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So as most of us know, In the book 50 shades Ana is a virgin when she meets Christian, and it's my opinion that he'd be a horrible "first" for anyone.
It got me thinking though. what would you do if you were in a similar situation? Say you met someone, and there's 5 or 6 years age difference, and they confess that they're a virgin. Most of us here are very experienced sexually, what would you do? would you take them by the hand and usher them into a new world of sexuality? Would you not want that pressure?
The more I thought about it, the more i realised that it's never been a better time to start having sex, if you never have before. It's never been more tolerant, experimentation is encouraged (just look at the site we're on!)
Think back to the time when you lost your virginity you were probably a teenager, with someone of similar age and experience. It probably wasnt great.
If I were in a situation where i met someone in their 30's say and they confessed to being a virgin, I'd be both terrified and excited. I'd be eager to make their first time as amazing as possible for them, but i'd understand the pressure it would put on me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first time reminds me of another famous film ? Gone in 60 seconds !!
We all had or first and no matter if it was good bad or different, we will always remember it. Xxx |
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Well thankfully the guy i lost mine to was also a virgin so we were both really nervous and awkward lol
but we both took our time and agreed that if either of us wanted to stop we would stop 
These days i think there is alot of pressure on virgins to have sex and most get "forced or guilted" into doing it |
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John, I was 18 when I lost my virginity and the guy I lost it too was 13 years older than me, it wasn't nice, the location, the guy, the atmosphere!
There's no point in me dwelling on that now!!
I'm starting to enjoy my sex life at this present day and that's what counts more to me, I've met so many great people here, tried things I never thought I would try or experience!
There are more to experience, I can't wait for the 2nd half of this year....... I get the feeling it's going to be awesome!!!!!     |
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"John, I was 18 when I lost my virginity and the guy I lost it too was 13 years older than me, it wasn't nice, the location, the guy, the atmosphere!
There's no point in me dwelling on that now!!
I'm starting to enjoy my sex life at this present day and that's what counts more to me, I've met so many great people here, tried things I never thought I would try or experience!
There are more to experience, I can't wait for the 2nd half of this year....... I get the feeling it's going to be awesome!!!!! "
That's partly my point. If I met someone who was a virgin and was planning on helping them lose their virginity, then the responsibility would be with me to make sure they had the best night possible, any man in his right mind would. |
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To be honest I would probably tell him to move along, I'm very submissive sexually and having to essentially show him how it's done would be a huge turn off for me. I know I know it's harsh and so mean of me but I'm not a charity. We meet people here to add to our sex life and because we enjoy it so if I'm not going to get enjoyment out of it I don't see the point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well, Richard Branson has made a fortune out of virgins and the mile high club. If its good enough for him it's good enough for me. Now.....off I go in search of a virgin..........Hello?.........Anyone there?........ |
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Heya John
I think your last paragraph sums it up really it would be very exciting but at the same time you're there hoping that you don't balls it up for her
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"So as most of us know, In the book 50 shades Ana is a virgin when she meets Christian, and it's my opinion that he'd be a horrible "first" for anyone.
It got me thinking though. what would you do if you were in a similar situation? Say you met someone, and there's 5 or 6 years age difference, and they confess that they're a virgin. Most of us here are very experienced sexually, what would you do? would you take them by the hand and usher them into a new world of sexuality? Would you not want that pressure?
The more I thought about it, the more i realised that it's never been a better time to start having sex, if you never have before. It's never been more tolerant, experimentation is encouraged (just look at the site we're on!)
Think back to the time when you lost your virginity you were probably a teenager, with someone of similar age and experience. It probably wasnt great.
If I were in a situation where i met someone in their 30's say and they confessed to being a virgin, I'd be both terrified and excited. I'd be eager to make their first time as amazing as possible for them, but i'd understand the pressure it would put on me.
Lets have as many serious replies as possible. I'm interested to hear peoples opinions on this."
I'd love to give it a go |
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Hi there it would be a great experience for a girl if any you guys was the first as you all know with hindsight how to have good sex, and firsts for boys are always quick till they learn their craft, xx |
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"Hi there it would be a great experience for a girl if any you guys was the first as you all know with hindsight how to have good sex, and firsts for boys are always quick till they learn their craft, xx"
That had crossed my mind.
But being honest, the last time i encountered a virgin was over 20 years ago and i was practically one myself. emotional maturity was neither of our strong points.
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I'd love to give it a go
I'm curious to hear your reasons why?"
when I was a teenager I had a fantasy to be broken in by an older woman,with experience.
That never happened, my first time was with a girl my own age and it is nothing to write home about...
so I'd love to try make someone's first time a good experience for them...plus I think I'd get a lot out of the experience as well.. |
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Reading back over the thread seems to reveal something.
The ladies would not bed a virgin he's likely to be crap and their sexual satisfaction is too important to them.
The lads, no surprise would bed a virgin. BUT it seems we'd do it to make sure she had a great experience.
Isn't that kind of one sided?
I'd be prepared to put aside my sexual needs for one night to put an inexperienced partner at ease.
"You've never given a blow job? Don't worry there's always next time. First let me introduce you to the wonderful world of cunnilingus" |
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"Reading back over the thread seems to reveal something.
The ladies would not bed a virgin he's likely to be crap and their sexual satisfaction is too important to them.
The lads, no surprise would bed a virgin. BUT it seems we'd do it to make sure she had a great experience.
Isn't that kind of one sided?
Yes it is one sided and possibly because the guys remember how inexperience they were when having sex for the first time, and want to make up for it giving the chance if having a virgin again and women are greedy always wantng the best pleasurable experience.
I'd be prepared to put aside my sexual needs for one night to put an inexperienced partner at ease.
"You've never given a blow job? Don't worry there's always next time. First let me introduce you to the wonderful world of cunnilingus" "
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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Here John is my suggestion: the talented women of fab could pretend to be virgins for one night and the blokes will do their best to give us a great first experience, then we're all in for a treat! |
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The positive aspect of this is that even if you last 20 seconds, not bad in my book, and you fail to make her cum, you're still the best lover she's ever had. It's a win/win situation if you ask me!  |
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I met someone who was nearly 30, who was a virgin, while I had experience already. Even though he lied about it at first, I knew he was. The experience was not bad, it was actually good and he surprised me how fast of a learner he was, no regrets whatsoever (I married him and kept him for myself until I corrupted him, and we started to swing!)
Based on that experience alone, I would not shy away from another virgin, although its not common to find and "older" virgin nowadays.
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"Im really submissive as u know lol so for me to fuck someone who is nervous shy and has never been near a woman would turn me off completely. "
Me too I like the guy to take charge he has to know what he's doing |
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..."You've never given a blow job? Don't worry there's always next time. First let me introduce you to the wonderful world of cunnilingus" "
Be prepared for the question "is that like Anime Mr Mingo?" |
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"I met someone who was nearly 30, who was a virgin, while I had experience already. Even though he lied about it at first, I knew he was. The experience was not bad, it was actually good and he surprised me how fast of a learner he was, no regrets whatsoever (I married him and kept him for myself until I corrupted him, and we started to swing!)
Based on that experience alone, I would not shy away from another virgin, although its not common to find and "older" virgin nowadays.
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You truly earned that tee shirt you're wearing. |
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..."You've never given a blow job? Don't worry there's always next time. First let me introduce you to the wonderful world of cunnilingus"
Be prepared for the question "is that like Anime Mr Mingo?""
" before we get started let me show you some tentacle porn"  |
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"Reading back over the thread seems to reveal something.
The ladies would not bed a virgin he's likely to be crap and their sexual satisfaction is too important to them.
The lads, no surprise would bed a virgin. BUT it seems we'd do it to make sure she had a great experience.
Isn't that kind of one sided?
I'd be prepared to put aside my sexual needs for one night to put an inexperienced partner at ease.
"You've never given a blow job? Don't worry there's always next time. First let me introduce you to the wonderful world of cunnilingus" "
You say "there's always next time" to me that suggests there will be a next time. If I was to meet someone sex is a big part of a relationship for me. I don't think I'd be comfortable taking someone's virginity if it was meaningless for me and then I wouldn't be able to be in a relationship with someone who was very inexperienced. So therefor no. I wouldn't be willing to take someone's virginity. |
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My first time was with a guy ten years older than myself, it was an amazing experience!!!!!
Unfortunately he returned to England six months later, not before he taught me a few neat tricks of course |
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"I met someone who was nearly 30, who was a virgin, while I had experience already. Even though he lied about it at first, I knew he was. The experience was not bad, it was actually good and he surprised me how fast of a learner he was, no regrets whatsoever (I married him and kept him for myself until I corrupted him, and we started to swing!)
Based on that experience alone, I would not shy away from another virgin, although its not common to find and "older" virgin nowadays.
You truly earned that tee shirt you're wearing. "
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"Reading back over the thread seems to reveal something.
The ladies would not bed a virgin he's likely to be crap and their sexual satisfaction is too important to them.
The lads, no surprise would bed a virgin. BUT it seems we'd do it to make sure she had a great experience.
Isn't that kind of one sided?
I'd be prepared to put aside my sexual needs for one night to put an inexperienced partner at ease.
"You've never given a blow job? Don't worry there's always next time. First let me introduce you to the wonderful world of cunnilingus"
You say "there's always next time" to me that suggests there will be a next time. If I was to meet someone sex is a big part of a relationship for me. I don't think I'd be comfortable taking someone's virginity if it was meaningless for me and then I wouldn't be able to be in a relationship with someone who was very inexperienced. So therefor no. I wouldn't be willing to take someone's virginity. "
thats a very fair point. all I'm saying is that taking someones virginity wouldnt be meaningless for me. I'd have to treat the situation very carefully.
HOWEVER, we all know that there would be guys out there who'd think of it as a trophy. |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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My first time was a great experience and it wasn't until I was 30 I met someone that satisfied me as much and he was a virgin. I think the fact we now have the internet young lads are more clued up.
The fella I lost my virginity to lost his to an older woman and for that I'm greatful. |
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My virginity taking days r long gone, I'm 38, not interested in sleeping with ladies younger than 30 ( just my thing, we all have our quirks ), and unlikely to meet a woman 21 plus who is a virgin. My first time was with a 23 yo woman when I was 18. I'm pretty sure she was well experienced but there was a language barrier so d conversation never got round to virginities.....but it was a mind blowing experiance for me, she was a fantastically beautiful, sexy, sensual and passionate lover.....and I'm sure I couldn't have met with or had a better or more positive first time than I was lucky enough to have with this absolute sweetheart of a lady.
To d best of my knowledge I've never slept with a virgin ( or if I have it wasn't obvious to me ), and to be honest I wouldn't have liked d responsibility, unless it was someone I was in love with at d time. Losing ur virginity is pretty much a right of passage for young guys, a kin to Ur first shave, or Ur first drink......but it's a much bigger deal to a young woman as they're so much more emotionally mature and clued in at those ages.....so ideally they deserve to lose their virginity to someone who cares deeply for them and realises d momentousness of d event for d girl and appreciates d honour and trust she's awarding him. |
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"Reading back over the thread seems to reveal something.
The ladies would not bed a virgin he's likely to be crap and their sexual satisfaction is too important to them.
The lads, no surprise would bed a virgin. BUT it seems we'd do it to make sure she had a great experience.
Isn't that kind of one sided?
I'd be prepared to put aside my sexual needs for one night to put an inexperienced partner at ease.
"You've never given a blow job? Don't worry there's always next time. First let me introduce you to the wonderful world of cunnilingus"
You say "there's always next time" to me that suggests there will be a next time. If I was to meet someone sex is a big part of a relationship for me. I don't think I'd be comfortable taking someone's virginity if it was meaningless for me and then I wouldn't be able to be in a relationship with someone who was very inexperienced. So therefor no. I wouldn't be willing to take someone's virginity.
thats a very fair point. all I'm saying is that taking someones virginity wouldnt be meaningless for me. I'd have to treat the situation very carefully.
HOWEVER, we all know that there would be guys out there who'd think of it as a trophy."
oh no I totally agree that it wouldn't be meaningless but sex to me is just sex unless I'm in a relationship with someone and I wouldn't be in a relationship with a virgin!! |
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