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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have decided to be on here for a few months now and here's the stage my wife is at.
We talk every night about meeting a couple and she explodes playing with herself. When I mention arranging it she says yes one day and says too nervous next day. I've played it cool.
What do I do next folks ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ? "
Meet at the bar but be the easiest way to slowly tip toe in...
I met a couple recently not knowing they were in the same scenario as this. I took the evening off went to their hotel and 'she wasn't ready' which was fair but it still wasted our time. So make sure she's ready and willing to meet for a drink and educate the person you're meeting/give them heads up about the situation |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of couples I've chatted to are willing to meet socially first if they know it's your first time. I always think it's best to offer to come closer to them in that situation. Everyone's had to start out on their swinging journey somewhere. As long as the couple you're meeting is aware it's the first experience the majority should be fine with it. Honesty is most important. |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"A lot of couples I've chatted to are willing to meet socially first if they know it's your first time. I always think it's best to offer to come closer to them in that situation. Everyone's had to start out on their swinging journey somewhere. As long as the couple you're meeting is aware it's the first experience the majority should be fine with it. Honesty is most important. "
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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ? "
Only you will know yr wife's reaction if u do that ,,what ever happens l hope it doesn't put barriers between ye
Good luck |
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"We have decided to be on here for a few months now and here's the stage my wife is at.
We talk every night about meeting a couple and she explodes playing with herself. When I mention arranging it she says yes one day and says too nervous next day. I've played it cool.
What do I do next folks ? "
I agree with what everyone else is saying tea... don't force her...that would be a mistake.. something like this..you have to really want to do it.
A m&g is a great idea... casual...relaxed...and nothing has to happen.. definatel don't pressure her.
The fact that she explodes playing with herself every night... that sounds pretty amazing.. enjoy that for now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sounds like its just fantasy for her and may well not progress beyond that. Trying to force the issue could be the end of the relationship have you thought about that? If you do meet a couple they must be told about your wife's uncertainties, is only fair. I once spent a whole evening with a couple where the woman was just going along with it and had no intention of actually playing. Such a waste of time  |
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"Sounds like its just fantasy for her and may well not progress beyond that. Trying to force the issue could be the end of the relationship have you thought about that? If you do meet a couple they must be told about your wife's uncertainties, is only fair. I once spent a whole evening with a couple where the woman was just going along with it and had no intention of actually playing. Such a waste of time "
After looking at your pics wicked desire... it was def her loss  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ?
Meet at the bar but be the easiest way to slowly tip toe in...
I met a couple recently not knowing they were in the same scenario as this. I took the evening off went to their hotel and 'she wasn't ready' which was fair but it still wasted our time. So make sure she's ready and willing to meet for a drink and educate the person you're meeting/give them heads up about the situation"
So because somebody doesn't play they are a time waster?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ?
Meet at the bar but be the easiest way to slowly tip toe in...
I met a couple recently not knowing they were in the same scenario as this. I took the evening off went to their hotel and 'she wasn't ready' which was fair but it still wasted our time. So make sure she's ready and willing to meet for a drink and educate the person you're meeting/give them heads up about the situation
So because somebody doesn't play they are a time waster? "
If they have led you to believe they will, they are, yes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ?
Meet at the bar but be the easiest way to slowly tip toe in...
I met a couple recently not knowing they were in the same scenario as this. I took the evening off went to their hotel and 'she wasn't ready' which was fair but it still wasted our time. So make sure she's ready and willing to meet for a drink and educate the person you're meeting/give them heads up about the situation
So because somebody doesn't play they are a time waster?
If they have led you to believe they will, they are, yes "
Total BS...
I play,but if I don't click/fancy them I won't.... |
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ?
Meet at the bar but be the easiest way to slowly tip toe in...
I met a couple recently not knowing they were in the same scenario as this. I took the evening off went to their hotel and 'she wasn't ready' which was fair but it still wasted our time. So make sure she's ready and willing to meet for a drink and educate the person you're meeting/give them heads up about the situation
So because somebody doesn't play they are a time waster? "
I think it depends...
If someone says let's meet for a drink and see how it goes..that's fair enough..even can decide its not what they want.
But on the other hand if its a situation where its described and a definite... then they he/she changes their mind... then its wasting someone's times.
That's just my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ?
Meet at the bar but be the easiest way to slowly tip toe in...
I met a couple recently not knowing they were in the same scenario as this. I took the evening off went to their hotel and 'she wasn't ready' which was fair but it still wasted our time. So make sure she's ready and willing to meet for a drink and educate the person you're meeting/give them heads up about the situation
So because somebody doesn't play they are a time waster?
If they have led you to believe they will, they are, yes
Total BS...
I play,but if I don't click/fancy them I won't...."
If I don't click or fancy them I wouldn't meet them in the first place, why would you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ?
Meet at the bar but be the easiest way to slowly tip toe in...
I met a couple recently not knowing they were in the same scenario as this. I took the evening off went to their hotel and 'she wasn't ready' which was fair but it still wasted our time. So make sure she's ready and willing to meet for a drink and educate the person you're meeting/give them heads up about the situation
So because somebody doesn't play they are a time waster?
I think it depends...
If someone says let's meet for a drink and see how it goes..that's fair enough..even can decide its not what they want.
But on the other hand if its a situation where its described and a definite... then they he/she changes their mind... then its wasting someone's times.
That's just my opinion "
It's a weird one, arranging a play meet and then when you meet up the vibe is off or there's no real attraction, then going through with it anyway just not to be seen as a timewaster just sounds really grim lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ?
Meet at the bar but be the easiest way to slowly tip toe in...
I met a couple recently not knowing they were in the same scenario as this. I took the evening off went to their hotel and 'she wasn't ready' which was fair but it still wasted our time. So make sure she's ready and willing to meet for a drink and educate the person you're meeting/give them heads up about the situation
So because somebody doesn't play they are a time waster?
I think it depends...
If someone says let's meet for a drink and see how it goes..that's fair enough..even can decide its not what they want.
But on the other hand if its a situation where its described and a definite... then they he/she changes their mind... then its wasting someone's times.
That's just my opinion
It's a weird one, arranging a play meet and then when you meet up the vibe is off or there's no real attraction, then going through with it anyway just not to be seen as a timewaster just sounds really grim lol."
Maybe, but then going, implying that you will play when you have no intention to do so at all is time wasting |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ?
Meet at the bar but be the easiest way to slowly tip toe in...
I met a couple recently not knowing they were in the same scenario as this. I took the evening off went to their hotel and 'she wasn't ready' which was fair but it still wasted our time. So make sure she's ready and willing to meet for a drink and educate the person you're meeting/give them heads up about the situation
So because somebody doesn't play they are a time waster?
I think it depends...
If someone says let's meet for a drink and see how it goes..that's fair enough..even can decide its not what they want.
But on the other hand if its a situation where its described and a definite... then they he/she changes their mind... then its wasting someone's times.
That's just my opinion
It's a weird one, arranging a play meet and then when you meet up the vibe is off or there's no real attraction, then going through with it anyway just not to be seen as a timewaster just sounds really grim lol.
Maybe, but then going, implying that you will play when you have no intention to do so at all is time wasting "
I see where you are coming from in a way, but making myself have sex with someone when I really didn't want to , for whatever reason, just sounds horrible, at the end of the day it is just sex and ok maybe someone's plans for the night have been scuppered but it isnt the end of the world. |
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ?
Meet at the bar but be the easiest way to slowly tip toe in...
I met a couple recently not knowing they were in the same scenario as this. I took the evening off went to their hotel and 'she wasn't ready' which was fair but it still wasted our time. So make sure she's ready and willing to meet for a drink and educate the person you're meeting/give them heads up about the situation
So because somebody doesn't play they are a time waster?
I think it depends...
If someone says let's meet for a drink and see how it goes..that's fair enough..even can decide its not what they want.
But on the other hand if its a situation where its described and a definite... then they he/she changes their mind... then its wasting someone's times.
That's just my opinion
It's a weird one, arranging a play meet and then when you meet up the vibe is off or there's no real attraction, then going through with it anyway just not to be seen as a timewaster just sounds really grim lol."
I agree with you squishy.... oh and I love the name... makes me wanna give you a big squeeze
Its tricky... attraction has to be there... I wouldn't suggest doing anything the person doesn't want to do.
I just think it needs to be spelled out first... either yes we will be playing or maybe we will |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a fantasy that she has
I would run with it being a fantasy if it makes the sex great but I wouldn't make it a reality
Fantasies to reality are usually a big let down and she could regret it..
Vanilla to swing is a massive step for any relationship..
Everyone at the height of orgasm are willing to say they would love to do anything and afterwards then there is a guilt/back to reality and u say "god what was I thinking" until the next climax again..go with what she is thinking in her normal state coz she is gonna be in that mind frame more than the orgasm one.
Hopefully one day she jumps on the swing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have decided to be on here for a few months now and here's the stage my wife is at.
We talk every night about meeting a couple and she explodes playing with herself. When I mention arranging it she says yes one day and says too nervous next day. I've played it cool.
What do I do next folks ? "
Maybe a club night? You don't have to join in at all but you will see a variety of people having their fun & that may be enough to swing 'er decision...
P.S. The nervousness/anticipation never go away. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ? "
yes a social meet sounds like a good idea but you can't pressurise her if she's not ready she's not ready. Good luck mate. J |
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"It's a fantasy that she has
I would run with it being a fantasy if it makes the sex great but I wouldn't make it a reality
Fantasies to reality are usually a big let down and she could regret it..
Vanilla to swing is a massive step for any relationship..
Everyone at the height of orgasm are willing to say they would love to do anything and afterwards then there is a guilt/back to reality and u say "god what was I thinking" until the next climax again..go with what she is thinking in her normal state coz she is gonna be in that mind frame more than the orgasm one.
Hopefully one day she jumps on the swing "
I agree guys... I think it may just be a fantasy.
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"We have decided to be on here for a few months now and here's the stage my wife is at.
We talk every night about meeting a couple and she explodes playing with herself. When I mention arranging it she says yes one day and says too nervous next day. I've played it cool.
What do I do next folks ? "
Hi tea after thinking about it a bit and reading other peoples responds...
It might just be a fantasy for her..
Id be a little bit worried too.. can I ask you say you talk about it every night... but who starts the conversation?
Is it always you?
If it is always you... Are you putting too much pressure on her?
Try not talking about it at all.. don't bring it up for a while and see if she brings it up..
. if she doesn't she's prob not really that interested...
and even if she does it may just be a fantasy to spice up ur sex life.
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By (user no longer on site)
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it seems to me this is not for your wife at all
if there is a need for kind of persuasion on your side then its not right . she either wants to try or she does not ?
the fact she enjoys talking about it with you and has a orgasm though this is great but that just means she enjoys " roleplay "
we all enjoy a good game of roleplay but it does not mean we want to do the real thing
maybe just concentrate on having a great sex life together and expanding your roleplay games , and just have lots of fun together ?
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"it seems to me this is not for your wife at all
if there is a need for kind of persuasion on your side then its not right . she either wants to try or she does not ?
the fact she enjoys talking about it with you and has a orgasm though this is great but that just means she enjoys " roleplay "
we all enjoy a good game of roleplay but it does not mean we want to do the real thing
maybe just concentrate on having a great sex life together and expanding your roleplay games , and just have lots of fun together ?
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I agree with you curvy...
Mmm sexy n smart... I like that x |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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Jayus u lot impress the hell out of me really thought out replys.the orgasm verses the normal state of mind is a very accurate analogy
If its meant for ye t it won't pass ye good luck with ur experiments
Remember all those that replied if she jumps on the swing good I love a newbie cpl |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jayus u lot impress the hell out of me really thought out replys.the orgasm verses the normal state of mind is a very accurate analogy
If its meant for ye t it won't pass ye good luck with ur experiments
Remember all those that replied if she jumps on the swing good I love a newbie cpl "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nervous as she's never done it before
She's said she's happy to meet a couple in bar and see how it goes.
Should I just arrange it ?
Meet at the bar but be the easiest way to slowly tip toe in...
I met a couple recently not knowing they were in the same scenario as this. I took the evening off went to their hotel and 'she wasn't ready' which was fair but it still wasted our time. So make sure she's ready and willing to meet for a drink and educate the person you're meeting/give them heads up about the situation
So because somebody doesn't play they are a time waster?
I think it depends...
If someone says let's meet for a drink and see how it goes..that's fair enough..even can decide its not what they want.
But on the other hand if its a situation where its described and a definite... then they he/she changes their mind... then its wasting someone's times.
That's just my opinion
It's a weird one, arranging a play meet and then when you meet up the vibe is off or there's no real attraction, then going through with it anyway just not to be seen as a timewaster just sounds really grim lol."
Exactly Miss.Squishy...
If they met before hand and arranged a play from it then on the night no play yeah I think a possible timewaster,but never met before and turn up at a hotel,she decides not to play that's a strong good woman who won't do pressure... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nothing wrong with wasting the odd persons time when you are new. People act like their time is worth millions, but its not.
Don't let people pressure you into meeting because you're new, and you have to get verified, and have to prove you're not a time waster.
Slow yourself down, you're going too fast. It's okay to wait. While you wait watch people, watch how they act, watch how thy posture around new people, watch how no matter how long you wait you will have offers and you dont have to jump on the first ones.
When your wife is ready, pick someone you have watched over the time, have grow to think are good, honest, nice people, and have some fun with them.
If someone is not okay with you saying no, an views it as a waste of their time, they shouldn't be meeting new people. They should be paying prostitutes for sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Guys.
I am so impressed and thankful for all your thoughts and replies everyone of them is so helpful. It seems the majority of you think I should let it be a fantasies for now and see how she feels as we go forward.
I will keep you updated.
Many many thanks
Joe x |
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