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By *razy-Cpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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I (mrs crazy) got a "free pass" , we shall call it , for a meet tonite if a want too , as he really isnt into the scene as much as me as at the moment we cant play together due to family stuff, the last thing on his mind is meeting for now.
He knows i love the scene , and a guy has asked to meet us both tonite and he wont but tells me i can , as he wont be home til very late tonite anyway.
We dont play seperately and never have , but circumstances have risen and it seems that the only way for me to have fun is on my own for now , with his full approval.
Thoughts on this anyone ?
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By *razy-Cpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Go have fun and tell him about! I do it and he loves it! And I get to hear all about his  "
He does say that it does turn him on the thoughts of me playing on my own and even tells me to make sure i still smell of sex when i come home for him, so he can taste it lol , but still not sure what to do
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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only way to find out if you're into playing solo is to do it!  might be it's not for you and you'd prefer to only play when he's around.. or it might be that you find a while new way to have fun on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another lucky Mrs take your pass if turning you both on about it, very sexy knowing you have his permission and trust, your going home to him and its a treat not a regular xxxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Go have fun and tell him about! I do it and he loves it! And I get to hear all about his
He does say that it does turn him on the thoughts of me playing on my own and even tells me to make sure i still smell of sex when i come home for him, so he can taste it lol , but still not sure what to do
Mrs crazy "
Hey sexy peeps!
You guys are rock solid.... Ye have a very strong relationship and I'm sure ye have spoken in depth about this...
Remember..if you're not comfortable at any point, you can get up and leave..
Go with your gut feeling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had this too Mrs Crazy ,never taken it up tho as not sure if it's what I'd feel comfortable with .Decision,decisions eh but good luck whatever you decide xx |
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By *razy-Cpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Go have fun and tell him about! I do it and he loves it! And I get to hear all about his
He does say that it does turn him on the thoughts of me playing on my own and even tells me to make sure i still smell of sex when i come home for him, so he can taste it lol , but still not sure what to do
Mrs crazy
Hey sexy peeps!
You guys are rock solid.... Ye have a very strong relationship and I'm sure ye have spoken in depth about this...
Remember..if you're not comfortable at any point, you can get up and leave..
Go with your gut feeling "
Aww thanks guys ,
Yes we have discussed this alot , but u never know til u try it ,
Mrs crazy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Go have fun and tell him about! I do it and he loves it! And I get to hear all about his
He does say that it does turn him on the thoughts of me playing on my own and even tells me to make sure i still smell of sex when i come home for him, so he can taste it lol , but still not sure what to do
Mrs crazy
Hey sexy peeps!
You guys are rock solid.... Ye have a very strong relationship and I'm sure ye have spoken in depth about this...
Remember..if you're not comfortable at any point, you can get up and leave..
Go with your gut feeling
Aww thanks guys ,
Yes we have discussed this alot , but u never know til u try it ,
Mrs crazy "
I was really nervous the first time I did it and probably worse the first time he did.. But honestly now I love it. And he loves hearing about it. And as said remember you can leave at any time (which I have done a few times) . You set the pace and enjoy yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I (mrs crazy) got a "free pass" , we shall call it , for a meet tonite if a want too , as he really isnt into the scene as much as me as at the moment we cant play together due to family stuff, the last thing on his mind is meeting for now.
He knows i love the scene , and a guy has asked to meet us both tonite and he wont but tells me i can , as he wont be home til very late tonite anyway.
We dont play seperately and never have , but circumstances have risen and it seems that the only way for me to have fun is on my own for now , with his full approval.
Thoughts on this anyone ?
Mrs crazy "
Sounds like a trap to me, a modern day Fab-ised parable that could have been in the Old book......only joking, go out and have some fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I were you I wouldn't.....if all along you say you only play together and now there's a 'once off' alone play , it's the beginning of the end ...sorry
Apples"
I don't agree. My husband and I have been meeting separately for 3 years and we are closer than ever. We make sure we have our time together and do date nights etc. Sex is better than when we first met and there is nothing I can't tell him. It all depends on your relationship. And crazycpl have a fantastic relationship with complete trust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For once I don't agree with Ollie and his gorgeous Apples. When my hub said to me I should play alone it took me several months indeed 2 years to actually start playing at all. He, like your hub, goes to all the socials and parties but very rarely plays. It really turns him on though when I play. At first I was disgusted by the thought of him pawning me off to another man. However when I took the initiative myself and chose my own play partners it started to be alot of fun. Just knowing you can have whoever you want whenever you want is a turn on. I think you just need to jump the hurdle. Key of course is that your relationship has a solid foundation and that you keep mr. in the loop and send him pics or let him listen in while you are away. It has actually enhanced our relationship and for crazy, creative free birds like us it cuts the ropes of conventional marriage or partnership that tie us down and yet we both always fly home. It's just sometimes,in fact a lot of the time, quite frustrating when I fancy the ass of some guy but it can only happen if that other guy's partner plays with my hub.as in wife/partner sharing. My advice - give it a shot, go home smelling of sex and enjoy the reclaim. Xxxhotwife |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a pass for this weekend and yes im taking it one to one does no harm as long as you are both 100% with it. A little extra spice goes a long way
That's it exactly have a fantastic time "
Thank you we have been doing one to one for a year an it works great for us. Has also added a lot more excitement in our own bedroom department lol  |
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By *razy-Cpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"For once I don't agree with Ollie and his gorgeous Apples. When my hub said to me I should play alone it took me several months indeed 2 years to actually start playing at all. He, like your hub, goes to all the socials and parties but very rarely plays. It really turns him on though when I play. At first I was disgusted by the thought of him pawning me off to another man. However when I took the initiative myself and chose my own play partners it started to be alot of fun. Just knowing you can have whoever you want whenever you want is a turn on. I think you just need to jump the hurdle. Key of course is that your relationship has a solid foundation and that you keep mr. in the loop and send him pics or let him listen in while you are away. It has actually enhanced our relationship and for crazy, creative free birds like us it cuts the ropes of conventional marriage or partnership that tie us down and yet we both always fly home. It's just sometimes,in fact a lot of the time, quite frustrating when I fancy the ass of some guy but it can only happen if that other guy's partner plays with my hub.as in wife/partner sharing. My advice - give it a shot, go home smelling of sex and enjoy the reclaim. Xxxhotwife"
 very good advice here , he has been trying to get me to meet alone for some time now and i just keep putting him off it , and its him who keeps bringing it up , not me , even when we are playing he says it and it always drives him over the edge so to speak lol , and yes leting him listen in and sending him pics is whats he would love too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey girlie,
You two have an amazing, strong and trusting relationship.
If Mr is comfortable with it and you are too then go for it.
If you have any doubts about it, maybe leave it off or look at it for a later date?
Either way, I know you two are being honest with each other and will only move ahead once it feels right fire both of you
Good luck babe, with whatever you decide to do xx
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By *razy-Cpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Hey girlie,
You two have an amazing, strong and trusting relationship.
If Mr is comfortable with it and you are too then go for it.
If you have any doubts about it, maybe leave it off or look at it for a later date?
Either way, I know you two are being honest with each other and will only move ahead once it feels right fire both of you
Good luck babe, with whatever you decide to do xx
Clementine "
Thanks hun , yes honesty is a big thing for us and it has been discussed alot , but thats what this site can offer is variety i suppose
Mrs crazy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My thoughts are that you are going to get conflicting advice here based on what people would like to do themselves and the only person you should really be discussing it with is your partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi there mrs crazy i met you both at redsetters party a While back and you both are wonderful people.i wish you luck in whatever you decide you are after getting very good advice from holly a good friend of mine and who definitely knows what she is talking about so go for it hun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I were you I wouldn't.....if all along you say you only play together and now there's a 'once off' alone play , it's the beginning of the end ...sorry
Apples"
We only ever play together, each to their own kink but ours is never playing alone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My thoughts are that you are going to get conflicting advice here based on what people would like to do themselves and the only person you should really be discussing it with is your partner."
I agree with Casey
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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Don't really know u both although I have met ye briefly at a social by the sounds of it ye have had extended convos about this,even while having sex as u say it tips him over the top. I like to think fab has opened new doors for me to peer trough and close if I wish or explore more if I find it interesting Take this as a new door dip ur toe and see where it takes u both.
Having done a variation of the over phone meet with a lady off here last year it was hot as fook listening as she was fooked by a guy I had no idea what he was like but instructing him as to what she liked and him carring out the instruction was mind blowing but the key was the build up the texts and pics as she went to meet him what she was wearing how they were getting on till they got to the bed room and I spoke to him for the first time. Afterwards she was delighted with the results and he went away very happy while I had to clean up at the other end of the phone
I think keeping me crazy in the loop as it progresses with text and pics even a call if ye get that far will leave him panting for u when u get home smelling of this other guy as u strok his cock telling him every thing how u felt,what u were thinking,how hard u came. Go for it is not be swinging only that u went for that first meet together why not expand the experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mrs.C it's entirely up to you, if your feeling unsure about it id say your not up for it yet!
If your fine with it and would like to try the new experience go for it...
It's your call xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I know it would turn me on if herself played alone, we're very much in love with each other. It's something we have talked about but have yet to try it. Herself has also giving me the free pass but if I'm honest I would be more turned on by her playing alone. So please let us know how you get on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know it would turn me on if herself played alone, we're very much in love with each other. It's something we have talked about but have yet to try it. Herself has also giving me the free pass but if I'm honest I would be more turned on by her playing alone. So please let us know how you get on"
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Just so long as both of u are happy with u playing alone n d guy is not pushy . I think u really want to do it n only asking our permission to do it . Lol I say go for it but let us know how u get on . Enjoy urself don't feel guilty ok |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know it would turn me on if herself played alone, we're very much in love with each other. It's something we have talked about but have yet to try it. Herself has also giving me the free pass but if I'm honest I would be more turned on by her playing alone. So please let us know how you get on
Mr Gee,s twin "
Great minds think alike. Sure I'd say me and him could sit and chat for ages about gearboxes and slipping the clutch |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know it would turn me on if herself played alone, we're very much in love with each other. It's something we have talked about but have yet to try it. Herself has also giving me the free pass but if I'm honest I would be more turned on by her playing alone. So please let us know how you get on
Mr Gee,s twin
Great minds think alike. Sure I'd say me and him could sit and chat for ages about gearboxes and slipping the clutch"
You should try a BBC party, there's a table of husbands/partners talking gearboxes while we try the stick shifts... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Very interesting read...
But you haven't said how you would feel if he wanted to play alone?
Go with your gut feeling x"
That is a whole different kettle of fish not to be confused with this discussion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know it would turn me on if herself played alone, we're very much in love with each other. It's something we have talked about but have yet to try it. Herself has also giving me the free pass but if I'm honest I would be more turned on by her playing alone. So please let us know how you get on
Mr Gee,s twin
Great minds think alike. Sure I'd say me and him could sit and chat for ages about gearboxes and slipping the clutch
You should try a BBC party, there's a table of husbands/partners talking gearboxes while we try the stick shifts..."
There will be no TV station getting involved, I don't care if their from Tg, RTE,UTV SKY1 OR CHANNEL 4 |
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By *razy-Cpl OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Very interesting read...
But you haven't said how you would feel if he wanted to play alone?
Go with your gut feeling x"
He has no interest in playing on his own, to be honest he isnt too interested in swinging for the moment either, but me playing alone is defo what he wants to try as it turns him on
Mrs crazy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi Mrs Crazy, we have a similar issue/opportunity but its reversed, I (male half) got a free pass with one person we had already met as Jiggle (female half) is far too busy for past and next few months. But I haven't taken the opportunity. My advice would be go to a party and play on your own with someone when your partner is around but not with you, that way you have the security of your partner being close by but the opportunity of playing alone, and see how it goes. If ye are both ok with it after then maybe expand out to meeting on your own but make sure you check in with your partner several times during the meet and let the person you are meeting know you will be expected to do that. The only concern i would have make sure you are comfortable with the person you are meeting on your own.
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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From the very start of this journey we discussed all what we might like to try and agreed if there was something one of was not comfortable with then it wouldn't happen again... We found everything is fine in theory but you won't know till you try....talking is the key and realising that sex is just that sex...loveing someone and sharing a life is completely different |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Probably only way to know is to give it a try !For us Mr never plays has no interest at all its only mmf etc or watching me . we were chatting for ages about me playing on my own and sending pics etc . we tried it once and it drove him mad because he wanted to join in & made it home very quickly
Everyone to there own but I suppose you will never know unless you try !
Enjoy xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I were you I wouldn't.....if all along you say you only play together and now there's a 'once off' alone play , it's the beginning of the end ...sorry
Apples"
I've seen it too many times on here  |
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By *murphMan
over a year ago
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Hi being a single guy on here and have met a few partners alone it is hot with the other partner watching or listening in but I always like to speak to both beforehand so I feel that they are comfortable with it if you feel it is right go for it |
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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago
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"If I were you I wouldn't.....if all along you say you only play together and now there's a 'once off' alone play , it's the beginning of the end ...sorry
Apples
I've seen it too many times on here "
I would assume that a number of factors lead to the break up...not the playing away from home on its own |
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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago
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"From the very start of this journey we discussed all what we might like to try and agreed if there was something one of was not comfortable with then it wouldn't happen again... We found everything is fine in theory but you won't know till you try....talking is the key and realising that sex is just that sex...loveing someone and sharing a life is completely different"
Mostly I agree. But sex is for me/us not just only sex. A little passion is for us mandatory...and yes ...This passion can become a risk if the primary relation us nit build on a rock solid fundament |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I (mrs crazy) got a "free pass" , we shall call it , for a meet tonite if a want too , as he really isnt into the scene as much as me as at the moment we cant play together due to family stuff, the last thing on his mind is meeting for now.
He knows i love the scene , and a guy has asked to meet us both tonite and he wont but tells me i can , as he wont be home til very late tonite anyway.
We dont play seperately and never have , but circumstances have risen and it seems that the only way for me to have fun is on my own for now , with his full approval.
Thoughts on this anyone ?
Mrs crazy "
Been told several times to go do my own thing but I wont. Why? Id rather spend playtime with kitty. Kitty has played with women separately and I don't mind this in the least. I actually quite enjoy hearing about it afterwards.
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"Another lucky Mrs take your pass if turning you both on about it, very sexy knowing you have his permission and trust, your going home to him and its a treat not a regular xxxxxx"
This. |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"Another lucky Mrs take your pass if turning you both on about it, very sexy knowing you have his permission and trust, your going home to him and its a treat not a regular xxxxxx
This. "
Agree.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive a brill idea. If you do decide to go for it, why not go on cam on this site? That way we can keep an eye on proceedings and give you our honest opinion later on our thoughts about were you really enjoying it or not. Totally independent non biased opinions just might help. |
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"If I were you I wouldn't.....if all along you say you only play together and now there's a 'once off' alone play , it's the beginning of the end ...sorry
Apples
I've seen it too many times on here
I would assume that a number of factors lead to the break up...not the playing away from home on its own "
I believe what Apples and Sam were saying was that we've lost a few great couples that we considered friends from the scene..that also seemed in very close relationships..... only for them to seperate further to agreeing to this type of even "more" open arrangement....
It's not an ends to a means for us but an add on...a very enjoyable add on.
Having met the Shelicious' at a recent soiree I can see you guys are very much in love, so it obviously works for you.
Anyone who've ever met the Crazies cant fail to break a smile, you guys light up a room....but like ourselves... i beleive its team crazy whose whole is way greater then its parts.
ps.Sorry about spelling...new rubbish phone...
Ollie |
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"If I were you I wouldn't.....if all along you say you only play together and now there's a 'once off' alone play , it's the beginning of the end ...sorry
Apples
I've seen it too many times on here
I would assume that a number of factors lead to the break up...not the playing away from home on its own
I believe what Apples and Sam were saying was that we've lost a few great couples that we considered friends from the scene..that also seemed in very close relationships..... only for them to seperate further to agreeing to this type of even "more" open arrangement....
It's not an ends to a means for us but an add on...a very enjoyable add on.
Having met the Shelicious' at a recent soiree I can see you guys are very much in love, so it obviously works for you.
Anyone who've ever met the Crazies cant fail to break a smile, you guys light up a room....but like ourselves... i beleive its team crazy whose whole is way greater then its parts.
ps.Sorry about spelling...new rubbish phone...
Ollie"
What works for us is the freedom, or at least the illusion of freedom, and not feeling constrained by the bonds of marriage. Hubby was a libertine way before I met him and I am a free spirit so we both get claustrophobic quickly so swinging takes that feeling away. I hardly ever play away but the knowledge that I can if I want is enough. I have yet to meet a man who can give me more than my husband does. Plus it's handy at parties to be able to wander off and do my own thing and know that hubby comes looking and enjoys what he sees. Yes, very liberating. Having said that if we meet a couple where all 4 click then that is wonderful too, but in 1 year of swinging that has actually only happened with three couples. |
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