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Spontaneous or planned

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Which is better in your opinion? Have had great experiences with both myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had some amazing spontaneous meets, though find planned meets usually better as theres a nice build up to actually meeting, with a lot of flirting and getting to know the others likes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its great when you meet someone after chatting and have instant chemistry and don't wait for the second meet to play, sometimes after chatting for too long when ye meet and wait for a second meet to play then it's almost like picking sex off a menu and saying "we will do that, that and oh wear that" and there's no naturalness to it, it feels like your playing a part

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Spontaneous can be great but I tend to worry about safety.

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By *unsterStagMan over a year ago

Limerick

Had a spontaneous meet that was outdoors a while back which was awesome but defenitely planned meets with a buildup can be the most satisfying

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Had a spontaneous meet that was outdoors a while back which was awesome but defenitely planned meets with a buildup can be the most satisfying

I agree, I prefer the build-up to things.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Much prefer to have a bit of a plan. Or even to have been having a chat with someone for more than a couple of messages. That being said have done spontaneous meets and had fun but always felt a bit uneasy about it.

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By *ammerandthongsCouple over a year ago

Limerick

Due to work we always have to plan but all have been amazing so far

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you chat for a good while but there's no mention of what you'll get up to is it planned or spontaneous?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Its great when you meet someone after chatting and have instant chemistry and don't wait for the second meet to play, sometimes after chatting for too long when ye meet and wait for a second meet to play then it's almost like picking sex off a menu and saying "we will do that, that and oh wear that" and there's no naturalness to it, it feels like your playing a part"

Very true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love planned spontaneous meets

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By *oughandCurvyCouple over a year ago

galway

I like planned meets for the build up too and because you get a chance to find out what really makes them tick, but I find that if it takes too long the excitement can wear off and if I'm not excited about it I don't see the point

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agree with hotguy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being unable to accom, I don't generally have the luxury of spontaneity, but all planned meets have gone great so no complaints either way :D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I like planned meets for the build up too and because you get a chance to find out what really makes them tick, but I find that if it takes too long the excitement can wear off and if I'm not excited about it I don't see the point

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who fancies a spontaneous lunch ?

As in something to eat .... I fucking hate Monday's

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By *ean0001Man over a year ago

Dublin West

Be happy enough if they just turned up in the first place...

But i like to get to know how someone ticks before i consider playing with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When it's a new person - the planning/anticipation is best.

If it's someone you've met before - then spontaneous can be brilliant too.

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By *ohn MingoMan over a year ago

Dublin

But that excitement can be rekindled

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Spontaneous? With a total stranger? No thanks, no point giving advice to my kids that I'm too stupid to follow myself.

Besides, anticipation and teasing is half the fun, great sex starts in the brain and the connection with someone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Spontaneous? With a total stranger? No thanks, no point giving advice to my kids that I'm too stupid to follow myself.

Besides, anticipation and teasing is half the fun, great sex starts in the brain and the connection with someone."

I dunno I got messaged out of the blue for a meet and it was amazing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Agree with hotguy

we must arrange again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Spontaneous can be fun but generally I love the build up, chatting and flirting, exchanging pics

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By *randub69Man over a year ago

city

"If you chat for a good while but there's no mention of what you'll get up to is it planned or spontaneous? "

a spontaneous meet doesn't have to be with a total randomer, it can be with someone you have met before or chatted to before...and out of the blue youse decide to meet at short notice....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A bit of column a and bit of column b please and thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you chat for a good while but there's no mention of what you'll get up to is it planned or spontaneous?

a spontaneous meet doesn't have to be with a total randomer, it can be with someone you have met before or chatted to before...and out of the blue youse decide to meet at short notice...."

Thanks

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By *osafewordneededMan over a year ago

City

Depends what you mean by spontaneous.

If you're using the definition that you meet someone you dont really know for a romp as spontaneous then I don't like it at all, and never do it. Not a horny reckless teen.

If you're using the definition that you meet someone you already know and have met without much planning then I would like that.

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