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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Alright, I am gonna ask this publicly, because its been bugging me and I dont really understand how each of the statements is percieved in the Irish circles. I mean, we all speak English, but sometimes I feel like I am speaking Chinese.
So, how would ye Irish folk call my situation:
* married - because the law wont let us get divorced so easily
* have a kid - we take care of it
* live under the same roof - cause of kid and financial aspects of the situation
* no intimacy or common interest
* so basically living like flat sharers that take care of the kid they had toghether.
* so she does her own thing, I do my own thing
So do I call myself married, attached, separated, screwed, cursed, or what?!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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oh well... there have been a few (as in less then 5) slip ups due to... various circumstances (familiarity, living together, too much partying) but otherwise no, separate beds & no intimacy. |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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"oh well... there have been a few (as in less then 5) slip ups due to... various circumstances (familiarity, living together, too much partying) but otherwise no, separate beds & no intimacy."
if ur married ur married, unless ur like me and have a legal seperation or are divorced.
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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"Alright, I am gonna ask this publicly, because its been bugging me and I dont really understand how each of the statements is percieved in the Irish circles. I mean, we all speak English, but sometimes I feel like I am speaking Chinese.
So, how would ye Irish folk call my situation:
* married - because the law wont let us get divorced so easily
* have a kid - we take care of it
* live under the same roof - cause of kid and financial aspects of the situation
* no intimacy or common interest
* so basically living like flat sharers that take care of the kid they had toghether.
* so she does her own thing, I do my own thing
So do I call myself married, attached, separated, screwed, cursed, or what?! "
as fb would say: its complicated!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sooo theeen... call it open marriage?!"
could really only say open marriage if ur other half knows that u have sex with others. If she is unaware then its hardly an open marriage. |
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Open marriage gives the impression you're still together.
I live with a man that's my best bud, we don't have sex EVER. I've no intention of leaving, we get on really well. We just don't have sex.
He turns a blind eye to what I do and I respect him by not flaunting it.
I have attached on my profile (we're not married ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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so WTF is it when two are married but don't have sex, don't really care if they are having sex with someone else, and don't even want to know/not interested/don't care?
there seems to be a name for just about any other combination
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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago
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You can be whatever you choose to call yourself..... Unfortunately, you have no control over how others will see you.
Complicated situations like this are very difficult to explain and I have no doubt difficult to live with.
Miss Mcjoy  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You can be whatever you choose to call yourself..... Unfortunately, you have no control over how others will see you.
Complicated situations like this are very difficult to explain and I have no doubt difficult to live with.
Miss Mcjoy "
I'll just put "its complicated" or "haven't got a clue"
So, knowing what you, the audience, know about me now, would you classify me as a single guy, married cheating guy, attached guy, etc?
Would you consider meeting, or not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can be whatever you choose to call yourself..... Unfortunately, you have no control over how others will see you.
Complicated situations like this are very difficult to explain and I have no doubt difficult to live with.
Miss Mcjoy
I'll just put "its complicated" or "haven't got a clue"
So, knowing what you, the audience, know about me now, would you classify me as a single guy, married cheating guy, attached guy, etc?
Would you consider meeting, or not?"
that is going to be up to each individual u approach. For some it will not influence their decision whatsoever,but for others it will. You need to please urself I guess and go with ur gut instinct. Personally I think u will find that honesty is appreciated. While it may nit always guarantee u get a meet it will get u the respect of the people who value transparency and honesty |
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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago
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"You can be whatever you choose to call yourself..... Unfortunately, you have no control over how others will see you.
Complicated situations like this are very difficult to explain and I have no doubt difficult to live with.
Miss Mcjoy
I'll just put "its complicated" or "haven't got a clue"
So, knowing what you, the audience, know about me now, would you classify me as a single guy, married cheating guy, attached guy, etc?
Would you consider meeting, or not?"
Going only on the information I have Im sorry but no I wouldn't be able to meet you.
I'm sure there are loads of people here who's take on it all would be very different to mine.
Miss Mcjoy |
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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago
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"You can be whatever you choose to call yourself..... Unfortunately, you have no control over how others will see you.
Complicated situations like this are very difficult to explain and I have no doubt difficult to live with.
Miss Mcjoy
I'll just put "its complicated" or "haven't got a clue"
So, knowing what you, the audience, know about me now, would you classify me as a single guy, married cheating guy, attached guy, etc?
Would you consider meeting, or not?
that is going to be up to each individual u approach. For some it will not influence their decision whatsoever,but for others it will. You need to please urself I guess and go with ur gut instinct. Personally I think u will find that honesty is appreciated. While it may nit always guarantee u get a meet it will get u the respect of the people who value transparency and honesty "
Totally agree, your chances are so much better given the fact that you are honest about all of this.
Miss Mcjoy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"been honest so far
could have lied at any point in time and not have this forum thread
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and trust me that would stand to make u a trustworthy person. As I said it may or may not earn u a meet but u will have a reputation for being honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Alright, I am gonna ask this publicly, because its been bugging me and I dont really understand how each of the statements is percieved in the Irish circles. I mean, we all speak English, but sometimes I feel like I am speaking Chinese.
So, how would ye Irish folk call my situation:
* married - because the law wont let us get divorced so easily
* have a kid - we take care of it
* live under the same roof - cause of kid and financial aspects of the situation
* no intimacy or common interest
* so basically living like flat sharers that take care of the kid they had toghether.
* so she does her own thing, I do my own thing
So do I call myself married, attached, separated, screwed, cursed, or what?! "
In the eyes of the law you're still married because you're not divorced, the fact you're still living with your wife means you're not separated! If you weren't married but in a relationship with somebody and living with them you'd be attached!   |
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"been honest so far
could have lied at any point in time and not have this forum thread
and trust me that would stand to make u a trustworthy person. As I said it may or may not earn u a meet but u will have a reputation for being honest."
I wonder which of them he would prefer - a reputation for honesty or a few meets!
Legally - you are married. Emotionally and sexually - I suppose separated. Don't really know where that leaves you.
Who knows what goes on in a marriage apart from the two - and even they can have different views on whether its good or OK.
And yeah - honesty is important. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh have been there lived in tat situation for 4 years and it is horrible I am now legally separated awaiting divorce so unfortunately u are classed as married but if she's doing her own thing u are entitled to do yours staying together for a child doesn't work best of luck
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