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By *s2b3c OP   Man  over a year ago

Dublin

Why is it that so many people here who feel like they're losing in a conversation feel the need to take jabs against you personally??

Is this a forum for adults or kids?

I try not to think of it but it comes across as bitterness.

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By *ohn MingoMan  over a year ago

Dublin

Define personal?

I've had many a civil discussion with people I've disagreed with without it getting personal. Sometimes however I'd bring the same level of civility to others and they'd get utterly defensive and insulting.

So it would seem personal is a subjective term....

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By *s2b3c OP   Man  over a year ago

Dublin


"Define personal?

I've had many a civil discussion with people I've disagreed with without it getting personal. Sometimes however I'd bring the same level of civility to others and they'd get utterly defensive and insulting.

So it would seem personal is a subjective term...."

I've disagreed with people here with no issue, however those people kept the conversation on topic. Personal to me is moving away from the topic and directly making negative comments against the person making them.

You can comment on people as a whole but when you directly aim it at someone, intending to offend them I think it becomes something of a lower form.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Ive two boys here 12 and 8 and they don't act as childish as some on the forum. People are either going to agree or disagree shouldn't be any reason for things getting personnel on a Forum unless they already have issues with each other, even then it's crazy. Past few days reading some of the posts doesn't show a very positive picture of Swinging to be honest. Think we all need to remember why we joined.

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By *j47Man  over a year ago

limerick


"Ive two boys here 12 and 8 and they don't act as childish as some on the forum. People are either going to agree or disagree shouldn't be any reason for things getting personnel on a Forum unless they already have issues with each other, even then it's crazy. Past few days reading some of the posts doesn't show a very positive picture of Swinging to be honest. Think we all need to remember why we joined. "

Mmm nice ass don't take it personal but it's why I joined

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By *s2b3c OP   Man  over a year ago

Dublin


"Ive two boys here 12 and 8 and they don't act as childish as some on the forum. People are either going to agree or disagree shouldn't be any reason for things getting personnel on a Forum unless they already have issues with each other, even then it's crazy. Past few days reading some of the posts doesn't show a very positive picture of Swinging to be honest. Think we all need to remember why we joined. "

lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ive two boys here 12 and 8 and they don't act as childish as some on the forum. People are either going to agree or disagree shouldn't be any reason for things getting personnel on a Forum unless they already have issues with each other, even then it's crazy. Past few days reading some of the posts doesn't show a very positive picture of Swinging to be honest. Think we all need to remember why we joined. "

..to have sex with open minded liberal..non judgemental people....that ideology lasted about 15 minutes...

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.im left with..to have sex....and lets be honest...most prefer the flirting to the sex...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Ive two boys here 12 and 8 and they don't act as childish as some on the forum. People are either going to agree or disagree shouldn't be any reason for things getting personnel on a Forum unless they already have issues with each other, even then it's crazy. Past few days reading some of the posts doesn't show a very positive picture of Swinging to be honest. Think we all need to remember why we joined. "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

There's a very small section of the forum community which seems to enjoy creating a bit of friction. A little dig here, a tiny jibe there. "Sure it's all a bit of harmless fun"; except it's not, not really. And it's been all over this forum for quite a while. It's hard to stomach at times and much easier to log off.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a very small section of the forum community which seems to enjoy creating a bit of friction. A little dig here, a tiny jibe there. "Sure it's all a bit of harmless fun"; except it's not, not really. And it's been all over this forum for quite a while. It's hard to stomach at times and much easier to log off.

"

If they upset you or you feel that way nobody is forcing you to read them...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a very small section of the forum community which seems to enjoy creating a bit of friction. A little dig here, a tiny jibe there. "Sure it's all a bit of harmless fun"; except it's not, not really. And it's been all over this forum for quite a while. It's hard to stomach at times and much easier to log off.

"

We find this a very useful filter.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a very small section of the forum community which seems to enjoy creating a bit of friction. A little dig here, a tiny jibe there. "Sure it's all a bit of harmless fun"; except it's not, not really. And it's been all over this forum for quite a while. It's hard to stomach at times and much easier to log off.

If they upset you or you feel that way nobody is forcing you to read them..."

Like I said, it makes it easier to log off

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a very small section of the forum community which seems to enjoy creating a bit of friction. A little dig here, a tiny jibe there. "Sure it's all a bit of harmless fun"; except it's not, not really. And it's been all over this forum for quite a while. It's hard to stomach at times and much easier to log off.

We find this a very useful filter."

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a very small section of the forum community which seems to enjoy creating a bit of friction. A little dig here, a tiny jibe there. "Sure it's all a bit of harmless fun"; except it's not, not really. And it's been all over this forum for quite a while. It's hard to stomach at times and much easier to log off.

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It's subtle bullying & it's not nice to see....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a very small section of the forum community which seems to enjoy creating a bit of friction. A little dig here, a tiny jibe there. "Sure it's all a bit of harmless fun"; except it's not, not really. And it's been all over this forum for quite a while. It's hard to stomach at times and much easier to log off.

It's subtle bullying & it's not nice to see.... "

or too much time on their hands and can't mind their own business

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a very small section of the forum community which seems to enjoy creating a bit of friction. A little dig here, a tiny jibe there. "Sure it's all a bit of harmless fun"; except it's not, not really. And it's been all over this forum for quite a while. It's hard to stomach at times and much easier to log off.

It's subtle bullying & it's not nice to see.... "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a very small section of the forum community which seems to enjoy creating a bit of friction. A little dig here, a tiny jibe there. "Sure it's all a bit of harmless fun"; except it's not, not really. And it's been all over this forum for quite a while. It's hard to stomach at times and much easier to log off.

It's subtle bullying & it's not nice to see.... "

So subtle most don't realise, unless it's directed at them or they've had it happen to them before. I was bullied like this for a while on another site, by one of the more popular members there, a very frequent poster. It was only when I spoke out about it that it became clear. Many a very nasty jibe can be hidden behind a smiley icon.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman  over a year ago

My town

I go through phrases on the forums. At the moment it quite easily goes into a bitch fight over nothing..quite possible op this thread could go the same way.

If for whatever reason you don't like someone on the site be the bigger person and ignore them.....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I go through phrases on the forums. At the moment it quite easily goes into a bitch fight over nothing..quite possible op this thread could go the same way.

If for whatever reason you don't like someone on the site be the bigger person and ignore them.....

"

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By *ohn MingoMan  over a year ago

Dublin


" Many a very nasty jibe can be hidden behind a smiley icon. "

Some are very very good at it, and if anyone pulls them up on it out comes the

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I go through phrases on the forums. At the moment it quite easily goes into a bitch fight over nothing..quite possible op this thread could go the same way.

If for whatever reason you don't like someone on the site be the bigger person and ignore them.....

"

+2

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I go through phrases on the forums. At the moment it quite easily goes into a bitch fight over nothing..quite possible op this thread could go the same way.

If for whatever reason you don't like someone on the site be the bigger person and ignore them.....

"

ignore and block them on your phone and on site so they cant abuse .. The joy of modern technology

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a very small section of the forum community which seems to enjoy creating a bit of friction. A little dig here, a tiny jibe there. "Sure it's all a bit of harmless fun"; except it's not, not really. And it's been all over this forum for quite a while. It's hard to stomach at times and much easier to log off.

It's subtle bullying & it's not nice to see....

So subtle most don't realise, unless it's directed at them or they've had it happen to them before. I was bullied like this for a while on another site, by one of the more popular members there, a very frequent poster. It was only when I spoke out about it that it became clear. Many a very nasty jibe can be hidden behind a smiley icon. "

Glad to see you didn't bow to it Sally. X

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I go through phrases on the forums. At the moment it quite easily goes into a bitch fight over nothing..quite possible op this thread could go the same way.

If for whatever reason you don't like someone on the site be the bigger person and ignore them.....

ignore and block them on your phone and on site so they cant abuse .. The joy of modern technology "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"ignore and block them on your phone and on site so they cant abuse .. The joy of modern technology "

I'm a lucky girl I don't get abuse but if somebody abuses you on the site report to administration.....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"ignore and block them on your phone and on site so they cant abuse .. The joy of modern technology

I'm a lucky girl I don't get abuse but if somebody abuses you on the site report to administration.....

"

oh dont worry i certainly will . but my advise block the abusers as i have done as its not nice to wake up to abusive messages and this is a nsa site

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By *rutus83Man  over a year ago

naas

The forum is always gonna be the same. I can't see it changing anytime soon, there is some that like to try bring positivity to the forums and then the other half like the negative side to the forums it just can't be helped just blocked and ignored

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"ignore and block them on your phone and on site so they cant abuse .. The joy of modern technology

I'm a lucky girl I don't get abuse but if somebody abuses you on the site report to administration.....

oh dont worry i certainly will . but my advise block the abusers as i have done as its not nice to wake up to abusive messages and this is a nsa site "

It's terrible that your getting abuse and it's sad to hear....

Block unverified users and it may ease things up for you...

Report the messages to admin

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Oh the irony of some of this!

I enjoy the threads for the topics and banter and yes it can turn nasty sometimes and it can be upsetting but we all have an on off button that we are in control of or the choice to interact or not. I like interacting and enjoy the debate and information you get from the threads. At the end of the day it's a large group of people just giving their personal opinion which is what it is designed for and interacting with one another. It turns nasty when people start to take a disagreement as personal and make it personal.

There are so many of these threads giving out that it is bullying when in my opinion a difference of opinion is a healthy thing as is humour. Not a mention ever that when humour takes the thread off topic it actually deflects a lot of arguments so I want to thank all the humourous comedy acts on the threads instead of accusing them of bullying because they refuse to take it personal or get upset by it all. And as for the people using these threads for personal swipes at others....has that been mentioned.

Not a smiley in sight...just my tuppence worth.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I find it's mostly the women making subtle little jibes at each other. No idea why there's more than enough men to go round..

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I find it's mostly the women making subtle little jibes at each other. No idea why there's more than enough men to go round.. "

Thousands lol no need for it but I find personally that being petty is gender neutral

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Oh the irony of some of this!

I enjoy the threads for the topics and banter and yes it can turn nasty sometimes and it can be upsetting but we all have an on off button that we are in control of or the choice to interact or not. I like interacting and enjoy the debate and information you get from the threads. At the end of the day it's a large group of people just giving their personal opinion which is what it is designed for and interacting with one another. It turns nasty when people start to take a disagreement as personal and make it personal.

There are so many of these threads giving out that it is bullying when in my opinion a difference of opinion is a healthy thing as is humour. Not a mention ever that when humour takes the thread off topic it actually deflects a lot of arguments so I want to thank all the humourous comedy acts on the threads instead of accusing them of bullying because they refuse to take it personal or get upset by it all. And as for the people using these threads for personal swipes at others....has that been mentioned.

Not a smiley in sight...just my tuppence worth."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a very small section of the forum community which seems to enjoy creating a bit of friction. A little dig here, a tiny jibe there. "Sure it's all a bit of harmless fun"; except it's not, not really. And it's been all over this forum for quite a while. It's hard to stomach at times and much easier to log off."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Oh and not to be sensored...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I go through phrases on the forums. At the moment it quite easily goes into a bitch fight over nothing..quite possible op this thread could go the same way.

If for whatever reason you don't like someone on the site be the bigger person and ignore them.....

"

Yes totally agree here, you couldn't have said it better!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

As a Famous Scotsman once said .... "PIZZA ANYONE!!!!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Oh the irony of some of this!

I enjoy the threads for the topics and banter and yes it can turn nasty sometimes and it can be upsetting but we all have an on off button that we are in control of or the choice to interact or not. I like interacting and enjoy the debate and information you get from the threads. At the end of the day it's a large group of people just giving their personal opinion which is what it is designed for and interacting with one another. It turns nasty when people start to take a disagreement as personal and make it personal.

There are so many of these threads giving out that it is bullying when in my opinion a difference of opinion is a healthy thing as is humour. Not a mention ever that when humour takes the thread off topic it actually deflects a lot of arguments so I want to thank all the humourous comedy acts on the threads instead of accusing them of bullying because they refuse to take it personal or get upset by it all. And as for the people using these threads for personal swipes at others....has that been mentioned.

Not a smiley in sight...just my tuppence worth."

.....well said frisky. It very easy to label someone a troll or a bully....its a little harder to back it up with facts. Whats wrong with a robust discussion? . As ive said before. .if you start name calling, you've already lost the argument. ... ...smileys for everyone. ..

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By *ohn MingoMan  over a year ago

Dublin


"if you start name calling, you've already lost the argument. "

Sadly lots of people believe the opposite to be true.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Oh the irony of some of this!

I enjoy the threads for the topics and banter and yes it can turn nasty sometimes and it can be upsetting but we all have an on off button that we are in control of or the choice to interact or not. I like interacting and enjoy the debate and information you get from the threads. At the end of the day it's a large group of people just giving their personal opinion which is what it is designed for and interacting with one another. It turns nasty when people start to take a disagreement as personal and make it personal.

There are so many of these threads giving out that it is bullying when in my opinion a difference of opinion is a healthy thing as is humour. Not a mention ever that when humour takes the thread off topic it actually deflects a lot of arguments so I want to thank all the humourous comedy acts on the threads instead of accusing them of bullying because they refuse to take it personal or get upset by it all. And as for the people using these threads for personal swipes at others....has that been mentioned.

Not a smiley in sight...just my tuppence worth......well said frisky. It very easy to label someone a troll or a bully....its a little harder to back it up with facts. Whats wrong with a robust discussion? . As ive said before. .if you start name calling, you've already lost the argument. ... ...smileys for everyone. .."

Why thank you dahling and you are rocking those Smiley's as always

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"if you start name calling, you've already lost the argument.

Sadly lots of people believe the opposite to be true. "

....who are you telling. ...since when was westmeath in Germany?

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By *s2b3c OP   Man  over a year ago

Dublin

There's a lot of sense being spoken here. I personally block and ignore people but it gets a bit much when you can't comment anywhere without them following you and make snide comments.

I don't agree with allowing people to continuously jab at others where you're expected to ignore it. You don't know anyone's history or background on here, or that they may have a mental illness like depression, so as an adult you're expected to have some cop on and take that into consideration.

The jabs are done in a sly way to wind people up so they go on the attack, that's when others join in to defend that person, or help them by taking more jabs because you now look worse because you've made more noise.

It's also bizarre that people agreeing with others about trying to make it a more positive place are the very people I've seen make several snide remarks (not everyone before you all go on the attack).

I'm learning very quickly what kind of place this is and surprisingly had quite a few emails to tell me I'm not being paranoid about this place, there's seems to be a history here.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

If find a lot of disagreements overflow from other threads. People disagree on something, it gets a bit heated and nasty. When one of the parties comments on a different thread (here for instance) the second person sees it as a good opportunity to throw a cynical comment back. Arguments have to be two way. Ignore and don't go for the bait is my advice.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a lot of sense being spoken here. I personally block and ignore people but it gets a bit much when you can't comment anywhere without them following you and make snide comments.

I don't agree with allowing people to continuously jab at others where you're expected to ignore it. You don't know anyone's history or background on here, or that they may have a mental illness like depression, so as an adult you're expected to have some cop on and take that into consideration.

The jabs are done in a sly way to wind people up so they go on the attack, that's when others join in to defend that person, or help them by taking more jabs because you now look worse because you've made more noise.

It's also bizarre that people agreeing with others about trying to make it a more positive place are the very people I've seen make several snide remarks (not everyone before you all go on the attack).

I'm learning very quickly what kind of place this is and surprisingly had quite a few emails to tell me I'm not being paranoid about this place, there's seems to be a history here. "

Well said, totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a lot of sense being spoken here. I personally block and ignore people but it gets a bit much when you can't comment anywhere without them following you and make snide comments.

I don't agree with allowing people to continuously jab at others where you're expected to ignore it. You don't know anyone's history or background on here, or that they may have a mental illness like depression, so as an adult you're expected to have some cop on and take that into consideration.

The jabs are done in a sly way to wind people up so they go on the attack, that's when others join in to defend that person, or help them by taking more jabs because you now look worse because you've made more noise.

It's also bizarre that people agreeing with others about trying to make it a more positive place are the very people I've seen make several snide remarks (not everyone before you all go on the attack).

I'm learning very quickly what kind of place this is and surprisingly had quite a few emails to tell me I'm not being paranoid about this place, there's seems to be a history here.

"

well said

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a lot of sense being spoken here. I personally block and ignore people but it gets a bit much when you can't comment anywhere without them following you and make snide comments.

I don't agree with allowing people to continuously jab at others where you're expected to ignore it. You don't know anyone's history or background on here, or that they may have a mental illness like depression, so as an adult you're expected to have some cop on and take that into consideration.

The jabs are done in a sly way to wind people up so they go on the attack, that's when others join in to defend that person, or help them by taking more jabs because you now look worse because you've made more noise.

It's also bizarre that people agreeing with others about trying to make it a more positive place are the very people I've seen make several snide remarks (not everyone before you all go on the attack).

I'm learning very quickly what kind of place this is and surprisingly had quite a few emails to tell me I'm not being paranoid about this place, there's seems to be a history here.

"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a lot of sense being spoken here. I personally block and ignore people but it gets a bit much when you can't comment anywhere without them following you and make snide comments.

I don't agree with allowing people to continuously jab at others where you're expected to ignore it. You don't know anyone's history or background on here, or that they may have a mental illness like depression, so as an adult you're expected to have some cop on and take that into consideration.

The jabs are done in a sly way to wind people up so they go on the attack, that's when others join in to defend that person, or help them by taking more jabs because you now look worse because you've made more noise.

It's also bizarre that people agreeing with others about trying to make it a more positive place are the very people I've seen make several snide remarks (not everyone before you all go on the attack).

I'm learning very quickly what kind of place this is and surprisingly had quite a few emails to tell me I'm not being paranoid about this place, there's seems to be a history here.

"

We do not know what is behind any keyboard op and yes this makes some people very brave in taking it to a personal level. The threads are a tough place as is fab but you focus on the good and it's worthwhile. The threads are about different opinions and in true fab fashion each to their own opinion.

It has been said before that the threads is not a place for anyone suffering depression as it can be too harsh for those suffering from it. Personally I think if a person is suffering from depression, the internet in any form is not the place to be but that is just my opinion. This may sound harsh but is not intended to be but in my opinion as an adult, life does not get out of your way...you have to find ways around it and respectfully so.

A lot of passive aggressive swipes from people taking stuff personal but that also is in all walks of life too. The threads take time to figure out and all the politics and how some play it, cloak and dagger under the guise of being bullied. Some cases may be valid but remember not all claims are genuine and this applies to all walks of life.

For me humour, banter, information and interaction is why I am here...and each to their own. Happy fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Other forums have an ignore function, where you don't see replies by users you place on an ignore list. I think fab could definitely benefit from that.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Other forums have an ignore function, where you don't see replies by users you place on an ignore list. I think fab could definitely benefit from that. "

Or you could just take the decision to ignore the posts of those you wish to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a lot of sense being spoken here. I personally block and ignore people but it gets a bit much when you can't comment anywhere without them following you and make snide comments.

I don't agree with allowing people to continuously jab at others where you're expected to ignore it. You don't know anyone's history or background on here, or that they may have a mental illness like depression, so as an adult you're expected to have some cop on and take that into consideration.

The jabs are done in a sly way to wind people up so they go on the attack, that's when others join in to defend that person, or help them by taking more jabs because you now look worse because you've made more noise.

It's also bizarre that people agreeing with others about trying to make it a more positive place are the very people I've seen make several snide remarks (not everyone before you all go on the attack).

I'm learning very quickly what kind of place this is and surprisingly had quite a few emails to tell me I'm not being paranoid about this place, there's seems to be a history here.

We do not know what is behind any keyboard op and yes this makes some people very brave in taking it to a personal level. The threads are a tough place as is fab but you focus on the good and it's worthwhile. The threads are about different opinions and in true fab fashion each to their own opinion.

It has been said before that the threads is not a place for anyone suffering depression as it can be too harsh for those suffering from it. Personally I think if a person is suffering from depression, the internet in any form is not the place to be but that is just my opinion. This may sound harsh but is not intended to be but in my opinion as an adult, life does not get out of your way...you have to find ways around it and respectfully so.

A lot of passive aggressive swipes from people taking stuff personal but that also is in all walks of life too. The threads take time to figure out and all the politics and how some play it, cloak and dagger under the guise of being bullied. Some cases may be valid but remember not all claims are genuine and this applies to all walks of life.

For me humour, banter, information and interaction is why I am here...and each to their own. Happy fabbing.

"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a lot of sense being spoken here. I personally block and ignore people but it gets a bit much when you can't comment anywhere without them following you and make snide comments.

I don't agree with allowing people to continuously jab at others where you're expected to ignore it. You don't know anyone's history or background on here, or that they may have a mental illness like depression, so as an adult you're expected to have some cop on and take that into consideration.

The jabs are done in a sly way to wind people up so they go on the attack, that's when others join in to defend that person, or help them by taking more jabs because you now look worse because you've made more noise.

It's also bizarre that people agreeing with others about trying to make it a more positive place are the very people I've seen make several snide remarks (not everyone before you all go on the attack).

I'm learning very quickly what kind of place this is and surprisingly had quite a few emails to tell me I'm not being paranoid about this place, there's seems to be a history here.

We do not know what is behind any keyboard op and yes this makes some people very brave in taking it to a personal level. The threads are a tough place as is fab but you focus on the good and it's worthwhile. The threads are about different opinions and in true fab fashion each to their own opinion.

It has been said before that the threads is not a place for anyone suffering depression as it can be too harsh for those suffering from it. Personally I think if a person is suffering from depression, the internet in any form is not the place to be but that is just my opinion. This may sound harsh but is not intended to be but in my opinion as an adult, life does not get out of your way...you have to find ways around it and respectfully so.

A lot of passive aggressive swipes from people taking stuff personal but that also is in all walks of life too. The threads take time to figure out and all the politics and how some play it, cloak and dagger under the guise of being bullied. Some cases may be valid but remember not all claims are genuine and this applies to all walks of life.

For me humour, banter, information and interaction is why I am here...and each to their own. Happy fabbing.

"

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By *s2b3c OP   Man  over a year ago

Dublin


"Other forums have an ignore function, where you don't see replies by users you place on an ignore list. I think fab could definitely benefit from that.

Or you could just take the decision to ignore the posts of those you wish to avoid."

I was looking for an ignore button, I'm surprised they don't have it as it's on almost every other forum website. It shows who's actually sly enough to play the victim, while not using the "ignore" showing them up as the real bully/issue.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Other forums have an ignore function, where you don't see replies by users you place on an ignore list. I think fab could definitely benefit from that.

Or you could just take the decision to ignore the posts of those you wish to avoid.

I was looking for an ignore button, I'm surprised they don't have it as it's on almost every other forum website. It shows who's actually sly enough to play the victim, while not using the "ignore" showing them up as the real bully/issue.

"

Agreed, but ultimately you have control only over your own actions.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"

We do not know what is behind any keyboard op and yes this makes some people very brave in taking it to a personal level. The threads are a tough place as is fab but you focus on the good and it's worthwhile. The threads are about different opinions and in true fab fashion each to their own opinion.

It has been said before that the threads is not a place for anyone suffering depression as it can be too harsh for those suffering from it. Personally I think if a person is suffering from depression, the internet in any form is not the place to be but that is just my opinion. This may sound harsh but is not intended to be but in my opinion as an adult, life does not get out of your way...you have to find ways around it and respectfully so.

A lot of passive aggressive swipes from people taking stuff personal but that also is in all walks of life too. The threads take time to figure out and all the politics and how some play it, cloak and dagger under the guise of being bullied. Some cases may be valid but remember not all claims are genuine and this applies to all walks of life.

For me humour, banter, information and interaction is why I am here...and each to their own. Happy fabbing.

"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so many people here who feel like they're losing in a conversation feel the need to take jabs against you personally??

Is this a forum for adults or kids?

I try not to think of it but it comes across as bitterness."

Having been reading through you're Post's you Sir talk a lot of sense.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

If you wouldn't suffer negativity or drama in any other walk of life then on here should be no different.

We all have the capacity to choose whether or not to ignore a person or a situation as we personally see fit.

There'll be arguments, insults and childishness while there'll also be fun, banter and interesting discussion. Fab, like anything esle, is what you make of it.

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By *orguyMan  over a year ago

Tuam

It's like going into a small local bar. There's always a few regulars at the bar with a sense on entitlement.

They will find out as much info about you as they can and use it against you later if you don't agree with them. They will bully and harass people and then feign sympathy in an effort to cover up their behaviour.

These people think they're funny, cool and popular when in fact they are the village idiots. They fear losing their popularity and will do anything to keep it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It's like going into a small local bar. There's always a few regulars at the bar with a sense on entitlement.

They will find out as much info about you as they can and use it against you later if you don't agree with them. They will bully and harass people and then feign sympathy in an effort to cover up their behaviour.

These people think they're funny, cool and popular when in fact they are the village idiots. They fear losing their popularity and will do anything to keep it.

"

well said and i totally agree

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By *orguyMan  over a year ago

Tuam


"It's like going into a small local bar. There's always a few regulars at the bar with a sense on entitlement.

They will find out as much info about you as they can and use it against you later if you don't agree with them. They will bully and harass people and then feign sympathy in an effort to cover up their behaviour.

These people think they're funny, cool and popular when in fact they are the village idiots. They fear losing their popularity and will do anything to keep it.

well said and i totally agree "

A bit like Kilnaskully...Go on the Dan

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By *ohn MingoMan  over a year ago

Dublin

Fuck it, if i've any popularity you can have it.

my mom says i'm cool though.

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By *orguyMan  over a year ago

Tuam


"Fuck it, if i've any popularity you can have it.

my mom says i'm cool though. "

I have neither...so I have nothing to lose

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"There's a lot of sense being spoken here. I personally block and ignore people but it gets a bit much when you can't comment anywhere without them following you and make snide comments.

I don't agree with allowing people to continuously jab at others where you're expected to ignore it. You don't know anyone's history or background on here, or that they may have a mental illness like depression, so as an adult you're expected to have some cop on and take that into consideration.

The jabs are done in a sly way to wind people up so they go on the attack, that's when others join in to defend that person, or help them by taking more jabs because you now look worse because you've made more noise.

It's also bizarre that people agreeing with others about trying to make it a more positive place are the very people I've seen make several snide remarks (not everyone before you all go on the attack).

I'm learning very quickly what kind of place this is and surprisingly had quite a few emails to tell me I'm not being paranoid about this place, there's seems to be a history here.

We do not know what is behind any keyboard op and yes this makes some people very brave in taking it to a personal level. The threads are a tough place as is fab but you focus on the good and it's worthwhile. The threads are about different opinions and in true fab fashion each to their own opinion.

It has been said before that the threads is not a place for anyone suffering depression as it can be too harsh for those suffering from it. Personally I think if a person is suffering from depression, the internet in any form is not the place to be but that is just my opinion. This may sound harsh but is not intended to be but in my opinion as an adult, life does not get out of your way...you have to find ways around it and respectfully so.

A lot of passive aggressive swipes from people taking stuff personal but that also is in all walks of life too. The threads take time to figure out and all the politics and how some play it, cloak and dagger under the guise of being bullied. Some cases may be valid but remember not all claims are genuine and this applies to all walks of life.

For me humour, banter, information and interaction is why I am here...and each to their own. Happy fabbing.

"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out... "

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

"

...I know where your sheep are....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are.... "

Gonna share ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

"

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ... "

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face "

....did you show him your circus act?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face ....did you show him your circus act? "

Was saving that for another day

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face ....did you show him your circus act?

Was saving that for another day "

...you were right then. .must have been the lamb chops

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face ....did you show him your circus act?

Was saving that for another day ...you were right then. .must have been the lamb chops "

Noooooooooo

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face ....did you show him your circus act?

Was saving that for another day ...you were right then. .must have been the lamb chops "

Those sneaky ninja lamb's

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face ....did you show him your circus act?

Was saving that for another day ...you were right then. .must have been the lamb chops

Those sneaky ninja lamb's"

can't name and shame the lamb murderer. ....lets just say phone boxes can be lonely places....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face ....did you show him your circus act?

Was saving that for another day ...you were right then. .must have been the lamb chops

Those sneaky ninja lamb'scan't name and shame the lamb murderer. ....lets just say phone boxes can be lonely places...."

It's near the traffic lights

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me a few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face ....did you show him your circus act?

Was saving that for another day ...you were right then. .must have been the lamb chops

Those sneaky ninja lamb'scan't name and shame the lamb murderer. ....lets just say phone boxes can be lonely places....

It's near the traffic lights "

With a secret basement

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face ....did you show him your circus act?

Was saving that for another day ...you were right then. .must have been the lamb chops

Those sneaky ninja lamb'scan't name and shame the lamb murderer. ....lets just say phone boxes can be lonely places....

It's near the traffic lights "

....I believe he has a sore throat at the minute. .he's been told by his doctor not to talk. ...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face ....did you show him your circus act?

Was saving that for another day ...you were right then. .must have been the lamb chops

Those sneaky ninja lamb'scan't name and shame the lamb murderer. ....lets just say phone boxes can be lonely places....

It's near the traffic lights ....I believe he has a sore throat at the minute. .he's been told by his doctor not to talk. ... "

Ahhh bless... will send him some liquorice allsorts

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face ....did you show him your circus act?

Was saving that for another day ...you were right then. .must have been the lamb chops

Those sneaky ninja lamb'scan't name and shame the lamb murderer. ....lets just say phone boxes can be lonely places....

It's near the traffic lights ....I believe he has a sore throat at the minute. .he's been told by his doctor not to talk. ... "

How does typing affect a sore throat

Not feeling well on a Monday always looks suspicious or has he disappeared...that could be the 11 million dollar question lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We get on with most people here. But we have noticed a lot of moaning Minnie's lately. Constantly whinging about other people. But not shy about throwing a dig themselves. ... why don't we all play by the same rule. If you cant take it. ...don't give it...could someone lend me few smileys. .im almost out...

Who doesn't get on??? I'm off to join the circus... heard they are stuck for a contortionist

...I know where your sheep are....

Gonna share ?

...I don't want to alarm you...but the person who has them was going yum yum. ...I don't think he was talking about the can of lilt he was drinking. ...

Fucker... no wonder he left with a smile on his face ....did you show him your circus act?

Was saving that for another day ...you were right then. .must have been the lamb chops

Those sneaky ninja lamb'scan't name and shame the lamb murderer. ....lets just say phone boxes can be lonely places....

It's near the traffic lights ....I believe he has a sore throat at the minute. .he's been told by his doctor not to talk. ...

How does typing affect a sore throat

Not feeling well on a Monday always looks suspicious or has he disappeared...that could be the 11 million dollar question lol"

Hope the sheep didn't get him

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It's like going into a small local bar. There's always a few regulars at the bar with a sense on entitlement.

They will find out as much info about you as they can and use it against you later if you don't agree with them. They will bully and harass people and then feign sympathy in an effort to cover up their behaviour.

These people think they're funny, cool and popular when in fact they are the village idiots. They fear losing their popularity and will do anything to keep it."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It's like going into a small local bar. There's always a few regulars at the bar with a sense on entitlement.

They will find out as much info about you as they can and use it against you later if you don't agree with them. They will bully and harass people and then feign sympathy in an effort to cover up their behaviour.

These people think they're funny, cool and popular when in fact they are the village idiots. They fear losing their popularity and will do anything to keep it.

"

...gosh im glad I've never been in a bar like that. ..the bars we drink in are friendly and full of craic...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It's like going into a small local bar. There's always a few regulars at the bar with a sense on entitlement.

They will find out as much info about you as they can and use it against you later if you don't agree with them. They will bully and harass people and then feign sympathy in an effort to cover up their behaviour.

These people think they're funny, cool and popular when in fact they are the village idiots. They fear losing their popularity and will do anything to keep it.

"

...gosh im glad I've never been in a bar like that. ..the bars we drink in are friendly and full of craic...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so many people here who feel like they're losing in a conversation feel the need to take jabs against you personally??

Is this a forum for adults or kids?

I try not to think of it but it comes across as bitterness."

2 people in particular are worst offenders for this..1 from carrickmacross the other the far side of Newry

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so many people here who feel like they're losing in a conversation feel the need to take jabs against you personally??

Is this a forum for adults or kids?

I try not to think of it but it comes across as bitterness.

2 people in particular are worst offenders for this..1 from carrickmacross the other the far side of Newry "

Now who's making it personal and being childish?

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By *ohn MingoMan  over a year ago

Dublin


"Why is it that so many people here who feel like they're losing in a conversation feel the need to take jabs against you personally??

Is this a forum for adults or kids?

I try not to think of it but it comes across as bitterness.

2 people in particular are worst offenders for this..1 from carrickmacross the other the far side of Newry "

...and you just proved the OP's point.

oh the irony.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so many people here who feel like they're losing in a conversation feel the need to take jabs against you personally??

Is this a forum for adults or kids?

I try not to think of it but it comes across as bitterness.

2 people in particular are worst offenders for this..1 from carrickmacross the other the far side of Newry

...and you just proved the OP's point.

oh the irony. "

Doh

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Why is it that so many people here who feel like they're losing in a conversation feel the need to take jabs against you personally??

Is this a forum for adults or kids?

I try not to think of it but it comes across as bitterness.

2 people in particular are worst offenders for this..1 from carrickmacross the other the far side of Newry "

...we've been here quite a while, to date we haven't tried to dehumanise any other forum users, by referring to them as "it"

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By *orguyMan  over a year ago

Tuam


"It's like going into a small local bar. There's always a few regulars at the bar with a sense on entitlement.

They will find out as much info about you as they can and use it against you later if you don't agree with them. They will bully and harass people and then feign sympathy in an effort to cover up their behaviour.

These people think they're funny, cool and popular when in fact they are the village idiots. They fear losing their popularity and will do anything to keep it.

"

What you having PP?? It's my round

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