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What is a Friend!!?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Everybody has different versions of what a friendship is....
To me a friend is somebody who is there for you no matter what, who will phone you, meet in person, who is not afraid to tell you anything because they trust you & value your friendship to be able to tell really intimate & personal details about yourself!!
I hate the penpal friendships where you're just texting or emailing people & not picking up the phone to chat to people or not meeting them in person, to me that's not a friendship, well it's not a type of friendship I would like or want.....
What does a friend mean to you!! How far have you gone for a friend that meant so much to you!!? Tell us your stories pretty please!!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everybody has different versions of what a friendship is....
To me a friend is somebody who is there for you no matter what, who will phone you, meet in person, who is not afraid to tell you anything because they trust you & value your friendship to be able to tell really intimate & personal details about yourself!!
I hate the penpal friendships where you're just texting or emailing people & not picking up the phone to chat to people or not meeting them in person, to me that's not a friendship, well it's not a type of friendship I would like or want.....
What does a friend mean to you!! How far have you gone for a friend that meant so much to you!!? Tell us your stories pretty please!! "
Have close friendships that have lasted all my life...
Texting , emailing ect does not bother me, we all lead busy lives and sometimes it is difficult to meet up a lot..
I would and have supported friends through crappy times and they me...
Still have a few friends that I met through swinging and we keep regular contact... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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But some people want to email & text all the time & not want to meet up, I hate that myself!! I like friends who would pick up the phone at least to speak to you!! |
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Not sure I have any real friends outside of my close family ...have lots of people I know...but not sure I could call them actual friends tell me your woes type peeps...that sounds sad now that I say it..lol Apples  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not sure I have any real friends outside of my close family ...have lots of people I know...but not sure I could call them actual friends tell me your woes type peeps...that sounds sad now that I say it..lol Apples "
I have 2 friends outside of Fab that I consider true friends, one of them is an Ex & that's awkward given that I live in a small town so we're discreet about it but he's been my rock through the tough times!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you treat the friends you have made on the site different to the friends you have outside of here.....??
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Just asking as you have hinted about swing friend problems in the forums before..
Is this a get a wee dig in thread??
At people who have abused your friendship here?
Am not being offensive , honestly just wondering  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you treat the friends you have made on the site different to the friends you have outside of here.....??
Just asking as you have hinted about swing friend problems in the forums before..
Is this a get a wee dig in thread??
At people who have abused your friendship here?
Am not being offensive , honestly just wondering "
No, it's not a dig at anyone thread, just asking in general what a friendship means to people!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you treat the friends you have made on the site different to the friends you have outside of here.....??
Just asking as you have hinted about swing friend problems in the forums before..
Is this a get a wee dig in thread??
At people who have abused your friendship here?
Am not being offensive , honestly just wondering
No, it's not a dig at anyone thread, just asking in general what a friendship means to people!!"
Ah grand, honestly no offense meant, just was not sure, thanks for clarifying..
Ans to question, I treat all my friends with equal respect both here and in civvy land...
I respect their privacy, and expect the same in return, on swing if anyone abuses this then dropped as a friend pronto... |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Do you treat the friends you have made on the site different to the friends you have outside of here.....??
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Circles of friends is what I have in that inner circle there's probably five or six then there is intertwining circles fab friends, friends from work,friends from my childhood and school, friends from the kids and family life. Not all circles cross over each other and I may not be in some circles for long periods but would I thrust them with intimate secrets or troubles probably only those in the inner circle |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you treat the friends you have made on the site different to the friends you have outside of here.....??
Just asking as you have hinted about swing friend problems in the forums before..
Is this a get a wee dig in thread??
At people who have abused your friendship here?
Am not being offensive , honestly just wondering
No, it's not a dig at anyone thread, just asking in general what a friendship means to people!!
Ah grand, honestly no offense meant, just was not sure, thanks for clarifying..
Ans to question, I treat all my friends with equal respect both here and in civvy land...
I respect their privacy, and expect the same in return, on swing if anyone abuses this then dropped as a friend pronto..."
That is an interesting answer & makes sense!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A friend, here or otherwise is the same to me. Email, text, Facebook, ruin a lot. Imagine a birthday. Where people send a message, or a few likes.
Don't have to do anything mad or get bolloxed d*unk. Meet, have a few laughs, give a silly present.
More thoughts to be collected on this but don't want to rant/vent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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True friends can mostly only be counted on one hand. I'd say that for everyone. If we're really honest with ourselves. Friends are there for you. They don't judge. They have no hesitation in telling you things straight and you them. That's the power of trust and love. You're not afraid to be honest. The removal of fear is a great indicator of friendship. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"True friends can mostly only be counted on one hand. I'd say that for everyone. If we're really honest with ourselves. Friends are there for you. They don't judge. They have no hesitation in telling you things straight and you them. That's the power of trust and love. You're not afraid to be honest. The removal of fear is a great indicator of friendship."
That's actually a great answer, that's what I'd want in a friendship!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"True friends can mostly only be counted on one hand. I'd say that for everyone. If we're really honest with ourselves. Friends are there for you. They don't judge. They have no hesitation in telling you things straight and you them. That's the power of trust and love. You're not afraid to be honest. The removal of fear is a great indicator of friendship."
Acceptance is another great indicator of true friendship...
The ability to accept eachother, warts and all so to speak...
Of course at times friends judge me on my actions, my views, beliefs ect, however they still accept them regardless.
And I theirs... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think you could be good friends with an Ex without wanting to jump on him lol!!!? "
Definately , it takes give and take and both sides though and the ability for both parties to move on...
I stay friends with a few of my exes, life is too short to hold grudges |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think that friends don't judge. We are all different in our ways and views on things. Although our true friends may disagree on things, they don't hold the difference in opinion against you or you them. Friends realise that this doesn't effect the person you are. Doesn't change the kindness in your heart. Friends love one another and that trust, love and the absence of fear is what creates that bond that lasts a lifetime. It's a beautiful thing to have a true friend. I was best man for my friend. It's funny though. I realised the day of the wedding that I was no longer his best mate. His bride was his best mate. I was his best man. Until I find the love that he has for his wife. He is my best mate and I his best man. That will never change. I'm cool with best man lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that friends don't judge. We are all different in our ways and views on things. Although our true friends may disagree on things, they don't hold the difference in opinion against you or you them. Friends realise that this doesn't effect the person you are. Doesn't change the kindness in your heart. Friends love one another and that trust, love and the absence of fear is what creates that bond that lasts a lifetime. It's a beautiful thing to have a true friend. I was best man for my friend. It's funny though. I realised the day of the wedding that I was no longer his best mate. His bride was his best mate. I was his best man. Until I find the love that he has for his wife. He is my best mate and I his best man. That will never change. I'm cool with best man lol "
Of course my friends judge me, however with true friends it is not offensive or hurtful....
There is a difference between judging and being judgemental of a person.
I have friends from all walks of life, when it comes to politics , religion or in my case lack of it, we often judge eachothers views..
However we accept them as ours and this does not mean we are not true friends... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's what I meant Spanish.
Ooops sorry.lol....... "
No apologies required. I knew what you meant. I just wasn't making myself clear. I tend to have a carfuffle in my head when I'm typing out long stuff. Somethings I miss out or don't explain myself fully.  |
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By *ease_EMan
over a year ago
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"Do you think you could be good friends with an Ex without wanting to jump on him lol!!!? "
Yes, why not, they know you as well as most. I have two X's, LADIES, which I would not want to on... I have been there for them too.
I have a large circle of friends, might only get to MEET once in a blue moon,but text regular, but I know they are there for me, and vica versa. |
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By *ease_EMan
over a year ago
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"Do you think you could be good friends with an Ex without wanting to jump on him lol!!!?
Definately , it takes give and take and both sides though and the ability for both parties to move on...
I stay friends with a few of my exes, life is too short to hold grudges "
Agree 100%.
Only live once, enjoy it.
Grudges only shorten your happy moments. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you think you could be good friends with an Ex without wanting to jump on him lol!!!?
Yes, why not, they know you as well as most. I have two X's, LADIES, which I would not want to on... I have been there for them too.
I have a large circle of friends, might only get to MEET once in a blue moon,but text regular, but I know they are there for me, and vica versa."
I suppose that's true that the ex knows you better so you can still be friends but only if both parties are happy about just being friends & nothing more... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a good very good friend...know her since when we both was 6...
We might not chat so often anymore as she have family now, babies, time zone sometimes ruin our phone calls too..but we don't need do talk every day or even every week..We just know we have each other..whenever any of us need talk we know we are there for each other! We meet only one day a year.. but when it happens it seems like time stop and we never was separated. I trust her everything.. even my fab life 
Here in Irl I have made some friends but none who I could trust 100% all of mine secrets or its just me thinking like that. :D
But actually Im very friendly person,but I very choose with who I become close friends... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A true friend is someone you might not have seen in years but when you do its like you only saw them yesterday. Can count mine on one hand as can kitty.
Tomcat |
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By *arkedMan
over a year ago
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"Do you think you could be good friends with an Ex without wanting to jump on him lol!!!? "
Yes you can, but you both have to want to be friends and I think you both HAVE to accept its only going to be platonic I was with my last ex for just under 2 years, we're separated going on 4 (long distance, she's in south of England & I was Dublin). But we are there for each other no matter what, we talk 4-5 days a week, sometimes more than an hour at a time. She has a new guy (yes he knows) and I'm happy for her because I only want her to be happy.
For a 'true' or 'really close' friend I'll do absolutely anything I can for them...
As for how far have I gone? 2 yr ago she was getting some serious shit from a previous ex and he sued her in small claims for £9995 & another for £150,000: I booked the next ferry and spent what ended up being 6 months researching the law and putting together a comprehensive defence (which she won).
Sorry for the book |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have very few close friends , but I have to say that a lady who I met here , has proven over the past couple of weeks that she is worth her weight in gold , she has listened and supported me while I was being all needy and clinging ,a lot to put up with ! all ways on the end of the phone to listen to me that's my idea of a good friend |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you think you could be good friends with an Ex without wanting to jump on him lol!!!?
Yes you can, but you both have to want to be friends and I think you both HAVE to accept its only going to be platonic I was with my last ex for just under 2 years, we're separated going on 4 (long distance, she's in south of England & I was Dublin). But we are there for each other no matter what, we talk 4-5 days a week, sometimes more than an hour at a time. She has a new guy (yes he knows) and I'm happy for her because I only want her to be happy.
For a 'true' or 'really close' friend I'll do absolutely anything I can for them...
As for how far have I gone? 2 yr ago she was getting some serious shit from a previous ex and he sued her in small claims for £9995 & another for £150,000: I booked the next ferry and spent what ended up being 6 months researching the law and putting together a comprehensive defence (which she won).
Sorry for the book"
That's a pretty amazing thing to do for a friend, that's showing great support!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you're down and troubled
And you need a helping hand
And nothing, whoa nothing is going right
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest nights
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running, oh yeah baby
To see you again
Winter, spring, summer, or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there, yeah, yeah, yeah
You've got a friend |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When you're down and troubled
And you need a helping hand
And nothing, whoa nothing is going right
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest nights
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running, oh yeah baby
To see you again
Winter, spring, summer, or fall
All you have to do is call
And I'll be there, yeah, yeah, yeah
You've got a friend"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think you could be good friends with an Ex without wanting to jump on him lol!!!?
Yes you can, but you both have to want to be friends and I think you both HAVE to accept its only going to be platonic I was with my last ex for just under 2 years, we're separated going on 4 (long distance, she's in south of England & I was Dublin). But we are there for each other no matter what, we talk 4-5 days a week, sometimes more than an hour at a time. She has a new guy (yes he knows) and I'm happy for her because I only want her to be happy.
For a 'true' or 'really close' friend I'll do absolutely anything I can for them...
As for how far have I gone? 2 yr ago she was getting some serious shit from a previous ex and he sued her in small claims for £9995 & another for £150,000: I booked the next ferry and spent what ended up being 6 months researching the law and putting together a comprehensive defence (which she won).
Sorry for the book"
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Do you think you could be good friends with an Ex without wanting to jump on him lol!!!?
Yes you can, but you both have to want to be friends and I think you both HAVE to accept its only going to be platonic I was with my last ex for just under 2 years, we're separated going on 4 (long distance, she's in south of England & I was Dublin). But we are there for each other no matter what, we talk 4-5 days a week, sometimes more than an hour at a time. She has a new guy (yes he knows) and I'm happy for her because I only want her to be happy.
For a 'true' or 'really close' friend I'll do absolutely anything I can for them...
As for how far have I gone? 2 yr ago she was getting some serious shit from a previous ex and he sued her in small claims for £9995 & another for £150,000: I booked the next ferry and spent what ended up being 6 months researching the law and putting together a comprehensive defence (which she won).
Sorry for the book"
A true friend will always have ur back |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you think you could be good friends with an Ex without wanting to jump on him lol!!!?
Errr.... Is that not a swinging answer ...
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Ah but I don't have any ex boyfriends that are on FAB, so there!!  |
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By *ceryMan
over a year ago
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As what's already mentioned friends are there for you at any time. No pretentious, no hidden agendas. Though would you tell non fab friends that you're a swinger, many weekends away from my friends since I started this lark and not a blink of an eye, we meet up when we can.
It's also true that you can count your true friends on the fingers of one hand, maybe two.
True friends last... for many decades and more. Mine since college days, and yes every so often a new friend pops over the horizon to be cherished.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have only a hand full of really close friends.. They can ring me anytime .. Talk to me about anything and ask me for anything.. Are loyal and honest, call to my door anytime and have a key to my house.
I also treat my friends the same.
I like to buy them things and spend time with them.
I do be busy so I could go a whole wk without seen any of them or mailing them but we just pick up from where we left off.
Both male and female ..
I'm a lovey dovey person with them and them only lol
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"Not sure I have any real friends outside of my close family ...have lots of people I know...but not sure I could call them actual friends tell me your woes type peeps...that sounds sad now that I say it..lol Apples "
I'm your best friend...though ...ain't I? ...your mine.
Ollie
I have two great friends
On the outside ...it's enough. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not sure I have any real friends outside of my close family ...have lots of people I know...but not sure I could call them actual friends tell me your woes type peeps...that sounds sad now that I say it..lol Apples
I'm your best friend...though ...ain't I? ...your mine.
Ollie
I have two great friends
On the outside ...it's enough."
Aww that's sweet!! |
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By *arkedMan
over a year ago
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"Do you treat the friends you have made on the site different to the friends you have outside of here.....??"
I don't no, yes I have different 'circles/types/levels' of friends but I'll never differentiate based on how or where I first meet a friend. And I'll go so far as to say that if a friend does treat you different because of it, then they are not a friend.
Also I have never made a friend on this site: however I have made a few friends thanks to meeting them through this site. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say... For me at least a friendship is based on behaviour, attitude and a myriad of other things, but where or how I first met/meet someone has absolutely nothing to do with whether we will become friends or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You just call out their name, and you know where ever they are
They'll come running to see you again.
Winter, spring, summer, or fall, all you have to do is call and they'll be there, yeah, yeah.... You've got a friend!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You just call out their name, and you know where ever they are
They'll come running to see you again.
Winter, spring, summer, or fall, all you have to do is call and they'll be there, yeah, yeah.... You've got a friend!
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lol mister!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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If you were into somebody & that person was not anymore, would you agree to be friends with that person or would you walk away & never see them again.....? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you were into somebody & that person was not anymore, would you agree to be friends with that person or would you walk away & never see them again.....?"
Unless they had done something to end the relationship why not? I'd rather have a friendly relationship if possible. |
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By *eanontiWoman
over a year ago
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I'm lucky the person I consider my best friend is also on fab. So there is nothing I can't tell her about. Other than that I have few close friends who I don't need to be in constant contact with but I know and they know if we need one another we will be there. No matter what. |
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By *arkedMan
over a year ago
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"If you were into somebody & that person was not anymore, would you agree to be friends with that person or would you walk away & never see them again.....?"
First I'd have to let them know how I (still) felt about them, but if knowing my feelings they still wanted me as a friend then I'd happily be one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you were into somebody & that person was not anymore, would you agree to be friends with that person or would you walk away & never see them again.....?
First I'd have to let them know how I (still) felt about them, but if knowing my feelings they still wanted me as a friend then I'd happily be one."
As long as they show respect for your feelings & don't cross the line because the friendship wouldn't work otherwise & that's when I'd have to walk away.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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True friends are people you can confide everything in. They are there for you no matter what. They listen and take your advice when they get to know you well. Always be in your corner when things get rough. Remain loyal to you at all times. Now where the hell can I get one |
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By *arkedMan
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"If you were into somebody & that person was not anymore, would you agree to be friends with that person or would you walk away & never see them again.....?
First I'd have to let them know how I (still) felt about them, but if knowing my feelings they still wanted me as a friend then I'd happily be one.
As long as they show respect for your feelings & don't cross the line because the friendship
wouldn't work otherwise & that's when I'd have to walk away...."
That's very true... |
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"True friends can mostly only be counted on one hand. I'd say that for everyone. If we're really honest with ourselves. Friends are there for you. They don't judge. They have no hesitation in telling you things straight and you them. That's the power of trust and love. You're not afraid to be honest. The removal of fear is a great indicator of friendship."
Yep. .pretty much sums it up for me.
Mrs S |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A good friend sent me this message about friends which was found on the internet, it's appropriate to put it on here!!!
BEST Friends
Fight for you
Respect you
Include you
Encourage you
Need you
Deserve you
Stand by you |
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"A good friend sent me this message about friends which was found on the internet, it's appropriate to put it on here!!!
BEST Friends
Fight for you
Respect you
Include you
Encourage you
Need you
Deserve you
Stand by you "
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"Everybody has different versions of what a friendship is....
To me a friend is somebody who is there for you no matter what, who will phone you, meet in person, who is not afraid to tell you anything because they trust you & value your friendship to be able to tell really intimate & personal details about yourself!!
I hate the penpal friendships where you're just texting or emailing people & not picking up the phone to chat to people or not meeting them in person, to me that's not a friendship, well it's not a type of friendship I would like or want.....
What does a friend mean to you!! How far have you gone for a friend that meant so much to you!!? Tell us your stories pretty please!! "
A friend is someone, that it is ok to fart in front of. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Everybody has different versions of what a friendship is....
To me a friend is somebody who is there for you no matter what, who will phone you, meet in person, who is not afraid to tell you anything because they trust you & value your friendship to be able to tell really intimate & personal details about yourself!!
I hate the penpal friendships where you're just texting or emailing people & not picking up the phone to chat to people or not meeting them in person, to me that's not a friendship, well it's not a type of friendship I would like or want.....
What does a friend mean to you!! How far have you gone for a friend that meant so much to you!!? Tell us your stories pretty please!!
A friend is someone, that it is ok to fart in front of."
lol but you could be right...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A good friend sent me this message about friends which was found on the internet, it's appropriate to put it on here!!!
BEST Friends
Fight for you
Respect you
Include you
Encourage you
Need you
Deserve you
Stand by you "
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"A good friend sent me this message about friends which was found on the internet, it's appropriate to put it on here!!!
BEST Friends
Fight for you
Respect you
Include you
Encourage you
Need you
Deserve you
Stand by you "
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"Everybody has different versions of what a friendship is....
To me a friend is somebody who is there for you no matter what, who will phone you, meet in person, who is not afraid to tell you anything because they trust you & value your friendship to be able to tell really intimate & personal details about yourself!!
I hate the penpal friendships where you're just texting or emailing people & not picking up the phone to chat to people or not meeting them in person, to me that's not a friendship, well it's not a type of friendship I would like or want.....
What does a friend mean to you!! How far have you gone for a friend that meant so much to you!!? Tell us your stories pretty please!!
A friend is someone, that it is ok to fart in front of.
lol but you could be right... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've met a few people here and they have become some my best friends, sadly they have left or being removed from the site!
That what happens to honest people who don't put up with the bullshit... |
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"I've met a few people here and they have become some my best friends, sadly they have left or being removed from the site!
That what happens to honest people who don't put up with the bullshit... "
Did you remain good pals after they left? |
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"I've met a few people here and they have become some my best friends, sadly they have left or being removed from the site!
That what happens to honest people who don't put up with the bullshit...
Did you remain good pals after they left? "
Yep...thankfully we chat almost every day and coffee most weeks too... |
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"I've met a few people here and they have become some my best friends, sadly they have left or being removed from the site!
That what happens to honest people who don't put up with the bullshit...
Did you remain good pals after they left?
Yep...thankfully we chat almost every day and coffee most weeks too..."
that's a solid friendship and good to hear. |
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"I've met a few people here and they have become some my best friends, sadly they have left or being removed from the site!
That what happens to honest people who don't put up with the bullshit... "
a worthy friend! |
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"Everybody has different versions of what a friendship is....
To me a friend is somebody who is there for you no matter what, who will phone you, meet in person, who is not afraid to tell you anything because they trust you & value your friendship to be able to tell really intimate & personal details about yourself!!
I hate the penpal friendships where you're just texting or emailing people & not picking up the phone to chat to people or not meeting them in person, to me that's not a friendship, well it's not a type of friendship I would like or want.....
What does a friend mean to you!! How far have you gone for a friend that meant so much to you!!? Tell us your stories pretty please!! "
First of all congrats on a great thread Rosebud
I have all types of friends who live all over the world as I spent my youth working abroad..... Some of them I haven't seen in a long time but we write every Christmas, we share wonderful memories so I must still class them my friend.... I know a girl since I was 5 years old, she is a conservative lady but she is a fine friend as she was there for me in times of need, however I would never shock her by revealing my parallel world...does that make her less my friend? I don't know!!!. I was in New York in October and saw some friends that I hadn't seen in five years it was amazing catching up..... They know me very well although I hesitate to reveal my "fab" life.... I did have another friend whom I helped through an acrimonious divorce however she was not there for me in my time in need..... I wish her well in life but I don't need her kind of friendship..... Thank God I didn't reveal my deepest secret...
Lastly I have met a true friend on fab who knows more about me than anyone and I treasure her friendship.....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Aww that's lovely Moca, yes I definitely agree with you, if a friend does not support you through tough times despite you being there for them, they're not worth bothering about..... true friends will be there for each other no matter what, through good times & bad!! |
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I have all types of friends, the texting ones that live far away and can't always meet up. And the ones that are a stones throw away from me that I may not see too often due to being busy (me & them) but I know if I went to them it'd be like we were never out of touch.
I love the fact that I still have my closest friends from childhood still in my life, the ones that know the worst about me as well as the best and I can count on to this day and vice versa. To me that's true friendship.
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"I have all types of friends, the texting ones that live far away and can't always meet up. And the ones that are a stones throw away from me that I may not see too often due to being busy (me & them) but I know if I went to them it'd be like we were never out of touch.
I love the fact that I still have my closest friends from childhood still in my life, the ones that know the worst about me as well as the best and I can count on to this day and vice versa. To me that's true friendship.
Tina "
I don't have friends from childhood so you're very lucky you do, they sound great & that's what it's about, friends that will be there for you no matter what!! |
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"I have all types of friends, the texting ones that live far away and can't always meet up. And the ones that are a stones throw away from me that I may not see too often due to being busy (me & them) but I know if I went to them it'd be like we were never out of touch.
I love the fact that I still have my closest friends from childhood still in my life, the ones that know the worst about me as well as the best and I can count on to this day and vice versa. To me that's true friendship.
Tina
I don't have friends from childhood so you're very lucky you do, they sound great & that's what it's about, friends that will be there for you no matter what!! "
Oh we used to kill each other as kids but we always had each others back at the same time. And now our kids are good friends with each other too, I only hope their still as strong in their friendship as we are when their our ages |
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I have friends through the different stages of my life, childhood friends work friends. and I can say I have made friends on this site too.... if I let you into my life I treat you like and how I want to be treated. friends will not hurt you they make you laugh there for you when you need them. . if they hurt you in anyway then they are not a friend. |
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We're all human, we make mistakes & if a friend hurts you & visa versa, you talk it through then forgive that person...... it may take a while but you would...... you won't give up on that person that is, if you valued that person in the first place....
That's what a good friend is about, about being able to forgive forget & move on & become the best of friends again, if anything you become closer as friends!! |
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"We're all human, we make mistakes & if a friend hurts you & visa versa, you talk it through then forgive that person...... it may take a while but you would...... you won't give up on that person that is, if you valued that person in the first place....
That's what a good friend is about, about being able to forgive forget & move on & become the best of friends again, if anything you become closer as friends!! "
I agree with what you say....but unfortunately sometimes one of the parties ends up hating the other person so much that even the UN couldn't sort things out.  |
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"We're all human, we make mistakes & if a friend hurts you & visa versa, you talk it through then forgive that person...... it may take a while but you would...... you won't give up on that person that is, if you valued that person in the first place....
That's what a good friend is about, about being able to forgive forget & move on & become the best of friends again, if anything you become closer as friends!!
I agree with what you say....but unfortunately sometimes one of the parties ends up hating the other person so much that even the UN couldn't sort things out. "
Then that's a sad case of affairs..... |
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"We're all human, we make mistakes & if a friend hurts you & visa versa, you talk it through then forgive that person...... it may take a while but you would...... you won't give up on that person that is, if you valued that person in the first place....
That's what a good friend is about, about being able to forgive forget & move on & become the best of friends again, if anything you become closer as friends!!
I agree with what you say....but unfortunately sometimes one of the parties ends up hating the other person so much that even the UN couldn't sort things out.
Then that's a sad case of affairs..... "
I agree |
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By *arkedMan
over a year ago
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"We're all human, we make mistakes & if a friend hurts you & visa versa, you talk it through then forgive that person...... it may take a while but you would...... you won't give up on that person that is, if you valued that person in the first place....
That's what a good friend is about, about being able to forgive forget & move on & become the best of friends again, if anything you become closer as friends!! "
If they hurt me but it was by accident, then nothing's changed and my friendship for them would be as strong as ever. However if they hurt me deliberately: I honestly don't think I would want to carry that 'friendship' on because I don't want anyone in my life who will deliberately hurt me, never mind someone who thinks of themselves as a friend.... |
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Yeah, it's a different story if a friend hurts you deliberately, I wouldn't then consider them as much of a friend..... However, I would be prepared to give them a chance to redeem themselves, everybody deserves a 2nd chance I think...... but it also depends on what they did though too, some things are just not worth the forgiveness.....
What would make me not forgive a friend is if I was in a relationship and or married & she came on to my boyfriend or husband, well then that wouldn't be on..... there'd be no 2nd chances then.....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I found this on the internet & thought it should be shared on this thread!!
What is a good friend?
It's someone who:
You can trust won't judge you.
Won't deliberately hurt your feelings but will show kindness and respect.
Will love you, not because they feel they have to but because they choose to.
You can depend on, who is loyal and whose company you enjoy.
Will be there no matter what your situation is.
Is trustworthy and not afraid to tell you the truth no matter how hard it is sometimes.
Can laugh when you laugh.
Can cry when you cry.
Makes you smile.
Accepts you for who you are and lend you an ear when you need to whine or complain.
Who is not afraid to tell them these words - I love you.
Maybe there's more, if so, please feel free to add to the list. Just so you know, I added the last one that's listed!! |
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This is for the lads....
Why do guys/men tell you they want to be friends when in reality they don't want it at all.....?
Why don't you say it straight, at least that way it's clear what you want?? I prefer you were straight & honest with me because that would stop me from wasting time on a friendship when it's not going to be reciprocated.....
I appreciate your views/opinions on this matter thank you!! xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is for the lads....
Why do guys/men tell you they want to be friends when in reality they don't want it at all.....?
Why don't you say it straight, at least that way it's clear what you want?? I prefer you were straight & honest with me because that would stop me from wasting time on a friendship when it's not going to be reciprocated.....
I appreciate your views/opinions on this matter thank you!! xx "
to true. If nsa is what your looking for then just say. Alot of other's are also only looking for nsa meets, plenty that could possibly match. No need to lie. |
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It's when they want a relationship but then change their mind a few months later & throw the friend card at you..... surely that's when you guys should say you'd rather we went our separate ways.....
.... it's very hurtful when you're working hard on a friendship, being very adult about things & he's not caring & does his best to avoid you when you meet up on a nite out!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you treat the friends you have made on the site different to the friends you have outside of here.....??
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I have friends that I can always rely on and they can rely on me for anything. For a chat or a lend of a motor. Friends are hard to find and keep. I have made friends on here. I wish more friends was swinging so we can have fun together in the bedroom too. . I am here to have fun and get all the girls gushing. It's a big surprise when the woman does it for the first time. Hopefully we can meet and make friends. |
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"Saw this the other day:
A friend will listen to your bullshit
Will tell you its bullshit
And then listen to more of your bullshit. "
lol but so true!!! |
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"This is for the lads....
Why do guys/men tell you they want to be friends when in reality they don't want it at all.....?
Why don't you say it straight, at least that way it's clear what you want?? I prefer you were straight & honest with me because that would stop me from wasting time on a friendship when it's not going to be reciprocated.....
I appreciate your views/opinions on this matter thank you!! xx "
In my experience when people say let's be friends it's actually code for " please don't trash my house and spread nasty rumours about me because I broke up with you" and when people say "yes of course we'll stay friends" what they are actually thinking is "how awkward! Hr thinks we can be friends after this ffs not a hope"
Hope this helps! |
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I have a cup which says "I love my computer, all my friends live in there"!!!
To a certain extent I do feel that's true. There are friends I met online who I would trust with my life. They know all my secrets and not once have they ever passed judgement and just accept me for who I am. In one respect the anonymity of the Internet can lead to the creating of an open friendship like that.
In real life I have very few people I would genuinely call friends but one lives in South Africa and another in Germany!!! Neither know my secrets and I'd never see them as a shoulder to cry in but I know both would drop everything and come home if I needed them! |
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To answer your comment Rough&Curvy, yes it does help thanks!!
However, when somebody says they want to be friends I take it seriously..... sometimes when you feel it could be a good friendship which is worth persuing, it's very hurtful when you discover the guy doesn't want your friendship...
I wish ye guys could tell us straight out you don't want the friendship, I can then move on better...... instead, believing that the guy meant what he said about wanting to be friends...... it makes it all the more hurtful when they avoid you deliberately when they could just say it straight out ffs!!
What's the matter with ye guys, some of us girls have sensitive souls..... |
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"To answer your comment Rough&Curvy, yes it does help thanks!!
However, when somebody says they want to be friends I take it seriously..... sometimes when you feel it could be a good friendship which is worth persuing, it's very hurtful when you discover the guy doesn't want your friendship...
I wish ye guys could tell us straight out you don't want the friendship, I can then move on better...... instead, believing that the guy meant what he said about wanting to be friends...... it makes it all the more hurtful when they avoid you deliberately when they could just say it straight out ffs!!
What's the matter with ye guys, some of us girls have sensitive souls..... "
So my question is did he ask to be friends or did you?
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"To answer your comment Rough&Curvy, yes it does help thanks!!
However, when somebody says they want to be friends I take it seriously..... sometimes when you feel it could be a good friendship which is worth persuing, it's very hurtful when you discover the guy doesn't want your friendship...
I wish ye guys could tell us straight out you don't want the friendship, I can then move on better...... instead, believing that the guy meant what he said about wanting to be friends...... it makes it all the more hurtful when they avoid you deliberately when they could just say it straight out ffs!!
What's the matter with ye guys, some of us girls have sensitive souls.....
So my question is did he ask to be friends or did you?
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He said he would like us to be friends..... |
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See if you were friends for years then yeah he's being harsh by not keeping his word, if it's someone you casually dated briefly then it's more like let's be civil if we happen to cross paths again. But I guess every situation is different |
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Situations change and what happened a few months can change if u can't be friend's just move on and leave it in the past were it belongs ..move on with your future.. |
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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago
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My best female friend is my wife.
My best make friend which I know since 25 years or longer...I am living him so much I would share everything with him...everything with a meaning in my life. And I know he thinks the same. Our bond is so intense that people feel it when we are together, e.g giving a gig after years we haven't met and rehearsed.
The live to a friend is as intense as to a spouse....except that friends often manage to stay soul mates whilst spouses often convert over time into room mates. Luckily my hotwife and I turned back into souk mate levels before it was too late
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"To answer your comment Rough&Curvy, yes it does help thanks!!
However, when somebody says they want to be friends I take it seriously..... sometimes when you feel it could be a good friendship which is worth persuing, it's very hurtful when you discover the guy doesn't want your friendship...
I wish ye guys could tell us straight out you don't want the friendship, I can then move on better...... instead, believing that the guy meant what he said about wanting to be friends...... it makes it all the more hurtful when they avoid you deliberately when they could just say it straight out ffs!!
What's the matter with ye guys, some of us girls have sensitive souls.....
So my question is did he ask to be friends or did you?
He said he would like us to be friends....."
Eh, call me a cynic, but I don't believe straight men have any interest in being 'friends' with women. |
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By *ceryMan
over a year ago
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To bounce back a song from one of your favourite groups ..... Friends will be Friends.
If you want to take friendship to the next level and it does not work out is the base friendship like in the song strong enough to revert to friendship.
Could there be a sense of conquest and trophyisim. Been there seen that gone as far as it can then move on.
Or is could it be a sense of embarrassment, realising that maybe the next stage of friendship is not really what the individual wanted in the first place and finds it difficult to revert.
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"To answer your comment Rough&Curvy, yes it does help thanks!!
However, when somebody says they want to be friends I take it seriously..... sometimes when you feel it could be a good friendship which is worth persuing, it's very hurtful when you discover the guy doesn't want your friendship...
I wish ye guys could tell us straight out you don't want the friendship, I can then move on better...... instead, believing that the guy meant what he said about wanting to be friends...... it makes it all the more hurtful when they avoid you deliberately when they could just say it straight out ffs!!
What's the matter with ye guys, some of us girls have sensitive souls.....
So my question is did he ask to be friends or did you?
He said he would like us to be friends.....
Eh, call me a cynic, but I don't believe straight men have any interest in being 'friends' with women."
"Cynic" .... in a friendly way. |
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Eh, call me a cynic, but I don't believe straight men have any interest in being 'friends' with women.
Ah now he'll be your friend if you'll be his fb... "
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By *ceryMan
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Eh, call me a cynic, but I don't believe straight men have any interest in being 'friends' with women.
Ah now he'll be your friend if you'll be his fb... "
Got to work the crowd you know.. It's not only in show business or politics you've got to do this... |
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"Situations change and what happened a few months can change if u can't be friend's just move on and leave it in the past were it belongs ..move on with your future.."
Yes you are right I will!! Xx |
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