My friend was out on a date after a long time being single. He was attractive but deffo not boyfriend material. After going without sex for a while and been very horny she decided to bring him back to hers for a much needed sex session. She's an attractive woman so he seemed delighted after a steamy kissing session when she indicated taking things to the bedroom....to her horror he just couldn't get an erection. She sucked it, kissed him all over, played with his balls everything she could do but his cock refused to join the party so her date ended up red-faced and leaving. My friend took this as a personal insult and felt unattractive. What can I say to reassure her? Is this a problem a lot of men have? |
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"Perhaps he's gay but in denial?
(Or she was using too much teeth and he didn't have the confidence to tell her?"
lol no after a long steamy kissing session and her stripping off and stradling him....limp! |
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Lots of men have ed issues, some due to a physical issue or health condition such as diabetes, sometimes an ongoing psychological issue, or sometimes simple nerves or too much alcohol can cause a problem. It's most likely got nothing to do with your friend. |
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she should have quit at the stage nothing happening . how soul destroying for both of em , no point flogging a dead horse but thats the stuff of nightmares , if it were me , id have just laughed and had a cuppa teea and a giggle . people are not sex machines , sometimes the chemistry is just not there , it is what it is , no need for her to beat herself up over it , thats not gonna help . |
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"Lots of men have ed issues, some due to a physical issue or health condition such as diabetes, sometimes an ongoing psychological issue, or sometimes simple nerves or too much alcohol can cause a problem. It's most likely got nothing to do with your friend."
My ED issue is normally the reverse :-
Wake up hard, go to sleep hard etc |
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I used to see this lovely guy who quite often couldn't get it up... Now I went through a phase of thinking "is it me" but it's most defo not.
We have a wee joke about it and he said it only happens if he's had too much drink or the morning after too much drink.
My conclusion was he ain't the guy for me as I love a good filthy d*unk session followed by a Sunday morning session. Just not compatable.
We are still friends but I just wouldn't get excited about the prospect of meeting him in that way anymore. |
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I remember a scene in sex and the city years back where one of them invited a guy in for coffee and he declined as he had an early start the next day.
The four women were working out what it all meant till a guy in their company said "maybe he's just not into you "
There can be a lot of reasons for non performance and to try and make a big issue out of a one off is a pointless endeavour |
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"I remember a scene in sex and the city years back where one of them invited a guy in for coffee and he declined as he had an early start the next day.
The four women were working out what it all meant till a guy in their company said "maybe he's just not into you "
There can be a lot of reasons for non performance and to try and make a big issue out of a one off is a pointless endeavour "
It happened, move on. It would be different if they were in a relationship.
It could have been him, it could have been her. Who knows.
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"I used to see this lovely guy who quite often couldn't get it up... Now I went through a phase of thinking "is it me" but it's most defo not.
We have a wee joke about it and he said it only happens if he's had too much drink or the morning after too much drink.
My conclusion was he ain't the guy for me as I love a good filthy d*unk session followed by a Sunday morning session. Just not compatable.
We are still friends but I just wouldn't get excited about the prospect of meeting him in that way anymore."
D*unk sex is amazing!!!
This hasn't happened to me (yet) I'm sure some day il come unstuck tho lol I hope she's understanding |
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"I used to see this lovely guy who quite often couldn't get it up... Now I went through a phase of thinking "is it me" but it's most defo not.
We have a wee joke about it and he said it only happens if he's had too much drink or the morning after too much drink.
My conclusion was he ain't the guy for me as I love a good filthy d*unk session followed by a Sunday morning session. Just not compatable.
We are still friends but I just wouldn't get excited about the prospect of meeting him in that way anymore.
D*unk sex is amazing!!!
This hasn't happened to me (yet) I'm sure some day il come unstuck tho lol I hope she's understanding "
Understanding the first time maybe 
But now we just laugh about it. He invited me Round last summer to see his new hot tub and I replied "shall I bring the viagra?" Lol
No sex now just friends. He would rather make me a cup of tea and watch game of thrones lol seems some guys just don't need sex. See not compatable ! |
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Is very normal that to happend some man just need more time then others poor guy feel so bad for him he should just forget about it and move on is a shame girls can pretend but guys not  |
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"Is very normal that to happend some man just need more time then others poor guy feel so bad for him he should just forget about it and move on is a shame girls can pretend but guys not "
Exactly, it doesn't have to be any deep down over-thought reason & it's not a big deal, there's plenty of other things to do & when he's ready itl happen for him.
I wouldn't take it personally, the fact he spent time with her & kisses her shows he's interested. |
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"I used to see this lovely guy who quite often couldn't get it up... Now I went through a phase of thinking "is it me" but it's most defo not.
We have a wee joke about it and he said it only happens if he's had too much drink or the morning after too much drink.
My conclusion was he ain't the guy for me as I love a good filthy d*unk session followed by a Sunday morning session. Just not compatable.
We are still friends but I just wouldn't get excited about the prospect of meeting him in that way anymore.
D*unk sex is amazing!!!
This hasn't happened to me (yet) I'm sure some day il come unstuck tho lol I hope she's understanding
Understanding the first time maybe
But now we just laugh about it. He invited me Round last summer to see his new hot tub and I replied "shall I bring the viagra?" Lol
No sex now just friends. He would rather make me a cup of tea and watch game of thrones lol seems some guys just don't need sex. See not compatable !"
What guy doesn't need sex!!
I don't think I could go back if I failed the first time. It would be mighty embarrassing lol |
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"My friend was out on a date after a long time being single. He was attractive but deffo not boyfriend material. After going without sex for a while and been very horny she decided to bring him back to hers for a much needed sex session. She's an attractive woman so he seemed delighted after a steamy kissing session when she indicated taking things to the bedroom....to her horror he just couldn't get an erection. She sucked it, kissed him all over, played with his balls everything she could do but his cock refused to join the party so her date ended up red-faced and leaving. My friend took this as a personal insult and felt unattractive. What can I say to reassure her? Is this a problem a lot of men have?"
He either had too much alcohol or was put off by her body naked. Either/or i would wager. Or maybe both |
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over a year ago
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Do you never think the poor guy might have been to nervous and thats why he couldnt get it up, happens to a lot of guys especially if it was a first time they were together.
Dont always jump to conclusions and blame it on "Brewers Droop" for all we no the poor guy was just as upset. |
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By *tanonieMan
over a year ago
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"Do you never think the poor guy might have been to nervous and thats why he couldnt get it up, happens to a lot of guys especially if it was a first time they were together.
Dont always jump to conclusions and blame it on "Brewers Droop" for all we no the poor guy was just as upset."
Too true well said now |
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"she should have quit at the stage nothing happening . how soul destroying for both of em , no point flogging a dead horse but thats the stuff of nightmares , if it were me , id have just laughed and had a cuppa teea and a giggle . people are not sex machines , sometimes the chemistry is just not there , it is what it is , no need for her to beat herself up over it , thats not gonna help ."
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"My friend was out on a date after a long time being single. He was attractive but deffo not boyfriend material. After going without sex for a while and been very horny she decided to bring him back to hers for a much needed sex session. She's an attractive woman so he seemed delighted after a steamy kissing session when she indicated taking things to the bedroom....to her horror he just couldn't get an erection. She sucked it, kissed him all over, played with his balls everything she could do but his cock refused to join the party so her date ended up red-faced and leaving. My friend took this as a personal insult and felt unattractive. What can I say to reassure her? Is this a problem a lot of men have?"
I appreciate your friend may have felt deflated, and thats ok.
But you know what, sometimes the prettiest girl in the room might not the most attractive. To take it as a personal insult might not do anyone any good. Because someone doesn't respond to the mechanical efforts of a sexual encounter doesn't mean its an insult. Sometimes the ying and the yang don't align and you can't force it. Bodies are just vessels to the soul. The writing is on the wall If there is no response to touch. To take it as a personal insult might just say more about your friend than the guy.  |
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I'm probably going to end up limiting my chances of meeting someone off the site for what I'm about to say! I have had ed problems because of medical issues! Any time it has happened i always apologize to the lady and tell her it's not her it's me! It has made me insecure and before you ask tablets don't always work! So please ladies don't be insulted. Pedro |
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I've had this happen with a few different men. I've never taken it personally and it's never put me off trying again with them. It happens for lots of reasons, and most of them are temporary. |
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