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over a year ago
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We've been chatting about the feelings that people have of there being cliques in the chatrooms. I personally can put my hand up and admit ot being "cliquey" with people I've developed friendships with and for that I'm sorry,
So I want to get a little friendly debate started 
Theres a catch however,
unlike me blabbing on, you'll only be allowed to say what you feel within ten words!!!  laura |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We've been chatting about the feelings that people have of there being cliques in the chatrooms. I personally can put my hand up and admit ot being "cliquey" with people I've developed friendships with and for that I'm sorry,
So I want to get a little friendly debate started
Theres a catch however,
unlike me blabbing on, you'll only be allowed to say what you feel within ten words!!! laura "
Yeah your all cliquey and we dont like it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yup defiantely a clique but I tried to say hi to everyone who comes into room to include them but then I get teased about being the welcome committee by peeps who just sit in chat and say nothing - you just can't win  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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10 words, i'd need 10 pages. but cause it's Laura - I'll try ten words start now:
Cliques happen cause people get on, don't let it bother you
Fuck that 11
Wait. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it bothers her because she is a lovely person and like me doesn't want others to feel left out - we are not intentionally trying to exclude peeps ......folks join in the banther nine times out of ten we are just talking shite so just butt in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well i for 1 can say the irish chatroom is defo clique,,posted in here before a few of us scots have came in and said hi and ,,,nothing can see the tumble fly by,
apart from the 1 or 2 hellos thats it.!
auds xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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lol aww bip,,your more than welcome in our chatroom babe lol as for anyone ,,,im sure youl all get a warm welcome.im not sayn our chatroom isnt clique its been called it too but if you come in and jump in a convo your answered to at least lol in the irish your not? sorry
auds x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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paddy ill take u babes 
i agree with auds ireland chat
is bad 4 Cliqueness yday i went into
chat an thought omg u lot a rude fuckers
about 2 ppl noticed i was there
an that was it..u go into scots room
an ull get a hi from most u would never
be treated like that but ppl in ireland
chat r happy 2 sit on ur cam well they
didnt yday on mine as they were told
if u cant say hi get to feck off my cam
if they cant say hi..then they wont
wank over me either lol then i blocked
them lol an blocking is something i
never do but i wont stand for rudeness
theres no need for it..oops soz thats
more than 10words lol buthad 2 be said
have a nice day ireland xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shivers here (Mrs Hottie) - Cliques yeah but that has only happened cos people spent time getting to know each other in the room - but I feel the irishroom is friendly. I always chat back to folks who make the effort to get to know me and have a giggle. Have to say I dont agree with making sweeping generalisations about anything including the irishroom. Its only a place for fun and chuckles - not dramas and sagas! Sorry Miss Cool well over my 10 word allowance lol - see me about my punishment when u visit me tomorrow  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a miracle........
TWO, yes you hear me correctly, TWO people said "Good morning Bip" in the "Directing Room" this morning!!!
Laters, Paddy xx
Have a good weekend fellow forumites......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah for christ sake this is a load of nonsense!!!!
When we first joined fab I hated the chatrooms I found I went in said hi no one said hi back. I decided if I wanted people to talk to me I would have to put myself out there just like any other social suituation. I can't expect to walk into a room full of people who know each other to immmediately stop the conversation and talk to me - I need to introduce myself and JOIN their conversation. You get out what you put in With regards to people sitting on your cam - when someone new starts looking at my cam and doesn't say hi I will say a big cheery HELLO I find that some get uncomfortable and move off others will say hi back and hence conversation starts
A point on rudeness - in any busy room where conversation and giggles are happening it is difficult to keep an eye on who is coming into the room I do say HI to everyone who comes into the room if it is quite I will start a conversation with people if it is busy and I am chatting with friends I will say hi and continue chatting - anyone is free to join in.
A note on the scottish room - I have found everyone to be friendly any time I have ventured in yes people say hi but not everyone just like the irish room - any time I have tried to join a conversation I have been welcomed in just like the irish room - anytime I have ventured in and say hi and not joined a conversation I have sat unapproached just like the irish room although this happens much less in the irish room now as I have put myself out there and have made friends and they tend to speak to me not matter how hard I try to avoid them sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah it can be a lil cliquey, however in yhe case of Something Cool and Usee anytime Ive ever said hello they've always been brill and we have had some laughs, all things are cliquey if you dont join in x |
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In chat you get back what you put in, sitting quietly and waiting for someone to chat to you especially if your a single male, you might be a long time waiting.
Some of us cant help but yapping away on anything and everything and I never run out of cheesey lame lines to throw into chat.
As for cliques, they happen in all walks of life. The Irish room is incredibly welcoming to new people and that must go down to some of the lovely people i am thinking usee, shivers,hippies, laura who take the time to say hello and welcome ppl.
I am on here over a year and before january/February tumble was seen more often in the Irish room than people ( wonders is tumble a username !!!)
Anyway is wondering who is the clique so i can send an application form for membership
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ahhh Den ur a sweetie (whispers ur already part of the infamous clique so no application form needed). And I am so glad the irish room is now a lively place to be since it was so quiet before |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have found the Irish room very clique in recent times and find no matter how polite am still dont get an answer from people. Certain ones take over the room when they have the ones they want to talk to on msn. Find this so unfair as the people that you want to talk to dont get a chance as they think they are being rude by butting in on other peoples coversations. Find am spending less time in the chat room for this reason and have friends in most of the rooms but dont get to talk to all my friends as they are on at differnt times. So it through emails and it not the same as having a bit off banter that is more flowing like in the chat rooms.
Rant over and dont ask for msn to chat as dont play and it only for possible meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd have to disagree with this we've found since the irish room has gotten busier we've met a lot more possible meets, a lot more of the quieter members have started to openly chat with a little encouragement for louder members  and new members are coming into the room more because it is so lively we've had mails from people (not our friends) who have been memebers for a long time saying they have finally started to have meets because they have gotten to know people in chat. I guess it depends on the person though what works for one may not work for another ..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The Irish room when this thread was created was quite cliquey, and both myself and Laura are guilty of this also.
However, since some teddies were thrown from the pram, I noticed I was guilty of this and made a very conscious and visable effort to include everyone entering the room when I am there.
I agree it can be difficult to be seen when certain people are blabbering on about shite (me) however, this is the same in real social circles, if your a wallflower and quiet, you wont be noticed (old time dances anyone?)
My opinion is, personally, get in there, if at first your'e not replied to, ask again! the chat can move very very quickly people may have made an honest mistake and not seen your message
if only a few people chat (which the irish room was edging towards), no-one will meet new people or arrange meets with new people, however since I made my visable effort, and others have made the same effort, we have had lots of offers of meets which is GREAT!!!
\o/ \o/ \o/ \o/ \o/ \o/ \o/ \o/
Scrufs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i agree with hippies ,, irish is way to clickie and yes peopd are always pleasent to me , but ye can see how it revolves around certin peops ,, only a comment dont shoot me , xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went into Irish chatroom for first time a couple of days ago and I was pleasantly surprised that I was welcomed in as soon as I signed in
Only my lack of typing skills. ie, way too slow, prevented me from joining in too much.
I posted a thankyou in here the next day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had issues in chat where i wasn't part of the loop, i've had same issues at parties, in the pub, in work, in college, in school - in fact every where people talk, some people talk, some don't - some people are more popular than others. I've been on both sides of this and while it feels impossible to cross the divide, its just a matter of putting yourself out there. No one has a divine right to other people's attention - you gotta go earn it.
Clique are what people say when they resent other peoples fun - stop judging and have some fun ffs.
Wait
ps Scrufs - I love you MAN |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can I watch too?? (Laura )
In sum,
when starting this thread I had heard a rumour that people were unhappy with the cliquey nature of the chatrooms,
I also noticed that some, as scrufs mentioned (like us) who were speaking more than others and some as mentioned by others in the thread were not speaking at all whilst others had issues with not feeling welcome in the chatroom. Since writing this post, many "wallflowers" have came outta the wallpaper and into the centre!
I am genuinely sorry for opening a can of worms, but i feel proud that everyone has expressed how they felt and I hope things are changing for the better!
From now on,
Don't be shy, everybody wants to make new friends
Don't feel bad for butting in, it isn't a private room, its an open room for all
NO one person is more important than another
Have fun, go on cam, tell a joke
Be cool |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well this is 1 of the reasons i have stopped going into the chat room its fuckin shite and i dont like the way certain people treat others so this is why i will not be going into chat as often as i use to maria |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive been going on and off into the Irish room for about a year and a half, one oerception is that certain groups congregate at certain times therefore creating a rapport ie: between 11:30 am and 4.00pm, obviously others go in between 10:00pm and 2:00 am, there is definitely a crossover of groups with a few constants like Something Cool etc. Maybe due to time differences there is less of a rapport/friendliness between the two? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well i can honestly say im guilty of bein cliquey with certain people because of friendship and left others out and i do apologise to anyone if i have left them out and made them feel shit about the irish room as the room should be for every1 sorry peeps maria xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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been on now a few months but from time 2 time i go imto irish room.....dont know why thou, as ive never been welcomed.
is this room not for everyone who is registed wit fab?....so why are there certain users in the room who take it upoun them selves to act as if they are above everyone else.
so as i see it these ppl have issues....but i wont wat they are? |
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Totally disagree with clique, I've only been a member for a short time and lots of regulars have made me feel welcome and helped me understand the rules and we've had some good fun.
So thanks to wait, Usee, Mr Mrs Hottie, Sensualtaste, Catwoman who have all helped me. There is no clique but as someone said , you get out what you put in ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow Something Cool, probably the most successful thread ever on this forum..amazing how the swinging thing has evolved into a who likes who debate, human nature never lets itself down, do most people feel the site has become like goddamn Facebook? |
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following a secret rendevous lately i may have infilitrtaed the notorious clique, it is infact a undercover organisation that has similar aims to the illuminati, the free masons etc be warned the clique is taking over.
following the meeting i managed to find some headed notepaper and the meaning of clique has been revealed to me ( i cud force ye all to Knock and to wait till the virgin appears to me but lack of virgins around here !!!!!!!! )
ClIQUE stands for Cunning linguists Ireland, quintessentially unbearable egotists .............. be warned people
ps for non catholics , just google knock, co mayo  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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weve been on fab now a while and yes are having fun here..
but we rarely go into the irish chatroom because we have never been made welcome...we have made good friends on fab and they know who they are..but we have seen that there seems to be certain couples in the irish chat room who seem to be CLIQUEY..why we wonder? as chatrooms are for everyone to get to know each other.....who gives the CLIQUES the right to run a room the way they think it should be run?..the rooms are for everyone on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"who gives the CLIQUES the right to run a room the way they think it should be run?..the rooms are for everyone on fab."
3rd time lucky ...
Simple answer really - nobody gives anyone the right to run a chatroom as they see fit
The chatrooms are run according to the rules of the site and those rules apply to everybody on the site - cliques included |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Exactly Redhot....
My motto, stop whinning and participate!
Paddy xxx
"who gives the CLIQUES the right to run a room the way they think it should be run?..the rooms are for everyone on fab.
3rd time lucky ...
Simple answer really - nobody gives anyone the right to run a chatroom as they see fit
The chatrooms are run according to the rules of the site and those rules apply to everybody on the site - cliques included"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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hi cliques will happen everywere just treat everyone how you'd like to be treated back and reap the benifits of lots of new contacts and freinds, hi, hows yas all hope yas all enjoying
chat laters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Haha so did i usee!!! damn lol i think thou red was actually trying to be neutral not for or against! anyhooo....belfast well said!!!!
wen i feel like theres a clique, i keep chattin and keep chattin til they welcome me in!!!
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i must say i havnt been going into chat for long (addicted now ) i try to speak to all that speak to me, and there is many a nite i waffle away and butt into convos and as for cams i put them on all 4 and there is nites i want more lol (ok im getting greedy now ) but i do aplogise sumtimes i view a cam and dont speak to the person not because im being rude its sumtimes im talking or go to forums while in chat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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fab is one big clique
seems to me theres a small core of swingers who know one another
if you meet and "perform" well with one of these inner core, the word will get around v quickly and youll be in demand
however, if you dont get to meet, youll find yourself forever outside the window looking in! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"fab is one big clique
seems to me theres a small core of swingers who know one another
if you meet and "perform" well with one of these inner core, the word will get around v quickly and youll be in demand
however, if you dont get to meet, youll find yourself forever outside the window looking in!"
That would be the same in the real world as well, if you were at a club hoping to play - you have more luck as you get more well known.
Theres only the cliques you perceive to exist. There are groups of couples/singles here who socialise together as well as chat together on here. I wouldnt call that a clique - just a group of friends who have met via this site and still use this site |
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