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over a year ago
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As a little bit of a newbie!! Is it not common courtesy if an expression of interest is shown to a profile to reply with a simple no thanks rather than being automaticity blocked, am I a little nyieve or just because this is a swinging site does that mean people are so much into themselves a response is not necessary ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuckin single males again.... always yappin about something.... never happy.... actually starting to get on my goat....
Amen
Even you your a newbie at one stage  "
I'm still a newbie... like a virgin so to speak  |
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"Fuckin single males again.... always yappin about something.... never happy.... actually starting to get on my goat....
Amen
Even you your a newbie at one stage
I'm still a newbie... like a virgin so to speak "
A few more days of that lovely sign over your head  |
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"As a little bit of a newbie!! Is it not common courtesy if an expression of interest is shown to a profile to reply with a simple no thanks rather than being automaticity blocked, am I a little nyieve or just because this is a swinging site does that mean people are so much into themselves a response is not necessary ??"
. You can take the view that each person on this site is here to fulfill their own needs. As such a different set of manners apply . Is there any point in replying to someone just to say no. ? If there is no reply , it means no interest
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"As a little bit of a newbie!! Is it not common courtesy if an expression of interest is shown to a profile to reply with a simple no thanks rather than being automaticity blocked, am I a little nyieve or just because this is a swinging site does that mean people are so much into themselves a response is not necessary ??"
basically what you, as an unknown newbie is sending, is treated like junk mail....
you know when junk mail comes in ur letterbox at home, you probably take a glance at it,then bin it..or else u just bin it without checking it out first.......that's the same on here...
maybe some women should put up.
NO JUNK MAIL PLEASE....on there profile.... |
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Also op imagine for a second your a female on Fab imagine for a second that your getting on average 100 mails a day imagine for a second that you also have a job and maybe kids and some resemblance of a social life outside of swing. Then you may come to the understanding that not all mails will or can be answered under these circumstances. You will find also that bulk deletes are common place and also deletes without replys. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That's actually makes a lot of sence , I don't take it personally anyway but rather should learn to adopt the same attitude , thanks for the insight ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you took the time to actually read my profile , it says not single !!! Is my spelling really that bad!!!"
Unless you're bringing your wife along to meets, you are, to all intents and purposes, a single male |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ahh ,, firstly I say attached not married !! And for all I'm just here myself , is this not ok?"
That's your business, between you and your partner; my point was that to everyone here, you're just another single male, like about 90% of the profiles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ahh ,, firstly I say attached not married !! And for all I'm just here myself , is this not ok?
That's your business, between you and your partner; my point was that to everyone here, you're just another single male, like about 90% of the profiles."
Plus many people do not want to meet someone who appears to be attached and playing without permission - you haven't specified |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Point taken, I will update ,, but Surley anything I post is my free choice?? I'm not here to be judged nor do I judge anybody !! After all are we not all opemminded?? Anyhow thanks for the advice guys,, going to try and wing it on my own now .. Literally |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Manners go a long way, newbie or not, male or female, single or attached
Do the ladies inboxes get flooded? Yes!
Do guys sometimes not get the hint when we still haven't responded after 10 messages? Yes!
I too am guilty of sometimes deleting a message without a response but I do try to get back these days with a thanks but no thanks
Once a guy is verified it will get easier..
I personally only block a guy if he develops a bit of a stalker quality and doesn't take no for an answer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Point taken, I will update ,, but Surley anything I post is my free choice?? I'm not here to be judged nor do I judge anybody !! After all are we not all opemminded?? Anyhow thanks for the advice guys,, going to try and wing it on my own now .. Literally "
You post as you please, it's your profile - don't let others dictate that!
don't take other's opinions too seriously
After all, you're here to have fun
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Point taken, I will update ,, but Surley anything I post is my free choice?? I'm not here to be judged nor do I judge anybody !! After all are we not all opemminded?? Anyhow thanks for the advice guys,, going to try and wing it on my own now .. Literally "
You do as you please - yet you complain about how others act?
Gotta laugh at that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im not judging just think it's a bit strong to straight out block, like I mean if someone's profile attractes me I might make an effort to show some interest, if there not no worries , a simple fuck off better than a block , it's like not interested in Vermon ,, obviously it's hard for guys with the ratio of different people on here but I deffo don't judge , just taught manners cost nothing , obviously a undersight on my part, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im not judging just think it's a bit strong to straight out block, like I mean if someone's profile attractes me I might make an effort to show some interest, if there not no worries , a simple fuck off better than a block , it's like not interested in Vermon ,, obviously it's hard for guys with the ratio of different people on here but I deffo don't judge , just taught manners cost nothing , obviously a undersight on my part, "
Suggesting people are "so much into themselves" sounds remarkably like a judgement.
That's my judgement... |
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"Im not judging just think it's a bit strong to straight out block, like I mean if someone's profile attractes me I might make an effort to show some interest, if there not no worries , a simple fuck off better than a block , it's like not interested in Vermon ,, obviously it's hard for guys with the ratio of different people on here but I deffo don't judge , just taught manners cost nothing , obviously a undersight on my part, "
Why would a mailbox full of 'fuck offs' be any better then no replies? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also do a fourm search on advice for newbies
Don't take it personal its not just one the many ways people use to eliminate others from their choices "
Just read your profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuckin single males again.... always yappin about something.... never happy.... actually starting to get on my goat....
Amen
Were you a newbie once?  "
I still am a newbie and wet behind the ears |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before posting any new thread on the Forums - always do a search for the topic - and heed the advice previously given.
And READ the SITE HELP/ADVICE - "No reply means Not Interested".
I personally block anyone outside Ireland - and those who are simply cheating on a partner - whatever they want to declare as their official status. Playing away is still cheating, if their partner doesn't know they are using sites for their kicks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im not judging just think it's a bit strong to straight out block, like I mean if someone's profile attractes me I might make an effort to show some interest, if there not no worries , a simple fuck off better than a block , it's like not interested in Vermon ,, obviously it's hard for guys with the ratio of different people on here but I deffo don't judge , just taught manners cost nothing , obviously a undersight on my part,
Why would a mailbox full of 'fuck offs' be any better then no replies?"
And since when was "Fuck off" good manners?
Grow up,it's an adult site for adults,if someone doesn't want contact from you,they blocking,get over it and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not so sure now  maybe shouldn't of asked "
first lesson learnt don't post anything close to your heart or any serious questions on this forum. There are too many bitter people on it who use it to vent their anger by ripping others apart. Disgusting. |
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"As a little bit of a newbie!! Is it not common courtesy if an expression of interest is shown to a profile to reply with a simple no thanks rather than being automaticity blocked, am I a little nyieve or just because this is a swinging site does that mean people are so much into themselves a response is not necessary ??"
u mentioned common courtesy....we're was your common courtesy when you didn't tell u r woman you were going to cheat on her...not judging ya...just saying
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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Suttle or what and we wonder why people give off about how newbies are treated. I know some times we get pissed off at numerous threads asking the same questions but I think the op has conducted himself in a manner that deserves a bit more positive replys. where he has had a grueling intro to the fourms never loosing his cool and respectfully to all that replied
His new he asked a reasonable question from his point of view surely a pointer in the right direction wouldn't kill us |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"As a little bit of a newbie!! Is it not common courtesy if an expression of interest is shown to a profile to reply with a simple no thanks rather than being automaticity blocked, am I a little nyieve or just because this is a swinging site does that mean people are so much into themselves a response is not necessary ??
u mentioned common courtesy....we're was your common courtesy when you didn't tell u r woman you were going to cheat on her...not judging ya...just saying
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U planing on meeting him Fran |
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"As a little bit of a newbie!! Is it not common courtesy if an expression of interest is shown to a profile to reply with a simple no thanks rather than being automaticity blocked, am I a little nyieve or just because this is a swinging site does that mean people are so much into themselves a response is not necessary ??
u mentioned common courtesy....we're was your common courtesy when you didn't tell u r woman you were going to cheat on her...not judging ya...just saying
U planing on meeting him Fran "
no...but I'd meet his missus..when he's off cheating |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"As a little bit of a newbie!! Is it not common courtesy if an expression of interest is shown to a profile to reply with a simple no thanks rather than being automaticity blocked, am I a little nyieve or just because this is a swinging site does that mean people are so much into themselves a response is not necessary ??
u mentioned common courtesy....we're was your common courtesy when you didn't tell u r woman you were going to cheat on her...not judging ya...just saying
U planing on meeting him Fran
no...but I'd meet his missus..when he's off cheating "
So u don't agree with guys playing away but ud fuck an attached woman hmmm says a lot |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Suttle or what and we wonder why people give off about how newbies are treated. I know some times we get pissed off at numerous threads asking the same questions but I think the op has conducted himself in a manner that deserves a bit more positive replys. where he has had a grueling intro to the fourms never loosing his cool and respectfully to all that replied
His new he asked a reasonable question from his point of view surely a pointer in the right direction wouldn't kill us "
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"As a little bit of a newbie!! Is it not common courtesy if an expression of interest is shown to a profile to reply with a simple no thanks rather than being automaticity blocked, am I a little nyieve or just because this is a swinging site does that mean people are so much into themselves a response is not necessary ??
u mentioned common courtesy....we're was your common courtesy when you didn't tell u r woman you were going to cheat on her...not judging ya...just saying
U planing on meeting him Fran
no...but I'd meet his missus..when he's off cheating
So u don't agree with guys playing away but ud fuck an attached woman hmmm says a lot "
she's not really attached,she just thinks she is....
I wonder how he'd react if he walked in on someone shagging his missus....now that would be interesting
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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So u don't agree with guys playing away but ud fuck an attached woman hmmm says a lot
she's not really attached,she just thinks she is....
I wonder how he'd react if he walked in on someone shagging his missus....now that would be interesting
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And that's for them to figure out he has said he's attached to let people make their own informed decisions about him, not for anyone to judge him we are all here for our own reasons who am I to judge any ones else's reasons unless its going to affect me and the decisions I might make |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So u don't agree with guys playing away but ud fuck an attached woman hmmm says a lot
she's not really attached,she just thinks she is....
I wonder how he'd react if he walked in on someone shagging his missus....now that would be interesting
And that's for them to figure out he has said he's attached to let people make their own informed decisions about him, not for anyone to judge him we are all here for our own reasons who am I to judge any ones else's reasons unless its going to affect me and the decisions I might make "
Well said cj! |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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So u don't agree with guys playing away but ud fuck an attached woman hmmm says a lot
she's not really attached,she just thinks she is....
I wonder how he'd react if he walked in on someone shagging his missus....now that would be interesting
And that's for them to figure out he has said he's attached to let people make their own informed decisions about him, not for anyone to judge him we are all here for our own reasons who am I to judge any ones else's reasons unless its going to affect me and the decisions I might make "
Well said cj.
Just calm down Fran! Save your energy for some fun and leave the poor newbies alone... |
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So u don't agree with guys playing away but ud fuck an attached woman hmmm says a lot
she's not really attached,she just thinks she is....
I wonder how he'd react if he walked in on someone shagging his missus....now that would be interesting
And that's for them to figure out he has said he's attached to let people make their own informed decisions about him, not for anyone to judge him we are all here for our own reasons who am I to judge any ones else's reasons unless its going to affect me and the decisions I might make "
cj ur no different than anyone else on here....they say they don't judge,but we all do...we just don't like admitting it.
you just judged me when I said I'd shag his missus ...we're all hypocrites |
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By *al2001Man
over a year ago
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I personally think cheaters here are the antithesis to swinging
Swinging is about openness and spreading good honest love and fun IMO and in a couple it can make for a stronger relationship
Cheaters bring bad vibs and karma |
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So u don't agree with guys playing away but ud fuck an attached woman hmmm says a lot
she's not really attached,she just thinks she is....
I wonder how he'd react if he walked in on someone shagging his missus....now that would be interesting
And that's for them to figure out he has said he's attached to let people make their own informed decisions about him, not for anyone to judge him we are all here for our own reasons who am I to judge any ones else's reasons unless its going to affect me and the decisions I might make
Well said cj.
Just calm down Fran! Save your energy for some fun and leave the poor newbies alone... "
I've loads of energy....lol and cjs not a newby |
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"I personally think cheaters here are the antithesis to swinging
Swinging is about openness and spreading good honest love and fun IMO and in a couple it can make for a stronger relationship
Cheaters bring bad vibs and karma "
well said hal |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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So u don't agree with guys playing away but ud fuck an attached woman hmmm says a lot
she's not really attached,she just thinks she is....
I wonder how he'd react if he walked in on someone shagging his missus....now that would be interesting
And that's for them to figure out he has said he's attached to let people make their own informed decisions about him, not for anyone to judge him we are all here for our own reasons who am I to judge any ones else's reasons unless its going to affect me and the decisions I might make
cj ur no different than anyone else on here....they say they don't judge,but we all do...we just don't like admitting it.
you just judged me when I said I'd shag his missus ...we're all hypocrites "
No Fran I just think we are entitled to our opinions some times I keep mine to myself and if I see a good reason to revaluate those opinions I do. I never judged u just stated the oblivious are u sure u have never met an attached/ married person it seems if u are straight up about ur status u are open to ridicule by the holyer than thou gang |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"I personally think cheaters here are the antithesis to swinging
Swinging is about openness and spreading good honest love and fun IMO and in a couple it can make for a stronger relationship
Cheaters bring bad vibs and karma "
So all swingers have to be cpls ????? |
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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago
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So u don't agree with guys playing away but ud fuck an attached woman hmmm says a lot
she's not really attached,she just thinks she is....
I wonder how he'd react if he walked in on someone shagging his missus....now that would be interesting
And that's for them to figure out he has said he's attached to let people make their own informed decisions about him, not for anyone to judge him we are all here for our own reasons who am I to judge any ones else's reasons unless its going to affect me and the decisions I might make
Well said cj.
Just calm down Fran! Save your energy for some fun and leave the poor newbies alone...
I've loads of energy....lol and cjs not a newby"
Lol I perfectly know that cj is not a newbie but also that he can speak up for himself, I was talking about the op...
I can clearly feel that your full of energy and rather than using it in a negative way you should invest it positively! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I personally think cheaters here are the antithesis to swinging
Swinging is about openness and spreading good honest love and fun IMO and in a couple it can make for a stronger relationship
Cheaters bring bad vibs and karma "
Well put
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I think a lot of guys get instantly blocked by couples due to being unable to read profiles where it says NO SINGLE MALES and they will still message, wink or whatever.
They don't realise they won't be a one off that gets through no matter how many different angled little penis selfies they have on their profile.. |
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By *al2001Man
over a year ago
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"going by what ur saying we cant fab a nice pic. or should not "
She said guys still message,wink,etc. Didn't mention fabbing
You can't wink if you have the winkees filtered out.same as they can't messge |
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As a newbie who has sent messages which were just deleted I just move on... I know females/couples get plenty of messages and can't reply to them all!
Having met a few females and couples, I've seen and heard about messages they get, so it's understandable when they don't reply.
Certainly no need to take a 'delete' or 'no reply' as an insult and just handy if they block or I block them to avoid contacting them again as it saves having to remember they have already been contacted. |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"We would advise you to read you to read the faq section of the site. Would advise any newbie to actually look at it. Can't find the FAQ section on site ?  "
If u are using the phone version its at the bottom of the home page beside terms above contact |
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