What's people thoughts or reactions to a parent starting a new relationship after the death of a mother or father.
Do you feel betrayal to the loss parent do you feel instant dislike..... Life goes on happy sad emotions.. |
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"What's people thoughts or reactions to a parent starting a new relationship after the death of a mother or father.
Do you feel betrayal to the loss parent do you feel instant dislike..... Life goes on happy sad emotions.."
See no problem with it - after a respectful period of mourning. Problem is for some that could be a month. For others a year. No "one size fits all". |
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It happens and it is difficult esp the first year emotions are raw. 1 if they are happy you shud be happy. 2 if its difficult for you explain this without shouting and screaming try come to mutual understanding and ask that the new partner not be there if your visiting till you get your head around it. Mourning for a parent never ends but does get easier over time.
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"It happens and it is difficult esp the first year emotions are raw. 1 if they are happy you shud be happy. 2 if its difficult for you explain this without shouting and screaming try come to mutual understanding and ask that the new partner not be there if your visiting till you get your head around it. Mourning for a parent never ends but does get easier over time.
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After losing my Dad I thought my mum should never be with anyone else, he was the love of her life. But she has met someone new who is amazing for her, brought her back out of her shell. And he has taken time to get to know me and my sisters. he treats her like a princess.
She was my Daddy's Queen and he will always be King of my heart. |
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"After losing my Dad I thought my mum should never be with anyone else, he was the love of her life. But she has met someone new who is amazing for her, brought her back out of her shell. And he has taken time to get to know me and my sisters. he treats her like a princess.
She was my Daddy's Queen and he will always be King of my heart. "
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I'm talking bout myself here.
And yes I'm sure people thinking this is not the place to be talking bout things on a swingers site.
I just wanted people's reactions if they had been through the same. Is it normal at my age to feel this instinct betrayal but know I'm being selfish at the same time. |
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"I'm talking bout myself here.
And yes I'm sure people thinking this is not the place to be talking bout things on a swingers site.
I just wanted people's reactions if they had been through the same. Is it normal at my age to feel this instinct betrayal but know I'm being selfish at the same time. "
No its very natural to feel that way. But just remember everyone needs companionship and yes it will be difficult to see them with some1 new but if it makes them happy then you've got to suck it up and get on with it as best u can!!
If I can deal with it at my age then you will do just fine!  |
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"After losing my Dad I thought my mum should never be with anyone else, he was the love of her life. But she has met someone new who is amazing for her, brought her back out of her shell. And he has taken time to get to know me and my sisters. he treats her like a princess.
She was my Daddy's Queen and he will always be King of my heart. "
That's so lovely. x |
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By *razy-CplCouple
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"What's people thoughts or reactions to a parent starting a new relationship after the death of a mother or father.
Do you feel betrayal to the loss parent do you feel instant dislike..... Life goes on happy sad emotions.."
i lost my hubby a few yrs ago , it was the following year that i met mr crazy , i wasnt looking to meet anyone for relationship and defo didnt want to fall in love again but it happened , we cant control out feelings ,
my family adore him and were so welcoming to him as they knew i had bad few yrs before my huuby died , and also my kids love and are very close to him now too and we live together and u never know in a few yrs there could be a wedding  
only you know urself if its time to move on but let me warn u that u cant control ur feelings if you do meet someone and fall for them 
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Awh...I know a local man lost his wife a few yrs ago now,he's a absolute lovely gentleman,he does see a friend and go 'dancing'..
but because of his family not liking it he never brings her home or to any family function,it's so sad...His wife is 3 yrs gone  |
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I'm happy for my father but can't help feeling slight resentment towards this woman.
Who I don't know and my children finding it hard. It's early days I know and people get used to the idea thanks for feedback. |
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"I'm happy for my father but can't help feeling slight resentment towards this woman.
Who I don't know and my children finding it hard. It's early days I know and people get used to the idea thanks for feedback. "
Its tough but everyone deserves to have someone to keep them company and make them feel normal again. I understand and can relate to your situation.my dads girlfriend had the same name as me which was even worse and all of a sudden it was Cat who.me and my mam were forgotten.well that's how it felt.so I hated the woman even though there was nothing wrong with her and she made him happy. |
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Well its a tough one my mum passed away 4 yrs ago now and we started to suspect my dad was seeing someone recently .. a woman who would never be welcome in our home .. would have liked him to meet a 'nice' woman not an auld trollop.. but he'll always be my da just sad he has lost all judgement and has the town talkin about him |
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"Well its a tough one my mum passed away 4 yrs ago now and we started to suspect my dad was seeing someone recently .. a woman who would never be welcome in our home .. would have liked him to meet a 'nice' woman not an auld trollop.. but he'll always be my da just sad he has lost all judgement and has the town talkin about him"
is he happy? and isnt that important?
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Don't judge a person based on everybody else's judgement! Get to know that person in your own way, take your time getting to know that person and then judge! Trust your own instincts!! |
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My mother died when Ivwas very young and my Dad re married and consequently separated some 18 years later when I was 21. He sent me a letter telling me all about the new love of his life. I remember the scalding anger I felt towards him because I felt he was betraying my mother and us. It was the strongest emotion I have ever felt. It took a while to work through it but time is a healer and he is very happy, and her adult kids and us call eachother brother and sister and the kids are growing up as cousins. But yes I can understand you. You need to give it time and sure as long as your parent is happy you shoild be happy for him, at least that should be the goal. |
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How long is your mother dead my mother died eleven year ago and my father just gave up on life he never leaves the house now and too me is just waiting too join ma I think his heart died with her I think I'd prefer too see him having some sort of life rather than just sitting by the fire but I don't know how I'd react too some one fillings ma's shoes either |
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My mother is 2 and half years passed. I suppose it would not matter how long. It's the first time dating. And how I found out
He never approached me.
I'm a grown woman and I know everyone is entitled to a happy life with someone.
I get the betrayal I kind of feel that... I suppose it was handled wrong from my father's prospective and emotions run high. |
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By *razy-CplCouple
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"My mother is 2 and half years passed. I suppose it would not matter how long. It's the first time dating. And how I found out
He never approached me.
I'm a grown woman and I know everyone is entitled to a happy life with someone.
I get the betrayal I kind of feel that... I suppose it was handled wrong from my father's prospective and emotions run high. "
everyone is different, some people are easy going and take things in there stride, other are not and like to know of any changes that happen in family life, hopefully uve had a chat with ur dad to tell him how u feel and hopefully his new partner is understanding to his family , wish u all the best and remember what ever happenes he is still ur dad and u only get the dad in life
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Put yourself in his shoes, life is lonely even in a house full of family there is always a need for a certain someone to share thoughts and feelings and to feel special, remember that he's not moving on , just learning to accept his loss and to find a place for his own life. Life is short and painful without love |
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