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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well ive been single now for two years last relationship was a disaster and i was dumped ex had alot off issues at the time and to behonest i was badly hurt.
Anyway it took me nearly two years to get over it but i noticed that lately mates are putting me under a small bit off pressure to find someone again and anytime im out for a pint the topic comes up about me been single.They are all married now or in realtionships but im quiet happy to be single for now and just to plod along and have some fun.
I do have some issues myself in trusting people again but strangely i dont feel insecure.Has anyone found it hard to move on after a relationship that ended badly or is it just me.any advice would be great. |
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Been single now for over 9 years. Don't really have issues with relationships but when you've been in one for over 18 years it's nice being my own boss and doing what I like when I like. If your happy then they should just except the situation. When your ready For a relationship again you will know  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Been single now for over 9 years. Don't really have issues with relationships but when you've been in one for over 18 years it's nice being my own boss and doing what I like when I like. If your happy then they should just except the situation. When your ready For a relationship again you will know "
good advice thank u.  |
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I have been single for a few yrs now my last relationship if I'm honest I was cause of the break up
However not going into the whole break up i was left to feel totally like it my fault until things came to a head with him too. We both was not happy both gave insecurities. I'm actually enjoying being single been in relationship from an early age.
Most my friends are married and i do get she needs a man honestly I'm happy and if I want to meet someone hopefully I will until then I happy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have been single for a few yrs now my last relationship if I'm honest I was cause of the break up
However not going into the whole break up i was left to feel totally like it my fault until things came to a head with him too. We both was not happy both gave insecurities. I'm actually enjoying being single been in relationship from an early age.
Most my friends are married and i do get she needs a man honestly I'm happy and if I want to meet someone hopefully I will until then I happy."
Whats happen to me i be sitting enjoying a pint my mates will start oh we have to find him a woman tonite look at that one or how about this one, then it puts me off and way i say shes not my type i get ah ur getting too fussy its gets so annoying to be honest at times. |
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By *azsinsMan
over a year ago
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"I have been single for a few yrs now my last relationship if I'm honest I was cause of the break up
However not going into the whole break up i was left to feel totally like it my fault until things came to a head with him too. We both was not happy both gave insecurities. I'm actually enjoying being single been in relationship from an early age.
Most my friends are married and i do get she needs a man honestly I'm happy and if I want to meet someone hopefully I will until then I happy.
Whats happen to me i be sitting enjoying a pint my mates will start oh we have to find him a woman tonite look at that one or how about this one, then it puts me off and way i say shes not my type i get ah ur getting too fussy its gets so annoying to be honest at times."
there are many possibilities
they are worried your not getting any so you might jump one of their partners or worse one of them!! lol
their partners all think you need a woman to look after you
you are spoiling their partners numbers at the dinner parties so you need a plus one
you are giving them a good excuse to eye up the candy in the bar
All joking aside i wouldn't worry about your mates setting you up. Start to worry when you go to your mums for dinner and she has set you up!!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have been single for a few yrs now my last relationship if I'm honest I was cause of the break up
However not going into the whole break up i was left to feel totally like it my fault until things came to a head with him too. We both was not happy both gave insecurities. I'm actually enjoying being single been in relationship from an early age.
Most my friends are married and i do get she needs a man honestly I'm happy and if I want to meet someone hopefully I will until then I happy.
Whats happen to me i be sitting enjoying a pint my mates will start oh we have to find him a woman tonite look at that one or how about this one, then it puts me off and way i say shes not my type i get ah ur getting too fussy its gets so annoying to be honest at times.
there are many possibilities
they are worried your not getting any so you might jump one of their partners or worse one of them!! lol
their partners all think you need a woman to look after you
you are spoiling their partners numbers at the dinner parties so you need a plus one
you are giving them a good excuse to eye up the candy in the bar
All joking aside i wouldn't worry about your mates setting you up. Start to worry when you go to your mums for dinner and she has set you up!!!
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never thought about it that way mate shit i was invited to the mothers for dinner on friday oh noooooooooo.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Your friends probably think you are not in a relationship because you got hurt last time so are pushing you to get over it.
My mates don't bother me about it and its been way longer for me. But I didn't have my heart broken, and I have always had long spells between girlfriends, because I like to know people before I date them.
When I date a girl I know her, I like her, I think shes awesome, and think we could work as a couple.
I don't date someone to get to know them.
In Ireland this attitude is in the minority. You need to be bf and gf after the first dinner date or girls think you are not interested, and decided to have sex with that guy that is begging them, and treating them like a princess turning on all the tricks, and that means he really cares about her, and wont dump her in a month, by which time I will be setting my sights on someone else to rinse and repeat.
I'm comfortable with the Idea that I will live my life alone, and die alone. It was hard for me to come to terms with it, because I believe in soul mates and believe there is someone out there that is a great match for anyone.
Oh well..
Figure out why you are single, if its what you really want, and go from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have been single for a few yrs now my last relationship if I'm honest I was cause of the break up
However not going into the whole break up i was left to feel totally like it my fault until things came to a head with him too. We both was not happy both gave insecurities. I'm actually enjoying being single been in relationship from an early age.
Most my friends are married and i do get she needs a man honestly I'm happy and if I want to meet someone hopefully I will until then I happy.
Whats happen to me i be sitting enjoying a pint my mates will start oh we have to find him a woman tonite look at that one or how about this one, then it puts me off and way i say shes not my type i get ah ur getting too fussy its gets so annoying to be honest at times.
there are many possibilities
they are worried your not getting any so you might jump one of their partners or worse one of them!! lol
their partners all think you need a woman to look after you
you are spoiling their partners numbers at the dinner parties so you need a plus one
you are giving them a good excuse to eye up the candy in the bar
All joking aside i wouldn't worry about your mates setting you up. Start to worry when you go to your mums for dinner and she has set you up!!!
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today's sage advice courtesy of Jaz |
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"I have been single for a few yrs now my last relationship if I'm honest I was cause of the break up
However not going into the whole break up i was left to feel totally like it my fault until things came to a head with him too. We both was not happy both gave insecurities. I'm actually enjoying being single been in relationship from an early age.
Most my friends are married and i do get she needs a man honestly I'm happy and if I want to meet someone hopefully I will until then I happy.
Whats happen to me i be sitting enjoying a pint my mates will start oh we have to find him a woman tonite look at that one or how about this one, then it puts me off and way i say shes not my type i get ah ur getting too fussy its gets so annoying to be honest at times.
there are many possibilities
they are worried your not getting any so you might jump one of their partners or worse one of them!! lol
their partners all think you need a woman to look after you
you are spoiling their partners numbers at the dinner parties so you need a plus one
you are giving them a good excuse to eye up the candy in the bar
All joking aside i wouldn't worry about your mates setting you up. Start to worry when you go to your mums for dinner and she has set you up!!!
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that happened to Bridget jones she got set up by her mother with mark Darcy ohhh his voice is lovely |
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I'm single a few months now, and while I've got a couple of (non fab) friends with benifits on the go, I wouldn't mind something more concrete again.....not yet though im having too much no strings fun!
Luckily I moved into a house with 2 single guys in their thirties. They're always on tinder and I laugh to myself....if the only knew what I'm at.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been single 8 years now and still get a kick out of being able to come and go as I please
packed off my last boy to collage today
ask me in a few weeks do I still like having a empty nest  |
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By *idpunkMan
over a year ago
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I've been single about 4 months and tbh i hated it at first,but now i realise there's a gig on f**k it i'll go to that or i'll go to the pub but at the same time i get ribbed at work are you gay etc etc just because i'm single but hey ho. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im only single a few months but am happier being single. I have qualities that i know i want from a partner and dont want to be settling anymore as i have done in the past, though am in no rush to find someone with them. Friends do try to put me under pressure to date and be in a relationship but im not interested in settling down just because they want me to. |
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By *idpunkMan
over a year ago
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"Im only single a few months but am happier being single. I have qualities that i know i want from a partner and dont want to be settling anymore as i have done in the past, though am in no rush to find someone with them. Friends do try to put me under pressure to date and be in a relationship but im not interested in settling down just because they want me to. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My friends are mainly all married or settled down with long term partners and children etc. Doesn't bother me or them that I'm single or how long I've been single for. My friends are just happy that I'm happy.
I can't imagine not being single anymore and love the freedom that it brings. I can't even begin to imagine living with someone again either. I love not having someone to look after, can just come home and do my own thing when I want and choose to.
The responsibility of another person can be a heavy load.
In saying that I'm not ruling it out. If the right person comes along, I'll be open to possibilities but I'm not actively looking for a relationship |
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By *azsinsMan
over a year ago
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"Just like to say a big thanks for all the advice and input really appericate it thanks guys. "
great thread biggles happy to contribute
I am single and happy btw and yes be worried for friday lol, cause i am only speaking from experience. Boxing day good living church girl!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well ive been single now for two years last relationship was a disaster and i was dumped ex had alot off issues at the time and to behonest i was badly hurt.
Anyway it took me nearly two years to get over it but i noticed that lately mates are putting me under a small bit off pressure to find someone again and anytime im out for a pint the topic comes up about me been single.They are all married now or in realtionships but im quiet happy to be single for now and just to plod along and have some fun.
I do have some issues myself in trusting people again but strangely i dont feel insecure.Has anyone found it hard to move on after a relationship that ended badly or is it just me.any advice would be great."
secretly your friends are probably jealous of your freedom n independence Biggles  |
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