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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

How do I approach this ...

l recently met a lady on this site (have never seen her in forums since i started)

anyway im concerened for her well being I honestly think that she is a little slow (dont criticise the word please)

when we met we chatted for a while there was supposed to be more but once I got THAT feeling I declined and we left on good terms

My point is I got way to much info about her and others volunteered to me without prompt

what the hell do i do?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

If you left on good terms, could you not offer her some friendly advice?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

That's a tricky one, hard to comment when I don't know the girl in question!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Do you think she's in danger?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

no danger just, slow??

Not young lives at home with parents

Got info like ...

Thats my house

thats family car

this is a pic of another guy im seeing

i work in such a place

Just way too much in 1st 5 mins

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

We had a guy like that. ..all the latest gossip from parties. ..knew who was going bareback. ...etc...you name it. ..he knew it...we blocked him....do not give these people any feedback. ...its oxygen to them......everyone's security is at risk. ..

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By *j47Man  over a year ago

limerick

That's a tuff one and I know u will get loads of opinions on this,their are like arse holes we all have them.

Well u asked so here's mine

Mail all those u got info on explain where it came from so they can lambasted her indiscretion block her and tell all thier friends

Or offer her some friendly advice as to how people get uptight about others talking about them and their personal details

I know which I'd do

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Should have mentioned she has veries

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"We had a guy like that. ..all the latest gossip from parties. ..knew who was going bareback. ...etc...you name it. ..he knew it...we blocked him....do not give these people any feedback. ...its oxygen to them......everyone's security is at risk. .."

I agree except i don't think that this was bragging i honestly think it was in her eyes innocent chat

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We had a guy like that. ..all the latest gossip from parties. ..knew who was going bareback. ...etc...you name it. ..he knew it...we blocked him....do not give these people any feedback. ...its oxygen to them......everyone's security is at risk. .."

I think his point is he thinks this woman may be intellectually challenged and is a danger to herself on site as well as others

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Sounds really suspicious,I'd take cjs advice I think,sending pics of guys and telling people where she lives it's very strange

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I reckon she is naive and gullible. Unfortubately unworldliness will not survive a site like this and if you sre that concerned then offer the friendly advice thing as Candy said earlier

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By *j47Man  over a year ago

limerick


"We had a guy like that. ..all the latest gossip from parties. ..knew who was going bareback. ...etc...you name it. ..he knew it...we blocked him....do not give these people any feedback. ...its oxygen to them......everyone's security is at risk. ..

I think his point is he thinks this woman may be intellectually challenged and is a danger to herself on site as well as others "

This ^^^

she may in her eyes mean well while trying to suggest she is seasoned but maybe not what she seems. I know we are all adults and make our own decisions with that we have to be responsible for those I just hope she understands that and can pick the good from the crazies

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By *j47Man  over a year ago

limerick

Looks like every body is saying the same maybe a friendly coffee with a mutual friend or something

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"We had a guy like that. ..all the latest gossip from parties. ..knew who was going bareback. ...etc...you name it. ..he knew it...we blocked him....do not give these people any feedback. ...its oxygen to them......everyone's security is at risk. ..

I think his point is he thinks this woman may be intellectually challenged and is a danger to herself on site as well as others "

....all the more reason to tell her nothing. ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

Lae sums it up perfectly

Monsters she didn't send me pics she showed me an image on her phone and asked me if I knew him which i didn't and tbh in case it matters i wouldn't recognise him now as I had already decided to abandon ship and hardly glanced at the image..

at the mo I think i might send her a friendly mail and also might consider contacting her veries

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Just thread carefully

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Just thread carefully "

...Said the Mother who just had a C-section.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Just thread carefully

...Said the Mother who just had a C-section."

Lol... be nice girl

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

If you blocked everyone that gossiped you might miss out on party and social invites.

dont send people messages saying she gossiped about them, such drama.

Send her a message saying its not safe, and block her.

If other people tell her personal info, thats their problem.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'd be very very careful you might end up with a sti or a 2" cock just because people don't post on forum does to mean they don't gather information there this place can destroy people's character too easily

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By *ceryMan  over a year ago

Malahide & Waterford


"I'd be very very careful you might end up with a sti or a 2" cock just because people don't post on forum does to mean they don't gather information there this place can destroy people's character too easily "

Another nice Avatar Misscarr....

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By *al2001Man  over a year ago

kildare

Is it you're more worried about her safety than her gossip mongering? Sounds like indiscreet chat more than gossiping

I don't know if I'd contact her veries,they should know what she's like as they met her same as you

If you think she's genuinely mentally challenge,or to call them by their proper term a goofball,you should inform admin.think theirs laws about such things

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By *owdyBoobyMan  over a year ago

limerick


"no danger just, slow??

Not young lives at home with parents

Got info like ...

Thats my house

thats family car

this is a pic of another guy im seeing

i work in such a place

Just way too much in 1st 5 mins

"

Steer clear she doesnt understand FAB at all

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By *owdyBoobyMan  over a year ago

limerick


"I'd be very very careful you might end up with a sti or a 2" cock just because people don't post on forum does to mean they don't gather information there this place can destroy people's character too easily "

I can confirm Miss Carr you dont have an sti or a 2 inch cock.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't see any point in contacting her verifiers. They gave her the info and clearly thought she was alright when they verified her.

I appreciate what you're trying to do OP but Fab is renowned for the 'helper' being the one hung to the crucifix.

So look after yourself first n foremost.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"If you blocked everyone that gossiped you might miss out on party and social invites.

dont send people messages saying she gossiped about them, such drama.

Send her a message saying its not safe, and block her.

If other people tell her personal info, thats their problem."

Miss parties and socials?? wtf has that to do with anything?

Blocking her achieves nothing

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I'd be very very careful you might end up with a sti or a 2" cock just because people don't post on forum does to mean they don't gather information there this place can destroy people's character too easily

Another nice Avatar Misscarr.... "

Why thank you Mr Avery

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't see any point in contacting her verifiers. They gave her the info and clearly thought she was alright when they verified her.

I appreciate what you're trying to do OP but Fab is renowned for the 'helper' being the one hung to the crucifix.

So look after yourself first n foremost.

"

afraid I have to agree with you there Laelaps

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I'd be very very careful you might end up with a sti or a 2" cock just because people don't post on forum does to mean they don't gather information there this place can destroy people's character too easily

I can confirm Miss Carr you dont have an sti or a 2 inch cock."

If I had a cock I'd make sure I had at least 7 lol

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't see any point in contacting her verifiers. They gave her the info and clearly thought she was alright when they verified her.

I appreciate what you're trying to do OP but Fab is renowned for the 'helper' being the one hung to the crucifix.

So look after yourself first n foremost.

afraid I have to agree with you there Laelaps "

I impressed myself with a crucifix reference on Holy Thursday

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't see any point in contacting her verifiers. They gave her the info and clearly thought she was alright when they verified her.

I appreciate what you're trying to do OP but Fab is renowned for the 'helper' being the one hung to the crucifix.

So look after yourself first n foremost.

afraid I have to agree with you there Laelaps "

Same here!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I don't see any point in contacting her verifiers. They gave her the info and clearly thought she was alright when they verified her.

I appreciate what you're trying to do OP but Fab is renowned for the 'helper' being the one hung to the crucifix.

So look after yourself first n foremost.

afraid I have to agree with you there Laelaps

I impressed myself with a crucifix reference on Holy Thursday "

You nailed it Lae.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Jaysus ya could have told me in person

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Jaysus ya could have told me in person "

*guilty Hahahahahahahahaha!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Jaysus ya could have told me in person

*guilty Hahahahahahahahaha!"

As always....sexy avatar ms.candy

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By *owdyBoobyMan  over a year ago

limerick

Notes are a mighty tool when used correctly.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Miss parties and socials?? wtf has that to do with anything?

Blocking her achieves nothing "

Dont block her then, wtf do you want from me. If you have a specific set of goals to achieve then go achieve them, i dont even know what you want to achieve, no one does.

my goal would be to block her, i would achieve that goal by blocking her. There are two types of people in this world, achievers and non-achievers. I am an achiever. When you figure out your goals you can be an achiever too

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By *imwildWoman  over a year ago

around

Op why didn't you say something to her in person when ye met? If someone was saying stuff I thought inappropriate for whatever reasons i.e. indiscretion, personal safety etc, then I would say it.

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By *j47Man  over a year ago

limerick


"Jaysus ya could have told me in person

*guilty Hahahahahahahahaha!

As always....sexy avatar ms.candy "

Jayus ye are all changing avatar pics now I have to go and perve all her pics again

Ffs this a hard life we lead

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Jaysus ya could have told me in person "

Gwan outa that you

You already have the order just keep the 200metres away like the judge said and we will be fine x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Jay-sus, we all know women talk, I've understood this from a very early age (thanks Da) and have used it to my advantage ever since.

Without trying to sound too cocky and full of myself, I'm polite, respectful, charming, funny and quite handsome. (or so I've been told) I am always extremely generous in the pleasure department and I am not fully satisfied until she is, but I do get glowing recommendations for my troubles. Girlie chit chat and gossip is my bread and butter. I want girls to talk about me mate, it's when they don't, that's when you're in trouble.

Now, before I get lambasted about the need to be discreet, I fully understand and respect peoples privacy, especially on sites like these, and don't partake in ideal chit chat myself. I'm a gentleman and a gentleman never kisses and tells. But C'mon, girls will be girls, okay fair enough, she was speaking to a guy about all this and showing pictures of other guys to you, that's a bit faux pas, I must admit but is she the first to do so, I seriously doubt that. The amount of girls, even in the civilian world, that have said to me "see him, he's got a big this" or "see yerman there he's got a pencil that" Deal with it.

If you are worried about her mental health, contact admin, If it was me I'd reframe from contacting her friends and people who verified her, like some else said on here. They saw the same person you did, they still choose to be with her and then they verified her. So In my less than learned opinion, they made their beds,

DoubleUB out!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Jaysus ya could have told me in person

Gwan outa that you

You already have the order just keep the 200metres away like the judge said and we will be fine x"

I'm trying hard but its difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

sounds kind of strange to be honest better off walking away i think.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Jaysus ya could have told me in person "

Lmao ...just to clarify its NOT me yosser is talking about... I was actually joking

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By *illow1972Man  over a year ago

Naas

My advice, do nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Heres a suggestion...do nothing.

I can even understand the original posting anyway; some punctuation and spell check would help. Failing that, just press the log out button

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By *at-cWoman  over a year ago

Ballyshannon

I've had photos of other swingers shown to me, I've had video clips of swingers having sex sent to me. It's absolutely not on that any person shares your image without permission or identifies you through your images as a swinger but; as has been said already, there is no way I could have notified the people in the images without a massive drama. By the time it all came out I probably would have been just as badly off as the person showing the images.

I kept it buttoned but did say I found it tasteless that the person was sharing images and was told 'I know it's okay because I can trust you'. Say nothing, move on - there will always be those who suspect your motives for doing it and run you down for it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"My advice, do nothing. "

Wholeheartedly agree

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Just be nice to her.. And listen to her. She obviously is curious

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"How do I approach this ...

l recently met a lady on this site (have never seen her in forums since i started)

anyway im concerened for her well being I honestly think that she is a little slow (dont criticise the word please)

when we met we chatted for a while there was supposed to be more but once I got THAT feeling I declined and we left on good terms

My point is I got way to much info about her and others volunteered to me without prompt

what the hell do i do?

"

Morally I think you should at least contact admin. They can watch her account if needed. Things can escalate very fast. I have a friend who was in a recovery program privately and two former friends made this fact very public (6 degrees of separation doesn't apply in Ireland. Word goes around) He ended up back in treatment and lost his business. To this day all he wants is a public apology. My advice? Inform admin. Things can always escalate and you'll kick yourself if they do.

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By *at-cWoman  over a year ago

Ballyshannon

Admin probably wouldn't want to mediate on matters that happen off-site between 2 adults. I got the impression she showed and talked during the meet - more serious than this has happened off-site with no action taken.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Admin probably wouldn't want to mediate on matters that happen off-site between 2 adults. I got the impression she showed and talked during the meet - more serious than this has happened off-site with no action taken."

Admin or a mod can monitor who she talks to and the subject matter.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Admin probably wouldn't want to mediate on matters that happen off-site between 2 adults. I got the impression she showed and talked during the meet - more serious than this has happened off-site with no action taken.

Admin or a mod can monitor who she talks to and the subject matter. "

I don't think mods can see private conversations between people, so it would have to be administered, and in honesty they're probably too busy for that.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 03/04/15 14:49:27]"

Admin, not administered

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 03/04/15 14:49:27]

Admin, not administered "

On the "other" site mods can.

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By *at-cWoman  over a year ago

Ballyshannon


"[Removed by poster at 03/04/15 14:49:27]

On the "other" site mods can. "

To my knowledge only site owners can read emails etc. Moderators cannot here or on the other site.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Should have mentioned she has veries "

Don't worry. Theres a way to treat that. Sore dose though.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 03/04/15 14:49:27]

On the "other" site mods can.

To my knowledge only site owners can read emails etc. Moderators cannot here or on the other site."

Once a complaint is made on the other site mods can be granted access to monitor. I was once that soldier.

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By *at-cWoman  over a year ago

Ballyshannon

Then my friend the soldier is lying to me or we are talking about different sites, she said that no moderator has access to mail as the other members would be uncomfortable with this. Any issues can be reported to the site owners and they can review the emails, never a moderator.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Surely everyone who signs up here knows there are risks associated with being here. Is it not a question of whether or not you consider the risk reward ratio to be on your favour ?

Just my take

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

In your favour even ?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

i am a moderator on the other site you mentioned , just to be clear , its not possible for your private mails to be snooped on over there , the only thing that can be watched is the PUBLIC chat room logs . Just wanted to clear that up .

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By *ark the manMan  over a year ago

dublin. meath louth areas

Recently we had a sad and upsetting murder trial were a woman who I think we can say was mentally unstable.No one helped her and she was taken advantage of. Now this guy seems to be trying to help a woman he is concerned about mentally.He has got some reasonable advice which is good to see,Buy I am amazed the amount of self centered people who want to burn her at the stake and then we get the Goofballs and the achievers! Do me a favour .....

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Then my friend the soldier is lying to me or we are talking about different sites, she said that no moderator has access to mail as the other members would be uncomfortable with this. Any issues can be reported to the site owners and they can review the emails, never a moderator. "
l

Not what I was told. Mail me and I'll tell which mod, witnessed by whom and the exact location. No skin off my nose.

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By *at-cWoman  over a year ago

Ballyshannon

This site isn’t going to step in and protect her, she has been loose lipped and indiscreet but so are lots of people in this environment who do not have developmental issues. I’m not heartless but I do have a realistic expectation of what can be done in situations like this! Without some form of formal medical assessment they cannot dictate to her how to interact or remove her for ‘her own safety’. If talking about yourself or other people is a removable offense then we should be seeing a lot more profiles being banned.

If she has veris I assume she has had play meets. So some people have met her and felt she was ‘capable’ of reaching a decision to engage in sexual activity. She can go to a pub or nightclub at any time and make the same decisions, I don’t know if that’s a good or bad decision I don’t know the girl. The OP never said she was negative about her experiences here or told him of any abuses she encountered so maybe she genuinely is enjoying her time and has made safe/lucky choices so far.

He can go tell the people in question that they have mixed with an indiscreet person, but whistleblowers’ information isn’t always received with the intention it was meant. It could be wondered is he questioning other peoples’ scruples in meeting her, were they taking advantage of what he portrays as a vulnerable person. They could wonder is he a shit stirrer out to cause trouble for her due to a failed meet or something. They may wonder is he one of these white knights out to protect all women and gain kudos along the way. Some people just genuinely resent the fact that others find out information about them. They may go back to her and say he’s on a forum calling her slow and contacting her friends to drive her off site. All this may be moot now, she may be a forum reader and managed to put two and two together.

The point to address this was at the point she said it - in private during the meet, the moment she showed the photo etc. There’s still the option of having a gentle chat with her now but maybe take it off the forum in consideration for her feelings should she read this. I would think if he still feels he should do something then it should be between him and her, no one else is going to get involved in this because there isn’t enough to warrant it. If the gentle chat doesn’t work then he’s really not going to know it because he won’t be meeting her again.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

The point I'm making is this. This may be a no strings site but we all have a duty of care toward vulnerable people. Eventually she will happen across someone with lesser moral values than most. The OP was making the point about protecting her and not warning others. Or that's how I read it.

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By *at-cWoman  over a year ago

Ballyshannon

I agree genuinely vulnerable people should be protected and I acknowledge he said he hasn't seen her post to the forums, maybe I just should have said the below and left it at that. Best of luck OP and I hope your goood intentions are received in the spirit they are meant.
"

The point to address this was at the point she said it - in private during the meet, the moment she showed the photo etc. There’s still the option of having a gentle chat with her now but maybe take it off the forum in consideration for her feelings should she read this.

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