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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hey all i am new here as you can see,i joined this site with the exspectations that it would be difficult for a new single man but i didnt think it would be as hard as this like i message people in a polite way with a bit of cheeky banter and no sleazy stuff but alot of my messages are ignored which is disapointing when a guy is trying to gain the respect and trust of people here
so would any of you guys be able to give me any pointers which could be a help to me or how to check out meet and greets
thanks in advance for your help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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4 weeks isn't that long so be patient. Your profile is fine tbh but I'd improve the pic choice maybe. Have a nose at more verified male profiles for some inspiration  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here's where I get stick for being honest.
You mention no sleazy stuff and bring polite etc.
Your profile pic is an unnatractive pic of a small willy.
There.
I said it.
Nothing wrong with a kno being |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"4 weeks isn't that long so be patient. Your profile is fine tbh but I'd improve the pic choice maybe. Have a nose at more verified male profiles for some inspiration "
thanks for the reply it means alot,but the longer i am here with no meets will it not look poorly on me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"4 weeks isn't that long so be patient. Your profile is fine tbh but I'd improve the pic choice maybe. Have a nose at more verified male profiles for some inspiration
thanks for the reply it means alot,but the longer i am here with no meets will it not look poorly on me"
Hmmm well I dunno. For me if I see 3 months or more with no meets it makes me wary |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Here's where I get stick for being honest.
You mention no sleazy stuff and bring polite etc.
Your profile pic is an unnatractive pic of a small willy.
There.
I said it.
Nothing wrong with a kno being "
profile picture changed, thanks for the advice much appreciated |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"4 weeks isn't that long so be patient. Your profile is fine tbh but I'd improve the pic choice maybe. Have a nose at more verified male profiles for some inspiration
thanks for the reply it means alot,but the longer i am here with no meets will it not look poorly on me
Hmmm well I dunno. For me if I see 3 months or more with no meets it makes me wary "
alot of people i think would be the same way i feel,so time could be against me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" i would love to get to know all you ladys here even for a chat and see have we anything in common apart from the obvious"
I get rid of that if I was you. To me it just reeks of bullshit. People aren't here to solely chat, it's not fabpenpals.com. Also saying you want to get to know all the ladies here makes it sound a bit desperate, as if you'll literally message anything with a pussy. Coming across as having no standards isn't very appealing at all.
Best of luck anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"the average used to be 3 months to get a play meet from when you joined. just stick with it "
even if i could just get a social meet would be great,just to get myself know |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"" i would love to get to know all you ladys here even for a chat and see have we anything in common apart from the obvious"
I get rid of that if I was you. To me it just reeks of bullshit. People aren't here to solely chat, it's not fabpenpals.com. Also saying you want to get to know all the ladies here makes it sound a bit desperate, as if you'll literally message anything with a pussy. Coming across as having no standards isn't very appealing at all.
Best of luck anyway. "
thanks for the reply,but i dont want to come across as having high standards that i am very picky and also that i am pushy or looking for one thing here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"the average used to be 3 months to get a play meet from when you joined. just stick with it
even if i could just get a social meet would be great,just to get myself know"
There are events posted in the forums all the time. Put your name forward for the ones you can make. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know where your coming from im here awhile abd I can't get meets either u mail women and they don't reply and some do and say it's distance your 2 far away which is bullshit as I'm willing to drive .its very hard for guys on this I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"" i would love to get to know all you ladys here even for a chat and see have we anything in common apart from the obvious"
I get rid of that if I was you. To me it just reeks of bullshit. People aren't here to solely chat, it's not fabpenpals.com. Also saying you want to get to know all the ladies here makes it sound a bit desperate, as if you'll literally message anything with a pussy. Coming across as having no standards isn't very appealing at all.
Best of luck anyway. "
He's not coming across as having no standards, I haven't seen it on his profile or anything he has posted on his thread!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"" i would love to get to know all you ladys here even for a chat and see have we anything in common apart from the obvious"
I get rid of that if I was you. To me it just reeks of bullshit. People aren't here to solely chat, it's not fabpenpals.com. Also saying you want to get to know all the ladies here makes it sound a bit desperate, as if you'll literally message anything with a pussy. Coming across as having no standards isn't very appealing at all.
Best of luck anyway.
thanks for the reply,but i dont want to come across as having high standards that i am very picky and also that i am pushy or looking for one thing here"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know where your coming from im here awhile abd I can't get meets either u mail women and they don't reply and some do and say it's distance your 2 far away which is bullshit as I'm willing to drive .its very hard for guys on this I think "
The distance thing isn't about your willingness to drive. It's about your expectations when you get there. Most women would probably like a get to know you meet, with no sex involved. Therefore if you're a long distance away, it makes that more difficult.
OP, try the chat room, keep posting here and remain polite. In time people will get to know you and you can either get to a M&G or you never know, they might contact you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I know where your coming from im here awhile abd I can't get meets either u mail women and they don't reply and some do and say it's distance your 2 far away which is bullshit as I'm willing to drive .its very hard for guys on this I think
The distance thing isn't about your willingness to drive. It's about your expectations when you get there. Most women would probably like a get to know you meet, with no sex involved. Therefore if you're a long distance away, it makes that more difficult.
OP, try the chat room, keep posting here and remain polite. In time people will get to know you and you can either get to a M&G or you never know, they might contact you. "
thanks for that i will keep positive anyway and hopefully things will improve |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some come on here thinking it'll be easier than in a bar or something, but why should it be. If anything people have less to do on, they don't know you and have no reason to believe you can match their expectations unless you're massively convincing
It's hard for some guys here in the same way that's hard for slightly bruised apple in a greengrocers full of apples
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here's where I get stick for being honest.
You mention no sleazy stuff and bring polite etc.
Your profile pic is an unnatractive pic of a small willy.
There.
I said it.
Nothing wrong with a kno being "
From a guy with no pictures!
Seriously it's not the size of the boat or the motion in the ocean,it's whether or not the captain can stay docked long enough so all the passengers can get off... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No one said it would be easy.
But no one ever said it would be this hard
Just what did they say?
Sorry I thought we were having a sing along "
You hum it,I will join in when I know the tune |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothing wrong with a kno being
From a guy with no pictures!
Seriously it's not the size of the boat or the motion in the ocean,it's whether or not the captain can stay docked long enough so all the passengers can get off..."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm having the same problem but mainly due to my age, you should be fine on here mate once you find you feet on the site "
With this profile or your other one!!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm having the same problem but mainly due to my age, you should be fine on here mate once you find you feet on the site "
Do status' like yours actually work? I see them all the time but I have my doubts.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm having the same problem but mainly due to my age, you should be fine on here mate once you find you feet on the site
With this profile or your other one!!? "
this one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No one said it would be easy.
But no one ever said it would be this hard
Just what did they say?
Sorry I thought we were having a sing along
You hum it,I will join in when I know the tune"
Sing the first two lines together with a depressingly lovelorn vibe and then name the band lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm having the same problem but mainly due to my age, you should be fine on here mate once you find you feet on the site
Do status' like yours actually work? I see them all the time but I have my doubts...."
tbh your right just want someone to kinda notice and take the chance on me if you understand what I mean  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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what could a guy exspect at a meet and greet?for someone with very little essperience it would be very daunting walking into a packed room full of strangers especially when a guy would be nervous |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Expect to spend the night talking to everyone you can.
That's all you can expect. Most meet and greets are held in public places so, an orgy it ain't. But once you are in the room, make connections. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"what could a guy exspect at a meet and greet?for someone with very little essperience it would be very daunting walking into a packed room full of strangers especially when a guy would be nervous"
Build up a good raport with people on here, on the forum, laugh, joke, but don't take the piss in a nasty way.... just be yourself & don't bring yourself across as being needy!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"hey all i am new here as you can see,i joined this site with the exspectations that it would be difficult for a new single man but i didnt think it would be as hard as this like i message people in a polite way with a bit of cheeky banter and no sleazy stuff but alot of my messages are ignored which is disapointing when a guy is trying to gain the respect and trust of people here
so would any of you guys be able to give me any pointers which could be a help to me or how to check out meet and greets
thanks in advance for your help "
Whats with the pic of you with your hand down your pants? Makes you look like some kinda perv hovering around in the bushes outside the neighbours house. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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From a guy with no pictures!
Seriously it's not the size of the boat or the motion in the ocean,it's whether or not the captain can stay docked long enough so all the passengers can get off..."
Think your missing my point.
Your comment should've read 'from the VERIFIED guy with no PUBLIC pics.
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By (user no longer on site)
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From a guy with no pictures!
Seriously it's not the size of the boat or the motion in the ocean,it's whether or not the captain can stay docked long enough so all the passengers can get off...
Think your missing my point.
Your comment should've read 'from the VERIFIED guy with no PUBLIC pics.
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None displayed so they could be from cam...
And I think I've made my point |
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By (user no longer on site)
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From a guy with no pictures!
Seriously it's not the size of the boat or the motion in the ocean,it's whether or not the captain can stay docked long enough so all the passengers can get off...
Think your missing my point.
Your comment should've read 'from the VERIFIED guy with no PUBLIC pics.
None displayed so they could be from cam...
And I think I've made my point "
It's easy to throw stones when no one can throw stones back at you |
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