'youre too nice'......seems ive been hearing this a lot lately on this and in my personal life and i have to be a bit more 'irish girl' what ever that means. so does anyone have any tips on how to do this?
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It depends what they mean by 'Too nice'. If they are saying it because they feel you are being taken advantage of, then yes maybe it would be wise to be a little more assertive.
If you are just too nice a person then take the compliment and change nothing. We need more lovely people in this world xx |
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Always thought of myself as assertive. So I don't know. And yeah, I'm prolly being taken advantage of. Just always thought if yer good to someone they're good to you back. How do the irish girls deal with this? Cause I keep being told I need to be more that. |
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"I get that a lot also and then times you are more assertive there not happy either 
Titties though, and a Donegal accent. What is there to complain about? "
Michael I'd really appreciate you hijacking someone else's thread. I'm asking for help here. Thanks |
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"'youre too nice'......seems ive been hearing this a lot lately on this and in my personal life and i have to be a bit more 'irish girl' what ever that means. so does anyone have any tips on how to do this?
thanks in advance xxx"
Ok, surely the obvious thing to do when someone says something stupid like that is to ignore them? Methinks you may be over thinking it.  |
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"Always thought of myself as assertive. So I don't know. And yeah, I'm prolly being taken advantage of. Just always thought if yer good to someone they're good to you back. How do the irish girls deal with this? Cause I keep being told I need to be more that."
That's where the wooden spoon comes in 
I wouldn't change you, maybe you should be more aware of peoples attitudes and motives. Nothing as bad as taking someone for granted xx |
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"Always thought of myself as assertive. So I don't know. And yeah, I'm prolly being taken advantage of. Just always thought if yer good to someone they're good to you back. How do the irish girls deal with this? Cause I keep being told I need to be more that."
doesn't always work like that I think good people will treat you well and others take advantage of your nature. Be yourself cause u can't be anyone else good or assertive  |
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people will only treat you as you let them.. I have realised a lot of people are only after what suits them and care very little about others this is both on fab and in the real world. but you do find good people it has to be said |
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"people will only treat you as you let them.. I have realised a lot of people are only after what suits them and care very little about others this is both on fab and in the real world. but you do find good people it has to be said"
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"'youre too nice'......seems ive been hearing this a lot lately on this and in my personal life and i have to be a bit more 'irish girl' what ever that means. so does anyone have any tips on how to do this?
thanks in advance xxx"
You? Too nice?
Baaaaahaahahahaahaha
Only kidding.
Whose turn is it to buy lunch? |
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Cherry ive been told that too,, people will view you on your general manner within a private message or with your comments in a thread in the forum.
They ll either love you or hate you and I've come to believe, I'm not everyone's cup of tea, the same as they might not be mine
Being "too nice" obviously is in your nature and part of who you are,,,would you want to be anything else than true to yourself? Ok,so some will take the piss and try to take advantage of your kind nature,its up to you whether you allow them to or not lovely lady
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Cherry bombshell, who are these people telling you that? And why? What are their motives? You should only change/ adjust if you feel things arent working for you and you end up feeling used, or disappointed, or unhappy! Are you happy with yourself and your ways? Then don't change a thing. Btw I don't know what this Irish girl thing is! It's never been said to me lol! |
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"'youre too nice'......seems ive been hearing this a lot lately on this and in my personal life and i have to be a bit more 'irish girl' what ever that means. so does anyone have any tips on how to do this?
thanks in advance xxx"
i get it sometimes when i turned down i dont know wether to take it as a insult or a compliment i get confused over it lol. |
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"'youre too nice'......seems ive been hearing this a lot lately on this and in my personal life and i have to be a bit more 'irish girl' what ever that means. so does anyone have any tips on how to do this?
thanks in advance xxx"
Too nice you ? Hardly if your treatment of your friends is anything to go by |
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I have also been told at times I am 'too nice' & at times when people take advantage or treat u like dirt I think so myself. But I am not going to change for anyone! I am who I am so cherry don't change for anyone, they not worth it
Mrs H xx |
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You have to be honest with yourself.
I'd regard myself as nice, but the nice things I do make me happy. I expect no reciprocation and don't get angry if people don't appreciate it.
You should never expect to be treated how you treat others. If it makes you angry, jealous, mad that you were nice to someone and they were not nice back then you are just going through the motions of being nice.
Being nice is simply doing the right thing.
On here things can get muddy. People can gossip, people can talk about you behind your back. People can have their heads messed with and might need reassurance, so you give it to them straight up.
The worst people are the ones that project anger on people for not being nice back. Stop doing the right thing because of anger or jealousy.
So if you are honest with yourself, figure out if in your mind you are nice enough or not, make the changes you want or dont want then be comfortable with yourself.
As regards to other people. Well It is my opinion that when a guy says a girl is too nice when she is normal it means he wants a cum bucket whore and he is afraid he will hurt you.
If you are too nice and you expect nice things back and a guy says you are too nice, it usually means he wants a cum bucket whore and is afraid he will hurt you.
If you're a guy and a girl tells you that you are too nice and you are the normal amount of right, what she is saying is she is broken and mistakes abuse for affection and you will never make her happy.
If you are a guy and you are too nice and a girl tells you that you are too nice, what she is saying is that she is broke an mistakes abuse for affection and you will never make her happy. |
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This might not be relevant to your case but worth considering.
In Ireland (might be a Nordy thing though) 'too nice' is often a polite way of saying too gullible or easily walked over and taken advantage of.
Depends in what context they've said it to you.
I think you're a very strong and assertive lady! If they mean 'nice' (in the kind/generous/gracious way) then don't change that! As someone else said we need more nice people in this world! 
M x |
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"You have to be honest with yourself.
I'd regard myself as nice, but the nice things I do make me happy. I expect no reciprocation and don't get angry if people don't appreciate it.
You should never expect to be treated how you treat others. If it makes you angry, jealous, mad that you were nice to someone and they were not nice back then you are just going through the motions of being nice.
Being nice is simply doing the right thing.
On here things can get muddy. People can gossip, people can talk about you behind your back. People can have their heads messed with and might need reassurance, so you give it to them straight up.
The worst people are the ones that project anger on people for not being nice back. Stop doing the right thing because of anger or jealousy.
So if you are honest with yourself, figure out if in your mind you are nice enough or not, make the changes you want or dont want then be comfortable with yourself.
As regards to other people. Well It is my opinion that when a guy says a girl is too nice when she is normal it means he wants a cum bucket whore and he is afraid he will hurt you.
If you are too nice and you expect nice things back and a guy says you are too nice, it usually means he wants a cum bucket whore and is afraid he will hurt you.
If you're a guy and a girl tells you that you are too nice and you are the normal amount of right, what she is saying is she is broken and mistakes abuse for affection and you will never make her happy.
If you are a guy and you are too nice and a girl tells you that you are too nice, what she is saying is that she is broke an mistakes abuse for affection and you will never make her happy."
Not sure where or who you're basing your opinion on but its a tad generalised! I've told lots of guys they are nice (because they were well... Just nice! That doesn't mean I'm "broken"! |
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"Not sure where or who you're basing your opinion on but its a tad generalised! I've told lots of guys they are nice (because they were well... Just nice! That doesn't mean I'm "broken"! "
Telling a guy he is nice is not the same as telling a guy he is "too" nice. |
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"Not sure where or who you're basing your opinion on but its a tad generalised! I've told lots of guys they are nice (because they were well... Just nice! That doesn't mean I'm "broken"!
Telling a guy he is nice is not the same as telling a guy he is "too" nice."
Aww you're too nice |
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"This might not be relevant to your case but worth considering.
In Ireland (might be a Nordy thing though) 'too nice' is often a polite way of saying too gullible or easily walked over and taken advantage of.
Depends in what context they've said it to you.
I think you're a very strong and assertive lady! If they mean 'nice' (in the kind/generous/gracious way) then don't change that! As someone else said we need more nice people in this world!
M x "
I agree,context and background are the main things.If it was said by a sycophant,then it can be taken with a pinch of salt as can any advice.If it was said as a response to a question about difficulty with a fuckbuddy or play meet that would be something else entirely,emotions come into the mix and sensibilities can be offended by both parties.
There are two sides to a story and then there is the truth. |
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I think if I was given thechoice I would choose to take this as a compliment, as it is very Irish to say "you're too nice" or "you're too kind" which would mean thank you you are very nice or thank you you are very kind. It is really an Irish turn of phrase. So take it as a compliment, don't dwell on it and continue to be the lovely person you are being told you are. |
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"people will only treat you as you let them.. I have realised a lot of people are only after what suits them and care very little about others this is both on fab and in the real world. but you do find good people it has to be said"
very true laid.
i think what im really asking is how can i toggle not changing who i am but be more assertive or less of a doormat without coming off as whiny or a bitch. irish girls seem to have a better handle on this? its a bit different in america. |
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"You have to be honest with yourself.
I'd regard myself as nice, but the nice things I do make me happy. I expect no reciprocation and don't get angry if people don't appreciate it.
You should never expect to be treated how you treat others. If it makes you angry, jealous, mad that you were nice to someone and they were not nice back then you are just going through the motions of being nice.
Being nice is simply doing the right thing.
On here things can get muddy. People can gossip, people can talk about you behind your back. People can have their heads messed with and might need reassurance, so you give it to them straight up.
The worst people are the ones that project anger on people for not being nice back. Stop doing the right thing because of anger or jealousy.
So if you are honest with yourself, figure out if in your mind you are nice enough or not, make the changes you want or dont want then be comfortable with yourself.
As regards to other people. Well It is my opinion that when a guy says a girl is too nice when she is normal it means he wants a cum bucket whore and he is afraid he will hurt you.
If you are too nice and you expect nice things back and a guy says you are too nice, it usually means he wants a cum bucket whore and is afraid he will hurt you.
If you're a guy and a girl tells you that you are too nice and you are the normal amount of right, what she is saying is she is broken and mistakes abuse for affection and you will never make her happy.
If you are a guy and you are too nice and a girl tells you that you are too nice, what she is saying is that she is broke an mistakes abuse for affection and you will never make her happy.
Not sure where or who you're basing your opinion on but its a tad generalised! I've told lots of guys they are nice (because they were well... Just nice! That doesn't mean I'm "broken"! "
I'm with Milli on this. It's also kinda cynical don't you think? If I tell someone they're too nice chances are I'm saying it as a compliment or as a warning not to get taken advantage of. Not because I'm broken and mistake abuse for affection. Maybe im naive...but I'd rather be that than a cynic I think. |
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"people will only treat you as you let them.. I have realised a lot of people are only after what suits them and care very little about others this is both on fab and in the real world. but you do find good people it has to be said
very true laid.
i think what im really asking is how can i toggle not changing who i am but be more assertive or less of a doormat without coming off as whiny or a bitch. irish girls seem to have a better handle on this? its a bit different in america. "
In all honest cherry, I think you're great as you are. I don't think you're a doormat at all - I think you're a pretty great person who is well able to be assertive when the occasion calls for it. Don't change yourself xxxx |
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"Never change yourself for anyone, just be the best version of yourself and that's what makes you perfect xx"
puts me on the bold step to be honest
Somd people here very sensitive god love them!!! |
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"Never change yourself for anyone, just be the best version of yourself and that's what makes you perfect xxputs me on the bold step to be honest
Somd people here very sensitive god love them!!!"
Im not sure if your comment was for me? |
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"It depends what they mean by 'Too nice'. If they are saying it because they feel you are being taken advantage of, then yes maybe it would be wise to be a little more assertive.
If you are just too nice a person then take the compliment and change nothing. We need more lovely people in this world xx"
I agree and think this says it all bravo my dear  |
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"It depends what they mean by 'Too nice'. If they are saying it because they feel you are being taken advantage of, then yes maybe it would be wise to be a little more assertive.
If you are just too nice a person then take the compliment and change nothing. We need more lovely people in this world xx I agree and think this says it all bravo my dear "
Short and to the point, bit like meself |
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"It depends what they mean by 'Too nice'. If they are saying it because they feel you are being taken advantage of, then yes maybe it would be wise to be a little more assertive.
If you are just too nice a person then take the compliment and change nothing. We need more lovely people in this world xx I agree and think this says it all bravo my dear OOH MATRON !!! TELL ME MORE LOL
Short and to the point, bit like meself "
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Don't be afraid of being too nice!! It's a fresh approach as most on here are heartless and cold devoid of feeling anything! So take heart and be nice!! It's a value not often seen xxx |
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be just a wee bit more 'girl' and 'nice' 
