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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I am just wondering if anyone has ever met someone on here and became involved with them as in a relationship and then considered giving up swinging for them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I am just wondering if anyone has ever met someone on here and became involved with them as in a relationship and then considered giving up swinging for them? "
What I know from the little knowledge that I have is swinging was brought in from the French sexual revolution. It's all about the sexual freedom of both the man and the woman whether it be couples or singles. I would find it rare for such something like this to happen as this is a lifestyle whoever you will meet here that is what they're looking for. As for couples they're looking for a bit of extra excitement and for singles the choice of having love making process with no attachment or constraints. But everything possible  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I am just wondering if anyone has ever met someone on here and became involved with them as in a relationship and then considered giving up swinging for them?
What I know from the little knowledge that I have is swinging was brought in from the French sexual revolution. It's all about the sexual freedom of both the man and the woman whether it be couples or singles. I would find it rare for such something like this to happen as this is a lifestyle whoever you will meet here that is what they're looking for. As for couples they're looking for a bit of extra excitement and for singles the choice of having love making process with no attachment or constraints. But everything possible "
Was that a yes or a no ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've done it before but found the other person hadn't.. I don't see why can't give it a try, but both would really want it to work. Maybe come back as a couple then if miss the lifestyle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Was that a yes or a no ? "
It could be, yes. I take myself as an example that is different from the types i mentioned. As someone who's to some level trying to find an escape from the firm grip of reality
It could happen so it's yes I guess |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I am just wondering if anyone has ever met someone on here and became involved with them as in a relationship and then considered giving up swinging for them? "
Done it but has to be hardest relationship to make work, trust is a major issue when you meet on a site like this but its worth a go if you feel its right, certainly no regrets |
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"So I am just wondering if anyone has ever met someone on here and became involved with them as in a relationship and then considered giving up swinging for them?
Done it but has to be hardest relationship to make work, trust is a major issue when you meet on a site like this but its worth a go if you feel its right, certainly no regrets "
I've heard this before. Why is and why would trust be any kind of issue? I mean like ppl realize their new partner or lover wasn't hatched from an egg special like for them yeah? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We I know I swing Because I don't do commitment and I love sex but I have met a female from this site that I get along with and she has said she would not want me to give up my lifestyle for her but I would gladly do it if it meant I was hers and she was mine. Does that sound naive? It probably does but I am okay with that.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We I know I swing Because I don't do commitment and I love sex but I have met a female from this site that I get along with and she has said she would not want me to give up my lifestyle for her but I would gladly do it if it meant I was hers and she was mine. Does that sound naive? It probably does but I am okay with that. "
All you can do is try. If you want to make it work, then perhaps both of you say you'll stay off the site for six months and get to know each other and learn how your relationship will work. Trust is a huge thing in any relationship - as is honest communication, so I'd suggest not having fab muddy the waters at the start of a relationship is a good thing.
Best of luck with whatever you decide to do - and don't worry about being naive, much better that than be cynical in my (admittedly not very) humble opinion xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We I know I swing Because I don't do commitment and I love sex but I have met a female from this site that I get along with and she has said she would not want me to give up my lifestyle for her but I would gladly do it if it meant I was hers and she was mine. Does that sound naive? It probably does but I am okay with that.
All you can do is try. If you want to make it work, then perhaps both of you say you'll stay off the site for six months and get to know each other and learn how your relationship will work. Trust is a huge thing in any relationship - as is honest communication, so I'd suggest not having fab muddy the waters at the start of a relationship is a good thing.
Best of luck with whatever you decide to do - and don't worry about being naive, much better that than be cynical in my (admittedly not very) humble opinion xxxx"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Technically. ...singles who only meet singles. .aren't actually swinging. ..their just getting laid....married cpls who swing. ..seem to be completely comfortable with it...fbs....or other types of cpls. ..sometimes there are hidden agendas. ..its a minefield. ...but ive heard of people who have met their " soul mate" on here. ...now that would make you wonder. ..lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We I know I swing Because I don't do commitment and I love sex but I have met a female from this site that I get along with and she has said she would not want me to give up my lifestyle for her but I would gladly do it if it meant I was hers and she was mine. Does that sound naive? It probably does but I am okay with that. "
I don't think it sounds naive at all.You seem to be saying in the original posting that on one hand you don't do commitment and on the other hand you are hoping to move forward into a committed exclusive relationship,dare I mention the word faithful.
By lifestyle I assume you mean being sexually active with multiple partners,a person doesn't have to be a member of this site to lead this sort of life,you will just as easily meet people out on a night in town or in any walk of life who are promiscuous but the difference is that they won't be up front and honest about it.So meeting here and falling for someone at least you know what your potential lover is about on that score.That has got to be a plus,it means you can openly discuss the issue together honestly,that's going to save a lot of dancing around the subject and misunderstanding.We all have variables in our moral codes and it's a matter of setting the boundaries between yourselves and not being selfish,each of you are going to have to give to receive and going to have disagreements to overcome for the benefit of the relationship,it how you deal with that which will determine the outcome.
A weak person will just get angry clam up or go fuck someone just because they can't face a hurdle,a stronger person will struggle with the issue and maybe become difficult for a time but if they want what you their lover wants they will battle through and deal with it and you will help them and have a deeper understanding of them and be closer.Earning your trust,strengthening your bond is what it's all about,so that in the future when some outside influence of any type threatens your relationship,you have someone whom you have no doubt that you can depend on,backbone.No faithful relationship is easy but the benefits are enormous.Remember trust can be breached in many forms not just sleeping with someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Myself and liam met on here, and realistically We are here to chat to old friends that's it, I would happily leave this site for I'm and never look back!
Katie xx |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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We met on another swing site and a few months later we joined as a cpl , we now live together and have a very loving relationship same as a vanilla cpl does , but swinging is a bonus as we enjoy it together and only meet as a cpl
mrs crazy  |
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"We met on another swing site and a few months later we joined as a cpl , we now live together and have a very loving relationship same as a vanilla cpl does , but swinging is a bonus as we enjoy it together and only meet as a cpl
mrs crazy "
And a fun lovely...loving couple you are to...
Ollie |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh I truly believe it can happen. Some stay swinging and some give it up.
Loads of examples on here, my friends frosty an duffer for one instance have given up swinging for each other.
They met here an are so loved up its brilliant. .I've never seen a cpl to enjoy each other as much as i have seen them..its all about trust an what i see with these 2 is just that..so happy for those that find love on a site..like this..
Best of luck OP I'm sure if you think it's worth the chance take it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh I truly believe it can happen. Some stay swinging and some give it up.
Loads of examples on here, my friends frosty an duffer for one instance have given up swinging for each other.
They met here an are so loved up its brilliant. .I've never seen a cpl to enjoy each other as much as i have seen them..its all about trust an what i see with these 2 is just that..so happy for those that find love on a site..like this..
Best of luck OP I'm sure if you think it's worth the chance take it! "
I'd like to think it's possible to have cake and eat it too!!
We're all here for fun and if love comes along in any shape or form Y'all shud grab it!!
Here for a god time not a long time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh I truly believe it can happen. Some stay swinging and some give it up.
Loads of examples on here, my friends frosty an duffer for one instance have given up swinging for each other.
They met here an are so loved up its brilliant. .I've never seen a cpl to enjoy each other as much as i have seen them..its all about trust an what i see with these 2 is just that..so happy for those that find love on a site..like this..
Best of luck OP I'm sure if you think it's worth the chance take it! "
They are a lovely couple |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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"We met on another swing site and a few months later we joined as a cpl , we now live together and have a very loving relationship same as a vanilla cpl does , but swinging is a bonus as we enjoy it together and only meet as a cpl
mrs crazy
And a fun lovely...loving couple you are to...
Ollie"
awwwww thanks Ollie , i will thank u in person next time we see ye
mrs crazy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh I truly believe it can happen. Some stay swinging and some give it up.
Loads of examples on here, my friends frosty an duffer for one instance have given up swinging for each other.
They met here an are so loved up its brilliant. .I've never seen a cpl to enjoy each other as much as i have seen them..its all about trust an what i see with these 2 is just that..so happy for those that find love on a site..like this..
Best of luck OP I'm sure if you think it's worth the chance take it!
I'd like to think it's possible to have cake and eat it too!!
We're all here for fun and if love comes along in any shape or form Y'all shud grab it!!
Here for a god time not a long time "
Cake and eat it sounds perfect to me too!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it'd be nice to find someone likeminded to have a relationship with and continue to swing but remaining on the site if you're not going to meet anyone else seems a bit of a waste of time to me. Fine if you state that you're both just here to chat and do just that but I see so many profiles of couples who aren't meeting, they stress the fact that they're not meeting, but social invites welcome?
These couples that are only together, are they taking the places of couples and singles who actually swing at social events too who use these events to network and set up meets? |
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"Oh I truly believe it can happen. Some stay swinging and some give it up.
Loads of examples on here, my friends frosty an duffer for one instance have given up swinging for each other.
They met here an are so loved up its brilliant. .I've never seen a cpl to enjoy each other as much as i have seen them..its all about trust an what i see with these 2 is just that..so happy for those that find love on a site..like this..
Best of luck OP I'm sure if you think it's worth the chance take it! "
Saw the spark when they first met in Cork......... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If Ollie asked me to leave here ..i would ....we do park it every so often ...but to be honest we are having way to much of a giggle to leave it completely behind .."
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By *llie8Man
over a year ago
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"If Ollie asked me to leave here ..i would ....we do park it every so often ...but to be honest we are having way to much of a giggle to leave it completely behind .. "
Ollie would never ask you to do anything that would take from your joy.....
I do like our vanilla weekends as well....x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't use this site if I'm dating and the relationship looks like it's getting serious.
Not that I have meet loads of people on here anyway. A few, but I'm not what you would call a very experienced swinger.
I suppose it would be harder to do (no pun intended) if I was more active in meeting people from here, but when I'm not on I miss it a bit. I guess if I were swinging more I would probably struggle with giving it up unless I fell head over heals in love. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't use this site if I'm dating and the relationship looks like it's getting serious.
Not that I have meet loads of people on here anyway. A few, but I'm not what you would call a very experienced swinger.
I suppose it would be harder to do (no pun intended) if I was more active in meeting people from here, but when I'm not on I miss it a bit. I guess if I were swinging more I would probably struggle with giving it up unless I fell head over heals in love. "
been there tried it , let down so many times no need for lies , once found out they never get another chance, ah we'll least I have tried it so from now I do my own thing, but if it works for people good luck to them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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After meeting which was lovely I have to say we talked and got on but I have to say I did not get that spark in person from her that I did over the phone. Does that make sense? I am just going to see how we go but can't see myself giving up swinging for her. Sorry to say I don't think or see myself being in a committed relationship for the foreseeable future. There are some fantastic comments being made folks. Thank you. Sex was great with her but it just did not feel the same as it did with other women I have been with. Maybe I am destined to be a Virgina Wolfe for the rest of my life which is fine by me. |
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