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By *xhibitACouple
over a year ago
Dublin |
"Just discovered my teenage daughter is drinking..
Not much but is experimenting..
What's the best reaction for me to discourage her.."
Depends on the age I think.
Try not to be the out of touch dad about it, we all drank as teenagers so don't come the heavy or you could lose her respect about it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bottle of Jameson and 40 Johnny blue, she'll never touch a drop again!! But seriously don't fret to much about it, teens do it and there's nout you can do to stop it, just talk to her about it... |
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By *umps OP Man
over a year ago
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She is 16... I don't mind her drinking a beer or 2... Ya when I / we were in our younger days a beer was the norm.. But when it comes to spirits just as vodka Then I do feel I have to intervene.. |
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I'd lock her in her room for a few months till it blows over
Joking
It's a delicate one
Especially with camera phones these days what youngsters get upto
Imagine if you had the technology when you were expetementing with Alcohol etc |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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Let her know your aware of her drinking and that your fine as long as she doesnt get herself in such a state that she cant walk and talk. But if shes not drinking responsibly there will be reprecussions.
Thats what i told mine and by god mine knew not to break that trust. |
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By *xhibitACouple
over a year ago
Dublin |
"She is 16... I don't mind her drinking a beer or 2... Ya when I / we were in our younger days a beer was the norm.. But when it comes to spirits just as vodka Then I do feel I have to intervene.. "
You're right Vodka is quite dangerous if handled the wrong way. A little bit of education around it maybe. There will be articles on google about teens to died or had near misses who binged on Vodka. Maybe chat to her and go through those articles |
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By *umps OP Man
over a year ago
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You're right Vodka is quite dangerous if handled the wrong way. A little bit of education around it maybe. There will be articles on google about teens to died or had near misses who binged on Vodka. Maybe chat to her and go through those articles "
Thanks for this..
As a father of a daughter we never believe they do wrong until we see it..
I believe she is just trying fit in..... But in.the wrong conciseness.. |
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By *xhibitACouple
over a year ago
Dublin |
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You're right Vodka is quite dangerous if handled the wrong way. A little bit of education around it maybe. There will be articles on google about teens to died or had near misses who binged on Vodka. Maybe chat to her and go through those articles
Thanks for this..
As a father of a daughter we never believe they do wrong until we see it..
I believe she is just trying fit in..... But in.the wrong conciseness.. "
Fair play to you for spotting it and having a think about it. I know plenty of fathers who are oblivious to the dangers their daughters are flirting with.
Hope it works out for you anyway |
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By *umps OP Man
over a year ago
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Let her know your aware of her drinking and that your fine as long as she doesnt get herself in such a state that she cant walk and talk
On my own principle I would disagree with that quote... When it comes to.fitting in and pore pressure... Society has changed for the worse I believe.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hve a chat.... tell her u don't mind her drinking in your company but not out in the park etc. Explain it's against the law & she'll get lifted if caught or more horrific consequences like being raped if totally out of it. Download a movie/documentary of teenagers d*unk/vomiting let's her see how she wld look if it was her in that state.
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By *umps OP Man
over a year ago
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"Hve a chat.... tell her u don't mind her drinking in your company but not out in the park etc. Explain it's against the law & she'll get lifted if caught or more horrific consequences like being raped if totally out of it. Download a movie/documentary of teenagers d*unk/vomiting let's her see how she wld look if it was her in that state.
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I might just do that... Download a documentary.... Any recommend? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As you know telling someone not to do something only makes them want to do it as a mother of 4 iv been there .. just sit her down and tell her the dangers . Its great that ur aware of her drinking |
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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago
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Going through this now but with a boy. And vodka was his poison too. I know loads won't agree but around Xmas we had a chat. I'd kopperburg in for his brother. Small bottle of west coast cooler for his sister's toast and nothing for him. I apologised and bought him a few cans of bud. Not to get smashed on. It's been 2 months since he's gone to a "session". Last night he went to an easter disco and came home sober. It's all about talking. I don't think I'm out of the woods but we are getting there. Best of luck with your daughter x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Going through this now but with a boy. And vodka was his poison too. I know loads won't agree but around Xmas we had a chat. I'd kopperburg in for his brother. Small bottle of west coast cooler for his sister's toast and nothing for him. I apologised and bought him a few cans of bud. Not to get smashed on. It's been 2 months since he's gone to a "session". Last night he went to an easter disco and came home sober. It's all about talking. I don't think I'm out of the woods but we are getting there. Best of luck with your daughter x"
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By *umps OP Man
over a year ago
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"Going through this now but with a boy. And vodka was his poison too. I know loads won't agree but around Xmas we had a chat. I'd kopperburg in for his brother. Small bottle of west coast cooler for his sister's toast and nothing for him. I apologised and bought him a few cans of bud. Not to get smashed on. It's been 2 months since he's gone to a "session". Last night he went to an easter disco and came home sober. It's all about talking. I don't think I'm out of the woods but we are getting there. Best of luck with your daughter x"
Great for you and for him...
You didn't deny him.... But you seem to have shown the social side of drinking... And not about who gets d*unk first or wholes their drink the longest.. |
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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago
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"Going through this now but with a boy. And vodka was his poison too. I know loads won't agree but around Xmas we had a chat. I'd kopperburg in for his brother. Small bottle of west coast cooler for his sister's toast and nothing for him. I apologised and bought him a few cans of bud. Not to get smashed on. It's been 2 months since he's gone to a "session". Last night he went to an easter disco and came home sober. It's all about talking. I don't think I'm out of the woods but we are getting there. Best of luck with your daughter x
Great for you and for him...
You didn't deny him.... But you seem to have shown the social side of drinking... And not about who gets d*unk first or wholes their drink the longest.."
It's about getting pissed and granted we all did it but it was cheap beer and pedrotti wine. Not straight to shorts
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I think teenagers will do whatever they want, if you fight it they will hide it.
Best to just educate them about how alcohol can be enjoyed but dangerous when abused. At least they will feel comfortable talking to you about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ur at a delicate stage my friend and I know how u feel
U want to protect her
Tip that earned my parents respect when I was that age
Take her for a drink to the pub and let her enjoy the social side of drinking
Ur daughter will feel like an adult and mite chat more freely
( u know the teenagers lol ur parents the last to hear the stories)
U prop know how to handle it but try not to blow the fuse with ur daughter that never works
Steer her away from the vodka if u can
But if ye go the pub for that drink let her order what she likes
That's my taught hope it helps |
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By *al2001Man
over a year ago
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Letting teenagers drink at home rather than in a field seems like the sensible thing to do but it's been proven that the earlier kids drink the more chance they have of developing a problem,no matter where they first get it
You don't have to give in you know,lots of teens and adults don't drink,I'd keep preaching that and hope it works til she's 18 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Letting teenagers drink at home rather than in a field seems like the sensible thing to do but it's been proven that the earlier kids drink the more chance they have of developing a problem,no matter where they first get it
You don't have to give in you know,lots of teens and adults don't drink,I'd keep preaching that and hope it works til she's 18"
I'd agree with this, giving kids your approval to drink underage is not a good idea according to evidence from countries like France. My personal experience is that confronting them, showing your acknowlegement of peer pressure, highlighting the dangers, and discouraging them from being sheeple as far as possible will keep them drinking a minimal amount. Don't imagine that the existence of alcoholics in the family will serve as any warning to teens who think they are invincible.
For anyone who's wondering if their teen might be drinking, 2nd and 3rd year are the years where it really kicks off in my locality. Scary, especially if your child is young for their school year, but burying your head in the sand only leaves your child more exposed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately the spirits are the drink of choice for most of them as they generally hate the taste, or have not acquired a taste for beer or lager.
I try to encourage moderation and keeping their wits about them but we all know that can be thrown to the wind on a bender night out which we Irish are world beaters at.
Although I detest them, some of the alcopops are a possible good substitute for spirts as the alcohol content is lower and as they are not measuring it themselves like they would spirits, there is a better chance that they won't be completely smashed in a short time. Being completely blotto will leave them in a very vulnerable position to be exploited by some passing opportunist. You can't turn back time after that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Talk to her friends parents and agree to not let the kids drink on the streets (thats what happens where i live). I allowed mine to invite there friends to ours of they were gonna be drinking. That way i could keep an eye AND said friends thought i was the cool parent. Theres so much more temptation out there and when alcohol is involved people seem to tbink theyre untouchable.
Also take her on a date buy her a couple drinks (within reason) and see how she reacts and behaves with the alcohol in her system. Show her how to behave and also set the bar high for future boyfriends. Then talk to her about your fears a day or 2 after.
Hope this helps OP  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Talk to her friends parents and agree to not let the kids drink on the streets (thats what happens where i live). I allowed mine to invite there friends to ours of they were gonna be drinking. That way i could keep an eye AND said friends thought i was the cool parent. Theres so much more temptation out there and when alcohol is involved people seem to tbink theyre untouchable.
Also take her on a date buy her a couple drinks (within reason) and see how she reacts and behaves with the alcohol in her system. Show her how to behave and also set the bar high for future boyfriends. Then talk to her about your fears a day or 2 after.
Hope this helps OP "
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By (user no longer on site)
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You're right Vodka is quite dangerous if handled the wrong way. A little bit of education around it maybe. There will be articles on google about teens to died or had near misses who binged on Vodka. Maybe chat to her and go through those articles
Thanks for this..
As a father of a daughter we never believe they do wrong until we see it..
I believe she is just trying fit in..... But in.the wrong conciseness.. "
Wise parent...
All she is doing is trying to fit in with her peers..
Kids are under severe pressure to do so, yiu reaction is testament to the fact you acknowledge how difficult it is for her..
Just continue to talk to her, do not scream and shout, my kids did it, hey so did I..
Encourage her to talk about her friebds, where they are ect...
Goodluck |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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"Let her know your aware of her drinking and that your fine as long as she doesnt get herself in such a state that she cant walk and talk
On my own principle I would disagree with that quote... When it comes to.fitting in and pore pressure... Society has changed for the worse I believe.. "
Its your daughter if your not fine with her drinking then tell her so. But you've contradicted yourself agreeing with others. Maybe you've misunderstood my point or maybe ive used the incorrect phrasing or maybe i've misunderstood your op.
In the end it all boils down to what type of relationship you have with your daughter.
I know what worked with mine.
The question you need to ask is do you trust your daughter's judgement.
Btw peer pressure has always existed what hasn't is online social media. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Being honest as a young couple don't mind the booze it never done us any harm other than left us sick what I would be worried about is how easy it is too get drugs in this country what ever about getting pissed but just watch them around the drugs |
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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago
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"Hve a chat.... tell her u don't mind her drinking in your company but not out in the park etc. Explain it's against the law & she'll get lifted if caught or more horrific consequences like being raped if totally out of it. Download a movie/documentary of teenagers d*unk/vomiting let's her see how she wld look if it was her in that state.
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Maybe bring her up to the A+E waiting room at the cuh at around 2 ish on a Sunday morning to witness first hand what alcohol does to people |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have a drink with her in your presence. She'll respect that more and and the alcohol in general. It'll make her feel more mature and won't see the need to go behind your back. We all did it in fairness and its a lot worse for teenagers now than 20 years ago |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My daughter is not to the teenage years yet I'm a young dad and my kids mean the world to me it's a worry to any parent to wonder what the kids are up to if you go to when I was younger my parents used to bring me with them to a country pup and let me have few pints in there presence rather than be on the road drinking as time passed by I gradually stopped drinking and when I turned 18 I rarely touched a drop and my parents minds were at rest and they what I was drinking and could control hope all works out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have a drink with her in your presence. She'll respect that more and and the alcohol in general. It'll make her feel more mature and won't see the need to go behind your back. We all did it in fairness and its a lot worse for teenagers now than 20 years ago"
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By *at-cWoman
over a year ago
Ballyshannon |
Apart from all the above advice let her know it's an expected developmental stage for her and it is only concern for her safety, health and emotional well being that makes you have to address it with her.
Make her promise that no matter where she is and what time it is, if she feels that any of the above concerns are an issue at that moment, she HAS to phone you. Tell her one phone call is all it takes and you'll be there, while you will have to discuss her decisions that led to that point you will be coming at it from a place of respect that she showed the maturity to make the call. It's not that you are giving her carte blanche to do anything she wants but that poor choices don't have to lead to tragic results. You could also suggest to her that should her friends feel that there is any instance where she is not safe and isn't able to make the decision, they too should be able to make that call to you without worrying about covering things up.
It's not just enough to try to teach avoidance, it's teaching how to deal with it if/when things go too far. |
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By *al2001Man
over a year ago
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"Being honest as a young couple don't mind the booze it never done us any harm other than left us sick what I would be worried about is how easy it is too get drugs in this country what ever about getting pissed but just watch them around the drugs "
Way more harm is done by drink than drugs in this country especially where teenagers are concerned. On a multiple of about 10 IMO
Every family in the country is affected by alcohol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Apart from all the above advice let her know it's an expected developmental stage for her and it is only concern for her safety, health and emotional well being that makes you have to address it with her.
Make her promise that no matter where she is and what time it is, if she feels that any of the above concerns are an issue at that moment, she HAS to phone you. Tell her one phone call is all it takes and you'll be there, while you will have to discuss her decisions that led to that point you will be coming at it from a place of respect that she showed the maturity to make the call. It's not that you are giving her carte blanche to do anything she wants but that poor choices don't have to lead to tragic results. You could also suggest to her that should her friends feel that there is any instance where she is not safe and isn't able to make the decision, they too should be able to make that call to you without worrying about covering things up.
It's not just enough to try to teach avoidance, it's teaching how to deal with it if/when things go too far. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Honestly , I was a troubled teenager not so much crime but drugs and alcohol defo never any heavy drugs that have horrible addictive side affect, Coke ex , lsd , I was a party/rave concert goer from 15 , the best thing u could do is sit down and explain what's what how dangerous getting herself into a d*unk state is , because let's face it all teenagers drink your not going to stop her she will just be smarter in not getting caught , I'm 24 now and still go to nightclubs etc you would not believe the amount of underage girls that do be out and lads but it's much harder for a lad trust me iv had all the fake I.ds you can think off , u can try an teach or let her find out the hard way like most teenagers and be in a field puking the guts up , and if u go in guns blazing and screaming she won't listen I didn't I just got smart and didn't get caught again but I did know limits from an early age and never pushed it too far don't get me wrong iv had many nights over the toilet pushing flush like anyone else who drinks , hope this helps |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just wanted to send you hugs OP _umps. I have it all ahead of me. I'm pretty sure you'll choose the right words and actions when you talk to your daughter. Xxmrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Being honest as a young couple don't mind the booze it never done us any harm other than left us sick what I would be worried about is how easy it is too get drugs in this country what ever about getting pissed but just watch them around the drugs
Way more harm is done by drink than drugs in this country especially where teenagers are concerned. On a multiple of about 10 IMO
Every family in the country is affected by alcohol"
really iv never heard of any teenager jumping true glass panels of a bus stop on alcohol an landing in a coma iv never heard of a 16 year old buy at a house party collapse an have a heart attack while on alcohol iv never heard of teenagers mugging a 82 year old woman when there hungover. How ever I have heard of teenagers puking after alcohol or have a little punch up no big deal they will have a wee sore throat or a bruised eye the next day I dunno about you but that sounds better than a dead teenager or another in a coma |
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By *al2001Man
over a year ago
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"Being honest as a young couple don't mind the booze it never done us any harm other than left us sick what I would be worried about is how easy it is too get drugs in this country what ever about getting pissed but just watch them around the drugs
Way more harm is done by drink than drugs in this country especially where teenagers are concerned. On a multiple of about 10 IMO
Every family in the country is affected by alcohol really iv never heard of any teenager jumping true glass panels of a bus stop on alcohol an landing in a coma iv never heard of a 16 year old buy at a house party collapse an have a heart attack while on alcohol iv never heard of teenagers mugging a 82 year old woman when there hungover. How ever I have heard of teenagers puking after alcohol or have a little punch up no big deal they will have a wee sore throat or a bruised eye the next day I dunno about you but that sounds better than a dead teenager or another in a coma "
If you think the worst that happens to teens on alcohol is a wee sore throat and a bruised eye you are dillusional
I don't know what you hear but the figures show a lot more people die from alcohol than drugs and a lot more social harm is done by it |
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If you think the worst that happens to teens on alcohol is a wee sore throat and a bruised eye you are dillusional
I don't know what you hear but the figures show a lot more people die from alcohol than drugs and a lot more social harm is done by it"
Alcohol-related traffic deaths in the US were 12,998 in 2007. This is more than three times as many American soldiers who died in combat in the first six years of the Iraq war.
There are 1.4 million d*unk driving arrests in the US every year.
A US Department of Justice study found that as many as 40% of violent crimes occur under the influence of alcohol.
In 2005–2006, there were 187,640 National Health System alcohol-related hospital admissions in England.
There were 6,570 deaths in England in 2005 from causes directly linked to alcohol use. In 2006, alcohol-related deaths in England rose to 8,758. This amounts to an annual increase of 7% from the previous year.
According to one study, of the 490 million people in the European Union, more than 23 million are dependent on alcohol.
In Europe, alcohol contributes to nearly one in ten of all cases of illness and premature deaths each year.
39% of all traffic deaths involved alcohol .
40% of violent crimes occur under the influence of alcohol.
found these stats after a quick google ,while they are old I'd imagine they are still relevant . |
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"If you think the worst that happens to teens on alcohol is a wee sore throat and a bruised eye you are dillusional
I don't know what you hear but the figures show a lot more people die from alcohol than drugs and a lot more social harm is done by it"
Alcohol-related traffic deaths in the US were 12,998 in 2007. This is more than three times as many American soldiers who died in combat in the first six years of the Iraq war.
There are 1.4 million d*unk driving arrests in the US every year.
A US Department of Justice study found that as many as 40% of violent crimes occur under the influence of alcohol.
In 2005–2006, there were 187,640 National Health System alcohol-related hospital admissions in England.
There were 6,570 deaths in England in 2005 from causes directly linked to alcohol use. In 2006, alcohol-related deaths in England rose to 8,758. This amounts to an annual increase of 7% from the previous year.
According to one study, of the 490 million people in the European Union, more than 23 million are dependent on alcohol.
In Europe, alcohol contributes to nearly one in ten of all cases of illness and premature deaths each year.
39% of all traffic deaths involved alcohol .
40% of violent crimes occur under the influence of alcohol.
found these stats after a quick google ,while they are old I'd imagine they are still relevant ."
Here in Ireland, it is a factor in 46% of murders, 34% of domestic violence abuse, and half of all suicides - as it is a depressant that's hardly surprising.
The persistent denial of alcohol as a huge social problem in Ireland plays a large part in enabling it to remain that way. |
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"Being honest as a young couple don't mind the booze it never done us any harm other than left us sick what I would be worried about is how easy it is too get drugs in this country what ever about getting pissed but just watch them around the drugs
Way more harm is done by drink than drugs in this country especially where teenagers are concerned. On a multiple of about 10 IMO
Every family in the country is affected by alcohol really iv never heard of any teenager jumping true glass panels of a bus stop on alcohol an landing in a coma iv never heard of a 16 year old buy at a house party collapse an have a heart attack while on alcohol iv never heard of teenagers mugging a 82 year old woman when there hungover. How ever I have heard of teenagers puking after alcohol or have a little punch up no big deal they will have a wee sore throat or a bruised eye the next day I dunno about you but that sounds better than a dead teenager or another in a coma
If you think the worst that happens to teens on alcohol is a wee sore throat and a bruised eye you are dillusional
I don't know what you hear but the figures show a lot more people die from alcohol than drugs and a lot more social harm is done by it"
so what your saying is illegal drugs are safer for teens too take insead of a few cans at the back of the local disco fair play won't be long till there out mugging an robbing too get there high we have massive problem in our town with a drug can't remeber the name of it but the teens are walking zombies and the reports of robberys an mugging is shocking due too this drug it's a small town I can assure you it ain't alcohol |
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"Being honest as a young couple don't mind the booze it never done us any harm other than left us sick what I would be worried about is how easy it is too get drugs in this country what ever about getting pissed but just watch them around the drugs
Way more harm is done by drink than drugs in this country especially where teenagers are concerned. On a multiple of about 10 IMO
Every family in the country is affected by alcohol really iv never heard of any teenager jumping true glass panels of a bus stop on alcohol an landing in a coma iv never heard of a 16 year old buy at a house party collapse an have a heart attack while on alcohol iv never heard of teenagers mugging a 82 year old woman when there hungover. How ever I have heard of teenagers puking after alcohol or have a little punch up no big deal they will have a wee sore throat or a bruised eye the next day I dunno about you but that sounds better than a dead teenager or another in a coma
If you think the worst that happens to teens on alcohol is a wee sore throat and a bruised eye you are dillusional
I don't know what you hear but the figures show a lot more people die from alcohol than drugs and a lot more social harm is done by it so what your saying is illegal drugs are safer for teens too take insead of a few cans at the back of the local disco fair play won't be long till there out mugging an robbing too get there high we have massive problem in our town with a drug can't remeber the name of it but the teens are walking zombies and the reports of robberys an mugging is shocking due too this drug it's a small town I can assure you it ain't alcohol "
No, what people are saying is that alcohol causes massive harm, it's not a case of preferring teens drink or do drugs, it's recognising that both are a problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Id still an much prefare a pissed up son/daughter than a drugged up son/daughter. "
Unfortunately this is the problem in this country , alcohol is one of the worst drugs and its legal . A child under 18 has died every week last year from the effects of alcohol ( in Dublin so not counting other counties) , we don't hear about it because the media doesn't want us to hear about it . That is also apart from the damage to the still developing brains of the teenagers . |
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"Being honest as a young couple don't mind the booze it never done us any harm other than left us sick what I would be worried about is how easy it is too get drugs in this country what ever about getting pissed but just watch them around the drugs
Way more harm is done by drink than drugs in this country especially where teenagers are concerned. On a multiple of about 10 IMO
Every family in the country is affected by alcohol really iv never heard of any teenager jumping true glass panels of a bus stop on alcohol an landing in a coma iv never heard of a 16 year old buy at a house party collapse an have a heart attack while on alcohol iv never heard of teenagers mugging a 82 year old woman when there hungover. How ever I have heard of teenagers puking after alcohol or have a little punch up no big deal they will have a wee sore throat or a bruised eye the next day I dunno about you but that sounds better than a dead teenager or another in a coma
If you think the worst that happens to teens on alcohol is a wee sore throat and a bruised eye you are dillusional
I don't know what you hear but the figures show a lot more people die from alcohol than drugs and a lot more social harm is done by it so what your saying is illegal drugs are safer for teens too take insead of a few cans at the back of the local disco fair play won't be long till there out mugging an robbing too get there high we have massive problem in our town with a drug can't remeber the name of it but the teens are walking zombies and the reports of robberys an mugging is shocking due too this drug it's a small town I can assure you it ain't alcohol
No, what people are saying is that alcohol causes massive harm, it's not a case of preferring teens drink or do drugs, it's recognising that both are a problem."
and I understand that my point being is that I'd prefare if my son/daughter came in the door pissed than drugged up that's a fact. I was a teenager I use too drink on the weekends with my mates infact every Friday and Saturday nights never ever done me any harm or my mates we never mugged an robbed anything just so we could buy it |
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The brains natural reaction is to want to do something we aren't ment to so don't tell her not to do it. But just let her know that there is a point where alcohol controls you and you don't control the alcohol. Tell her she has a responsibility towards herself that she doesn't come Into harm which is very easily done and the worst thing to have to go threw. Ask her to ask her friends about any bad experiences they have had with alcohol so she can teach herself what can happen rather than you sounding like your making up mad stories. And water dilutes alcohol In the blood. Great for sobering up |
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"Being honest as a young couple don't mind the booze it never done us any harm other than left us sick what I would be worried about is how easy it is too get drugs in this country what ever about getting pissed but just watch them around the drugs
Way more harm is done by drink than drugs in this country especially where teenagers are concerned. On a multiple of about 10 IMO
Every family in the country is affected by alcohol really iv never heard of any teenager jumping true glass panels of a bus stop on alcohol an landing in a coma iv never heard of a 16 year old buy at a house party collapse an have a heart attack while on alcohol iv never heard of teenagers mugging a 82 year old woman when there hungover. How ever I have heard of teenagers puking after alcohol or have a little punch up no big deal they will have a wee sore throat or a bruised eye the next day I dunno about you but that sounds better than a dead teenager or another in a coma
If you think the worst that happens to teens on alcohol is a wee sore throat and a bruised eye you are dillusional
I don't know what you hear but the figures show a lot more people die from alcohol than drugs and a lot more social harm is done by it so what your saying is illegal drugs are safer for teens too take insead of a few cans at the back of the local disco fair play won't be long till there out mugging an robbing too get there high we have massive problem in our town with a drug can't remeber the name of it but the teens are walking zombies and the reports of robberys an mugging is shocking due too this drug it's a small town I can assure you it ain't alcohol
No, what people are saying is that alcohol causes massive harm, it's not a case of preferring teens drink or do drugs, it's recognising that both are a problem. and I understand that my point being is that I'd prefare if my son/daughter came in the door pissed than drugged up that's a fact. I was a teenager I use too drink on the weekends with my mates infact every Friday and Saturday nights never ever done me any harm or my mates we never mugged an robbed anything just so we could buy it "
So, you understand that it does huge harm, but just because you and your mates never came to harm, you think your kids won't either?
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"Being honest as a young couple don't mind the booze it never done us any harm other than left us sick what I would be worried about is how easy it is too get drugs in this country what ever about getting pissed but just watch them around the drugs
Way more harm is done by drink than drugs in this country especially where teenagers are concerned. On a multiple of about 10 IMO
Every family in the country is affected by alcohol really iv never heard of any teenager jumping true glass panels of a bus stop on alcohol an landing in a coma iv never heard of a 16 year old buy at a house party collapse an have a heart attack while on alcohol iv never heard of teenagers mugging a 82 year old woman when there hungover. How ever I have heard of teenagers puking after alcohol or have a little punch up no big deal they will have a wee sore throat or a bruised eye the next day I dunno about you but that sounds better than a dead teenager or another in a coma
If you think the worst that happens to teens on alcohol is a wee sore throat and a bruised eye you are dillusional
I don't know what you hear but the figures show a lot more people die from alcohol than drugs and a lot more social harm is done by it so what your saying is illegal drugs are safer for teens too take insead of a few cans at the back of the local disco fair play won't be long till there out mugging an robbing too get there high we have massive problem in our town with a drug can't remeber the name of it but the teens are walking zombies and the reports of robberys an mugging is shocking due too this drug it's a small town I can assure you it ain't alcohol
No, what people are saying is that alcohol causes massive harm, it's not a case of preferring teens drink or do drugs, it's recognising that both are a problem. and I understand that my point being is that I'd prefare if my son/daughter came in the door pissed than drugged up that's a fact. I was a teenager I use too drink on the weekends with my mates infact every Friday and Saturday nights never ever done me any harm or my mates we never mugged an robbed anything just so we could buy it
So, you understand that it does huge harm, but just because you and your mates never came to harm, you think your kids won't either?
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if it's abused it can be harmful il put my life on it my kids won't ever come too harm with it |
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"If alcohol is such a huge problem in this country then there is going to be a lot of people who don't see it as a problem"
iv never said it wasn't a problem the problem is is those who abuse it
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"If alcohol is such a huge problem in this country then there is going to be a lot of people who don't see it as a problem iv never said it wasn't a problem the problem is is those who abuse it "
Underage drinkers ARE abusing it. There is no such thing as a safe amount of alcohol for a 15 year old. |
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"If alcohol is such a huge problem in this country then there is going to be a lot of people who don't see it as a problem iv never said it wasn't a problem the problem is is those who abuse it
Underage drinkers ARE abusing it. There is no such thing as a safe amount of alcohol for a 15 year old."
I'm not disagreeing with you some teens are abusing it but not you can't target everyone of them with the same brush I know many teens who drink on a Saturday night and it's never no more than a 8 pack of beer that's hardly abusing it adults drink hell of a lot more in this country on any given weekend |
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"If alcohol is such a huge problem in this country then there is going to be a lot of people who don't see it as a problem iv never said it wasn't a problem the problem is is those who abuse it
Underage drinkers ARE abusing it. There is no such thing as a safe amount of alcohol for a 15 year old. I'm not disagreeing with you some teens are abusing it but not you can't target everyone of them with the same brush I know many teens who drink on a Saturday night and it's never no more than a 8 pack of beer that's hardly abusing it adults drink hell of a lot more in this country on any given weekend "
Yes, and how did they start? |
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"If alcohol is such a huge problem in this country then there is going to be a lot of people who don't see it as a problem iv never said it wasn't a problem the problem is is those who abuse it
Underage drinkers ARE abusing it. There is no such thing as a safe amount of alcohol for a 15 year old. I'm not disagreeing with you some teens are abusing it but not you can't target everyone of them with the same brush I know many teens who drink on a Saturday night and it's never no more than a 8 pack of beer that's hardly abusing it adults drink hell of a lot more in this country on any given weekend
Yes, and how did they start?"
could be any reason I don't know my parents where alcoholics and I know when too stop even when I was younger |
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"If alcohol is such a huge problem in this country then there is going to be a lot of people who don't see it as a problem iv never said it wasn't a problem the problem is is those who abuse it
Underage drinkers ARE abusing it. There is no such thing as a safe amount of alcohol for a 15 year old. I'm not disagreeing with you some teens are abusing it but not you can't target everyone of them with the same brush I know many teens who drink on a Saturday night and it's never no more than a 8 pack of beer that's hardly abusing it adults drink hell of a lot more in this country on any given weekend
Yes, and how did they start? could be any reason I don't know my parents where alcoholics and I know when too stop even when I was younger "
Then you're in a minority. |
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Most recent damage caused by drugs
http://m.herald.ie/news/teenage-girl-was-covered-in-blood-and-dancing-on-broken-glass-in-drug-house-34383093.html
So people are saying an 8 pack of beer is worse than this cleary you need too open up your eyes folks   |
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"If alcohol is such a huge problem in this country then there is going to be a lot of people who don't see it as a problem iv never said it wasn't a problem the problem is is those who abuse it
Underage drinkers ARE abusing it. There is no such thing as a safe amount of alcohol for a 15 year old. I'm not disagreeing with you some teens are abusing it but not you can't target everyone of them with the same brush I know many teens who drink on a Saturday night and it's never no more than a 8 pack of beer that's hardly abusing it adults drink hell of a lot more in this country on any given weekend
Yes, and how did they start? could be any reason I don't know my parents where alcoholics and I know when too stop even when I was younger
Then you're in a minority. "
and same goes for a lot of my friends the rest quit drinking for there own reasons |
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"Most recent damage caused by drugs
http://m.herald.ie/news/teenage-girl-was-covered-in-blood-and-dancing-on-broken-glass-in-drug-house-34383093.html
So people are saying an 8 pack of beer is worse than this cleary you need too open up your eyes folks "
Pay a visit to any A&E on a Saturday night to get your eyes opened about alcohol, and that's just the tip of the iceberg. |
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"Most recent damage caused by drugs
http://m.herald.ie/news/teenage-girl-was-covered-in-blood-and-dancing-on-broken-glass-in-drug-house-34383093.html
So people are saying an 8 pack of beer is worse than this cleary you need too open up your eyes folks
Pay a visit to any A&E on a Saturday night to get your eyes opened about alcohol, and that's just the tip of the iceberg."
I seen it infant I worked in the mater so I know and it's not just teens it's adults as well again abusing it |
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"http://www.irishtimes.com/news/ireland/irish-news/cork-teenager-hospitalised-following-drugs-overdose-dies-1.2508427"
I see you ignored the post above saying one under-18 a week dies in Dublin as a result of alcohol. |
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Please don't blow this out of all proportion people!! OP you know your daughter best. Don't listen to strangers on a sex site who basically know fuck all about you or your family.
Arm yourself with the facts. The 'Frank' site is a good place to start. If you need more advise then contact your child's school or college nurse for them to put you in touch with support groups in your area.
Don't panic. Help is out there if you need it. Good luck x |
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"http://www.irishtimes.com/news/ireland/irish-news/cork-teenager-hospitalised-following-drugs-overdose-dies-1.2508427
I see you ignored the post above saying one under-18 a week dies in Dublin as a result of alcohol."
I give up. You clearly wish to deny the problem. |
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"http://www.irishtimes.com/news/ireland/irish-news/cork-teenager-hospitalised-following-drugs-overdose-dies-1.2508427
I see you ignored the post above saying one under-18 a week dies in Dublin as a result of alcohol.
I give up. You clearly wish to deny the problem."
give up all you want as I said above I'd prefare too see my kids drink an 8 pack and not abuse it that's where the trouble starts is when it's abused it's a simple as that drugs are fare worse than alcohol I don't care what u think or say and I'm leaving at that I have my opinion on it and that's how I see it goodluck now |
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"Please don't blow this out of all proportion people!! OP you know your daughter best. Don't listen to strangers on a sex site who basically know fuck all about you or your family.
Arm yourself with the facts. The 'Frank' site is a good place to start. If you need more advise then contact your child's school or college nurse for them to put you in touch with support groups in your area.
Don't panic. Help is out there if you need it. Good luck x"
exactly well said |
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"Anyone that says an 8 pack of beer is no harm to a teenager is in the percent of the population that has a drink problem
8 beers is binge drinking for an adult ffs"
as I said never done me any harm or people I know and still too this day still doesn't do me any harm well able too control myself and wake up the next day and get on with my day jeez people at partys on this site have a hell of a lot more drink at them so are they binge drinkers too |
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"Anyone that says an 8 pack of beer is no harm to a teenager is in the percent of the population that has a drink problem
8 beers is binge drinking for an adult ffs"
I'm 50 and would be absolutely twisted after 8 cans of beer and you think its ok for a teenager?
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"Anyone that says an 8 pack of beer is no harm to a teenager is in the percent of the population that has a drink problem
8 beers is binge drinking for an adult ffs as I said never done me any harm or people I know and still too this day still doesn't do me any harm well able too control myself and wake up the next day and get on with my day jeez people at partys on this site have a hell of a lot more drink at them so are they binge drinkers too "
If they drink 8 beers or shots then yes
And read up on the harmful effects of binge drinking. If you want |
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"Anyone that says an 8 pack of beer is no harm to a teenager is in the percent of the population that has a drink problem
8 beers is binge drinking for an adult ffs
I'm 50 and would be absolutely twisted after 8 cans of beer and you think its ok for a teenager?
really? "
well I'm half your age and I'm not pissed after 8 cans same with some teenagers I know who would do ye same on any given weekend |
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"Anyone that says an 8 pack of beer is no harm to a teenager is in the percent of the population that has a drink problem
8 beers is binge drinking for an adult ffs as I said never done me any harm or people I know and still too this day still doesn't do me any harm well able too control myself and wake up the next day and get on with my day jeez people at partys on this site have a hell of a lot more drink at them so are they binge drinkers too
If they drink 8 beers or shots then yes
And read up on the harmful effects of binge drinking. If you want"
who said anything about shots an 8 pack will never do any harm anyway this is just going around and around so I'm leaving at that goodluck |
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