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over a year ago
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I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you ask me its not the number that worries me, but I would be more conscious on how well they got to know those individuals if any thing......its about a form of connection, some can connect better then others and I would understand that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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as far as im concerned its no ones business the amount of people ive slept with but my own. If a partner wants to get hung up over it,its his issue not mine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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don't they say that women would probably half their list and men double it,when asked?
I actually don't know what I would do. My list is probably not that huge for my age, but I probably round it down.... I tell him after the wedding night lol *Joke*
Hopefully we'll find someone who isn't narrow minded and can accept us and our past!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
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If your going settling down with a guy and of course the two of ye are very happy he's not going to judge u on how many men u slept with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is this not daft to have on a swingers site?
If your asking yourself such questions,or worried what some possessive old fashioned slackjaw guy thinks,i suggest your in the wrong place"
I know what i want, but actions have consequences further down the line. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jaysis a list wouldnt bother me atall trust loyalty and commitment are the most important things in a relationship once you have all them u should be ok. |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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The list this is something I have tought about since I was a young lad and its always being my believe that a woman as well as a guy should as they say play the field experiment so to speak. Find what they are happy with it was frouned upon for a girl to play around back then but a guy was appuladed on his conquests strange because without the ladies playing he couldn't have his conquest. If I had a daughter I would love to think she knew what she wanted and liked before settling down, its a bit late when shes in the honeymoon bed and ur man does a panda leaving her wondering is that it.
If I had it over I think when the question was asked and she said ten / twenty I'd reply I hope u learnt well now get up them stairs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The list this is something I have tought about since I was a young lad and its always being my believe that a woman as well as a guy should as they say play the field experiment so to speak. Find what they are happy with it was frouned upon for a girl to play around back then but a guy was appuladed on his conquests strange because without the ladies playing he couldn't have his conquest. If I had a daughter I would love to think she knew what she wanted and liked before settling down, its a bit late when shes in the honeymoon bed and ur man does a panda leaving her wondering is that it.
If I had it over I think when the question was asked and she said ten / twenty I'd reply I hope u learnt well now get up them stairs "
I like that answer! So what makes a woman a slut? Dont take me up wrong, i do not consider anyone here a slut, i admire most of the women here, theyre confident and smokin hot, but when does being kinky turn into being a slag? How do i avoid that? |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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In my opinion has two interpertations
Endearment
A name I call the woman in my bed during foreplay and sex as part of roleplay
Gossiping
A woman that uses her body and sex as a means to an end
There's a third one
A fooking slut
A woman that sleeps with everyone else but me ( joke)
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By *lutaxiMan
over a year ago
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Slag should never be used if you enjoy what your doing and looking after yourself it's no ones business but you and who ever your with.
Slag in my mind goes back to days of women lie down, watch ceiling is it over yet. Dare a women enjoy the act of sex. Sorry rant over I just hate that word or term been used |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ehhh....the question is why should a woman EVER be labelled a slut?? 
I made the mistake of telling a guy I was dating last year about being on here and his attitude towards me completely changed.
I became a slut in his eyes, so he got dumped.
I'm not a slut for being on here or for the amount of guys I've been with off the site.
No woman should ever think of themselves or any other woman as a slut (or a potential slut). Just my opinion |
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"as far as im concerned its no ones business the amount of people ive slept with but my own. If a partner wants to get hung up over it,its his issue not mine"
Totally agree with that.. I haven't been counting so don't know.. And don't care. |
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"So what makes a woman a slut? Dont take me up wrong, i do not consider anyone here a slut, i admire most of the women here, theyre confident and smokin hot, but when does being kinky turn into being a slag? How do i avoid that?"
To the op, once you realise your past is just a story, it has no power over you. And never regret anything because at one time it was exactly what you wanted. You appear to be soul searching for some answers. I hope you find them, before trying to answer your last question, are you able to define whats "kinky", and then define whats a "slag". Slag is an ugly word, concubine is much more pleasant.  |
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"If you ask me its not the number that worries me, but I would be more conscious on how well they got to know those individuals if any thing......its about a form of connection, some can connect better then others and I would understand that "
I read this several times and can make neither head nor tail of what you are saying sorry but I know your saying something but it doesn't go in line with the question maybe I am reading to deep and between the blurred lines |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Why is it that it's just the women that are called sluts!? What about the guys, they're as bad! We're all slappers on the site - men & women!"
How very dare u
I am a gentleman slapper huh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it that it's just the women that are called sluts!? What about the guys, they're as bad! We're all slappers on the site - men & women!
How very dare u
I am a gentleman slapper huh "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The word slut is just a social construct to control women and pure nonsense in my mind. Saying that it can be fun to use in dirty talk.as in "bend over and take it you hot little slut " ?? "
In that context i love it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wouldn't bother me how many women a guy had slept with, if it got to a stage where you were settling down, I'd actually almost prefer he'd been around the block and would be happy to commit, rather than someone who'd not had so much experience and decide a few yrs later he felt he'd missed out.
Numbers mean nothing,it shouldn't detract from genuine feelings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having been on the scene years ago before getting married to somebody in vanilla world, I went my whole married life without my ex knowing anything about my past swinging antics. She knew about previous long-term girlfriends but telling her about those seemed to satisfy her curiousity and it wasn't necessary to go into the finer details.
I even bumped into a couple I'd been with while out shopping one day with her, had a conversation and introduced her to them and she was none the wiser.
The first I gave her any idea was when she had a parting dig, saying I had a low sex drive  all I could say was "if only you knew" 
Some might see this as being deceitful, but I told her what she wanted to know and just didn't elaborate when it wasn't needed. It's called being economical with the truth in my world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're in a relationship, it shouldn't matter how many people you'd been with before! A guy, if he likes u enough, should like u no matter what! He shouldn't judge u based on what everybody else says about u! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
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No guy should ask you your number and vice versa. All that matters is that ye are committed to each other. It seems to me that you have an issue with the amount of people you've slept with. Just my opinion, I may be wrong, it sounds like you feel guilty. At the end of the day it's no one's business and as long as you're happy that's all that matters. In my experience I would be wary of a guy that asks you how many guys you've slept with. They usually turn out to be the jealous ones  |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
No guy should ask you your number and vice versa. All that matters is that ye are committed to each other. It seems to me that you have an issue with the amount of people you've slept with. Just my opinion, I may be wrong, it sounds like you feel guilty. At the end of the day it's no one's business and as long as you're happy that's all that matters. In my experience I would be wary of a guy that asks you how many guys you've slept with. They usually turn out to be the jealous ones "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
No guy should ask you your number and vice versa. All that matters is that ye are committed to each other. It seems to me that you have an issue with the amount of people you've slept with. Just my opinion, I may be wrong, it sounds like you feel guilty. At the end of the day it's no one's business and as long as you're happy that's all that matters. In my experience I would be wary of a guy that asks you how many guys you've slept with. They usually turn out to be the jealous ones "
Well said you!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're in a relationship, it shouldn't matter how many people you'd been with before! A guy, if he likes u enough, should like u no matter what! He shouldn't judge u based on what everybody else says about u! "
if 2 people love each other,the present & the future is all that matters.The past is where it is! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you're in a relationship, it shouldn't matter how many people you'd been with before! A guy, if he likes u enough, should like u no matter what! He shouldn't judge u based on what everybody else says about u!
if 2 people love each other,the present & the future is all that matters.The past is where it is!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
No guy should ask you your number and vice versa. All that matters is that ye are committed to each other. It seems to me that you have an issue with the amount of people you've slept with. Just my opinion, I may be wrong, it sounds like you feel guilty. At the end of the day it's no one's business and as long as you're happy that's all that matters. In my experience I would be wary of a guy that asks you how many guys you've slept with. They usually turn out to be the jealous ones
Well said you!!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually when a girl asks me I throw out a largeish number to show I have been around.
Usually its met by "I feel like a slut now, mines a lot bigger".
I'm sure there are girls out there that sleep with a select few, but usually I will end up chatting to more liberated women as they tend to know how to hold my attention better at the start of a relationship. The initial foreplay, the innuendo, the teasing..
I'm not saying they jump into bed with me, just they know how to act like sexual beings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't bother telling my partner, it's in the past! Not my future, I have told exs my number and one was appauled!! But it's my youth I enjoyed it why should it bother him... |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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i dont think it should matter and anyone that complains about yours is just narrow minded plus the older you are the more likely u are to have a larger number
eg say someone is 31 lost virginity at 16 that 15 years sexually active lets say they slept with and average of 10 people a year( not that many) what would leave u with a number of 150 |
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"I wouldn't bother telling my partner, it's in the past! Not my future, I have told exs my number and one was appauled!! But it's my youth I enjoyed it why should it bother him..."
Freddie refuses to hear anything other than "I was a virgin when I met you"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't bother telling my partner, it's in the past! Not my future, I have told exs my number and one was appauled!! But it's my youth I enjoyed it why should it bother him...
Freddie refuses to hear anything other than "I was a virgin when I met you"
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Personally I think the more important list should be how many since u were last tested? Maybe I'm a worrier or a bit of a prude but if I was getting into a new relationship I for one who gets regular testing would only be concerned with that list.
I only had one on my full list until I joined fab earlier this year its slowly multiplying now but what ever the number I don't think anyone should be embarressed it's all about a bit of fun once ur safe and cautious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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In all honesty my list is really quite short despite what some people think!!! 
And to add to that it's nobodys business how many you've been with really as long as you protect yourself and them
Fuck the begrudgers
Happy thursday fabbers
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"Personally I think the more important list should be how many since u were last tested? Maybe I'm a worrier or a bit of a prude but if I was getting into a new relationship I for one who gets regular testing would only be concerned with that list.
I only had one on my full list until I joined fab earlier this year its slowly multiplying now but what ever the number I don't think anyone should be embarressed it's all about a bit of fun once ur safe and cautious. "
I agree! Was going to post on my last post about it being worse when the doc askes that question as I am a firm believer of regular testing and it is a constant worry for me on here! Was accused of it being "too personal" to ask someone that question before. I don't think it is! If I'm going to have sex with someone I want to know if my health is at risk, condoms only do so much! |
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By *al2001Man
over a year ago
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I was only askin for sexy kicks but my exes number was over 300. And all that was done the old fashioned way,going out n meeting guys,no web,pre swinging.
and yes she had high standards,always had to fancy the guy
loved it i did |
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"The word slut is just a social construct to control women and pure nonsense in my mind. Saying that it can be fun to use in dirty talk.as in "bend over and take it you hot little slut " ??
In that context i love it! "
?? all the "bad" words can be extremely good in the right scenario.. for example "c'mere you hot bitch/whore/slut etc " may get the juices flowing in the bedroombut it's not advisable to use them in front of company.?? Saying that can be fun to whisper in a sexy ladies ear in anticipation of the fun to follow on a night out. |
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
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Mines not so bad, so very easy to tell future wives, ex wives etc.
1 and a half x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have to admit when I joined Fabs first the huge number of verifs on a profile were a turn off, especially the frequency of them.
But having learned about the great swing community that is Fabs I've a better understanding of how it works and it doesn't bother anymore.
Nevertheless I'm still a bit ashamed to publish my summary.
I still think of myself as an innocent lady!!!
Can't quite shake that number phobia either  |
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
Mines not so bad, so very easy to tell future wives, ex wives etc.
1 and a half x "
Lol a half?? I'd like to hear that story |
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
Mines not so bad, so very easy to tell future wives, ex wives etc.
1 and a half x
Lol a half?? I'd like to hear that story "
Well,,,, it involves a 87year old blind woman, a dwarf and a pumpkin lol x |
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
Mines not so bad, so very easy to tell future wives, ex wives etc.
1 and a half x
Lol a half?? I'd like to hear that story
Well,,,, it involves a 87year old blind woman, a dwarf and a pumpkin lol x"
Wowzers!! Now there's a kinky boy |
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
Mines not so bad, so very easy to tell future wives, ex wives etc.
1 and a half x
Lol a half?? I'd like to hear that story
Well,,,, it involves a 87year old blind woman, a dwarf and a pumpkin lol x"
Wouldn't surprise me! |
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
Mines not so bad, so very easy to tell future wives, ex wives etc.
1 and a half x
Lol a half?? I'd like to hear that story
Well,,,, it involves a 87year old blind woman, a dwarf and a pumpkin lol x"
Wouldn't surprise me! |
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"I dont know if its just me, but as a single woman, i'm concious of the list of people i've slept with, especially if i settle down and the guy asks for that number!
Would love to hear your opinions, especially from other single women, and from a guys perspective!
Mines not so bad, so very easy to tell future wives, ex wives etc.
1 and a half x
Lol a half?? I'd like to hear that story
Well,,,, it involves a 87year old blind woman, a dwarf and a pumpkin lol x
Wouldn't surprise me! "
She had red hair as well, but they were lower hairs.
I'll bring a pumpkin over in November red lol x  |
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