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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just want to add my little piece to the forum. It has all prob been said before but why do women and couples have such double standards?
Like a guy could be the nicest most interesting guy on here but he can't get even a reply not to mind a meet because of not havin a verification!
How can he get 1 if nobody will meet without 1 
Also this thing bout not meeting with a guy or girl thats married. Are we not all here for the same reason??? It is all about the sex is it not. What difference would it make as long as the sex is good and exciting. Again he,she would have his,her own reasons for being on here and nobody knows what his,her situation is, and it's nobodys business anyway.
I understand everyone has to have standards, but as long as the person is nice, honest there is a spark n the bedroom who cares.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People have their preferences tbh
As for married people. I have met them. I try not to judge or pry. The thing is meeting married people leads to last minute cancellations and short meets and not a lot of socialising. Which is what I enjoy personally. When it comes to non verified peeps I am wary of messers on here so that's my reason for being slow to meet someone who isn't verified |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People have their preferences tbh
As for married people. I have met them. I try not to judge or pry. The thing is meeting married people leads to last minute cancellations and short meets and not a lot of socialising. Which is what I enjoy personally. When it comes to non verified peeps I am wary of messers on here so that's my reason for being slow to meet someone who isn't verified "
I agree with what Fun says.
I don't mind married men - but they can rarely meet when I can.
I have also met unverified men - but am more wary of them nowadays |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not all about sex on here even tho it seems to be. I have met so many nice people on here sex friends and non sex friends just go with the flow. Keep on the forums go to socials when you can.its a nice place to be. And you will find what your looking for eventually. Just be patient kind and nice to all on here.peace and love to all on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People have their preferences tbh
As for married people. I have met them. I try not to judge or pry. The thing is meeting married people leads to last minute cancellations and short meets and not a lot of socialising. Which is what I enjoy personally. When it comes to non verified peeps I am wary of messers on here so that's my reason for being slow to meet someone who isn't verified
I agree with what Fun says.
I don't mind married men - but they can rarely meet when I can.
I have also met unverified men - but am more wary of them nowadays"
Agree with both girls here!!  |
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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago
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Ok try not to tar us all with the one brush here .... I reply to all messages as do many couples and single ladies I'm sure.
As for preferences we are all entitled to them whatever they may be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think if your married and on the site behind your partner back that wrong , if it was the other way around how would you like it , at the end of the day the wheel always comes around  |
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"Ok try not to tar us all with the one brush here .... I reply to all messages as do many couples and single ladies I'm sure.
As for preferences we are all entitled to them whatever they may be. "
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"Ok try not to tar us all with the one brush here .... I reply to all messages as do many couples and single ladies I'm sure.
As for preferences we are all entitled to them whatever they may be. "
Same here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All you can be is clear in your preferences and hope people respect them after all we r all here to fulfill certain fantasies and maybe u will be the star in someone's and not even make the extras in another , read the profiles properly and ask are you what they want? If you are great email away if not pass on by saves rejection ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People have their preferences tbh
As for married people. I have met them. I try not to judge or pry. The thing is meeting married people leads to last minute cancellations and short meets and not a lot of socialising. Which is what I enjoy personally. When it comes to non verified peeps I am wary of messers on here so that's my reason for being slow to meet someone who isn't verified "
Good point of view Fun. Forgot bout the messers lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok try not to tar us all with the one brush here .... I reply to all messages as do many couples and single ladies I'm sure.
As for preferences we are all entitled to them whatever they may be. "
The not replying can be a pain, as I know ladies do get loads of mail as do the couples. But I don't think the men are as lucky, bar some guys. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All you can be is clear in your preferences and hope people respect them after all we r all here to fulfill certain fantasies and maybe u will be the star in someone's and not even make the extras in another , read the profiles properly and ask are you what they want? If you are great email away if not pass on by saves rejection !"
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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago
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"All you can be is clear in your preferences and hope people respect them after all we r all here to fulfill certain fantasies and maybe u will be the star in someone's and not even make the extras in another , read the profiles properly and ask are you what they want? If you are great email away if not pass on by saves rejection !
And advice taken on board! "
Good man... taking on the advice. ... nice to see |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All you can be is clear in your preferences and hope people respect them after all we r all here to fulfill certain fantasies and maybe u will be the star in someone's and not even make the extras in another , read the profiles properly and ask are you what they want? If you are great email away if not pass on by saves rejection !
And advice taken on board!
Good man... taking on the advice. ... nice to see "
Pointless if I don't learn anything from ye nice people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All you can be is clear in your preferences and hope people respect them after all we r all here to fulfill certain fantasies and maybe u will be the star in someone's and not even make the extras in another , read the profiles properly and ask are you what they want? If you are great email away if not pass on by saves rejection !
And advice taken on board!
Good man... taking on the advice. ... nice to see
Pointless if I don't learn anything from ye nice people "
I'm not nice |
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By *oandWexCouple
over a year ago
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Personnally i think the problem is that a lot of guys (or girls) say they are single when they are not which, as some have said, lead to last minute cancellations, short meets etc and then they can be seen as messers. If they are honest from the start then its up to the person whether they decide to meet them or not been aware of the situation.
Regarding the verifications for a lot of girls there is a safety thing. If they see that a guy is meet verified a couple of time they will feel safer meeting him. The unknown can be exciting but it can also be dangerous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of our messages are from single guys.
We reply to all well written And well thought out messages.
We delete and ignore the one liners.
If ya cant be arsed to write a decent message then we cant be arsed replying.
Wouldnt meet anyone from our own town who is cheating because its not that big a town and could lead to unwanted drama.
But would meet attached people from somewhere else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just want to add my little piece to the forum. It has all prob been said before but why do women and couples have such double standards?
Like a guy could be the nicest most interesting guy on here but he can't get even a reply not to mind a meet because of not havin a verification!
How can he get 1 if nobody will meet without 1
Also this thing bout not meeting with a guy or girl thats married. Are we not all here for the same reason??? It is all about the sex is it not. What difference would it make as long as the sex is good and exciting. Again he,she would have his,her own reasons for being on here and nobody knows what his,her situation is, and it's nobodys business anyway.
I understand everyone has to have standards, but as long as the person is nice, honest there is a spark n the bedroom who cares.
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We do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am long time here, i did meet people from here, but they not verified so as result cant verify me and i can them to! And i did chat with many people to,but most just never wanna stop and meet in real, i like to be here and be part of all this, but some girls and couples can be i bit more friendly and just give a chance try chat to see the person, i am understanding what its more males here not girls or couples, but most just delete your message if you not verified and thats no good! Good luck everyone! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just putting it out there to dose that think there nothing wrong with been with some that cheating behind there partners backs ,if yer partners where cheating on ye behind yer backs how would ye take it .
If your not happy with someone just leave ,at the end of the day the cheater don't get hurt it family's , kids and so on . Sorry that what I think .. |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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I fail to see what you call double standards - I'm not saying there are none, actually there are plenty on here - however what you're describing isn't double standards in my opinion.
It's a sheer fact that there are not enough women on here for all the horny lads and you've to make yourself seen to catch some attention. Nice is nice but not enough.
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It's also worth remembering that every single (or not) person here started off without any verifications yet so many have managed to get one or more. Not only that but some of the greatest cunts on the face of the earth have verifications so don't get hung up on how it's impossible to get one. It's not. Just be patient and don't focus on the need for one. Enjoy the journey. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have a problem with married men or women on here looking for fun, that's their business. It's the lies that I have a problem with. Be open about it from the beginning.
You don't be long working stuff out here. As a few people have pointed out talk is limited to office hours, meets would be a few hours long mostly during the day or early evening and they could never or rarely stay over or attend a party/m&g. They can't leave a paper trail regarding booking a hotel etc. I've been burned a couple of times regarding lies. Only lately I enjoyed the company of a guy only to find out he's married 9 months. It really just doesn't sit well with me although others might not mind I do.
Regarding being unverified that's basically a safety issue. As a single fem you are always conscience of your safety. Although being verified doesn't mean you're not a complete headcase it does help a little if a friend has vouched for you.
I do try and reply to everyone but it can be difficult. I definitely think if someone has taken the time to write something then it's the polite thing to do.
There's just a huge amount of single guy's here and sadly not so many fems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also this thing bout not meeting with a guy or girl thats married. Are we not all here for the same reason??? It is all about the sex is it not. What difference would it make as long as the sex is good and exciting.
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No,we obviously aren't all here for the same thing.if a man or woman wants to cheat on his/her spouse,that's up to them,but it doesn't mean we have to help them cheat on their spouse.
If you can't respect your own marriage what respect are you likely to have for any potential meet.So no,we have no interest in meeting cheats,no matter what their reason for cheating might be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's also worth remembering that every single (or not) person here started off without any verifications yet so many have managed to get one or more. Not only that but some of the greatest cunts on the face of the earth have verifications so don't get hung up on how it's impossible to get one. It's not. Just be patient and don't focus on the need for one. Enjoy the journey. "
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id have no problem meeting someone without a verification if I liked them, we all started off with none. I think some people forget that. As for married people they have their own reasons for being here but like others have said they can only meet at strange times, no weekends, no spontaneous meet when you're feeling horny, it takes half the fun out of it imo. I also tend to only reply to men that are in Cork as I can't travel and its more convenient. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All you can be is clear in your preferences and hope people respect them after all we r all here to fulfill certain fantasies and maybe u will be the star in someone's and not even make the extras in another , read the profiles properly and ask are you what they want? If you are great email away if not pass on by saves rejection !
And advice taken on board!
Good man... taking on the advice. ... nice to see "
....but don't go overboard taking the advice on board. ....if you know what I mean. ....cos I certainly don't. .  |
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My preference is not to meet anyone attached, its not what I signed up for, as previously mentioned in the forum, this site is about having fun with like minded people and meeting attached people can lead to unwanted drama on this very small island of ours.
We have to give people credit on here, if they are receiving a high volume of messages there are not going to have time o reply to them all. Life goes on outside Fab.
My advice would be in regards to getting replies is, put some though into your message, be creative, make it stand out from the crowd, be honest and it will happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thousands of men have managed to get verified , for my own personal safety my preference will always be a verified man.
I avoid married people, last time I was on here I got cited into a divorce case and I had only meet the man once .
I am here for meets but I want no drama and my personal safety is foremost.
If Elaine O'Hara had been on here meeting a non verified Graham Dwyer and chatting only on kik that murder would never have been solved . |
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"All you can be is clear in your preferences and hope people respect them after all we r all here to fulfill certain fantasies and maybe u will be the star in someone's and not even make the extras in another , read the profiles properly and ask are you what they want? If you are great email away if not pass on by saves rejection !
And advice taken on board!
Good man... taking on the advice. ... nice to see ....but don't go overboard taking the advice on board. ....if you know what I mean. ....cos I certainly don't. . "
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...and never will!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't have a problem with married men or women on here looking for fun, that's their business. It's the lies that I have a problem with. Be open about it from the beginning.
You don't be long working stuff out here. As a few people have pointed out talk is limited to office hours, meets would be a few hours long mostly during the day or early evening and they could never or rarely stay over or attend a party/m&g. They can't leave a paper trail regarding booking a hotel etc. I've been burned a couple of times regarding lies. Only lately I enjoyed the company of a guy only to find out he's married 9 months. It really just doesn't sit well with me although others might not mind I do.
Regarding being unverified that's basically a safety issue. As a single fem you are always conscience of your safety. Although being verified doesn't mean you're not a complete headcase it does help a little if a friend has vouched for you.
I do try and reply to everyone but it can be difficult. I definitely think if someone has taken the time to write something then it's the polite thing to do.
There's just a huge amount of single guy's here and sadly not so many fems."
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By *issVWoman
over a year ago
Spain |
I'm attached myself so it suits me better to meet others who are in the same position. I make it very clear on my page of the situation I'm in and the times I can meet. So if that didn't suit someone they shouldn't message me. I don't think it's right to lie about your status as the other person should have the choice whether they are ok with it or not.
Recently I had a really bad experience with a guy on fab. Still getting abuse from him from various fake pages. I was honest from the beginning of my situation but when he seen I was meeting others be bombarded me with insane abuse and threatened to expose me. That's the risk with single people, they will always throw that back in your face. I'll stick to attached guys from now on. 
I'd have no problem meeting someone who's not yet verified if we clicked when chatting and they could prove themselves real to me on kik etc. Verifications don't always provide assurance. That abusive guy is well verified but I've already heard I'm the second person he has threatened.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm attached myself so it suits me better to meet others who are in the same position. I make it very clear on my page of the situation I'm in and the times I can meet. So if that didn't suit someone they shouldn't message me. I don't think it's right to lie about your status as the other person should have the choice whether they are ok with it or not.
Recently I had a really bad experience with a guy on fab. Still getting abuse from him from various fake pages. I was honest from the beginning of my situation but when he seen I was meeting others be bombarded me with insane abuse and threatened to expose me. That's the risk with single people, they will always throw that back in your face. I'll stick to attached guys from now on.
I'd have no problem meeting someone who's not yet verified if we clicked when chatting and they could prove themselves real to me on kik etc. Verifications don't always provide assurance. That abusive guy is well verified but I've already heard I'm the second person he has threatened. "
Maybe tell your partner about him he mite put your man in his place
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"LOL... How did I not think of that
Lol sorry just taking the piss
I would of never guessed 
Maybe you can crack him one of your jokes. That should keep him away lol  "
Lol I will try my best but must say tho you have a fine ass on ya |
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By *issVWoman
over a year ago
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"LOL... How did I not think of that
Lol sorry just taking the piss
I would of never guessed
Maybe you can crack him one of your jokes. That should keep him away lol
Lol I will try my best but must say tho you have a fine ass on ya "
Why thank you
That's some can of shaving gel u got there, always preferred the foam myself tho lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"LOL... How did I not think of that
Lol sorry just taking the piss
I would of never guessed
Maybe you can crack him one of your jokes. That should keep him away lol
Lol I will try my best but must say tho you have a fine ass on ya
Why thank you
That's some can of shaving gel u got there, always preferred the foam myself tho lol "
Lol kind of find the foam a bit messy , I get bit worked up with it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm attached myself so it suits me better to meet others who are in the same position. I make it very clear on my page of the situation I'm in and the times I can meet. So if that didn't suit someone they shouldn't message me. I don't think it's right to lie about your status as the other person should have the choice whether they are ok with it or not.
Recently I had a really bad experience with a guy on fab. Still getting abuse from him from various fake pages. I was honest from the beginning of my situation but when he seen I was meeting others be bombarded me with insane abuse and threatened to expose me. That's the risk with single people, they will always throw that back in your face. I'll stick to attached guys from now on.
I'd have no problem meeting someone who's not yet verified if we clicked when chatting and they could prove themselves real to me on kik etc. Verifications don't always provide assurance. That abusive guy is well verified but I've already heard I'm the second person he has threatened. "
Maybe I should look u up lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm attached myself so it suits me better to meet others who are in the same position. I make it very clear on my page of the situation I'm in and the times I can meet. So if that didn't suit someone they shouldn't message me. I don't think it's right to lie about your status as the other person should have the choice whether they are ok with it or not.
Recently I had a really bad experience with a guy on fab. Still getting abuse from him from various fake pages. I was honest from the beginning of my situation but when he seen I was meeting others be bombarded me with insane abuse and threatened to expose me. That's the risk with single people, they will always throw that back in your face. I'll stick to attached guys from now on.
I'd have no problem meeting someone who's not yet verified if we clicked when chatting and they could prove themselves real to me on kik etc. Verifications don't always provide assurance. That abusive guy is well verified but I've already heard I'm the second person he has threatened. "
What are going to do if you bump into attached idiot? Idiots are everywhere,it's not just a being single thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've held a coffee meet open to all before to help unverified get their green tick. Doesn't bother me meeting people socially. Hard to tell from the site alone what a person is like. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've held a coffee meet open to all before to help unverified get their green tick. Doesn't bother me meeting people socially. Hard to tell from the site alone what a person is like. "
Best idea I have heard in ages MissCar  |
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By *issVWoman
over a year ago
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"What are going to do if you bump into attached idiot? Idiots are everywhere,it's not just a being single thing"
I didn't say they weren't idiots lol.. but less likely to use your position against you or to harm your personal life when they're in the same boat. Both have just as much to lose. |
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"I don't have a problem with married men or women on here looking for fun, that's their business. It's the lies that I have a problem with. Be open about it from the beginning.
You don't be long working stuff out here. As a few people have pointed out talk is limited to office hours, meets would be a few hours long mostly during the day or early evening and they could never or rarely stay over or attend a party/m&g. They can't leave a paper trail regarding booking a hotel etc. I've been burned a couple of times regarding lies. Only lately I enjoyed the company of a guy only to find out he's married 9 months. It really just doesn't sit well with me although others might not mind I do.
Regarding being unverified that's basically a safety issue. As a single fem you are always conscience of your safety. Although being verified doesn't mean you're not a complete headcase it does help a little if a friend has vouched for you.
I do try and reply to everyone but it can be difficult. I definitely think if someone has taken the time to write something then it's the polite thing to do.
There's just a huge amount of single guy's here and sadly not so many fems.
^^^This ^^^"
^^^This ^^^
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