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By *lfabarry OP Man
over a year ago
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I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. |
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By *lfabarry OP Man
over a year ago
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"If i was you i wouldnt be posting about this.
Its just the way things are and there are some lovely people on this site and posting something like this wont help you.
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It's hardly defamation, it's just a question and I'm sure I'm not the only one it happens to. |
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"If i was you i wouldnt be posting about this.
Its just the way things are and there are some lovely people on this site and posting something like this wont help you.
It's hardly defamation, it's just a question and I'm sure I'm not the only one it happens to."
Well you got two meets so thats not too bad.
But im sure both men and women do it.
Best thing to do is forget about it and move on to someone else. |
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over a year ago
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"If i was you i wouldnt be posting about this.
Its just the way things are and there are some lovely people on this site and posting something like this wont help you.
It's hardly defamation, it's just a question and I'm sure I'm not the only one it happens to."
You have one pic...and its of your cock. Youre dead in the water before youve even started |
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By *lfabarry OP Man
over a year ago
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"If i was you i wouldnt be posting about this.
Its just the way things are and there are some lovely people on this site and posting something like this wont help you.
It's hardly defamation, it's just a question and I'm sure I'm not the only one it happens to.
Well you got two meets so thats not too bad.
But im sure both men and women do it.
Best thing to do is forget about it and move on to someone else."
True! I suppose I just have to keep putting up with the timewasters to find the good ones! |
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over a year ago
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OP is right though. There are a lot of timewasters on here and nothing wrong with discussing it.
We've had it happen a few times where we'll be chatting for ages with someone, they've seen plenty of pics of us, nothing has changed with the conversation, meet is planned...and then all of a sudden radio silence for absolutely no apparent reason. Very frustrating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP is right though. There are a lot of timewasters on here and nothing wrong with discussing it.
We've had it happen a few times where we'll be chatting for ages with someone, they've seen plenty of pics of us, nothing has changed with the conversation, meet is planned...and then all of a sudden radio silence for absolutely no apparent reason. Very frustrating. "
Of course it happens. Because people get nervous, overwhelmed; wife or hubby finds out etc. It's not always about you.. it's in their heads mostly. But you brush it off and move on. There's numerous posts on this every week. |
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"OP is right though. There are a lot of timewasters on here and nothing wrong with discussing it.
We've had it happen a few times where we'll be chatting for ages with someone, they've seen plenty of pics of us, nothing has changed with the conversation, meet is planned...and then all of a sudden radio silence for absolutely no apparent reason. Very frustrating. "
Well thats their loss as the fem in your couple is hot  |
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By *lfabarry OP Man
over a year ago
kildare/Dublin |
"If i was you i wouldnt be posting about this.
Its just the way things are and there are some lovely people on this site and posting something like this wont help you.
It's hardly defamation, it's just a question and I'm sure I'm not the only one it happens to.
You have one pic...and its of your cock. Youre dead
in the water before youve even started"
I think you're missing the point. I don't have a problem finding people to chat to, it's when it comes to meeting people that don't actually follow through which to me seems like they get a thrill out of the thought of meeting but don't actually want to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP is right though. There are a lot of timewasters on here and nothing wrong with discussing it.
We've had it happen a few times where we'll be chatting for ages with someone, they've seen plenty of pics of us, nothing has changed with the conversation, meet is planned...and then all of a sudden radio silence for absolutely no apparent reason. Very frustrating.
Of course it happens. Because people get nervous, overwhelmed; wife or hubby finds out etc. It's not always about you.. it's in their heads mostly. But you brush it off and move on. There's numerous posts on this every week."
So? It happens a lot so people are going to discuss it, and not all of us sit on the forums all day every day, so we don't know what conversations go on weekly. I don't think anyone was alluding to things being all about them, but it's an annoying and prevalent part of the experience on this site. Along with "regulars" on the forum trying to dictate to others what they should and shouldn't talk about. |
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"If i was you i wouldnt be posting about this.
Its just the way things are and there are some lovely people on this site and posting something like this wont help you.
It's hardly defamation, it's just a question and I'm sure I'm not the only one it happens to.
You have one pic...and its of your cock. Youre dead
in the water before youve even started
I think you're missing the point. I don't have a problem finding people to chat to, it's when it comes to meeting people that don't actually follow through which to me seems like they get a thrill out of the thought of meeting but don't actually want to"
Maybe they like the thought of meeting but are actually shy when it comes to meeting.
Also are the profiles verified that your talking too |
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"OP is right though. There are a lot of timewasters on here and nothing wrong with discussing it.
We've had it happen a few times where we'll be chatting for ages with someone, they've seen plenty of pics of us, nothing has changed with the conversation, meet is planned...and then all of a sudden radio silence for absolutely no apparent reason. Very frustrating.
Well thats their loss as the fem in your couple is hot "
She is isn't she  thank you  |
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"OP is right though. There are a lot of timewasters on here and nothing wrong with discussing it.
We've had it happen a few times where we'll be chatting for ages with someone, they've seen plenty of pics of us, nothing has changed with the conversation, meet is planned...and then all of a sudden radio silence for absolutely no apparent reason. Very frustrating.
Well thats their loss as the fem in your couple is hot
She is isn't she thank you "
Is this the male or female though  |
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I think you're missing the point. I don't have a problem finding people to chat to, it's when it comes to meeting people that don't actually follow through which to me seems like they get a thrill out of the thought of meeting but don't actually want to"
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In a way you aren't really verified if you have one unpublished veri.. that is the way your veri will be seen!! |
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A few reasons I think...
- People just aren't comfortable rejecting another person. It's evident in nearly ever facet of life so Fab isn't any different.
- People bottle it. The idea of meeting someone from here is a great fantasy but for some people once that fantasy gets closer to reality they just panic and run, then revert to the above point.
- People like the attention/ego boost they get from guys/women messaging them. |
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By *lfabarry OP Man
over a year ago
kildare/Dublin |
"If i was you i wouldnt be posting about this.
Its just the way things are and there are some lovely people on this site and posting something like this wont help you.
It's hardly defamation, it's just a question and I'm sure I'm not the only one it happens to.
You have one pic...and its of your cock. Youre dead
in the water before youve even started
I think you're missing the point. I don't have a problem finding people to chat to, it's when it comes to meeting people that don't actually follow through which to me seems like they get a thrill out of the thought of meeting but don't actually want to
Maybe they like the thought of meeting but are actually shy when it comes to meeting.
Also are the profiles verified that your talking too"
Yes all verified and phone numbers exchanged so it's not like they are fakes. |
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"A few reasons I think...
- People just aren't comfortable rejecting another person. It's evident in nearly ever facet of life so Fab isn't any different.
- People bottle it. The idea of meeting someone from here is a great fantasy but for some people once that fantasy gets closer to reality they just panic and run, then revert to the above point.
- People like the attention/ego boost they get from guys/women messaging them. "
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP is right though. There are a lot of timewasters on here and nothing wrong with discussing it.
We've had it happen a few times where we'll be chatting for ages with someone, they've seen plenty of pics of us, nothing has changed with the conversation, meet is planned...and then all of a sudden radio silence for absolutely no apparent reason. Very frustrating.
Of course it happens. Because people get nervous, overwhelmed; wife or hubby finds out etc. It's not always about you.. it's in their heads mostly. But you brush it off and move on. There's numerous posts on this every week.
So? It happens a lot so people are going to discuss it, and not all of us sit on the forums all day every day, so we don't know what conversations go on weekly. I don't think anyone was alluding to things being all about them, but it's an annoying and prevalent part of the experience on this site. Along with "regulars" on the forum trying to dictate to others what they should and shouldn't talk about. "
Along with those and their sly digs too. I never said he couldn't post about it what I said was there's numerous posts about it. Which might offer some advice to him.  |
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"If i was you i wouldnt be posting about this.
Its just the way things are and there are some lovely people on this site and posting something like this wont help you.
It's hardly defamation, it's just a question and I'm sure I'm not the only one it happens to.
You have one pic...and its of your cock. Youre dead
in the water before youve even started
I think you're missing the point. I don't have a problem finding people to chat to, it's when it comes to meeting people that don't actually follow through which to me seems like they get a thrill out of the thought of meeting but don't actually want to
Maybe they like the thought of meeting but are actually shy when it comes to meeting.
Also are the profiles verified that your talking too
Yes all verified and phone numbers exchanged so it's not like they are fakes. "
Its just the way things go and sometimes things can go as planned and sometimes they go down the drain. Its the same with dating sites.
Dont take it to heart. |
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"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. "
by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For some people the chase is what they want. It's an affirmation for them. They are desirous and feel good.
An actual meet can be terrifying. What if he doesn't desire me when we meet, what if it's bad. That can ruin all the feel good. So they get cold feet.
There are also people who just can't meet for other reasons. I had to postpone a meet scheduled for Sunday. I still feel horrible . We have been chatting for months waiting for the stars to align. And then ... Real life. I know I'm not a time waster and luckily so does the person we are going to meet. |
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By *lfabarry OP Man
over a year ago
kildare/Dublin |
"A few reasons I think...
- People just aren't comfortable rejecting another person. It's evident in nearly ever facet of life so Fab isn't any different.
- People bottle it. The idea of meeting someone from here is a great fantasy but for some people once that fantasy gets closer to reality they just panic and run, then revert to the above point.
- People like the attention/ego boost they get from guys/women messaging them. "
Unfortunately I think you're right especially point 3! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
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If they are then they should be upfront about it and not waste people's time and let on they're up for meeting. |
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By *lfabarry OP Man
over a year ago
kildare/Dublin |
"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
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If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time. |
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There should be a point 4
People have kids and they come first before anything.
Maybe a kid gets sick and they are busy minding them and then they think too much time has gone by to pick up the conversation again |
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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago
dublin |
"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time."
I'm here since January. .
But I'm not meeting at the minute for personal reasons. ..but I still like chatting to people. .. should I not be here ???? |
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"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time.
I'm here since January. .
But I'm not meeting at the minute for personal reasons. ..but I still like chatting to people. .. should I not be here ????"
Of course you shouldnt with that teasing pic  |
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I'm here since January. .
But I'm not meeting at the minute for personal reasons. ..but I still like chatting to people. .. should I not be here ????"
NO you shouldn't! You should be in Leitrim!! |
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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago
dublin |
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I'm here since January. .
But I'm not meeting at the minute for personal reasons. ..but I still like chatting to people. .. should I not be here ????
NO you shouldn't! You should be in Leitrim!! "
Ahaha. . Love it |
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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago
dublin |
"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time.
I'm here since January. .
But I'm not meeting at the minute for personal reasons. ..but I still like chatting to people. .. should I not be here ????
Of course you shouldnt with that teasing pic "
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By *lfabarry OP Man
over a year ago
kildare/Dublin |
"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time.
I'm here since January. .
But I'm not meeting at the minute for personal reasons. ..but I still like chatting to people. .. should I not be here ????"
Well I presume your not chatting organising meets and then not turning up or cancelling.... |
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" I'm here since January. .
But I'm not meeting at the minute for personal reasons. ..but I still like chatting to people. .. should I not be here ????"
Swinging isn't always just sex. It's a social activity with lots of sex.
And rains boobs make me think of sex ... it all makes sense |
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"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time.
I'm here since January. .
But I'm not meeting at the minute for personal reasons. ..but I still like chatting to people. .. should I not be here ????
Of course you shouldnt with that teasing pic
Awww sorrreeee "
Its ok your forgiven  |
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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time.
I'm here since January. .
But I'm not meeting at the minute for personal reasons. ..but I still like chatting to people. .. should I not be here ????
Well I presume your not chatting organising meets and then not turning up or cancelling...."
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"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time."
maybe because they like the sexual chat they get here no one should dictate what anyone is here for .
Perhaps change your own selection process where you establish fairly quickly whether people are her to meet or not |
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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago
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" I'm here since January. .
But I'm not meeting at the minute for personal reasons. ..but I still like chatting to people. .. should I not be here ????
Swinging isn't always just sex. It's a social activity with lots of sex.
And rains boobs make me think of sex ... it all makes sense "
Lol... love it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time.maybe because they like the sexual chat they get here no one should dictate what anyone is here for .
Perhaps change your own selection process where you establish fairly quickly whether people are her to meet or not "
The OP and other people have specifically said that they have arranged meets with others only for them to go quiet. How do you suppose people establish whether a person is here to meet or not if they're lying or just using them for titillation? This is a swinging site. People's profiles by default say they are looking to meet. If they're not looking to meet then they should be upfront from the start. It's implausible how you can somehow twist this to make it out that someone's "selection process" is to be blamed. |
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"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time.maybe because they like the sexual chat they get here no one should dictate what anyone is here for .
Perhaps change your own selection process where you establish fairly quickly whether people are her to meet or not
The OP and other people have specifically said that they have arranged meets with others only for them to go quiet. How do you suppose people establish whether a person is here to meet or not if they're lying or just using them for titillation? This is a swinging site. People's profiles by default say they are looking to meet. If they're not looking to meet then they should be upfront from the start. It's implausible how you can somehow twist this to make it out that someone's "selection process" is to be blamed. "
I think most of us have the ability to know if we are being strung along or not.
Some will tell you anything.
I'd be questioning my own selection process if it was hopping to me time and time again . |
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By *lfabarry OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time.maybe because they like the sexual chat they get here no one should dictate what anyone is here for .
Perhaps change your own selection process where you establish fairly quickly whether people are her to meet or not
The OP and other people have specifically said that they have arranged meets with others only for them to go quiet. How do you suppose people establish whether a person is here to meet or not if they're lying or just using them for titillation? This is a swinging site. People's profiles by default say they are looking to meet. If they're not looking to meet then they should be upfront from the start. It's implausible how you can somehow twist this to make it out that someone's "selection process" is to be blamed. "
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"I think most of us have the ability to know if we are being strung along or not.
Some will tell you anything.
I'd be questioning my own selection process if it was hopping to me time and time again ."
You must have some great psychic abilities so. It hasn't happened us time and time again...maybe two or three times. But each time we have swapped numbers and a selection of photos with the other party and conversation has been easy and natural up until the day of, or the day before, the planned meet. We didn't come down in the last shower, we don't believe "anything" that people tell us, we're quite selective when it comes to who we let things get to that stage with and we're both clued in, receptive and sociable people. So I'd love to know how we should expect to know that we're being strung along like "most" other people would according to you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. "
Yes there are people here who have no intention of meeting. Men, women and couples. Not a lot you can do, except hone your time waster radar a little. |
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"I think most of us have the ability to know if we are being strung along or not.
Some will tell you anything.
I'd be questioning my own selection process if it was hopping to me time and time again .
You must have some great psychic abilities so. It hasn't happened us time and time again...maybe two or three times. But each time we have swapped numbers and a selection of photos with the other party and conversation has been easy and natural up until the day of, or the day before, the planned meet. We didn't come down in the last shower, we don't believe "anything" that people tell us, we're quite selective when it comes to who we let things get to that stage with and we're both clued in, receptive and sociable people. So I'd love to know how we should expect to know that we're being strung along like "most" other people would according to you!"
of course there are many on here who set out to decieve men women and couples.
No one knows if they are being strung along 100% of the time but that gut instinct we all have is very good at giving us the heads up if we are.
Perhaps some are just better at picking up on that than others is all Im trying to say. |
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By *ease_EMan
over a year ago
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"OP is right though. There are a lot of timewasters on here and nothing wrong with discussing it.
We've had it happen a few times where we'll be chatting for ages with someone, they've seen plenty of pics of us, nothing has changed with the conversation, meet is planned...and then all of a sudden radio silence for absolutely no apparent reason. Very frustrating.
Of course it happens. Because people get nervous, overwhelmed; wife or hubby finds out etc. It's not always about you.. it's in their heads mostly. But you brush it off and move on. There's numerous posts on this every week.
So? It happens a lot so people are going to discuss it, and not all of us sit on the forums all day every day, so we don't know what conversations go on weekly. I don't think anyone was alluding to things being all about them, but it's an annoying and prevalent part of the experience on this site. Along with "regulars" on the forum trying to dictate to others what they should and shouldn't talk about.
Along with those and their sly digs too. I never said he couldn't post about it what I said was there's numerous posts about it. Which might offer some advice to him. "
Cannot message you on you profile because of Filters.
Answer to your update is Maryborough Hotel in Cork.
Unbelievable.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Thrill of the chase OP. Not nice to do to somebody but true. The biggest reason I find for people not meeting is location. It's huge. Some say your to hear some say your to far. You might chat to a lovely lady, build a rapport but she might say "your to far". Even though you might drive she doesn't want to be seen as your "tourist attraction". Also most want coffee. Are you gonna travel a sizeable distance for just coffee? Women don't want to put you through That and the big one. Alot of women whether said or not want a regular thing with someone they get on with and are attracted to not a shag and then another one in 5 or 6 weeks time. |
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To reply to your original post....'yes I do think we all want something a little different from fab.....
Some like to have their Top Picks right up there....constantly!!!!!!
So that's their thing.... I'm shite at taking a nice photo so you'll never see me up there....
Others like the banter on the forums both good & bad!
Fab is here for all our wants & needs....
Now it's just slinging up the stars to make it happen can be hit & miss....,
Overall.... We don't take Fab too seriously .... It's there when we need it, like a big comfy blanket |
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"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
If people aren't here to meet them go somewhere else! They're plenty of sites for that and you don't waste peoples time.
I'm here since January. .
But I'm not meeting at the minute for personal reasons. ..but I still like chatting to people. .. should I not be here ????
Well I presume your not chatting organising meets and then not turning up or cancelling....
True. .. good point "
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"To reply to your original post....'yes I do think we all want something a little different from fab.....
Some like to have their Top Pic's right up there....constantly!!!!!!
So that's their thing.... And who are we to judge....? I'm shite at taking a nice photo so you'll never see me up there....
Others like the banter on the forums both good & bad!
Fab is here for all our wants & needs....
Now it's just aligning up the stars to make it happen, but it can and will happen albeit can be hit & miss....,
Overall.... We don't take Fab too seriously .... It's there when we need it, like a big comfy blanket "
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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago
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Op... so I've had a conversation with someone on here. . I'll be honest ..I had been chatting to him and had wanted to meet. ..honestly I did. .. but when it comes down to it I chicken out...
The reason I'm saying this is im Honest ...I realise it's not nice to chicken out ..and there is no badness intended. ..There are some personal factors that leads me to chicken out . so anyway op try not get pissed off too much with them. ..as there is more then likely a good reason they chicken out ..If they are a genuine person like I am
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"Op... so I've had a conversation with someone on here. . I'll be honest ..I had been chatting to him and had wanted to meet. ..honestly I did. .. but when it comes down to it I chicken out...
The reason I'm saying this is im Honest ...I realise it's not nice to chicken out ..and there is no badness intended. ..There are some personal factors that leads me to chicken out . so anyway op try not get pissed off too much with them. ..as there is more then likely a good reason they chicken out ..If they are a genuine person like I am
Best of luck xx"
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Nothing wrong with some banter at times even if a profile says "Not meeting at moment"... |
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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago
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"Op... so I've had a conversation with someone on here. . I'll be honest ..I had been chatting to him and had wanted to meet. ..honestly I did. .. but when it comes down to it I chicken out...
The reason I'm saying this is im Honest ...I realise it's not nice to chicken out ..and there is no badness intended. ..There are some personal factors that leads me to chicken out . so anyway op try not get pissed off too much with them. ..as there is more then likely a good reason they chicken out ..If they are a genuine person like I am
Best of luck xx
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Nothing wrong with some banter at times even if a profile says "Not meeting at moment"..."
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Everybody has nerves about meeting people but to chicken out without telling a person . It could b down to first time nerves but after second r third time meet I don't think u should b nervous at all . |
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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago
dublin |
"I think everyone on here has met d time wasters at some time r other . I got chatting to women couples etc n they just vanished on me . "
I wouldn't call myself a time waster cause I chickened out that one time though... life gets in the way kids ..work... general stuff. .. plus nerves. ..
But that's in my opinion of course
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"I think everyone on here has met d time wasters at some time r other . I got chatting to women couples etc n they just vanished on me .
I wouldn't call myself a time waster cause I chickened out that one time though... life gets in the way kids ..work... general stuff. .. plus nerves. ..
But that's in my opinion of course
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With so many fake profiles in the 31 counties why wouldn't you be nervous?? |
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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago
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"I think everyone on here has met d time wasters at some time r other . I got chatting to women couples etc n they just vanished on me .
I wouldn't call myself a time waster cause I chickened out that one time though... life gets in the way kids ..work... general stuff. .. plus nerves. ..
But that's in my opinion of course
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With so many fake profiles in the 31 counties why wouldn't you be nervous?? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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No one is obliged to meet. You can change your mind at any time. Just like you can change your mind about sex. At any time.
I would just hope people would have the decency and respect to let me know as soon as they know. There isn't even a reason to lie. If you are not feeling it, just say so. |
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"No one is obliged to meet. You can change your mind at any time. Just like you can change your mind about sex. At any time.
I would just hope people would have the decency and respect to let me know as soon as they know. There isn't even a reason to lie. If you are not feeling it, just say so. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often think of these sites as places for people with a common swinging mentality, I like to come here and chat to people about stuff I can't in everyday life or on other sites, they're not just for people who live a day to day swinging lifestyle meeting up every day. |
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"But yeah, most people seek attention on here with pics or posts or whatever, or on the internet in general, if you aren't then you would never be seen."
Oh...definitely on the picks!
Sad really... |
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"But yeah, most people seek attention on here with pics or posts or whatever, or on the internet in general, if you aren't then you would never be seen."
Exactly |
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If you're posting on this or any other forum you're attention seeking.
As for people getting cold feet and backing out it happens. That's just part and parcel of this scene. I have found over the years it happens a lot with couples. Probably because there's two people involved and one person might be more up for it than the other. There could be a multitude of reasons, non of which are really your concern. You just have to roll with it and move. Or make choices. I don't contact couples anymore at all and I only chat to verified couples if they contact me. It doesn't stop it completely but it minimize's it. |
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"If you're posting on this or any other forum you're attention seeking.
As for people getting cold feet and backing out it happens. That's just part and parcel of this scene. I have found over the years it happens a lot with couples. Probably because there's two people involved and one person might be more up for it than the other. There could be a multitude of reasons, non of which are really your concern. You just have to roll with it and move. Or make choices. I don't contact couples anymore at all and I only chat to verified couples if they contact me. It doesn't stop it completely but it minimize's it. "
Most people post because they have an opinion not necessarily attention seeking... |
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I'd say it's a mixture....everybody's trying to catch somebodies attention on here, some might crave it, probably more than than the type that just wanna voice their opinion, but yeah they're here too..but seeking attention is almost part of human nature anyway, if you get your hair cut or wear clothes you think look nice in you're probably subconsciously doing it to attract attention, obviously not to an extreme degree for most, but it's there in everyday life, no harm in it....even my dogs seek attention.
I'm usually voicing my opinion and seeking attention simultaneously on these threads....keeps me busy....particularly in work. |
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By *ain4uWoman
over a year ago
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"I'd say it's a mixture....everybody's trying to catch somebodies attention on here, some might crave it, probably more than than the type that just wanna voice their opinion, but yeah they're here too..but seeking attention is almost part of human nature anyway, if you get your hair cut or wear clothes you think look nice in you're probably subconsciously doing it to attract attention, obviously not to an extreme degree for most, but it's there in everyday life, no harm in it....even my dogs seek attention.
I'm usually voicing my opinion and seeking attention simultaneously on these threads....keeps me busy....particularly in work. "
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It's frustrating for sure, but can be on both sides. We once had a tentative meet set up but then it didn't happen because the other couple got over-aggressive in what they wanted, and the manner in which they portrayed themselves was disrespectful to the Mrs. We've also had people who seem incapable of reading our profile to see what we are (or not!) looking for and it doesn't get them what they want with us either. We don't know you so we're not judging, but just saying that sometimes there are two sides.
Anyways, more to your actual issue, aside from the dick pic thing that nobody enjoys, if you're really having problems you need to start going to parties! You'll meet actual people, have a lot of fun, and get some needed verifications. It's made a huge difference for us, and they're just fun!
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By (user no longer on site)
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Im kinda surprised at this thread OP! You might say it like it is but instead of writing here bitchy, bruised ego thread maybe have a look at your profile!
1) one cock pic, maybe you dont wanna put more up in case wife or gf recognises you! (oh shit they are here too!!!!!
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2) your profile has zero effort! Do you know how many lads there are here?
Anyways you doing a good job seeking for attention  the irony  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I chat to lots of people everyday and I'm not meeting at moment and there's no bother , some people like to chat !!
This site isn't a guarantee meet for sex !! It's a possible |
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"I've been on this site for a while and have managed just 2 meets. I have come to the conclusion that there are a lot of people on here who just like to chat and get attention but have no intention of actually ever meeting! What's the point on been here or am I missing something? Obviously not everyone is willing to meet me which is fair enough but why chat for hours on end, swap numbers and then when it comes to meeting they usually come up with an excuse or even worse don't bother coming. by having a profile on here then surly each and everyone of us seek attention?
Not everyone is here to meet.. some are quite happy to have nawty chats and flirt with no intention of ever meeting
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"If you're posting on this or any other forum you're attention seeking.
As for people getting cold feet and backing out it happens. That's just part and parcel of this scene. I have found over the years it happens a lot with couples. Probably because there's two people involved and one person might be more up for it than the other. There could be a multitude of reasons, non of which are really your concern. You just have to roll with it and move. Or make choices. I don't contact couples anymore at all and I only chat to verified couples if they contact me. It doesn't stop it completely but it minimize's it.
Most people post because they have an opinion not necessarily attention seeking..."
Posting an opinion on a public forum is seeking attention to that opinion. Having an opinion and sharing your opinion are not the same thing. Nor is attention seeking necessarily a bad thing, everyone does it. |
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By *lfabarry OP Man
over a year ago
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"Im kinda surprised at this thread OP! You might say it like it is but instead of writing here bitchy, bruised ego thread maybe have a look at your profile!
1) one cock pic, maybe you dont wanna put more up in case wife or gf recognises you! (oh shit they are here too!!!!!
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2) your profile has zero effort! Do you know how many lads there are here?
Anyways you doing a good job seeking for attention the irony "
Says the man with no photos. Read my original post before commenting please. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I havent had that happen so much...but wouldnt call it attention seeking so much anyway...some people jump into chatting being fairly flirty and stuff maybe even getting your number but during that whole time theyre still making their mind up if they want to meet ye...and in the end they might decide they dont....nothing wrong with that. |
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By *ean0001Man
over a year ago
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I hope you reported him.
I will never understand some lads in here and how they treat the girls.
Its hard enough to get a playmate without being an asshole, so i cant imagine where you are going to get by being abusive. |
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"Well... I just got a darling little mail that went some thing like this...
I'm a fat tub of shit who won't actually meet and is attention seeking (I have veris?), fat girls like me should have their thongs around their ankles ready to relieve the bored married men on here.
I can smell the frustration from him from here.
I don't meet alot but if I do at the moment it's been repeats, people I know I get along with and can have fun with. People like that just ruin it for meeting new guys.
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Pay no attention to the sad loser, some guys cant take rejection and other guys get off on abusing girls.
From what i can see you look great and be safe in the knowledge that he will never get a meet from you and other women from here as other women will want to know who it is so they can avoid him.
Dont name him here though |
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