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I was going great guns at the start and met some really nice guys along the way.
Last few months not so great. So have been rethinking my strategy in leading up to a meet.
Like the previous OP I have considered deleting profile too.
I would like to know in detail what other Fabbers do leading up to a meet.
Do you always have a quick meet and greet first and then decide if you want to meet again for fun. Or do you feel comfortable enough to go straight to fun on a first meet? |
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over a year ago
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Everyone has a way that works for them. We have done spur of the moment meets with well verified guys and girls but generally we don't. We prefer to meet at a party or social setting with no pressure to play unless we are attracted. Also we never meet couples impromptu because very hard to find a couple we both find attractive and then it becomes awkward. Neither of us take one for the team
Very simple and works for us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was going great guns at the start and met some really nice guys along the way.
Last few months not so great. So have been rethinking my strategy in leading up to a meet.
Like the previous OP I have considered deleting profile too.
I would like to know in detail what other Fabbers do leading up to a meet.
Do you always have a quick meet and greet first and then decide if you want to meet again for fun. Or do you feel comfortable enough to go straight to fun on a first meet?"
Social meet first ... so both of us can decide whether the other is a total nut |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A social meet coffee first. Alot of guys dont get why we do this. Had one guy tell me it was a sex site not out for coffee. If guys cant bother to meet me for a coffee and chat first well they dont get any further. Simples  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A social meet coffee first. Alot of guys dont get why we do this. Had one guy tell me it was a sex site not out for coffee. If guys cant bother to meet me for a coffee and chat first well they dont get any further. Simples "
We always do a quick social meet first. Not out for beers or coffee but just a quick car meet somewhere halfway that suits everyone.
Like Sexy above we've had lads tell us they're looking for a ride & not marriage so they want to get straight down to business. They're the ones still at home knocking them out on their own!
Ain't letting nobody into our bed without checking to make sure there is chemistry, they're true to the profile and they're pretty sane.. It's working well so far! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have done it both ways and would definitely have a preference to meet socially first. Though sometimes when you've struck up a good rapport with someone halfway across the country, the social meet isn't an option and you just have to risk it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer going to socials, meet and greets and nights like the Venue to meet people and take it from there. But they can be very expensive nights out for some action but they're always good fun so they're worth it..
I still do coffee meets but finding the time that fits everyone's schedule is hard. |
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Always do a social meet.
The chemistry is essential for me. Without it I couldn't be bothered meeting someone for a cold fuck. I'd be better off having a play at home, at least I'm 100% sure I'll cum. |
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"Always do a social meet.
The chemistry is essential for me. Without it I couldn't be bothered meeting someone for a cold fuck. I'd be better off having a play at home, at least I'm 100% sure I'll cum. "
Simple mantra we have - if we can't laugh with you we can't play with you. |
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"Have done it both ways and would definitely have a preference to meet socially first. Though sometimes when you've struck up a good rapport with someone halfway across the country, the social meet isn't an option and you just have to risk it."
Exactly. Long way to go for a coffee and if things are great then you have to wait a week or two for a fun meet! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always do a social meet.
The chemistry is essential for me. Without it I couldn't be bothered meeting someone for a cold fuck. I'd be better off having a play at home, at least I'm 100% sure I'll cum. "
well said ginger couldnt agree more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Generally I have been chatting to them long enough to know I want to get nekkid. So its straight to fun for me. Coffee meets are fine if not sure bout them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Generally I have been chatting to them long enough to know I want to get nekkid. So its straight to fun for me. Coffee meets are fine if not sure bout them
Nekkid coffee meets are good!  "
Mind you don't spill  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Generally I have been chatting to them long enough to know I want to get nekkid. So its straight to fun for me. Coffee meets are fine if not sure bout them "
I need to start doing this lol I just get bored easily lol I tried it b4 at the start was chatting 4 ages then we met up and I ran lol
It was awful couldn't believe I got it so wrong!!  |
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"Generally I have been chatting to them long enough to know I want to get nekkid. So its straight to fun for me. Coffee meets are fine if not sure bout them
Nekkid coffee meets are good!
Mind you don't spill "
maybe with saucers? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Generally I have been chatting to them long enough to know I want to get nekkid. So its straight to fun for me. Coffee meets are fine if not sure bout them
I need to start doing this lol I just get bored easily lol I tried it b4 at the start was chatting 4 ages then we met up and I ran lol
It was awful couldn't believe I got it so wrong!! "
I've gotten it wrong before believe me but they've been more spontaneous coffee meets. So now I take my time and every time I've met for fun.....it's been great fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Generally I have been chatting to them long enough to know I want to get nekkid. So its straight to fun for me. Coffee meets are fine if not sure bout them
I need to start doing this lol I just get bored easily lol I tried it b4 at the start was chatting 4 ages then we met up and I ran lol
It was awful couldn't believe I got it so wrong!!
I've gotten it wrong before believe me but they've been more spontaneous coffee meets. So now I take my time and every time I've met for fun.....it's been great fun "
Lol you're right I'm far too impatient for my own good lol  |
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"Generally I have been chatting to them long enough to know I want to get nekkid. So its straight to fun for me. Coffee meets are fine if not sure bout them
I need to start doing this lol I just get bored easily lol I tried it b4 at the start was chatting 4 ages then we met up and I ran lol
It was awful couldn't believe I got it so wrong!! "
Your not alone. Unfortunately it happens ... hence why I wanted to see how others go about meeting up.
Have some horror stories myself. |
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"Generally I have been chatting to them long enough to know I want to get nekkid. So its straight to fun for me. Coffee meets are fine if not sure bout them
Nekkid coffee meets are good!
Mind you don't spill "
It might be worth it for the cleanup |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Generally I have been chatting to them long enough to know I want to get nekkid. So its straight to fun for me. Coffee meets are fine if not sure bout them
Nekkid coffee meets are good!
Mind you don't spill
It might be worth it for the cleanup "
You have a thing for towels? Knew you were an odd one  |
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"Generally I have been chatting to them long enough to know I want to get nekkid. So its straight to fun for me. Coffee meets are fine if not sure bout them
Nekkid coffee meets are good!
Mind you don't spill
It might be worth it for the cleanup
You have a thing for towels? Knew you were an odd one "
I was hoping you might offer to lick up the spillage  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's funny that sometimes you can be chatting for ages and really click, even the flirting is good but then you meet and there's nothing. No chemistry it's like meeting a friend, but that's just how it goes sometimes. Though at least you know that way, I've never had a bad meet after meeting someone socially first but have had some awful ones the other way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always meet socially beforehand, chemistry is very important and I have heard too many horror stories now to change my mind!
Oh..it's a sex site not a dating site,when I hear that it always makes me smile!
I usually reply yes I know that and if you want someone who thinks your rank to suck your cock get a prostitute!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always a social meet first. The first guy I ever met from here I made the mistake of not having a social meet initially, we didn't click in person, zero attraction to each other, it was all very awkward. It's a mistake I swore I wouldn't make again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Most times coffee first or someone I've met through socials , but sometimes just a face pic and a few messages . Random can be hot , some of the hottest meets I've had have been totally random , but I've had some disappointments as well . Like the athelitic , 5 '11" 29 year old ; who was closer to 50 , no where near 5'11" and defenitly not athletic .
He was well verified as well .
Either Senario I won't play if I'm not attracted . |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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No matter what your strategy is sooner or later there will be better meets or those ones that didn't work out to your expectations, it's always a learning curve and to see it from a positive angle. Most importantly though is to stay safe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I usually meet for a social chat first, but I have had a few play meets without a social meet first.
Two of my most disappointing play meets involved a social meet first.
Meeting first for a chat is no guarantee that there will be chemistry subsequently.
It is handy to see if there's a mutual attraction I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry about the overuse of the word first cba to change it now. "
No-one would have noticed til you brought it to our attention. Now we've all counted them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry about the overuse of the word first cba to change it now.
No-one would have noticed til you brought it to our attention. Now we've all counted them "
Damn |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry about the overuse of the word first cba to change it now.
No-one would have noticed til you brought it to our attention. Now we've all counted them "
It was the first thing i noticed....not. |
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"Sorry about the overuse of the word first cba to change it now.
No-one would have noticed til you brought it to our attention. Now we've all counted them
It was the first thing i noticed....not. "
Can we move on now? |
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Can't really imagine jumping straight into the bedroom with someone. What happens if you get hotel set-up/invite them over etc and you kiss for the first time and it's brutal? What a let down that would be! |
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"Can't really imagine jumping straight into the bedroom with someone. What happens if you get hotel set-up/invite them over etc and you kiss for the first time and it's brutal? What a let down that would be! "
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"Can't really imagine jumping straight into the bedroom with someone. What happens if you get hotel set-up/invite them over etc and you kiss for the first time and it's brutal? What a let down that would be! "
I'm not sure if anyone mentioned that type of meet to be honest . I thought they were referring to playing on the first meet as aposed to having a coffee meet , and then playing on the second . I certainly was . No way I'd rock up to a hotel room with out a few social drinks or similar before hand . |
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"Sorry about the overuse of the word first cba to change it now.
No-one would have noticed til you brought it to our attention. Now we've all counted them
It was the first thing i noticed....not.
Can we move on now? "
......first world problems. .. |
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"Sorry about the overuse of the word first cba to change it now.
No-one would have noticed til you brought it to our attention. Now we've all counted them
It was the first thing i noticed....not.
Can we move on now? ......first world problems. .."
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"Most times coffee first or someone I've met through socials , but sometimes just a face pic and a few messages . Random can be hot , some of the hottest meets I've had have been totally random , but I've had some disappointments as well . Like the athelitic , 5 '11" 29 year old ; who was closer to 50 , no where near 5'11" and defenitly not athletic .
He was well verified as well .
Either Senario I won't play if I'm not attracted . "
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Probably a typo!! |
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"Can't really imagine jumping straight into the bedroom with someone. What happens if you get hotel set-up/invite them over etc and you kiss for the first time and it's brutal? What a let down that would be!
I'm not sure if anyone mentioned that type of meet to be honest . I thought they were referring to playing on the first meet as aposed to having a coffee meet , and then playing on the second . I certainly was . No way I'd rock up to a hotel room with out a few social drinks or similar before hand . "
Would you have the drinks in the hotel bar? Doesn't really strike me as that different. You still have to turn around after booking the hotel etc and telling the person you have to leave.
I've not much clue about how this works so who knows. |
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"Can't really imagine jumping straight into the bedroom with someone. What happens if you get hotel set-up/invite them over etc and you kiss for the first time and it's brutal? What a let down that would be! "
Different strokes for different folks. I assume you kiss them first before arranging a play meet? |
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"Sorry about the overuse of the word first cba to change it now.
No-one would have noticed til you brought it to our attention. Now we've all counted them
It was the first thing i noticed....not.
Can we move on now?
......first world problems. .."
Also known as a joke |
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"Can't really imagine jumping straight into the bedroom with someone. What happens if you get hotel set-up/invite them over etc and you kiss for the first time and it's brutal? What a let down that would be!
I'm not sure if anyone mentioned that type of meet to be honest . I thought they were referring to playing on the first meet as aposed to having a coffee meet , and then playing on the second . I certainly was . No way I'd rock up to a hotel room with out a few social drinks or similar before hand .
Would you have the drinks in the hotel bar? Doesn't really strike me as that different. You still have to turn around after booking the hotel etc and telling the person you have to leave.
I've not much clue about how this works so who knows. "
Drinks yes in the bar yes , I wouldn't have any expectations to play before I meet someone , can't answer the one about the hotel room for you , never been in that situation |
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"Sorry about the overuse of the word first cba to change it now.
No-one would have noticed til you brought it to our attention. Now we've all counted them
It was the first thing i noticed....not.
Can we move on now?
......first world problems. ..
Also known as a joke "
.....FIRST world problems. ....FIRST? ....get it? |
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"Can't really imagine jumping straight into the bedroom with someone. What happens if you get hotel set-up/invite them over etc and you kiss for the first time and it's brutal? What a let down that would be!
Different strokes for different folks. I assume you kiss them first before arranging a play meet?"
I wouldn't view as being any different to regular dating really. Meet someone for social drinks etc and if that goes well then things progress.
Very much different strolks, there's no right or wrong way. |
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"Can't really imagine jumping straight into the bedroom with someone. What happens if you get hotel set-up/invite them over etc and you kiss for the first time and it's brutal? What a let down that would be!
Different strokes for different folks. I assume you kiss them first before arranging a play meet?
I wouldn't view as being any different to regular dating really. Meet someone for social drinks etc and if that goes well then things progress.
Very much different strolks, there's no right or wrong way. "
True, I was just asking if you kiss them before a play meet so you know if it's worth meeting again |
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"Sorry about the overuse of the word first cba to change it now.
No-one would have noticed til you brought it to our attention. Now we've all counted them
It was the first thing i noticed....not.
Can we move on now?
......first world problems. ..
Also known as a joke .....FIRST world problems. ....FIRST? ....get it? "
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"Can't really imagine jumping straight into the bedroom with someone. What happens if you get hotel set-up/invite them over etc and you kiss for the first time and it's brutal? What a let down that would be!
Different strokes for different folks. I assume you kiss them first before arranging a play meet?
I wouldn't view as being any different to regular dating really. Meet someone for social drinks etc and if that goes well then things progress.
Very much different strolks, there's no right or wrong way.
True, I was just asking if you kiss them before a play meet so you know if it's worth meeting again "
Well yea! Meet goes well - kiss - kiss goes well
If the kiss doesn't go well then game over. I'd rather spend the evening at home watching a dvd. |
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"I'm also rethinking my meet strategy, i.e. never organising one again.
Its more of a revaluation is the effort worth the rare reward?"
I think i want to let others make the effort for a while. when i do it never works out, but when others do everything goes according to plan. |
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Thank you for your comments, I have read them all and taken some new strategies on board.
1. Changed filters to verified people only.
2. Always meet for a quick coffee to see if there's a spark.
3. At this coffee meet get an old kiss in to see if worth a second meet for fun
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