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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Trust and lies.... from personal experience i feel you cant trust anyone from here cause they just tell you lies. Could u build anything with trust and lies? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That's very true and ur rite u culdnt as this person that want to date keeps puttin photos of her self up but keep tellin me there for me but there public thanks for the advance  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im sure if ye been talking about dating ye have other ways of contacting each other besides fab??? Why not keep the pics private to how ever ye talk. Txt or kik or whatever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well we chat on kik and txt but just to knw can it work as the trust is a big thing "
Also doesn't help if you're messaging people yourself too, nevermind her and her pics??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It won't work if you stay here, if you want it to work leave for a while and get to know eachother properly.
I've always admitted to ruining a relationship started through Fab because I got obsessed with the attention from emails, fabbed photos etc (NOTE: I do now have sense)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It won't work if you stay here, if you want it to work leave for a while and get to know eachother properly.
I've always admitted to ruining a relationship started through Fab because I got obsessed with the attention from emails, fabbed photos etc (NOTE: I do now have sense)
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You saw the light! !  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks but I've cum off it and she still on it but has not meeting on it but keep puttin photos up so that why I was askin wud it work and it hasn't so il keep to havin fun thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks but I've cum off it and she still on it but has not meeting on it but keep puttin photos up so that why I was askin wud it work and it hasn't so il keep to havin fun thanks "
You've came off WHAT?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here lol
Are you not really here? Are we conversing with a spirit?
FREAKY
Well I'm definitely freaked out cos he was mailing me earlier  "
Don't blame him some s3xy eyes u have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here lol
Are you not really here? Are we conversing with a spirit?
FREAKY
Well I'm definitely freaked out cos he was mailing me earlier "
I've lost faith in the OP, opportunistic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I want to knw will it work two people frm the site that they can date as we r both single  "
Yes if you have trust.but remb trust is gained it won't happen over night.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By the looks of it the majority of people here are saying that most relationships between people who met on fab don't last..
This isn't something I have experience of, but I can imagine it's equally difficult for people on fab to meet people from the vanilla world and remain faithful. Once you have tasted the delights of fab I can imagine it's hard to step away. It's not just the sex, its the ego boost and the thrill of it all.
I wonder does fab ruin many singles from having monogamous relationships?
Hx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"By the looks of it the majority of people here are saying that most relationships between people who met on fab don't last..
This isn't something I have experience of, but I can imagine it's equally difficult for people on fab to meet people from the vanilla world and remain faithful. Once you have tasted the delights of fab I can imagine it's hard to step away. It's not just the sex, its the ego boost and the thrill of it all.
I wonder does fab ruin many singles from having monogamous relationships?
I think that's a very valid point n as a single guy here it's so hard to stay away frm lifestyle once you've tasted it's delights so No wud be my answer
Hx"
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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i was in a 5 year relationship that started on another swinging site and it would have worked if she wasnt bat shit crazy and killed my dog this happened after we had given up swinging i might ad and was not swinging related. so it can work to a degree. but it does take a lot of work, trust and openness from both parties. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i was in a 5 year relationship that started on another swinging site and it would have worked if she wasnt bat shit crazy and killed my dog this happened after we had given up swinging i might ad and was not swinging related. so it can work to a degree. but it does take a lot of work, trust and openness from both parties."
WOW! You really don't know who you're dating here do you? No wonder the trusted guys get most of the look-ins. |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"i was in a 5 year relationship that started on another swinging site and it would have worked if she wasnt bat shit crazy and killed my dog this happened after we had given up swinging i might ad and was not swinging related. so it can work to a degree. but it does take a lot of work, trust and openness from both parties.
WOW! You really don't know who you're dating here do you? No wonder the trusted guys get most of the look-ins."
isn't that the truth iv heard stories of some guys making serious physical threats to women i know and thats not to mention all the abusive mails they get if they get verified by someone they dont like. there are some real nutjobs out there in the world of fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i was in a 5 year relationship that started on another swinging site and it would have worked if she wasnt bat shit crazy and killed my dog this happened after we had given up swinging i might ad and was not swinging related. so it can work to a degree. but it does take a lot of work, trust and openness from both parties.
WOW! You really don't know who you're dating here do you? No wonder the trusted guys get most of the look-ins.
isn't that the truth iv heard stories of some guys making serious physical threats to women i know and thats not to mention all the abusive mails they get if they get verified by someone they dont like. there are some real nutjobs out there in the world of fab."
The poor dog 
Like Frosty said it can work but you have to be 100% open honest and genuine with the op |
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I have not had a relationship on this site and don't intend too.
Not cause I don't think it would work I'm just not looking for one. In saying that I think it would be OK if both had trust and understanding if both wanted to continue swinging. That means both not one deletes account while the other one is thinking both have left that would cause troubles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I want to knw will it work two people frm the site that they can date as we r both single
Yes if you have trust.but remb trust is gained it won't happen over night.."
Agreed I think the 'how' you met is irrelevant, if you have a strong connection and can build trust then try it and see how it goes, probably best to both delete fab though till you have trust.
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i was in a 5 year relationship that started on another swinging site and it would have worked if she wasnt bat shit crazy and killed my dog this happened after we had given up swinging i might ad and was not swinging related. so it can work to a degree. but it does take a lot of work, trust and openness from both parties.
WOW! You really don't know who you're dating here do you? No wonder the trusted guys get most of the look-ins.
isn't that the truth iv heard stories of some guys making serious physical threats to women i know and thats not to mention all the abusive mails they get if they get verified by someone they dont like. there are some real nutjobs out there in the world of fab.
The poor dog
Like Frosty said it can work but you have to be 100% open honest and genuine with the op "
Yea it can work during early stages (weeks/months) but eventually crumbles. Shame |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lies lies lies and some more lies.. what can be built on lies????? More lies is about all!!!
Who's lying?
*hugs*"
ive lost track DTG.. wayyyyy too many lies!!!!
Thanks.. i needed that *hug*! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it does. I tried a relationship away from swinging but after a while I missed the excitement. Or maybe we weren't meant to be  "
So...................................... it didn't work!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you but the time and effort in I don't see why not although I'd imagine the profiles would have to disappear during the early stages "
yeah i would agree.. cant really get to know someone if they messaging 20 other people all day everyday like. Doesnt really give you much of a chance. But then is doing that at the early stages if a well verified member being a bit eager.. its hard to know. I would be very cautious about getting into anything like that with someone from here. Trust.. and then there is the lies again!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you but the time and effort in I don't see why not although I'd imagine the profiles would have to disappear during the early stages
yeah i would agree.. cant really get to know someone if they messaging 20 other people all day everyday like. Doesnt really give you much of a chance. But then is doing that at the early stages if a well verified member being a bit eager.. its hard to know. I would be very cautious about getting into anything like that with someone from here. Trust.. and then there is the lies again!!!!! "
it'd be too easy to get caught up with fab if you continued to use and you could make your other half feel unwanted, just put the effort into them proving that it is then you want build trust and then if it feels right come back to fab as a couples profile? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you but the time and effort in I don't see why not although I'd imagine the profiles would have to disappear during the early stages
yeah i would agree.. cant really get to know someone if they messaging 20 other people all day everyday like. Doesnt really give you much of a chance. But then is doing that at the early stages if a well verified member being a bit eager.. its hard to know. I would be very cautious about getting into anything like that with someone from here. Trust.. and then there is the lies again!!!!!
it'd be too easy to get caught up with fab if you continued to use and you could make your other half feel unwanted, just put the effort into them proving that it is then you want build trust and then if it feels right come back to fab as a couples profile?"
but at the early stages how would you know if its worth leaving fab??? And if all goes tits up.. there goes ur old profile for nothing. |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"If you but the time and effort in I don't see why not although I'd imagine the profiles would have to disappear during the early stages
yeah i would agree.. cant really get to know someone if they messaging 20 other people all day everyday like. Doesnt really give you much of a chance. But then is doing that at the early stages if a well verified member being a bit eager.. its hard to know. I would be very cautious about getting into anything like that with someone from here. Trust.. and then there is the lies again!!!!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you but the time and effort in I don't see why not although I'd imagine the profiles would have to disappear during the early stages
yeah i would agree.. cant really get to know someone if they messaging 20 other people all day everyday like. Doesnt really give you much of a chance. But then is doing that at the early stages if a well verified member being a bit eager.. its hard to know. I would be very cautious about getting into anything like that with someone from here. Trust.. and then there is the lies again!!!!!
it'd be too easy to get caught up with fab if you continued to use and you could make your other half feel unwanted, just put the effort into them proving that it is then you want build trust and then if it feels right come back to fab as a couples profile?
but at the early stages how would you know if its worth leaving fab??? And if all goes tits up.. there goes ur old profile for nothing. "
Just hide your profile if you don't wanna delete it? I just think if you like someone put effort in and commit to it and if it doesn't work out well you tried, lives way to short not to take chance |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you but the time and effort in I don't see why not although I'd imagine the profiles would have to disappear during the early stages
yeah i would agree.. cant really get to know someone if they messaging 20 other people all day everyday like. Doesnt really give you much of a chance. But then is doing that at the early stages if a well verified member being a bit eager.. its hard to know. I would be very cautious about getting into anything like that with someone from here. Trust.. and then there is the lies again!!!!!
it'd be too easy to get caught up with fab if you continued to use and you could make your other half feel unwanted, just put the effort into them proving that it is then you want build trust and then if it feels right come back to fab as a couples profile?
but at the early stages how would you know if its worth leaving fab??? And if all goes tits up.. there goes ur old profile for nothing.
Just hide your profile if you don't wanna delete it? I just think if you like someone put effort in and commit to it and if it doesn't work out well you tried, lives way to short not to take chance"
my profile is hidden. I could stil be messaging 20 people a day!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you but the time and effort in I don't see why not although I'd imagine the profiles would have to disappear during the early stages
yeah i would agree.. cant really get to know someone if they messaging 20 other people all day everyday like. Doesnt really give you much of a chance. But then is doing that at the early stages if a well verified member being a bit eager.. its hard to know. I would be very cautious about getting into anything like that with someone from here. Trust.. and then there is the lies again!!!!!
it'd be too easy to get caught up with fab if you continued to use and you could make your other half feel unwanted, just put the effort into them proving that it is then you want build trust and then if it feels right come back to fab as a couples profile?
but at the early stages how would you know if its worth leaving fab??? And if all goes tits up.. there goes ur old profile for nothing.
Just hide your profile if you don't wanna delete it? I just think if you like someone put effort in and commit to it and if it doesn't work out well you tried, lives way to short not to take chance
my profile is hidden. I could stil be messaging 20 people a day!!! "
I'm just trying to say if the op is serious then they wouldn't message anyone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in a relationship with someone i met on here. We've been together over a year now despite the fact that we live quite a distance apart. We both hid our profiles. He doesn't come on here much but he knows i use the forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can we clarify if the OP means going exclusive with the other site member ie: In a relationship/met family/friends etc...
OR just seeing someone the odd time from here and lying to them pretending that they're the only one for them |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"Can we clarify if the OP means going exclusive with the other site member ie: In a relationship/met family/friends etc...
OR just seeing someone the odd time from here and lying to them pretending that they're the only one for them"
you ole cynic dtg but its a valid question.
there are lots of guys that want a "relationship" just so they can get more action on fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can we clarify if the OP means going exclusive with the other site member ie: In a relationship/met family/friends etc...
OR just seeing someone the odd time from here and lying to them pretending that they're the only one for them"
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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Why can't you start a relationship and still 'swing'. Isn't that what this is all about , our attitude towards sex and that's all it is, just sex. Surely if you met someone that had the same attitude it can work and still 'swing'. After all relationships aren't 100% sex.
Unfortunely the lies and distrust issues are not exclusive to Fab members. Just as easily meet someone in a pub that will treat you the exact same way.
That's life
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A relationship with two people on fab can work, once any boundries and needs are made very clear from the start.
Two people are only together because they BOTH want to be.
That's my experience of it anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you both are serious about a 1-1 exclusive relationship ,get together and only use this site for chat and forum postings only.If you both are going to swing then discuss it beforehand and close yourself to emotional entanglements,if that is actually possible without becoming hard hearted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A relationship with two people on fab can work, once any boundries and needs are made very clear from the start.
Two people are only together because they BOTH want to be.
That's my experience of it anyway. "
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It won't work if you stay here, if you want it to work leave for a while and get to know eachother properly.
I've always admitted to ruining a relationship started through Fab because I got obsessed with the attention from emails, fabbed photos etc (NOTE: I do now have sense)
You saw the light! ! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Here lol
Are you not really here? Are we conversing with a spirit?
FREAKY"
Bit late on the uptake here..... But obviously he's in a state of quantum flux like Shrodingers cat!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why can't you start a relationship and still 'swing'. Isn't that what this is all about , our attitude towards sex and that's all it is, just sex. Surely if you met someone that had the same attitude it can work and still 'swing'. After all relationships aren't 100% sex.
Unfortunely the lies and distrust issues are not exclusive to Fab members. Just as easily meet someone in a pub that will treat you the exact same way.
That's life
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true the OP seems to be more worried about her posting up pics of herself than anything else. Doesn't seem to have an issue once she's not seen to be anyone else's in public. Trust in general is important in any type of relationship. If no trust and you need to question your thinking on open forum then you already know the answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A relationship with two people on fab can work, once any boundries and needs are made very clear from the start.
Two people are only together because they BOTH want to be.
That's my experience of it anyway. "
Agreed Red, and as for lies, I've definitely met more liars in the real world than on fab, liars unfortunately are everywhere definitely not restricted to this site! So honesty is a huge thing for any relationship to work.
It boils down to the two individuals ultimately and whether they genuinely want each other and trust each other mutually. Boundaries from the start are a must for sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP no one here can answer for you, if you take no risk you'll get no reward. If you think she's worth the risk then go for it. We've all heard of good experiences as well as bad from here, but everyone experience is different. The same way in real life you hear of people working out and not working out. Only you can make the decision as your in the relationship. My advice is trust your gut and go with that. Best of luck |
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"By the looks of it the majority of people here are saying that most relationships between people who met on fab don't last..
This isn't something I have experience of, but I can imagine it's equally difficult for people on fab to meet people from the vanilla world and remain faithful. Once you have tasted the delights of fab I can imagine it's hard to step away. It's not just the sex, its the ego boost and the thrill of it all.
I wonder does fab ruin many singles from having monogamous relationships?
Hx"
what's a monogamous relationship, it sounds awful!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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ive had 3 relationships over the years ive been on fab .
they can work if its what you both really want and comunicate .....
ive also been.to a few fab weddings where they have met on site .
so if you and her are looking for a relationship . take yourselves off of fab
work at who you both are what you both looking for.
when you have a stable relationship then decied if swinging is what you both would still like set your. boundries and for gawd sakes always talk
its the only thing that will keep it all together .
but if you decied its what you both want then good luck . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"By the looks of it the majority of people here are saying that most relationships between people who met on fab don't last..
This isn't something I have experience of, but I can imagine it's equally difficult for people on fab to meet people from the vanilla world and remain faithful. Once you have tasted the delights of fab I can imagine it's hard to step away. It's not just the sex, its the ego boost and the thrill of it all.
I wonder does fab ruin many singles from having monogamous relationships?
Hx
what's a monogamous relationship, it sounds awful!!!"
Monogamous relationships can be wonderful. Just as swinging ones can be too. The hard part is finding the right person. |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"By the looks of it the majority of people here are saying that most relationships between people who met on fab don't last..
This isn't something I have experience of, but I can imagine it's equally difficult for people on fab to meet people from the vanilla world and remain faithful. Once you have tasted the delights of fab I can imagine it's hard to step away. It's not just the sex, its the ego boost and the thrill of it all.
I wonder does fab ruin many singles from having monogamous relationships?
Hx
what's a monogamous relationship, it sounds awful!!!
Monogamous relationships can be wonderful. Just as swinging ones can be too. The hard part is finding the right person. "
yep if I found the right person and they didn't swing then I happily walk away from the lifestyle with some great memories. |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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they can work if its what you both really want and comunicate .....
...for gawd sakes always talk
its the only thing that will keep it all together .
but if you decied its what you both want then good luck . "
You hit the nail on the head there. Its about communication. Wherever or however the relationship started and also to keep it going. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Give it a go ...I met my partner off here two years ago . Asked him to a party nd with him ever since ...we are still loved up so anything is possible but he deleted his profile joined mine ..then we hide it to give our relationship a chance then after that deleted it.. nd we are very happy..so anything is possible ...wish yeah all the best .. you won't know answer till yeah both give it a try take a risk |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes a relationship can work from here. If the two people are really wanting that same as a relationship of fab. Yes there's ones that don't but there's ones that do myself and Katie met on here and well its to me no different than meeting in a bar or something. There will always be the debate as to trust etc etc same things get dragged up all the time on here but some will work out some won't. I know I'm very happy to have met on here.
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Never mind heterosexual relationships not working due to fab, but I've just lost a very good friend because her behaviour has changed so much once she joined fab I don't recognise the person any more!  |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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"Never mind heterosexual relationships not working due to fab, but I've just lost a very good friend because her behaviour has changed so much once she joined fab I don't recognise the person any more! "
Such a pity but I can relate somewhat to this. |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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"Never mind heterosexual relationships not working due to fab, but I've just lost a very good friend because her behaviour has changed so much once she joined fab I don't recognise the person any more! "
fab can bring out the best and the worse in people sad but true |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never mind heterosexual relationships not working due to fab, but I've just lost a very good friend because her behaviour has changed so much once she joined fab I don't recognise the person any more! "
Now that situation would trouble me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Its defo all about the trust. Hard at first for sure. Sex becomes a foundation at first getting passed that is ushally where things begin to break. Most break at this point. But some can pass it. Again trust and communication. And not giving a hoot what other people say. Its none of there business. If you both want it to work itll work. |
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The only real lies in our relationship has to be those we have to tell friends and family to cover up meets and parties we attend.....we are open and honest with each other and at times at little too loved up .......
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