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Having been here a while I've got Winks from guys that are straight... fine, wink back, never hear from them again, no problem!
Then looking at profiles, guy is Straight BUT looking to meet, Couples/Females, TV/CDs etc... which interprets, to me, that they are Bi.
If so many are actually BI then why not say so??
Females apparently would love to watch Bi guys so why be embarrassed about being Bi??
It can actually be disconcerting to get a wink from a guy that is straight!  |
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"Having been here a while I've got Winks from guys that are straight... fine, wink back, never hear from them again, no problem!
Then looking at profiles, guy is Straight BUT looking to meet, Couples/Females, TV/CDs etc... which interprets, to me, that they are Bi.
If so many are actually BI then why not say so??
Females apparently would love to watch Bi guys so why be embarrassed about being Bi??
It can actually be disconcerting to get a wink from a guy that is straight! "
Perhaps these guys are tired of reading your persistant posts about the subject  |
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true."
thats not a double standard. its a preference |
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true."
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference"
Agreed. Preference is preference. Plenty of straight fems also wink,but identify as 'circumstantially bi' profile states straight.
Each to their own,can only worry about ourselves as other people are entitled to their choices also.
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference"
Many couples with straight fems will meet couples with bi fems without hesitation. But ask them to meet a couple with a bi male and they'll run a mile. Just because a guy is bi doesn't mean he has to fuck the other guy, same way just cos a woman is bi she doesnt have to fuck the other woman.
Bi men are less accepted then bi fems. And in this day an age that's sad. |
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Many couples with straight fems will meet couples with bi fems without hesitation. But ask them to meet a couple with a bi male and they'll run a mile. Just because a guy is bi doesn't mean he has to fuck the other guy, same way just cos a woman is bi she doesnt have to fuck the other woman.
Bi men are less accepted then bi fems. And in this day an age that's sad."
Sorry Mingo but I still feel that its a preference. I have many gay and bi friends. Personally I am a bi female. It isn't that I'm afraid that the male is gonna be uncontrollably horny towards tomcat,but I do not find two males playing a turn on,it is in fact a turnoff for me personally. I have no issues with regards their sexual disposition,but it would be an image stuck in my head during any sexual play. Similarly if I don't find a person attractive through personality,demeanour or other,I would struggle to play with them and most certainly not play with them.
Let me also point out that as a bi fem,I do not find every single woman attractive to my tastes either.
Now let me play devils advocate,and just say that I am unaware of a persons sexual disposition,in a situation where I have not known a person to bi actively bi,then yes perhaps it has risen to on occasion an attraction there. Hence I can see where the sexual orientation labelling on a profile does effect a persons meets,but equally,in cases where someone is looking to meet with bi individuals,not having it displayed as bi on the profile also effects a person ability to get meets. Yes in a message many can say 'oh that's ok I am actually bi' but it still comes down to the other persons willingness to believe and many will not play with someone who claims to be bi,yet is labelled as straight.
Because of all if the above,I still believe it is down to personal choice on both sides. I certainly wouldn't ignore a person on the basis of their preference because lets be honest here nothing in this life is black and white,we are most of us open to new experiences.
Kitty 
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Brilliant post Kitty. Well thought out . For presenration-9/10, content-10/10. Twill be hard to beat. Unless. .....have we any contestants here from Russia or China.....??  |
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A guy contacted us with straight on profile but saying he was bi, I asked why he hadn't got it on his profile and he said it would decrease his chances of getting meets... |
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"The idea that bi men are less likely to respect the boundaries of others is a prejudice.
And that's the problem."
Regardless of the mix boundaries have to be respected, be it an m/m/f. group, dogging etc. |
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Straight-ish is less of statement of sexual experience as it is a sexual preference of their own.
Bi guys don't hook up with 50% of one sex and of course they can lean to one side in terms in future meets. For me yeah I hook up with guys but prefer the company of a woman most of the time. |
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"A guy contacted us with straight on profile but saying he was bi, I asked why he hadn't got it on his profile and he said it would decrease his chances of getting meets..."
And that's my point. It shouldn't.
Yes I agree with kitty. It's a preference. That's fine. But there's a prejudice there too. And in 2015 it shouldn't. |
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"A guy contacted us with straight on profile but saying he was bi, I asked why he hadn't got it on his profile and he said it would decrease his chances of getting meets...
And that's my point. It shouldn't.
Yes I agree with kitty. It's a preference. That's fine. But there's a prejudice there too. And in 2015 it shouldn't."
How is it prejudicial? Help me understand please,I realise that it may be my interpretation,but id like to better understand how people feel that it is prejudicial. Theres an echo with racism in my opinion. But I also feel its the individual in questions choice as to whether they are open about their sexuality or not.
Recently we experienced antagonistic behaviour because we chose not to meet an individual who happened to be coloured. Now in all honesty I had not even checked the profile,so this persons colour,sexual preference,age nor height came into my response.
Yet we were accused of racism,we could just as easily have been accused of being homophobic or sexual discrimination.
Has a guy never turned down a female on here or is that just unheard of?
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Not meeting black/Asian/white/etc cos you're not into them is a preference.
Not meeting them cos "you don't like them types" is racist.
Not meeting bi people cos you're straight and not into them is a preference
Not meeting bi people cos you're afraid they can't play straight and will make a move on you is prejudiced.
I'm not attracted to Asian women. That doesn't make me racist. But refusing to go to a party cos there would be Asians there makes me racist.
It is my opinion that a lot of people who say "no bi guys thanks, not for us" would be either or both of the couple being bi phobic.
If ground rules are established and followed sexuality is irrelevant.
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"Not meeting black/Asian/white/etc cos you're not into them is a preference.
Not meeting them cos "you don't like them types" is racist.
Not meeting bi people cos you're straight and not into them is a preference
Not meeting bi people cos you're afraid they can't play straight and will make a move on you is prejudiced.
I'm not attracted to Asian women. That doesn't make me racist. But refusing to go to a party cos there would be Asians there makes me racist.
It is my opinion that a lot of people who say "no bi guys thanks, not for us" would be either or both of the couple being bi phobic.
If ground rules are established and followed sexuality is irrelevant.
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Ok fair enough I see your point,saying that though I believe that u are making an assumption as to the reason behind people choosing not to play with bi people.
We would be in the camp that would prefer not to play with bi males,not because we believe that they would observe our boundaries,but as I mentioned before I find male on male play a turnoff. Yet both tomcat and I have good friends who are bi and also homosexual.
Only comparison I can think of would be,I hate the taste of garlic and onions,but I'm presented with a main course dinner of garlic and onions,I just couldn't make myself eat it.
Its a personal taste.
And for the record tomcat has on occasions played with couples where the male was bi,and yet there is no male play.
Have i ever played with a bi male????? Not knowingly,but then who is to say.
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"Not meeting black/Asian/white/etc cos you're not into them is a preference.
Not meeting them cos "you don't like them types" is racist.
Not meeting bi people cos you're straight and not into them is a preference
Not meeting bi people cos you're afraid they can't play straight and will make a move on you is prejudiced.
I'm not attracted to Asian women. That doesn't make me racist. But refusing to go to a party cos there would be Asians there makes me racist.
It is my opinion that a lot of people who say "no bi guys thanks, not for us" would be either or both of the couple being bi phobic.
If ground rules are established and followed sexuality is irrelevant.
Ok fair enough I see your point,saying that though I believe that u are making an assumption as to the reason behind people choosing not to play with bi people.
We would be in the camp that would prefer not to play with bi males,not because we believe that they would observe our boundaries,but as I mentioned before I find male on male play a turnoff. Yet both tomcat and I have good friends who are bi and also homosexual.
Only comparison I can think of would be,I hate the taste of garlic and onions,but I'm presented with a main course dinner of garlic and onions,I just couldn't make myself eat it.
Its a personal taste.
And for the record tomcat has on occasions played with couples where the male was bi,and yet there is no male play.
Have i ever played with a bi male????? Not knowingly,but then who is to say.
Kitty. "
I have not a single issue with that post cos its reasonable, from reasonable people. |
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And just for the record guys,in case anyone gets the wrong idea,john Mingo and I are having a discussion,such as adults do. Its not an argument nor do either of us have issues with the other party. We have in fact met up several times and enjoy such healthy discussions and debates.
Just clarifying that is all.
We are all good friends lol.
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"And just for the record guys,in case anyone gets the wrong idea,john Mingo and I are having a discussion,such as adults do. Its not an argument nor do either of us have issues with the other party. We have in fact met up several times and enjoy such healthy discussions and debates.
Just clarifying that is all.
We are all good friends lol.
Kitty "
Damn straight. (Pardon the pun)
I still wanna get into your knickers though.  |
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"I don't care if he's bi but why lie about it. Me no understand
Cos admitting you're bi reduces your chances of meets with straight people. "
Ok. Thanks for clearing that up. |
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Agreed. Preference is preference. Plenty of straight fems also wink,but identify as 'circumstantially bi' profile states straight.
Each to their own,can only worry about ourselves as other people are entitled to their choices also.
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Personal preference I can take. Total prejudice I can't. Before myself and D were a couple we had singles accounts. I was listed as straight. I was invited to s party and one of the requirements before I could attend was to show the hosts my fab account. Just to prove I wasn't bi. As it was put to me "we can't be doing with bi guys in our house. Filth".
I do admire your live and let live attitude Kitty. Do you apply it to just sexuality of life in general?
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"I don't care if he's bi but why lie about it. Me no understand
Cos admitting you're bi reduces your chances of meets with straight people. "
Being openly bi does reduce a guys chance of getting meets with straights.
There is a misconception that bisexual males are not as careful as their straight counterparts regarding their sexual health.
Then there is the assumption that bi guys are not capable of being around straights without controling their sexual urges.
Everyone here is fully entitled to their point of view, however predjudice does exist. |
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"I don't care if he's bi but why lie about it. Me no understand
Cos admitting you're bi reduces your chances of meets with straight people.
Being openly bi does reduce a guys chance of getting meets with straights.
There is a misconception that bisexual males are not as careful as their straight counterparts regarding their sexual health.
Then there is the assumption that bi guys are not capable of being around straights without controling their sexual urges.
Everyone here is fully entitled to their point of view, however predjudice does exist."
Surely guys who have 'Straight' on profiles and 'Will meets TV's' will be seen as Bi...
Anyone looking for 'Straight' and then see TV etc will see these as 'Staight'ish' ? |
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Who cares ?? I would hope if was meeting a couple or a single male they would find it comfortable to tell me the truth about their sexual preferences especially on a sex site... |
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Agreed. Preference is preference. Plenty of straight fems also wink,but identify as 'circumstantially bi' profile states straight.
Each to their own,can only worry about ourselves as other people are entitled to their choices also.
Personal preference I can take. Total prejudice I can't. Before myself and D were a couple we had singles accounts. I was listed as straight. I was invited to s party and one of the requirements before I could attend was to show the hosts my fab account. Just to prove I wasn't bi. As it was put to me "we can't be doing with bi guys in our house. Filth".
I do admire your live and let live attitude Kitty. Do you apply it to just sexuality of life in general?
M "
I would like to believe that I apply it throughout my life in as much as possible,and I am usually fairly conscious of mine and others tendencies to judge people and situations based on their own 'concept of what is right and wrong'.
However I dont claim to be infallible,and like anyone I am prone to lapses and errors.
I will admit that I feel the attitude of those party hosts rather uncomfortable. Their behaviour in my opinion was an invasion of privacy and I don't think I would be comfortable attending if such behaviour was exhibited. It borders on persecution. And I do also understand the reasoning behind certain males choice to display as straight rather than be judged based on them being bi.
Hope this answers ur question although I am certain I may have waffled on a little
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I would like to believe that I apply it throughout my life in as much as possible,and I am usually fairly conscious of mine and others tendencies to judge people and situations based on their own 'concept of what is right and wrong'.
However I dont claim to be infallible,and like anyone I am prone to lapses and errors.
I will admit that I feel the attitude of those party hosts rather uncomfortable. Their behaviour in my opinion was an invasion of privacy and I don't think I would be comfortable attending if such behaviour was exhibited. It borders on persecution. And I do also understand the reasoning behind certain males choice to display as straight rather than be judged based on them being bi.
Hope this answers ur question although I am certain I may have waffled on a little
Kitty "
No worries, have waffled on at times myself.
Yes the parties can be difficult for all.. Getting the mix right, the no-shows etc, and for those attending the host being quite intrusive/invasive!
Par for the course I reckon. |
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i just explain that to a couple now..
i'm not a bi, or at least i don't think i am, have no problem to be closer to a naked man and a women too, it happent few time that both from couple(him and she ) to make me bj, never did a bj to a guy, never had sex with a guy, never feel it sexual attraction for one.
indeed,when they did me bj togheter was a lot of pleasure but i saw them as a couple not as a separately guy and women.
for my curiosity and pleasure yes i'll meet probably a TS, not a CD(big differences) , a feminine one, with a feminine skin, face, breasts, feminine legs and ass, just to give not to receive some cock.
i am bi or not? sincerely i don't know, i'll say i'm straight but with some crazy ideeas. or i just living on the edge from straight to bi
so..i'm bi or not for you?
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"It seems a bit strange to me to have a party host ask to see your fab page to prove anything!! How many folks here would actually allow that just to get an invite??
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Well they have to with all the messers. guys here only a few days, if Verified or not, if Verified by whom etc... and from there they have to be selective!! |
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Agreed. Preference is preference. Plenty of straight fems also wink,but identify as 'circumstantially bi' profile states straight.
Each to their own,can only worry about ourselves as other people are entitled to their choices also.
Personal preference I can take. Total prejudice I can't. Before myself and D were a couple we had singles accounts. I was listed as straight. I was invited to s party and one of the requirements before I could attend was to show the hosts my fab account. Just to prove I wasn't bi. As it was put to me "we can't be doing with bi guys in our house. Filth".
I do admire your live and let live attitude Kitty. Do you apply it to just sexuality of life in general?
M
I would like to believe that I apply it throughout my life in as much as possible,and I am usually fairly conscious of mine and others tendencies to judge people and situations based on their own 'concept of what is right and wrong'.
However I dont claim to be infallible,and like anyone I am prone to lapses and errors.
I will admit that I feel the attitude of those party hosts rather uncomfortable. Their behaviour in my opinion was an invasion of privacy and I don't think I would be comfortable attending if such behaviour was exhibited. It borders on persecution. And I do also understand the reasoning behind certain males choice to display as straight rather than be judged based on them being bi.
Hope this answers ur question although I am certain I may have waffled on a little
Kitty "
Kitty. Have you ever considered going for the Bench? You'd be brilliant with your reasoned deliberations full of clarity and pertinence.
Move Over Judge Judy.......
Enter Judge Kitty! !!! |
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"Fair enough if a guys only on here s few days , if he has verifications they can be seen by all but to give some stranger acces to your page is a bit much on the off chance of an invite 
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One just looks at their profile page here!! |
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"Fair enough if a guys only on here s few days , if he has verifications they can be seen by all but to give some stranger acces to your page is a bit much on the off chance of an invite
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One just looks at their profile page
here!!"
True but I think it was the male half of the couple spanishtrain who was asked to show the hosts his fab account !!
Bloody feckers will want your pps no and bank details next lol
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Agreed. Preference is preference. Plenty of straight fems also wink,but identify as 'circumstantially bi' profile states straight.
Each to their own,can only worry about ourselves as other people are entitled to their choices also.
Personal preference I can take. Total prejudice I can't. Before myself and D were a couple we had singles accounts. I was listed as straight. I was invited to s party and one of the requirements before I could attend was to show the hosts my fab account. Just to prove I wasn't bi. As it was put to me "we can't be doing with bi guys in our house. Filth".
I do admire your live and let live attitude Kitty. Do you apply it to just sexuality of life in general?
M
I would like to believe that I apply it throughout my life in as much as possible,and I am usually fairly conscious of mine and others tendencies to judge people and situations based on their own 'concept of what is right and wrong'.
However I dont claim to be infallible,and like anyone I am prone to lapses and errors.
I will admit that I feel the attitude of those party hosts rather uncomfortable. Their behaviour in my opinion was an invasion of privacy and I don't think I would be comfortable attending if such behaviour was exhibited. It borders on persecution. And I do also understand the reasoning behind certain males choice to display as straight rather than be judged based on them being bi.
Hope this answers ur question although I am certain I may have waffled on a little
Kitty "
Your grand with the ramblings on. I'm guilty of that too.
Yes, I agree with the invasion of privacy regarding the party invite. I was in a rather fragile place at the time and allowed it to happen. The me of today would have told the couple where to go. D and myself enjoy parties but not if we have to jump through hoops to get there. Take us as we are or leave us where we stand.
As for the "live and let live"? We would love to explain but we can't mail you guys. Computer says no. Odd. |
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"Fair enough if a guys only on here s few days , if he has verifications they can be seen by all but to give some stranger acces to your page is a bit much on the off chance of an invite
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One just looks at their profile page
here!!
True but I think it was the male half of the couple spanishtrain who was asked to show the hosts his fab account !!
Bloody feckers will want your pps no and bank details next lol
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It was. I was a singleton on here st the time. |
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Agreed. Preference is preference. Plenty of straight fems also wink,but identify as 'circumstantially bi' profile states straight.
Each to their own,can only worry about ourselves as other people are entitled to their choices also.
Personal preference I can take. Total prejudice I can't. Before myself and D were a couple we had singles accounts. I was listed as straight. I was invited to s party and one of the requirements before I could attend was to show the hosts my fab account. Just to prove I wasn't bi. As it was put to me "we can't be doing with bi guys in our house. Filth".
I do admire your live and let live attitude Kitty. Do you apply it to just sexuality of life in general?
M
I would like to believe that I apply it throughout my life in as much as possible,and I am usually fairly conscious of mine and others tendencies to judge people and situations based on their own 'concept of what is right and wrong'.
However I dont claim to be infallible,and like anyone I am prone to lapses and errors.
I will admit that I feel the attitude of those party hosts rather uncomfortable. Their behaviour in my opinion was an invasion of privacy and I don't think I would be comfortable attending if such behaviour was exhibited. It borders on persecution. And I do also understand the reasoning behind certain males choice to display as straight rather than be judged based on them being bi.
Hope this answers ur question although I am certain I may have waffled on a little
Kitty
Your grand with the ramblings on. I'm guilty of that too.
Yes, I agree with the invasion of privacy regarding the party invite. I was in a rather fragile place at the time and allowed it to happen. The me of today would have told the couple where to go. D and myself enjoy parties but not if we have to jump through hoops to get there. Take us as we are or leave us where we stand.
As for the "live and let live"? We would love to explain but we can't mail you guys. Computer says no. Odd. "
Yeah we noticed that too. Not our end. Check your erm "brick" list  |
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Agreed. Preference is preference. Plenty of straight fems also wink,but identify as 'circumstantially bi' profile states straight.
Each to their own,can only worry about ourselves as other people are entitled to their choices also.
Personal preference I can take. Total prejudice I can't. Before myself and D were a couple we had singles accounts. I was listed as straight. I was invited to s party and one of the requirements before I could attend was to show the hosts my fab account. Just to prove I wasn't bi. As it was put to me "we can't be doing with bi guys in our house. Filth".
I do admire your live and let live attitude Kitty. Do you apply it to just sexuality of life in general?
M
I would like to believe that I apply it throughout my life in as much as possible,and I am usually fairly conscious of mine and others tendencies to judge people and situations based on their own 'concept of what is right and wrong'.
However I dont claim to be infallible,and like anyone I am prone to lapses and errors.
I will admit that I feel the attitude of those party hosts rather uncomfortable. Their behaviour in my opinion was an invasion of privacy and I don't think I would be comfortable attending if such behaviour was exhibited. It borders on persecution. And I do also understand the reasoning behind certain males choice to display as straight rather than be judged based on them being bi.
Hope this answers ur question although I am certain I may have waffled on a little
Kitty
Your grand with the ramblings on. I'm guilty of that too.
Yes, I agree with the invasion of privacy regarding the party invite. I was in a rather fragile place at the time and allowed it to happen. The me of today would have told the couple where to go. D and myself enjoy parties but not if we have to jump through hoops to get there. Take us as we are or leave us where we stand.
As for the "live and let live"? We would love to explain but we can't mail you guys. Computer says no. Odd. "
We noticed that ourselves a while back and found it strange,because we cant remember having had any dealings with u guys. We checked our list and we hadn't blocked ye. Guess its one of those unexplainable ones 
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I personally don't like labels.... why can't we just go with the flow and see where it takes us without the fear of being judged or labeled..... every meet is different, if two guys or girls for that matter get caught up in the chemistry of the night and enjoy sexual relations..... should they be automatically labeled as Bi..... No... they are just sexual beings enjoying the company of other sexual beings.....
But yes each to their own..... live n let live
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Many couples with straight fems will meet couples with bi fems without hesitation. But ask them to meet a couple with a bi male and they'll run a mile. Just because a guy is bi doesn't mean he has to fuck the other guy, same way just cos a woman is bi she doesnt have to fuck the other woman.
Bi men are less accepted then bi fems. And in this day an age that's sad.
Sorry Mingo but I still feel that its a preference. I have many gay and bi friends. Personally I am a bi female. It isn't that I'm afraid that the male is gonna be uncontrollably horny towards tomcat,but I do not find two males playing a turn on,it is in fact a turnoff for me personally. I have no issues with regards their sexual disposition,but it would be an image stuck in my head during any sexual play. Similarly if I don't find a person attractive through personality,demeanour or other,I would struggle to play with them and most certainly not play with them.
Let me also point out that as a bi fem,I do not find every single woman attractive to my tastes either.
Now let me play devils advocate,and just say that I am unaware of a persons sexual disposition,in a situation where I have not known a person to bi actively bi,then yes perhaps it has risen to on occasion an attraction there. Hence I can see where the sexual orientation labelling on a profile does effect a persons meets,but equally,in cases where someone is looking to meet with bi individuals,not having it displayed as bi on the profile also effects a person ability to get meets. Yes in a message many can say 'oh that's ok I am actually bi' but it still comes down to the other persons willingness to believe and many will not play with someone who claims to be bi,yet is labelled as straight.
Because of all if the above,I still believe it is down to personal choice on both sides. I certainly wouldn't ignore a person on the basis of their preference because lets be honest here nothing in this life is black and white,we are most of us open to new experiences.
Kitty
Ps sorry for the long winded post and hopefully I've not offended anyone "
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There are a few couples and singles on here who describe themselves as 'try-sexual' and I think that's the best description of an open minded person who goes with the flow if it suits everyone involved..
I would be a try-sexual LOL |
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There are a few couples and singles on here who describe themselves as 'try-sexual' and I think that's the best description of an open minded person who goes with the flow if it suits everyone involved..
I would be a try-sexual LOL"
Once it suits everyone involved!
One does see 'Straight' on Profile, then they want to meet TV's and not only that they even put up verifications of guys they have met and had sex with!! still hoping to be seen as straight to meet females/couples.
Takes all sorts I guess.
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Agreed. Preference is preference. Plenty of straight fems also wink,but identify as 'circumstantially bi' profile states straight.
Each to their own,can only worry about ourselves as other people are entitled to their choices also.
Personal preference I can take. Total prejudice I can't. Before myself and D were a couple we had singles accounts. I was listed as straight. I was invited to s party and one of the requirements before I could attend was to show the hosts my fab account. Just to prove I wasn't bi. As it was put to me "we can't be doing with bi guys in our house. Filth".
I do admire your live and let live attitude Kitty. Do you apply it to just sexuality of life in general?
M
I would like to believe that I apply it throughout my life in as much as possible,and I am usually fairly conscious of mine and others tendencies to judge people and situations based on their own 'concept of what is right and wrong'.
However I dont claim to be infallible,and like anyone I am prone to lapses and errors.
I will admit that I feel the attitude of those party hosts rather uncomfortable. Their behaviour in my opinion was an invasion of privacy and I don't think I would be comfortable attending if such behaviour was exhibited. It borders on persecution. And I do also understand the reasoning behind certain males choice to display as straight rather than be judged based on them being bi.
Hope this answers ur question although I am certain I may have waffled on a little
Kitty
Your grand with the ramblings on. I'm guilty of that too.
Yes, I agree with the invasion of privacy regarding the party invite. I was in a rather fragile place at the time and allowed it to happen. The me of today would have told the couple where to go. D and myself enjoy parties but not if we have to jump through hoops to get there. Take us as we are or leave us where we stand.
As for the "live and let live"? We would love to explain but we can't mail you guys. Computer says no. Odd.
We noticed that ourselves a while back and found it strange,because we cant remember having had any dealings with u guys. We checked our list and we hadn't blocked ye. Guess its one of those unexplainable ones
Kitty"
We haven't got you guys blocked either. We thought you had us blocked because of a forum post. Then we thought it was an admin thing. We asked admin to look into something. Not you guys. Just a general thing. A rather nasty thing.
We're sure it's just one of those (computer says no) things. |
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The biggest problem for guy's who enjoy the odd bit of bi fun is the problem of being pestered by guy's on an hourly basis. I have had bi meets but it's very much down to the circumstances and the situation. I have ended up just blocking other guys to preserve my sanity on here. |
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"The biggest problem for guy's who enjoy the odd bit of bi fun is the problem of being pestered by guy's on an hourly basis. I have had bi meets but it's very much down to the circumstances and the situation. I have ended up just blocking other guys to preserve my sanity on here."
So you still believe in Sanity Claus! |
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Agreed. Preference is preference. Plenty of straight fems also wink,but identify as 'circumstantially bi' profile states straight.
Each to their own,can only worry about ourselves as other people are entitled to their choices also.
Personal preference I can take. Total prejudice I can't. Before myself and D were a couple we had singles accounts. I was listed as straight. I was invited to s party and one of the requirements before I could attend was to show the hosts my fab account. Just to prove I wasn't bi. As it was put to me "we can't be doing with bi guys in our house. Filth".
I do admire your live and let live attitude Kitty. Do you apply it to just sexuality of life in general?
M
I would like to believe that I apply it throughout my life in as much as possible,and I am usually fairly conscious of mine and others tendencies to judge people and situations based on their own 'concept of what is right and wrong'.
However I dont claim to be infallible,and like anyone I am prone to lapses and errors.
I will admit that I feel the attitude of those party hosts rather uncomfortable. Their behaviour in my opinion was an invasion of privacy and I don't think I would be comfortable attending if such behaviour was exhibited. It borders on persecution. And I do also understand the reasoning behind certain males choice to display as straight rather than be judged based on them being bi.
Hope this answers ur question although I am certain I may have waffled on a little
Kitty
Your grand with the ramblings on. I'm guilty of that too.
Yes, I agree with the invasion of privacy regarding the party invite. I was in a rather fragile place at the time and allowed it to happen. The me of today would have told the couple where to go. D and myself enjoy parties but not if we have to jump through hoops to get there. Take us as we are or leave us where we stand.
As for the "live and let live"? We would love to explain but we can't mail you guys. Computer says no. Odd.
We noticed that ourselves a while back and found it strange,because we cant remember having had any dealings with u guys. We checked our list and we hadn't blocked ye. Guess its one of those unexplainable ones
Kitty
We haven't got you guys blocked either. We thought you had us blocked because of a forum post. Then we thought it was an admin thing. We asked admin to look into something. Not you guys. Just a general thing. A rather nasty thing.
We're sure it's just one of those (computer says no) things. "
Strange to say the least. Don't think we've ever a cross word with you guys. Admin do strange things I guess. |
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"The biggest problem for guy's who enjoy the odd bit of bi fun is the problem of being pestered by guy's on an hourly basis. I have had bi meets but it's very much down to the circumstances and the situation. I have ended up just blocking other guys to preserve my sanity on here."
Then you are no different to many bisexual women who enjoy the odd bit of straight fun given the right circumstances. |
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Many couples with straight fems will meet couples with bi fems without hesitation. But ask them to meet a couple with a bi male and they'll run a mile. Just because a guy is bi doesn't mean he has to fuck the other guy, same way just cos a woman is bi she doesnt have to fuck the other woman.
Bi men are less accepted then bi fems. And in this day an age that's sad.
Sorry Mingo but I still feel that its a preference. I have many gay and bi friends. Personally I am a bi female. It isn't that I'm afraid that the male is gonna be uncontrollably horny towards tomcat,but I do not find two males playing a turn on,it is in fact a turnoff for me personally. I have no issues with regards their sexual disposition,but it would be an image stuck in my head during any sexual play. Similarly if I don't find a person attractive through personality,demeanour or other,I would struggle to play with them and most certainly not play with them.
Let me also point out that as a bi fem,I do not find every single woman attractive to my tastes either.
Now let me play devils advocate,and just say that I am unaware of a persons sexual disposition,in a situation where I have not known a person to bi actively bi,then yes perhaps it has risen to on occasion an attraction there. Hence I can see where the sexual orientation labelling on a profile does effect a persons meets,but equally,in cases where someone is looking to meet with bi individuals,not having it displayed as bi on the profile also effects a person ability to get meets. Yes in a message many can say 'oh that's ok I am actually bi' but it still comes down to the other persons willingness to believe and many will not play with someone who claims to be bi,yet is labelled as straight.
Because of all if the above,I still believe it is down to personal choice on both sides. I certainly wouldn't ignore a person on the basis of their preference because lets be honest here nothing in this life is black and white,we are most of us open to new experiences.
Kitty
Ps sorry for the long winded post and hopefully I've not offended anyone "
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"It's because of the double standard. Bi fems are accepted whereas bi males less so,due to the assumption by many that they won't play straight.
It's sad,but true.
thats not a double standard. its a preference
Agreed. Preference is preference. Plenty of straight fems also wink,but identify as 'circumstantially bi' profile states straight.
Each to their own,can only worry about ourselves as other people are entitled to their choices also.
Personal preference I can take. Total prejudice I can't. Before myself and D were a couple we had singles accounts. I was listed as straight. I was invited to s party and one of the requirements before I could attend was to show the hosts my fab account. Just to prove I wasn't bi. As it was put to me "we can't be doing with bi guys in our house. Filth".
I do admire your live and let live attitude Kitty. Do you apply it to just sexuality of life in general?
M
I would like to believe that I apply it throughout my life in as much as possible,and I am usually fairly conscious of mine and others tendencies to judge people and situations based on their own 'concept of what is right and wrong'.
However I dont claim to be infallible,and like anyone I am prone to lapses and errors.
I will admit that I feel the attitude of those party hosts rather uncomfortable. Their behaviour in my opinion was an invasion of privacy and I don't think I would be comfortable attending if such behaviour was exhibited. It borders on persecution. And I do also understand the reasoning behind certain males choice to display as straight rather than be judged based on them being bi.
Hope this answers ur question although I am certain I may have waffled on a little
Kitty
Your grand with the ramblings on. I'm guilty of that too.
Yes, I agree with the invasion of privacy regarding the party invite. I was in a rather fragile place at the time and allowed it to happen. The me of today would have told the couple where to go. D and myself enjoy parties but not if we have to jump through hoops to get there. Take us as we are or leave us where we stand.
As for the "live and let live"? We would love to explain but we can't mail you guys. Computer says no. Odd.
We noticed that ourselves a while back and found it strange,because we cant remember having had any dealings with u guys. We checked our list and we hadn't blocked ye. Guess its one of those unexplainable ones
Kitty
We haven't got you guys blocked either. We thought you had us blocked because of a forum post. Then we thought it was an admin thing. We asked admin to look into something. Not you guys. Just a general thing. A rather nasty thing.
We're sure it's just one of those (computer says no) things.
Strange to say the least. Don't think we've ever a cross word with you guys. Admin do strange things I guess. "
Pretty sure you guys are like us. We see fab as a supplement to a loving healthy relationship. We don't see the site as anything other than a bit of fun. And that's all we want. Fun. If people block us along the way then that's fine. If admin places a block on an account we would wonder why and ask a mutual friend to find out why. That's just us though. We hate the idea that we could have pissed someone off.
Anyhow.
Be good
B safe
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I don't care straight gay bi etc because I have just had the best sex to date (sorry to all the guys I have met I said " your the best") says straight on profile however both horny both needed a means to an end.
He fucked, sucked, kissed and was good at it, Bring em on you horny lot.
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