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Just a question of morality.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Purely a hypothetical question.
What would you do if someone you knew very well decided to out you as being a fab member? Even passing around some of your fab photos on social network sites to a point that your family got word. Again I stress that this is purely hypothetical and didn't happen to M. This hypothetical person isn't a member of fab and doesn't post on the forums quite a bit.
So people. Hypothetically speaking? What would YOU do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would curl up and die  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd think I'd be hypothetically calling to his door for some hypothetical answers... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id get a few friends to visit...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've nothing to hide but I have lots of conservative friends...
So I actually don't know... |
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By *londegemWoman
over a year ago
my own little world |
Honestly .....I kick his feckin ass so hard his balls would be in his face cheeks ....I wouldn't hide I stand up admit it ....up to them if they don't remain in my life ...but we're all different .... |
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By *ar31Man
over a year ago
dublin |
Most definitely a call to there door it's ur personal business he's spreading no matter what the content is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You know I am at a point in my life were I would have three reactions:
Initially it's obviously the embarrassment with family and community and co workers and the whispers and sniggers it may garner.
Then it's the fury that someone would break a trust of privacy through a selfish malice fuelled by fuck knows what.
But the third and most important is my acceptance that I am a sexual being. I love sex I especially I sharing and exploring this most primal and base pleasure. And to connect with someone sexually with a trust that can waver between massively powerful yet such a vulnerable experience and explore it . I am just thank fun for having tasted a piece or life.
By the way had a few scoops and could be just ranting. No offence or ego intended.
Enough of that I am shure the was more wine somewhere. |
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I wouldn't be impressed with the person, but I'd wouldn't see it as a threat, if that makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would politely ask them to retract such things and if they didn't we would be calling a couple of Gardaí friends to see what can be done legally
Tomcat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they are posting on social media you can probably report the content, also there has probably beem no "model approval" given. Yes you can take photos but you have to be very careful about publishing them. That's why you'll see Irish papers very slow in publishing any photo inside a house... Remember putting content on line is publication.... I'm not a lawyer but I've been known to take a few photos for organisation's and taking the photo is the easy part. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone has a pressure point. Find theirs...... |
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A guy tried to blackmail me he knew me but I did not know him n I just called his bluff n told him to go n feick off n heard nothing got him trown off of here |
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By *un17Man
over a year ago
Ennis |
Unless you have face pics up he can't prove it's you so send him a solicitors letter there is no point in calling to that pricks door |
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By *ir1967Man
over a year ago
in da sticks, london, amsterdam, madrid |
Publishing any pictures of me and my hot wife without my permission ends in a court case with a claim that high, this person will need charities subsidy to survive
Concerning any potential embarrassment I am not to worried as among my networks I am known as an eccentric libertine  ...and where I come from, people usually embrace their sexuality |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When M told me what was going on I thought he was just over thinking stuff. He's guilty of that. When he showed me my blood turned cold. How he got through it I'll never know.
He held out the olive branch a few times. He went to the cops. He reported it to admin. He deleted off here and all social sites. He explained everything to his family. He contacted a mutual friend to try to reason with this person. Nothing worked.
Of course this is all hypothetical. Such a thing could never happen on a place like this. Never. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it is all hypothetical I would have included a version of a profile name. Afterall if they don't have a profile or post nobody wud worry |
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"When M told me what was going on I thought he was just over thinking stuff. He's guilty of that. When he showed me my blood turned cold. How he got through it I'll never know.
He held out the olive branch a few times. He went to the cops. He reported it to admin. He deleted off here and all social sites. He explained everything to his family. He contacted a mutual friend to try to reason with this person. Nothing worked.
Of course this is all hypothetical. Such a thing could never happen on a place like this. Never. "
That's a serious hypothetical vendetta from a seriously fucked up hypothetical person.
If regal routes were proving fruitless I'd be considering hired goons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go to the police. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When M told me what was going on I thought he was just over thinking stuff. He's guilty of that. When he showed me my blood turned cold. How he got through it I'll never know.
He held out the olive branch a few times. He went to the cops. He reported it to admin. He deleted off here and all social sites. He explained everything to his family. He contacted a mutual friend to try to reason with this person. Nothing worked.
Of course this is all hypothetical. Such a thing could never happen on a place like this. Never.
That's a serious hypothetical vendetta from a seriously fucked up hypothetical person.
If regal routes were proving fruitless I'd be considering hired goons."
We don't know any goons. We did look in the yellow pages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When M told me what was going on I thought he was just over thinking stuff. He's guilty of that. When he showed me my blood turned cold. How he got through it I'll never know.
He held out the olive branch a few times. He went to the cops. He reported it to admin. He deleted off here and all social sites. He explained everything to his family. He contacted a mutual friend to try to reason with this person. Nothing worked.
Of course this is all hypothetical. Such a thing could never happen on a place like this. Never.
That's a serious hypothetical vendetta from a seriously fucked up hypothetical person.
If regal routes were proving fruitless I'd be considering hired goons.
We don't know any goons. We did look in the yellow pages. "
Hypothetically, if he did all of the above, including talking to his family, is the matter now sorted? Apart from the fact that a well known regular poster outed him in the way described. Hypothetically speaking of course.
ps I'm sorry that this kind of thing would ever happen to anyone x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When M told me what was going on I thought he was just over thinking stuff. He's guilty of that. When he showed me my blood turned cold. How he got through it I'll never know.
He held out the olive branch a few times. He went to the cops. He reported it to admin. He deleted off here and all social sites. He explained everything to his family. He contacted a mutual friend to try to reason with this person. Nothing worked.
Of course this is all hypothetical. Such a thing could never happen on a place like this. Never.
That's a serious hypothetical vendetta from a seriously fucked up hypothetical person.
If regal routes were proving fruitless I'd be considering hired goons.
We don't know any goons. We did look in the yellow pages.
Hypothetically, if he did all of the above, including talking to his family, is the matter now sorted? Apart from the fact that a well known regular poster outed him in the way described. Hypothetically speaking of course.
ps I'm sorry that this kind of thing would ever happen to anyone x"
The stress that you endured having to go through must have been awful. If all your efforts to deal with this person didn't work I would name and shame. If they are doing it to you and finding fun in it, whose to say they aren't doing it to someone else. Hypothetically speaking of course. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Purely a hypothetical question.
What would you do if someone you knew very well decided to out you as being a fab member? Even passing around some of your fab photos on social network sites to a point that your family got word. Again I stress that this is purely hypothetical and didn't happen to M. This hypothetical person isn't a member of fab and doesn't post on the forums quite a bit.
So people. Hypothetically speaking? What would YOU do? "
Blackmail is a crime!!!!
Go back to the cops and make them aware that this disgusting cretin can not be reasoned with.
Everyone is entitled to their privacy, being on a swing site does not give a sicko the right to make his life a misery.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When M told me what was going on I thought he was just over thinking stuff. He's guilty of that. When he showed me my blood turned cold. How he got through it I'll never know.
He held out the olive branch a few times. He went to the cops. He reported it to admin. He deleted off here and all social sites. He explained everything to his family. He contacted a mutual friend to try to reason with this person. Nothing worked.
Of course this is all hypothetical. Such a thing could never happen on a place like this. Never.
That's a serious hypothetical vendetta from a seriously fucked up hypothetical person.
If regal routes were proving fruitless I'd be considering hired goons.
We don't know any goons. We did look in the yellow pages.
Hypothetically, if he did all of the above, including talking to his family, is the matter now sorted? Apart from the fact that a well known regular poster outed him in the way described. Hypothetically speaking of course.
ps I'm sorry that this kind of thing would ever happen to anyone x
The stress that you endured having to go through must have been awful. If all your efforts to deal with this person didn't work I would name and shame. If they are doing it to you and finding fun in it, whose to say they aren't doing it to someone else. Hypothetically speaking of course."
Stress isn't the start of it. Cold sweats. No sleep. Aggressive mood swings.
I'm pretty sure it could happen to others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If no threat other than revealing your membership of Fab is being made, then legal action is fairly pointless..
Admin may and should take action..
Hypothetically if I was you I'd name and shame publically here... Even if it meant getting myself banned...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But if the person is here too sure wouldnt they be just outing them seleves too ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hypothetically this person can't do anymore damage than they already have... they almost destroyed a good, kind, wonderfully loving man.....
ALMOST..... hypothetically I won't allow that to happen....EVER!
Anyone who knows M or has read any of his forum post will know he is a fun loving guy with a wicked (if not a little dark) sense of humour...
Hypothetically all we want is get on with our lives in peace and enjoy some fun with like minded people in the process... D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I (Mr) couldn't give a rats who knows I'm a swinger. Not that I'd ever go around telling people. But if someone went about shooting their mouth off about me I wouldn't bat an eyelid. In fact I'd be wondering which of my family and friends were jealous.
In regards of Mrs Sugar it's a totally different story. Her job is a very sensitive one and the people she interacts with and has weekly meetings with in her professional life are very well known public servants.
Mrs Sugar has also been interviewed on some news and current affairs programs a few times over the years due to her expertise in certain fields so a little decorum where she is concerned is vital. |
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"Purely a hypothetical question.
What would you do if someone you knew very well decided to out you as being a fab member? Even passing around some of your fab photos on social network sites to a point that your family got word. Again I stress that this is purely hypothetical and didn't happen to M. This hypothetical person isn't a member of fab and doesn't post on the forums quite a bit.
So people. Hypothetically speaking? What would YOU do? "
I dont think i would care as some of my family and friends know im on a site the only thing they dont know is the name of the site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When M told me what was going on I thought he was just over thinking stuff. He's guilty of that. When he showed me my blood turned cold. How he got through it I'll never know.
He held out the olive branch a few times. He went to the cops. He reported it to admin. He deleted off here and all social sites. He explained everything to his family. He contacted a mutual friend to try to reason with this person. Nothing worked.
Of course this is all hypothetical. Such a thing could never happen on a place like this. Never.
That's a serious hypothetical vendetta from a seriously fucked up hypothetical person.
If regal routes were proving fruitless I'd be considering hired goons.
We don't know any goons. We did look in the yellow pages. "
Iknow a few ill sort ya |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would curl up and die "
Us too ! |
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By *arky90Couple
over a year ago
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I'd be calling around to the said person with a baseball bar lol but on a more serious note I know of a lady on here that went through a terrible time last year...a guy she was meeting wanted more than just sex and he started stalking her, calling to her work place ,threatening to post stuff on social media etc....the guard's got involved in the end...really scary stuff for her! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds a little bit too familiar.......... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If no threat other than revealing your membership of Fab is being made, then legal action is fairly pointless..
Admin may and should take action..
Hypothetically if I was you I'd name and shame publically here... Even if it meant getting myself banned...
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Yea "if" it was real I would probably do the same
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hypothetically speaking of course, we have tried to take the high road and not sink to this persons level....
We seem to have exhausted all reasonable avenues of trying to put this cruel and unjust situation to an end....
The only good thing is that I believe in Karma and Karma has a funny way of biting you in the arse when you least expect it..
So again Hypothetically this person will eventually get their just desserts.... 
Thank you on behalf of M and myself for all your Hypothetical words of support and encouragement.
D x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hypothetically speaking of course, we have tried to take the high road and not sink to this persons level....
We seem to have exhausted all reasonable avenues of trying to put this cruel and unjust situation to an end....
The only good thing is that I believe in Karma and Karma has a funny way of biting you in the arse when you least expect it..
So again Hypothetically this person will eventually get their just desserts....
Thank you on behalf of M and myself for all your Hypothetical words of support and encouragement.
D x"
Some Hypothetical people deserve a hypothetical kick in the nether regions |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hypothetically speaking of course, we have tried to take the high road and not sink to this persons level....
We seem to have exhausted all reasonable avenues of trying to put this cruel and unjust situation to an end....
The only good thing is that I believe in Karma and Karma has a funny way of biting you in the arse when you least expect it..
So again Hypothetically this person will eventually get their just desserts....
Thank you on behalf of M and myself for all your Hypothetical words of support and encouragement.
D x
Some Hypothetical people deserve a hypothetical kick in the nether regions "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hypothetically speaking of course, we have tried to take the high road and not sink to this persons level....
We seem to have exhausted all reasonable avenues of trying to put this cruel and unjust situation to an end....
The only good thing is that I believe in Karma and Karma has a funny way of biting you in the arse when you least expect it..
So again Hypothetically this person will eventually get their just desserts....
Thank you on behalf of M and myself for all your Hypothetical words of support and encouragement.
D x"
Reading what you went through just made me shudder with fear...
Fair play to you for standing up for yourself M.
I'm too a firm believer in karma..
((Hugs))
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Kind of had it happen to me ..
A user sent me a message and called me by my name.
He told me if be a shame if a family member found out but we could talk about it if I met him.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Karma Chameleon is rubbish, you want a piece of Karma Killer Whale in situations of this nature.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kind of had it happen to me ..
A user sent me a message and called me by my name.
He told me if be a shame if a family member found out but we could talk about it if I met him.
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That happened to me too. I told the person he was threatening to tell, as well as the guards, and never heard anything more. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"When M told me what was going on I thought he was just over thinking stuff. He's guilty of that. When he showed me my blood turned cold. How he got through it I'll never know.
He held out the olive branch a few times. He went to the cops. He reported it to admin. He deleted off here and all social sites. He explained everything to his family. He contacted a mutual friend to try to reason with this person. Nothing worked.
Of course this is all hypothetical. Such a thing could never happen on a place like this. Never. "
You should go back to the Authorities. Whatever site it was on ( can't figure out if it is this one you are trying not to mention that it was on ) but report it to whatever site, as if it is like this site , Admin really don't like things like this and will sort it |
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