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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The answer is kind of in the question. Shame is something put on you by others, guilt is what we feel about our own shortcomings. People fear the judgements of what is a very conservative country. Should they? No I don't think so but its human nature to crave acceptance by the wider group. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends "
....wow...thats a very cavalier attitude. You're a single guy, with nothing to lose obviously. Spare a thought for the married people on here with grown up kids. Or single women, who maybe live out in the country on their own. Or maybe people who are involved in the community, football coaches etc. Not to mention cops, nurses etc.....maybe its just me....but id rather keep my private life...well private.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Most people are not ashamed. They are not craving acceptance either. Most people don't want their families, friends or work colleagues to know what is a private matter.
Our privacy protects us from ignorant and often jealous people trying to shame us for consensual adult behavior.
The outrage police would hound teachers from jobs, or others could use the knowledge to blackmail gardi or politicians or married folk. How many people would use the knowledge to feel up the local swinger nurse?
And most importantly our privacy gives us control. We meet who we like, when we like on our terms. |
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"What you do in your own private life is your call know body should judge you for that "
in a ideal world that's how it should be. Unfortunately not everyone has the same attitude. Swinging is not socially acceptable.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What you do in your own private life is your call know body should judge you for that "
Nobody should be raped but it happens. Nobody should be fired from a job because of their sexual preferences but it happens. No body should be shamed because of their body but it happens.
Wishful thinking doesn't protect you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What you do in your own private life is your call know body should judge you for that
Nobody should be raped but it happens. Nobody should be fired from a job because of their sexual preferences but it happens. No body should be shamed because of their body but it happens.
Wishful thinking doesn't protect you"
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends "
You are a single guy, people are less judgemental of single guys looking for sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not ashamed, but I like my alter ego. I like to have the different facets to my life,for a healthy balance. So instead of just a good work/home life balance, I have the third facet which is kink. Prefer not to mix the 3  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends "
So why are you not showing your face? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Swinging isn't, to me at least, a reason to be ashamed, nor is it a reason to be proud. It's just a choice, no more no less. My family, the ones who count, are aware of it, but I see no reason to show my face to every nosey person who creates a profile to pry or just to troll. Not ashamed, not proud, just private. |
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends "
I do not think being ashamed comes into the equation. It is more to do with common sense and keeing your private life private . I do not think many members would want other family members to see their faces on this site .
It is rather ironic that you ask the queation , state that you are proud to be on the site yet do not have a face photo on yourself . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Spare a thought for the married people on here with grown up kids. Or single women, who maybe live out in the country on their own. Or maybe people who are involved in the community, football coaches etc. Not to mention cops, nurses etc.....maybe its just me....but id rather keep my private life...well private. "
Couldn't agree more. It's not as much to do with a sense of shame - or guilt - rather, it's about discretion. People should be able to have private lives and not have to expose their every intention and action to the outside world. This is one of the major social/political battlegrounds of the 21st century...namely, people MUST reserve the right to their own privacy and not feel pressured into disclosing everything online ! And for those who think otherwise, they will just have to keep minding their own business. |
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"I've it hidden because everyone else has it hidden face pics are in my friend only images "
So because everyone has hidden theirs, you, who is not ashamed hide yours?
Why hide yours, put it out there for the world to see. Show your unashamedness, glorify the person you are, be proud and let the world see who you truly are. That is of course providing, you don't want your Mam or dad, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, nieces and nephews knowing, or all the people in your local talking about you.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends ....wow...thats a very cavalier attitude. You're a single guy, with nothing to lose obviously. Spare a thought for the married people on here with grown up kids. Or single women, who maybe live out in the country on their own. Or maybe people who are involved in the community, football coaches etc. Not to mention cops, nurses etc.....maybe its just me....but id rather keep my private life...well private. "
I'd say single guys have as much to lose as single women. |
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"Most people are not ashamed. They are not craving acceptance either. Most people don't want their families, friends or work colleagues to know what is a private matter.
Our privacy protects us from ignorant and often jealous people trying to shame us for consensual adult behavior.
The outrage police would hound teachers from jobs, or others could use the knowledge to blackmail gardi or politicians or married folk. How many people would use the knowledge to feel up the local swinger nurse?
And most importantly our privacy gives us control. We meet who we like, when we like on our terms. "
well spoken |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What you do in your own private life is your call know body should judge you for that
Nobody should be raped but it happens. Nobody should be fired from a job because of their sexual preferences but it happens. No body should be shamed because of their body but it happens.
Wishful thinking doesn't protect you"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends ....wow...thats a very cavalier attitude. You're a single guy, with nothing to lose obviously. Spare a thought for the married people on here with grown up kids. Or single women, who maybe live out in the country on their own. Or maybe people who are involved in the community, football coaches etc. Not to mention cops, nurses etc.....maybe its just me....but id rather keep my private life...well private.
I'd say single guys have as much to lose as single women. "
...this one doesn't !!!.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What you do in your own private life is your call know body should judge you for that in a ideal world that's how it should be. Unfortunately not everyone has the same attitude. Swinging is not socially acceptable. "
Sometimes i show it to everybody, sometimes nobody, sometimes i show it to others...at the end of the day its safer to never show it to anyone...theres people that you'd need to be wary of lurking in places like this, maybe even after you've met them in person you'd never know...each to their own though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends ....wow...thats a very cavalier attitude. You're a single guy, with nothing to lose obviously. Spare a thought for the married people on here with grown up kids. Or single women, who maybe live out in the country on their own. Or maybe people who are involved in the community, football coaches etc. Not to mention cops, nurses etc.....maybe its just me....but id rather keep my private life...well private.
I'd say single guys have as much to lose as single women. ...this one doesn't !!!. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends ....wow...thats a very cavalier attitude. You're a single guy, with nothing to lose obviously. Spare a thought for the married people on here with grown up kids. Or single women, who maybe live out in the country on their own. Or maybe people who are involved in the community, football coaches etc. Not to mention cops, nurses etc.....maybe its just me....but id rather keep my private life...well private.
I'd say single guys have as much to lose as single women. ...this one doesn't !!!. "
Good for you
You have a face pic in your public gallery so I take it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends ....wow...thats a very cavalier attitude. You're a single guy, with nothing to lose obviously. Spare a thought for the married people on here with grown up kids. Or single women, who maybe live out in the country on their own. Or maybe people who are involved in the community, football coaches etc. Not to mention cops, nurses etc.....maybe its just me....but id rather keep my private life...well private.
I'd say single guys have as much to lose as single women. ...this one doesn't !!!.
Good for you
You have a face pic in your public gallery so I take it "
They were talking about the OP not them....  |
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Married, looking to play. Wife does not have same urges.
I don't want to be seen by someone that might recognise me from work/home life as theyll judge me for it or spill beans.
Beans are endangered species so I do my best to protect them 
I have face pics private and if you read what happens to those that don't, when The Sun or Daily Mail shite papers "expose" them, then you'll understand why people don't put face pics up.
Chat, chat, chat, get to know people and then they'll send a face pic.
Any face pic before that, you ain't looking at the real person or you're being scammed!
My opinion. Sorry for rant. No, I'm not sorry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends ....wow...thats a very cavalier attitude. You're a single guy, with nothing to lose obviously. Spare a thought for the married people on here with grown up kids. Or single women, who maybe live out in the country on their own. Or maybe people who are involved in the community, football coaches etc. Not to mention cops, nurses etc.....maybe its just me....but id rather keep my private life...well private.
I'd say single guys have as much to lose as single women. ...this one doesn't !!!.
Good for you
You have a face pic in your public gallery so I take it
They were talking about the OP not them.... "
....Thanks Annie. You took the time to read our post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most people are not ashamed. They are not craving acceptance either. Most people don't want their families, friends or work colleagues to know what is a private matter.
Our privacy protects us from ignorant and often jealous people trying to shame us for consensual adult behavior.
The outrage police would hound teachers from jobs, or others could use the knowledge to blackmail gardi or politicians or married folk. How many people would use the knowledge to feel up the local swinger nurse?
And most importantly our privacy gives us control. We meet who we like, when we like on our terms. "
Agreed, well said but just want to add that I don't think our kid's need to ever know what their parents like in the bedroom. My second add on would be if fab had stricter control's maybe I would have considered including a face pic.
Being into something that isn't considered the norm by society does not shame me....it bloody thrill's me but I ain't going to run out and post my face all over the place. Discretion is a good thing too |
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" ....wow...thats a very cavalier attitude. You're a single guy, with nothing to lose obviously. Spare a thought for the married people on here with grown up kids. Or single women, who maybe live out in the country on their own. Or poor Sub stuck in Leitrim. Or maybe people who are involved in the community, football coaches etc. Not to mention cops, nurses etc.....maybe its just me....but id rather keep my private life...well private. "
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Well said! |
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By *P_80Man
over a year ago
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I'm not ashamed. All my good friends know I'm on here and that I've been on sites before.
With regards to people in general, I don't advertise it but I don't hide it either.
Saying that, it's easy for me being a single man to not have any fears about being on here. I fully understand why a woman or a couple would want the utmost of privacy. |
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lol
Yeah I agree with the general consensus on here - ie no shame but private is private. Hasn't really been mentioned but obviously social media mixed with immaturity can be damaging. Ie having a face pic or full body pic having fun could lead to a screen shot being taken - then some fool will pop it into their whatsapp group saying 'hey just got sent this pic of your man who works in the bank lol' - next thing it pops up on your friends / family Facebook/Twitter etc! Phew! rant over lol if you're happy to share your intimate pics including face with the rest of Ireland happy days... If not happy days also..... And............................ Breathe..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We'll we all have face pic in friend only but ur the one with no shame on this site and you don't care who see you because your proved to be on fab but at the end of the day ur just talking shit because if u turly believed that you would show ur face in public on ur profile so don't say it if ur not doing it urself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We'll we all have face pic in friend only but ur the one with no shame on this site and you don't care who see you because your proved to be on fab but at the end of the day ur just talking shit because if u turly believed that you would show ur face in public on ur profile so don't say it if ur not doing it urself"
We don't all have a face pic in private |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's perfectly normal to enjoy sex and I'm no ashamed of it but still my four older brothers do consider me somewhat innocent haha! Also I have a child so. I do think it's easier for men too, you're not subjected to the slut shaming I'd be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did have my face up but took it down after a neighbour seen me and called to my house at 4.30am. Frightened the fuck out of me. So lesson learned."
Bloody hell - what did they want at 4.30 am then ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did have my face up but took it down after a neighbour seen me and called to my house at 4.30am. Frightened the fuck out of me. So lesson learned.
Bloody hell - what did they want at 4.30 am then ?"
An instant shag obviously, sure a woman on a sex site is gagging for it from anyone at all hours, right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Doesn't matter what others think about what you show in pics be it face chest ass etc! Just put up pics your comfortable showing!"
You should put lots more up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends ....wow...thats a very cavalier attitude. You're a single Well said. guy, with nothing to lose obviously. Spare a thought for the married people on here with grown up kids. Or single women, who maybe live out in the country on their own. Or maybe people who are involved in the community, football coaches etc. Not to mention cops, nurses etc.....maybe its just me....but id rather keep my private life...well private. "
. Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most people are not ashamed. They are not craving acceptance either. Most people don't want their families, friends or work colleagues to know what is a private matter.
Our privacy protects us from ignorant and often jealous people trying to shame us for consensual adult behavior.
The outrage police would hound teachers from jobs, or others could use the knowledge to blackmail gardi or politicians or married folk. How many people would use the knowledge to feel up the local swinger nurse?
And most importantly our privacy gives us control. We meet who we like, when we like on our terms. "
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"I did have my face up but took it down after a neighbour seen me and called to my house at 4.30am. Frightened the fuck out of me. So lesson learned.
Bloody hell - what did they want at 4.30 am then ?"
Well just lets say I didn't wanta know, wasn't to happy. But maybe he thought he would get lucky because I am on this site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did have my face up but took it down after a neighbour seen me and called to my house at 4.30am. Frightened the fuck out of me. So lesson learned.
Bloody hell - what did they want at 4.30 am then ?
Well just lets say I didn't wanta know, wasn't to happy. But maybe he thought he would get lucky because I am on this site. "
Hope his house wan't on fire and he needed to phone 999 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We block our heads out of photos in fear of a friend seeing us on this, we choose to be on fab it's our choice we love this part of our lives and if we are spotted sure aren't those who seen us on this too??? Don't think we should have to hide anything, I'm happy and proud to be on fab meeting loads of new faces and friends ....wow...thats a very cavalier attitude. You're a single guy, with nothing to lose obviously. Spare a thought for the married people on here with grown up kids. Or single women, who maybe live out in the country on their own. Or maybe people who are involved in the community, football coaches etc. Not to mention cops, nurses etc.....maybe its just me....but id rather keep my private life...well private. "
Wise words indeed |
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