonna work around it!!! So I'm thinking I'm not in that place lol
Fab is just too much fun to think bout anything else
Fab is far too much fun. With the pics and forum and naughty hot people being upfront about their naughtiness I think I'd like both. The relationship then hop on over to the nude stranger wrestling occasionally
Naked wrestling! "
Oh yes, things get a little hot and sweaty, such fun |
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"Im the opposite, if its outside fab in a serious relationship I could never share them and i would also want to stay faithful. If I met someone outside fab, I would leave it and not think twice about it.
One could argue you're not a swinger by heart then..."
Fabs is a swinger site yes but it is also an nsa hook up site. I think everyone can use it for their own goals whatever they may be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tbh reading this post and passed ones in the last few days ,have had a lot of meets and did nothing much after it , read a sad post a couple of days ago that could hit any one us here , but you can find what your looking for any where even here ,but to meet the one you have to be on the same leave playing field ,that what make it different here |
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By *m158Couple
over a year ago
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"So I was chatting with a fellow fabber about how dull regular dating is. I love dates tbh but other sites are so...vanilla. plus at the end of the day the men on other sites are pretty much lying about what they want. They just want to remove your knickers.
In all honesty do you think a man would be okay with having a girlfriend that also maybe once in a while sees other men? Just pondering such things on a Sunday evening "
Jez some change from dating years ago
If you're dating and have a fb or play on here and love the extra spice it brings then maybe you should invite your boyfriend into the world of fab. It can be a win win for everyone if you really trust each other  |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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"I've done the marriage thing and stayed faithful for 17 years although the sex was average.
Agree with you op, once on here it's hard to go back to vanilla. I'm glad I found it at a latter stages in my life. I've got the family I want and now it's my time. This suits me. If I was to meet someone and wanted a relationship with them they would have to be in this too as I would find it hard to give up
I agree Tox...i had 20 years of marriage which involved swing for a number of years.Having children and raising them was more a priority. These days its my time, as the family has grown freeing me up to do "me"things. Im just a selfish cow really!
Even a selfish cow needs a juicy patch to chew on "
I hope you didn't take that one up the wrong way mdg, you're anything else than selfish! |
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"I've done the marriage thing and stayed faithful for 17 years although the sex was average.
Agree with you op, once on here it's hard to go back to vanilla. I'm glad I found it at a latter stages in my life. I've got the family I want and now it's my time. This suits me. If I was to meet someone and wanted a relationship with them they would have to be in this too as I would find it hard to give up
I agree Tox...i had 20 years of marriage which involved swing for a number of years.Having children and raising them was more a priority. These days its my time, as the family has grown freeing me up to do "me"things. Im just a selfish cow really!
Even a selfish cow needs a juicy patch to chew on
I hope you didn't take that one up the wrong way mdg, you're anything else than selfish! "
DH i didnt my darling im just reading this now. Funnily enough ive just been debating with a fellow fabber about phone sex. Theres me all ready to go in my rollers and furry pjs and i get turned down!! mind you i asked him to wait till i finished my row of knitting....ooops! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well I meet the guy I'm seeing on here and I didn't plan ok meeting a guy atal but we can see other people as long as there is no secrets and wenjoys both agree and are happy with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I gave up dating or looking for a relationship a long time ago. For the most part I'm happy here on Fab might get a bit lonely now and then but it's not a bad balance most of the time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would never be able to swing with someone I have loving feelings for. No way would I be be to share a man that I'm dating. I like you op, more often than not, wish I had never found this site. It's very hard to go back to vanilla sex and finding a vanilla man that likes sex as much as I do. |
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We'll Foxie Roxie u can always find a guy who luvs sex as much as u . I've met a lady friend on here n we just enjoy each other so much not into sharing her . I could not have sex with one lady now n them 2 days down d road have sex with another lady . I rather a FWB good friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Regular dating involves less childish BS than Fab
The reward is much greater though isn't it?
In regular dating??
No."
Oh I would have thought the reward is greater in regular dating than on fab. Very interesting to see different people views. |
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"Regular dating involves less childish BS than Fab
The reward is much greater though isn't it?
In regular dating??
No.
Oh I would have thought the reward is greater in regular dating than on fab. Very interesting to see different people views."
If the reward is greater in civvy street, what's everyone doing here? |
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