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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just browsing/perving profiles and came across a profile that stated that they don't meet non drinkers.
Is drinking that important in the swinging lifestyle or in Irish culture?? 
We've all seen the profiles that won't meet bi guys, won't meet if not shaven, won't meet smokers etc.
I'm all for preferences but I have to say, this one baffled me!
I'm not a non drinker myself but I've only drank twice in the last year and I can happily meet/socialise people sober.
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By *enna76Couple
over a year ago
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Maybe they are dry alcoholics and can't stand seeing someone drinking in their present..? 
Or have bad experiences with alcohol?
Can't stand the smell of it?
Can't stand d*unk people...?
There are many reasons why people would not like to meet people who drink alcohol. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe they are dry alcoholics and can't stand seeing someone drinking in their present..?
Or have bad experiences with alcohol?
Can't stand the smell of it?
Can't stand d*unk people...?
There are many reasons why people would not like to meet people who drink alcohol. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just browsing/perving profiles and came across a profile that stated that they don't meet non drinkers.
Is drinking that important in the swinging lifestyle or in Irish culture??
We've all seen the profiles that won't meet bi guys, won't meet if not shaven, won't meet smokers etc.
I'm all for preferences but I have to say, this one baffled me!
I'm not a non drinker myself but I've only drank twice in the last year and I can happily meet/socialise people sober.
Thoughts/Opinions? "
I think it's up to each individual/couple to choose who they prefer to meet.and if you don't match what they are looking for,move onto another profile where you all are more compatible. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just browsing/perving profiles and came across a profile that stated that they don't meet non drinkers.
Is drinking that important in the swinging lifestyle or in Irish culture??
We've all seen the profiles that won't meet bi guys, won't meet if not shaven, won't meet smokers etc.
I'm all for preferences but I have to say, this one baffled me!
I'm not a non drinker myself but I've only drank twice in the last year and I can happily meet/socialise people sober.
Thoughts/Opinions?
I think it's up to each individual/couple to choose who they prefer to meet.and if you don't match what they are looking for,move onto another profile where you all are more compatible."
It's nothing to do with me being compatible or not?
I've no interest in meeting people who need a drink to swing. They shouldn't be doing it if that's the case.
And while I agree that people should meet who they want, I'm asking if drinking is that important or necessary in the lifestyle that people won't meet someone who doesn't drink? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I much prefer to meet without alcohol that way you know what you are doing and have no regrets in the morning but do love a d*unken shag but only with people we know xx |
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I don't drink either. By and large, the irish need drink to have a good time.
Some drinkers think non drinkers are no craic to be around. Some even think that non drinkers are either odd or recovering alcoholics. Stupid people.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't drink either. By and large, the irish need drink to have a good time.
Some drinkers think non drinkers are no craic to be around. Some even think that non drinkers are either odd or recovering alcoholics. Stupid people.
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Totally agree with you bud.. I had a meet down the country last year in a small hotel. . bar was packed and when I ordered a coffee I got looked up and down as if to say I was some weird foreigner. One guy even muttered "a fucking coffee. He's not from around here"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely drink and refuse to drink on meets. Like to play sober, its more enjoyable and tbh if people need to drink to play then they shouldn't be doing it in the first place then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just browsing/perving profiles and came across a profile that stated that they don't meet non drinkers.
Is drinking that important in the swinging lifestyle or in Irish culture??
We've all seen the profiles that won't meet bi guys, won't meet if not shaven, won't meet smokers etc.
I'm all for preferences but I have to say, this one baffled me!
I'm not a non drinker myself but I've only drank twice in the last year and I can happily meet/socialise people sober.
Thoughts/Opinions?
I think it's up to each individual/couple to choose who they prefer to meet.and if you don't match what they are looking for,move onto another profile where you all are more compatible.
It's nothing to do with me being compatible or not?
I've no interest in meeting people who need a drink to swing. They shouldn't be doing it if that's the case.
And while I agree that people should meet who they want, I'm asking if drinking is that important or necessary in the lifestyle that people won't meet someone who doesn't drink? "
Well obviously for them it is important,and who are you to say wether they should be swinging or not?
How would you like someone to say wether you should swing or not based on a decision you make?
Too many feel it necessary to question the lifestyle of others instead of concentrating on their own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the non drinkers and those that don't drink whilst playing are all very entitled to who they meet,but so is this couple,whoever they are.if you don't like people drinking on a meet,don't meet them,simple,but don't feel you can dictate to others how they lead their lives.
And for the record,I don't drink at meets,but that's my choice,not anyone else's.(Mr G) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really don't think the op is saying who should or should not be swinging.
In all fairness it is very strange to see won't meet non-drinkers.
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Yes they did,and yes it is strange to see,totally agree,but it's still their choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have am agreement that we will never play with anyone that has too much drink on board as we do this to enjoy & remember our experiences in a positive way but as in everything else everyone to their own, this is not to tell anyone else what's right or wrong for them. I personally do not drink much & can enjoy myself every bit as much with or without drink.
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over a year ago
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We dont drink and have no problem with those that do but prefer not to play with d*unk people.I asked friends of ours why the prefer not to play with non drinkers and they said it was simply they like to get d*unk on a night out and can feel a bit self concious with non drinkers.all about preferences  |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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"I really don't think the op is saying who should or should not be swinging.
In all fairness it is very strange to see won't meet non-drinkers.
Yes they did,and yes it is strange to see,totally agree,but it's still their choice."
Had to read further down for that bit. But I think your nit picking there. I would read that statement as meaning : if you need to get d*unk to swing then you shouldn't be.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really don't think the op is saying who should or should not be swinging.
In all fairness it is very strange to see won't meet non-drinkers.
Yes they did,and yes it is strange to see,totally agree,but it's still their choice.
Had to read further down for that bit. But I think your nit picking there. I would read that statement as meaning : if you need to get d*unk to swing then you shouldn't be.
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How is it not picking? The op said "I've no interest meeting people who need a drink to swing.They shouldn't be doing it if that's the case"
The ops words,not mine.
And very condescending in my opinion
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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"I really don't think the op is saying who should or should not be swinging.
In all fairness it is very strange to see won't meet non-drinkers.
Yes they did,and yes it is strange to see,totally agree,but it's still their choice.
Had to read further down for that bit. But I think your nit picking there. I would read that statement as meaning : if you need to get d*unk to swing then you shouldn't be.
How is it not picking? The op said "I've no interest meeting people who need a drink to swing.They shouldn't be doing it if that's the case"
The ops words,not mine.
And very condescending in my opinion
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I read the whole thing in a different context. Not as a criticism of drinkers per se because as she says herself she's a drinker too.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I really don't think the op is saying who should or should not be swinging.
In all fairness it is very strange to see won't meet non-drinkers.
Yes they did,and yes it is strange to see,totally agree,but it's still their choice.
Had to read further down for that bit. But I think your nit picking there. I would read that statement as meaning : if you need to get d*unk to swing then you shouldn't be.
How is it not picking? The op said "I've no interest meeting people who need a drink to swing.They shouldn't be doing it if that's the case"
The ops words,not mine.
And very condescending in my opinion
I read the whole thing in a different context. Not as a criticism of drinkers per se because as she says herself she's a drinker too.
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I didn't see it as a criticism of drinkers,initially.
I just pointed out the profile in question(and I don't even know who they are)have as much right to state what they are and aren't looking for,as much as the next profiler.
However,when to op said they shouldn't be swinging because of their choice,well then yes,I did see that as a criticism. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you're saying it's perfectly fine for them to need a drink in order for them to enjoy swinging? "
I'm saying if it works for them,it's their choice.they are being upfront about it on their profile.they aren't hiding the fact they like to drink on a meet.those that don't drink on a meet then have the choice not to contact them. |
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over a year ago
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"So you're saying it's perfectly fine for them to need a drink in order for them to enjoy swinging?
I'm saying if it works for them,it's their choice.they are being upfront about it on their profile.they aren't hiding the fact they like to drink on a meet.those that don't drink on a meet then have the choice not to contact them."
I still stand by what I said. If they need to drink to swing then they shouldn't be swinging.
Call it condescending or a critical or a you like but the reality is If you need to drink to do anything, swinging included, you have issues.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Guys yer kinda going off point now yo be honest. Ok maybe she shouldnt have said that they should or shouldnt be swinging, but the initial question is still valid...why would they not meet non drinkers? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you're saying it's perfectly fine for them to need a drink in order for them to enjoy swinging?
I'm saying if it works for them,it's their choice.they are being upfront about it on their profile.they aren't hiding the fact they like to drink on a meet.those that don't drink on a meet then have the choice not to contact them.
I still stand by what I said. If they need to drink to swing then they shouldn't be swinging.
Call it condescending or a critical or a you like but the reality is If you need to drink to do anything, swinging included, you have issues.
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Or perhaps it's you that has issues,telling others how to lead their swinging lives.they obviously aren't what you are looking for,but that doesn't give you the right to say they shouldn't swing.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Guys yer kinda going off point now yo be honest. Ok maybe she shouldnt have said that they should or shouldnt be swinging, but the initial question is still valid...why would they not meet non drinkers?"
Because that's their choice.We all have choices,no one is being forced to either contact or meet them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Guys yer kinda going off point now yo be honest. Ok maybe she shouldnt have said that they should or shouldnt be swinging, but the initial question is still valid...why would they not meet non drinkers?
Because that's their choice.We all have choices,no one is being forced to either contact or meet them."
I think the op was looking for a little more depth in an answer than just 'its their choice'. We know its their choice...we're just trying to find out why that is so. It is ok to ask these questions you know. |
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"So you're saying it's perfectly fine for them to need a drink in order for them to enjoy swinging?
I'm saying if it works for them,it's their choice.they are being upfront about it on their profile.they aren't hiding the fact they like to drink on a meet.those that don't drink on a meet then have the choice not to contact them.
I still stand by what I said. If they need to drink to swing then they shouldn't be swinging.
Call it condescending or a critical or a you like but the reality is If you need to drink to do anything, swinging included, you have issues.
Or perhaps it's you that has issues,telling others how to lead their swinging lives.they obviously aren't what you are looking for,but that doesn't give you the right to say they shouldn't swing.
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So if a taxi driver needs a drink to drive, that's ok?
Or a nurse needs a drink before work, that's ok?
We should jus just let them live their lives? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"sometimes you need a bit of Dutch courage, you can have a couple of drinks and still have a clear enough head, know your limits"
exactly nothing wrong with having one or two. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So you're saying it's perfectly fine for them to need a drink in order for them to enjoy swinging?
I'm saying if it works for them,it's their choice.they are being upfront about it on their profile.they aren't hiding the fact they like to drink on a meet.those that don't drink on a meet then have the choice not to contact them.
I still stand by what I said. If they need to drink to swing then they shouldn't be swinging.
Call it condescending or a critical or a you like but the reality is If you need to drink to do anything, swinging included, you have issues.
Or perhaps it's you that has issues,telling others how to lead their swinging lives.they obviously aren't what you are looking for,but that doesn't give you the right to say they shouldn't swing.
So if a taxi driver needs a drink to drive, that's ok?
Or a nurse needs a drink before work, that's ok?
We should jus just let them live their lives?"
I hardly think thats the same now to be fair. Your talking about public service professions |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So you're saying it's perfectly fine for them to need a drink in order for them to enjoy swinging?
I'm saying if it works for them,it's their choice.they are being upfront about it on their profile.they aren't hiding the fact they like to drink on a meet.those that don't drink on a meet then have the choice not to contact them.
I still stand by what I said. If they need to drink to swing then they shouldn't be swinging.
Call it condescending or a critical or a you like but the reality is If you need to drink to do anything, swinging included, you have issues.
Or perhaps it's you that has issues,telling others how to lead their swinging lives.they obviously aren't what you are looking for,but that doesn't give you the right to say they shouldn't swing.
So if a taxi driver needs a drink to drive, that's ok?
Or a nurse needs a drink before work, that's ok?
We should jus just let them live their lives?
I hardly think thats the same now to be fair. Your talking about public service professions"
It's still the same point about NEEDING a drink to do something. It's too accepted in this country and our culture! |
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"So you're saying it's perfectly fine for them to need a drink in order for them to enjoy swinging?
I'm saying if it works for them,it's their choice.they are being upfront about it on their profile.they aren't hiding the fact they like to drink on a meet.those that don't drink on a meet then have the choice not to contact them.
I still stand by what I said. If they need to drink to swing then they shouldn't be swinging.
Call it condescending or a critical or a you like but the reality is If you need to drink to do anything, swinging included, you have issues.
Or perhaps it's you that has issues,telling others how to lead their swinging lives.they obviously aren't what you are looking for,but that doesn't give you the right to say they shouldn't swing.
So if a taxi driver needs a drink to drive, that's ok?
Or a nurse needs a drink before work, that's ok?
We should jus just let them live their lives?"
...lol..is swinging a job?...can I have an interview right now |
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"So you're saying it's perfectly fine for them to need a drink in order for them to enjoy swinging?
I'm saying if it works for them,it's their choice.they are being upfront about it on their profile.they aren't hiding the fact they like to drink on a meet.those that don't drink on a meet then have the choice not to contact them.
I still stand by what I said. If they need to drink to swing then they shouldn't be swinging.
Call it condescending or a critical or a you like but the reality is If you need to drink to do anything, swinging included, you have issues.
Or perhaps it's you that has issues,telling others how to lead their swinging lives.they obviously aren't what you are looking for,but that doesn't give you the right to say they shouldn't swing.
So if a taxi driver needs a drink to drive, that's ok?
Or a nurse needs a drink before work, that's ok?
We should jus just let them live their lives?"
Swinging is a pastime,a bit of fun,a release,it's not a job ffs.Of course its not ok for a taxi driver or a nurse to drink whilst on duty,now you are just being ridiculous.How stupid a statement t is that. |
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have seen the profile of the couple whilst browsing , and I thought it a strange prefrence , but I suppose whether is actually is a strange prefrence is a matter of individual opinion .I dont drink , and my worst nightmare is a meet whos had a few too many , I wouldnt play with anyone whos had too much to drink , Id wonder about the lines of consent being blurred as well , but then again I am not very vanilla in my tastes , and the way I play is not vanilla either .I have often thought to myself that people who need to drink in order to play should probably not be playing . If you couldnt do this stone cold sober then you shouldnt be doing it . |
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