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Is there a thing as too many?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Too many veri's?
Too many people at once?
To many........?
Is it a different number for guys and girls?
What is extreme to you?
I have to say 50+ sexual veri's would put me off. Not because of the fact that they has that many sexual encounters just the fact they are all posted. Oh and M&G is different though. That's actually cool!
One women/guy loads of guys/women (30)+ isn't a flattering thing in my eyes either! I'm just a prude though.
Not that I'm judging just that's a bit of a turn off in a way for me!
So what about you?
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By (user no longer on site)
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Suppose it's all in context. 30/50 sexual veri's - but over 3/5 years? Then it's the same as someone having 10 veri's over a year? Although veri's never put me off anyone, they are here to enjoy themselves and clearly they are! More power to them 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Suppose it's all in context. 30/50 sexual veri's - but over 3/5 years? Then it's the same as someone having 10 veri's over a year? Although veri's never put me off anyone, they are here to enjoy themselves and clearly they are! More power to them
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Great answer but does that mean there is a yearly limit? Weekly even?
Is there no limit? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Suppose it's all in context. 30/50 sexual veri's - but over 3/5 years? Then it's the same as someone having 10 veri's over a year? Although veri's never put me off anyone, they are here to enjoy themselves and clearly they are! More power to them
Great answer but does that mean there is a yearly limit? Weekly even?
Is there no limit? "
No I don't think there's any sort of limits, it's what ever your comfortable with when choosing a potential partner. Some people find it a massive turn on and others a turn off. Takes all sorts to make this wonderful fab world turn 
I was merely pointing out that sometimes people with a lot of veri's might have been here a very long time
For example, I joined last June, left in dec and rejoined in jan. When I rejoined a lot of people reverified me so some men mailed me asking me had I met ten people in the first few days of joining!
Same with the verification summary, this is notoriously hotel California, so someone's summary may say verified by 60 people, this could easily be the same people leaving and rejoining all the time
I would always read the veri's and see for myself - you can tell a lot about the person by what they publish
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too many sexual veris would be a turn off but then again I was told that 6 veris in a matter of three months was too much. This person didn't even consider that they might not all be sex related since they're hidden
Looks like I have too many veris  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I seen a ton of veri's it kinda makes me take a big gulp. It can be a little off putting, just being honest 
I totally agree with you  "
Don't choke on those gulps  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm not going to quote her as it takes up so much space.
Just wanted to say thanks, in public, to lollipop for a great couple of answers!
I agree with you too anniemal, a graphic veri can be off putting, especially done more like a bad porn script than an erotic adventure. |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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Most of our meets are party's....have never received a graphic verie and if we did we wouldn't show it.....we wouldn't care if ppl had one or one hundred we just want to know someone is genuine and will show up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems you can't win on here. If you're not meeting it's a turn off and if you are meeting it's a turn off too.
Can't understand how many veris would be a turn off. That person is using the site as they wish and so be it.
How do you know the man/woman with 2 displayed veris isn't meeting 100 people a day and simply not displaying those veris?? And if they are - so what?!
Fair play to them I say. Fab is what you make of it and people should do what/who they want on here!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm not going to quote her as it takes up so much space.
Just wanted to say thanks, in public, to lollipop for a great couple of answers!
I agree with you too anniemal, a graphic veri can be off putting, especially done more like a bad porn script than an erotic adventure. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems you can't win on here. If you're not meeting it's a turn off and if you are meeting it's a turn off too.
Can't understand how many veris would be a turn off. That person is using the site as they wish and so be it.
How do you know the man/woman with 2 displayed veris isn't meeting 100 people a day and simply not displaying those veris?? And if they are - so what?!
Fair play to them I say. Fab is what you make of it and people should do what/who they want on here! "
Very true too...excellent point!
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By (user no longer on site)
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I honestly dont care how many or If they have none.
I would prefer if all veris just said "met them, they are real".
I will judge people by what their meets have on their pages. If I click on a meet, and then one of their meets and its full of unprotected sex photos then I usually wont meet you even though you probably had noting to do with that.
I found a profile with a tonne of unprotected sex photos and ended up blocking all their meets, which was a lot of people. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Seems you can't win on here. If you're not meeting it's a turn off and if you are meeting it's a turn off too.
Can't understand how many veris would be a turn off. That person is using the site as they wish and so be it.
How do you know the man/woman with 2 displayed veris isn't meeting 100 people a day and simply not displaying those veris?? And if they are - so what?!
Fair play to them I say. Fab is what you make of it and people should do what/who they want on here! "
I think I worded it wrong. Maybe intimidating is more appropriate.
I love the liberal freedom but still find it clashes with my prudish life till now!
I find veri's that are extremely crude and graphic that way.
I don't look down or want to insult anybody.
I can't throw stones when I live in a glass house! And anyway I'm also jealous that I'm not as lucky as many on here! My sexual adventure is still in it's early stages.
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It's kinda a difficult one to get right .. dammed if you have them. .dammed if you don't!
I have been lucky enough to meet loads of lovely people at m&gs so a lot of my veris reflect that.... and as lolli says some who have rejoined fab .I think veris are really important as they hopefully give you a little bit of a snapshot of a person. To me is not enough to just say they are a person and turned up. . This is a way of trying to appreciate if someone is safe, decent,discreet and genuine so I always try to reflect in my veris what a person was like. But it can be a bit hit and miss. .I have a couple I don't display as they were made in error after m&gs (where the person had got me confused with someone else).i always read veris before I would even consider meeting someone for coffee and I would expect them to do the same. If they don't or would judge on something like the amount. .. They're not someone I would want to meet tbh. |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"I honestly dont care how many or If they have none.
I would prefer if all veris just said "met them, they are real".
I will judge people by what their meets have on their pages. If I click on a meet, and then one of their meets and its full of unprotected sex photos then I usually wont meet you even though you probably had noting to do with that.
I found a profile with a tonne of unprotected sex photos and ended up blocking all their meets, which was a lot of people."
Maybe I am stupid or senile or both but I would just assume pics of unprotected sex were of the cpl of them selves |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To me is not enough to just say they are a person and turned up. . This is a way of trying to appreciate if someone is safe, decent,discreet and genuine"
But people with glowing verifications have been very unsafe and have been very loose lipped.
Fact is you will never see a verification ever, saying "this person is not safe".
I'll go even further, if you openly called someone unsafe with a claim you would probably get banned yourself for naming and shaming.
The verifications in my mind should never be used to verify someone as safe or discreet but only that they are a real person that really meets.
Verifications are people wearing their best suit, its not the real them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I honestly dont care how many or If they have none.
I would prefer if all veris just said "met them, they are real".
I will judge people by what their meets have on their pages. If I click on a meet, and then one of their meets and its full of unprotected sex photos then I usually wont meet you even though you probably had noting to do with that.
I found a profile with a tonne of unprotected sex photos and ended up blocking all their meets, which was a lot of people.
Maybe I am stupid or senile or both but I would just assume pics of unprotected sex were of the cpl of them selves"
we would assume that as well. an awful lot of judgement going on based on assumptions.we've met people with many veri's and few and find no difference between them.people are here for their own reasons, playing in the way that suits them best and its not my place to judge them or make assumptions about them because of it,each to their own. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I honestly dont care how many or If they have none.
I would prefer if all veris just said "met them, they are real".
I will judge people by what their meets have on their pages. If I click on a meet, and then one of their meets and its full of unprotected sex photos then I usually wont meet you even though you probably had noting to do with that.
I found a profile with a tonne of unprotected sex photos and ended up blocking all their meets, which was a lot of people.
Maybe I am stupid or senile or both but I would just assume pics of unprotected sex were of the cpl of them selves
we would assume that as well. an awful lot of judgement going on based on assumptions.we've met people with many veri's and few and find no difference between them.people are here for their own reasons, playing in the way that suits them best and its not my place to judge them or make assumptions about them because of it,each to their own."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I honestly dont care how many or If they have none.
I would prefer if all veris just said "met them, they are real".
I will judge people by what their meets have on their pages. If I click on a meet, and then one of their meets and its full of unprotected sex photos then I usually wont meet you even though you probably had noting to do with that.
I found a profile with a tonne of unprotected sex photos and ended up blocking all their meets, which was a lot of people.
Maybe I am stupid or senile or both but I would just assume pics of unprotected sex were of the cpl of them selves
we would assume that as well. an awful lot of judgement going on based on assumptions.we've met people with many veri's and few and find no difference between them.people are here for their own reasons, playing in the way that suits them best and its not my place to judge them or make assumptions about them because of it,each to their own."
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"I honestly dont care how many or If they have none.
I would prefer if all veris just said "met them, they are real".
I will judge people by what their meets have on their pages. If I click on a meet, and then one of their meets and its full of unprotected sex photos then I usually wont meet you even though you probably had noting to do with that.
I found a profile with a tonne of unprotected sex photos and ended up blocking all their meets, which was a lot of people.
Maybe I am stupid or senile or both but I would just assume pics of unprotected sex were of the cpl of them selves
we would assume that as well. an awful lot of judgement going on based on assumptions.we've met people with many veri's and few and find no difference between them.people are here for their own reasons, playing in the way that suits them best and its not my place to judge them or make assumptions about them because of it,each to their own."
Agree 100%..... |
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"To me is not enough to just say they are a person and turned up. . This is a way of trying to appreciate if someone is safe, decent,discreet and genuineBut people with glowing verifications have been very unsafe and have been very loose lipped.
Fact is you will never see a verification ever, saying "this person is not safe".
I'll go even further, if you openly called someone unsafe with a claim you would probably get banned yourself for naming and shaming.
The verifications in my mind should never be used to verify someone as safe or discreet but only that they are a real person that really meets.
Verifications are people wearing their best suit, its not the real them."
Fair point. .. it's an issue that has come up many times before as no one is going to display a veri if it raised any issues about them . I'm not suggesting for a minute that a veri/ coffee meet tells you if someone is safe etc and I appreciate anyone can be on their"best behaviour" for the duration of a coffee. . I guess it's a case of finding what works for you. It is quite easy to pm someone who had given a veri to ask or word of mouth often comes into play .
But as to amount ...which is what the thread asked about... I think its down to individual choice |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Maybe I am stupid or senile or both but I would just assume pics of unprotected sex were of the cpl of them selves
we would assume that as well. an awful lot of judgement going on based on assumptions.we've met people with many veri's and few and find no difference between them.people are here for their own reasons, playing in the way that suits them best and its not my place to judge them or make assumptions about them because of it,each to their own."
Well the girls all had different colour hair, bodies and tattoos, so I don't think i was going out on a limb thinking he was having unprotected sex with multiple women.
If you don't judge people or make assumptions about them, then you're not being clever or safe. That would mean you have the standards of a wild animal, after all our standards are just judgements about people, assumptions about people.
Even a one night fling with a stranger you should make a quick judgement about them before going trough with it. Doing otherwise sounds like insanity to me. |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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"Seems you can't win on here. If you're not meeting it's a turn off and if you are meeting it's a turn off too.
Can't understand how many veris would be a turn off. That person is using the site as they wish and so be it.
How do you know the man/woman with 2 displayed veris isn't meeting 100 people a day and simply not displaying those veris?? And if they are - so what?!
Fair play to them I say. Fab is what you make of it and people should do what/who they want on here! "
this , u just cant win here , they wont meet if u not verified and they wont meet cause u have to many
i just wonder sometimes , we have alot of veries but they mostly from parties and meet & greets , are they off putting too
mrs crazy
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Seems you can't win on here. If you're not meeting it's a turn off and if you are meeting it's a turn off too.
Can't understand how many veris would be a turn off. That person is using the site as they wish and so be it.
How do you know the man/woman with 2 displayed veris isn't meeting 100 people a day and simply not displaying those veris?? And if they are - so what?!
Fair play to them I say. Fab is what you make of it and people should do what/who they want on here!
this , u just cant win here , they wont meet if u not verified and they wont meet cause u have to many
i just wonder sometimes , we have alot of veries but they mostly from parties and meet & greets , are they off putting too
mrs crazy
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If someone is put off by the amount of, or the lack of is it really someone you would Want to meet though? |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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"Seems you can't win on here. If you're not meeting it's a turn off and if you are meeting it's a turn off too.
Can't understand how many veris would be a turn off. That person is using the site as they wish and so be it.
How do you know the man/woman with 2 displayed veris isn't meeting 100 people a day and simply not displaying those veris?? And if they are - so what?!
Fair play to them I say. Fab is what you make of it and people should do what/who they want on here!
this , u just cant win here , they wont meet if u not verified and they wont meet cause u have to many
i just wonder sometimes , we have alot of veries but they mostly from parties and meet & greets , are they off putting too
mrs crazy
If someone is put off by the amount of, or the lack of is it really someone you would Want to meet though?"
true i guess , just move on id say as there are enough genuine people here to meet
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Maybe I am stupid or senile or both but I would just assume pics of unprotected sex were of the cpl of them selves
we would assume that as well. an awful lot of judgement going on based on assumptions.we've met people with many veri's and few and find no difference between them.people are here for their own reasons, playing in the way that suits them best and its not my place to judge them or make assumptions about them because of it,each to their own.Well the girls all had different colour hair, bodies and tattoos, so I don't think i was going out on a limb thinking he was having unprotected sex with multiple women.
If you don't judge people or make assumptions about them, then you're not being clever or safe. That would mean you have the standards of a wild animal, after all our standards are just judgements about people, assumptions about people.
Even a one night fling with a stranger you should make a quick judgement about them before going trough with it. Doing otherwise sounds like insanity to me."
I never said we dont judge people(or have the standards of a wild animal btw)but we form an opinion by meeting them in person over a drink or coffee and talking to them in person.their veri's simply tell us they are likely to turn up and be interested in playing should we all get on. |
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No and no are the answers to the last two posts.
Seems like the majority opinion is that more shouldn't matter, but very few does? Sound right to you?
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"No and no are the answers to the last two posts.
Seems like the majority opinion is that more shouldn't matter, but very few does? Sound right to you?
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not really .more does'nt matter to us but neither does very few because people use the site whatever way they like.we like to have fun as often as is feasible for us,others might like to play 2 or 3 times a year,so what? thats their choice,their business. |
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"No and no are the answers to the last two posts.
Seems like the majority opinion is that more shouldn't matter, but very few does? Sound right to you?
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If it's sex ones I'd say more would matter whether people admit it or not. But then again everyone's idea of too many sex ones will differ. Since there's no naming and stuff I came across a lady who played with the equivalent of one a day in the first week. Can't know whether they were safe or not so I'd be weary of meeting the guys I'd already met (the ones she met in the few days). Although you could commend someone for going out to get what they want there's nothing wrong with refusing a meet based on too many sexual veris |
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"No and no are the answers to the last two posts.
Seems like the majority opinion is that more shouldn't matter, but very few does? Sound right to you?
not really .more does'nt matter to us but neither does very few because people use the site whatever way they like.we like to have fun as often as is feasible for us,others might like to play 2 or 3 times a year,so what? thats their choice,their business. "
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"No and no are the answers to the last two posts.
Seems like the majority opinion is that more shouldn't matter, but very few does? Sound right to you?
If it's sex ones I'd say more would matter whether people admit it or not. But then again everyone's idea of too many sex ones will differ. Since there's no naming and stuff I came across a lady who played with the equivalent of one a day in the first week. Can't know whether they were safe or not so I'd be weary of meeting the guys I'd already met (the ones she met in the few days). Although you could commend someone for going out to get what they want there's nothing wrong with refusing a meet based on too many sexual veris"
again its all assumption,I could assume from your veri summary(6 men ,6 meets last 4 weeks ago online 3 months)that you had h sex every 10 days but that would we just an assumption and probably nowhere near the reality. |
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"No and no are the answers to the last two posts.
Seems like the majority opinion is that more shouldn't matter, but very few does? Sound right to you?
If it's sex ones I'd say more would matter whether people admit it or not. But then again everyone's idea of too many sex ones will differ. Since there's no naming and stuff I came across a lady who played with the equivalent of one a day in the first week. Can't know whether they were safe or not so I'd be weary of meeting the guys I'd already met (the ones she met in the few days). Although you could commend someone for going out to get what they want there's nothing wrong with refusing a meet based on too many sexual verisagain its all assumption,I could assume from your veri summary(6 men ,6 meets last 4 weeks ago online 3 months)that you had h sex every 10 days but that would we just an assumption and probably nowhere near the reality."
The lady in question had her veris displayed so there was no assumptions being made. Only thing I was wondering was whether protection was used or not. My veris are hidden and everyone can make any assumptions they want which is why I mentioned that I was told that 6 was just too much. If anyone were to get in contact though and I was interested in meeting them then I'd happily let them see the veris |
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"No and no are the answers to the last two posts.
Seems like the majority opinion is that more shouldn't matter, but very few does? Sound right to you?
If it's sex ones I'd say more would matter whether people admit it or not. But then again everyone's idea of too many sex ones will differ. Since there's no naming and stuff I came across a lady who played with the equivalent of one a day in the first week. Can't know whether they were safe or not so I'd be weary of meeting the guys I'd already met (the ones she met in the few days). Although you could commend someone for going out to get what they want there's nothing wrong with refusing a meet based on too many sexual verisagain its all assumption,I could assume from your veri summary(6 men ,6 meets last 4 weeks ago online 3 months)that you had h sex every 10 days but that would we just an assumption and probably nowhere near the reality.
The lady in question had her veris displayed so there was no assumptions being made. Only thing I was wondering was whether protection was used or not. My veris are hidden and everyone can make any assumptions they want which is why I mentioned that I was told that 6 was just too much. If anyone were to get in contact though and I was interested in meeting them then I'd happily let them see the veris "
there was no judgement of you whatsoever Ebony. I was trying to make the point that all you can assume from a veri is someone showed up.We dont even believe some of our own ffs |
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"No and no are the answers to the last two posts.
Seems like the majority opinion is that more shouldn't matter, but very few does? Sound right to you?
If it's sex ones I'd say more would matter whether people admit it or not. But then again everyone's idea of too many sex ones will differ. Since there's no naming and stuff I came across a lady who played with the equivalent of one a day in the first week. Can't know whether they were safe or not so I'd be weary of meeting the guys I'd already met (the ones she met in the few days). Although you could commend someone for going out to get what they want there's nothing wrong with refusing a meet based on too many sexual verisagain its all assumption,I could assume from your veri summary(6 men ,6 meets last 4 weeks ago online 3 months)that you had h sex every 10 days but that would we just an assumption and probably nowhere near the reality.
The lady in question had her veris displayed so there was no assumptions being made. Only thing I was wondering was whether protection was used or not. My veris are hidden and everyone can make any assumptions they want which is why I mentioned that I was told that 6 was just too much. If anyone were to get in contact though and I was interested in meeting them then I'd happily let them see the veris there was no judgement of you whatsoever Ebony. I was trying to make the point that all you can assume from a veri is someone showed up.We dont even believe some of our own ffs "
That's good. I was confident when I joined but thanks to some veris and some messages it's safe to say I'm now big headed cause I believe all of them lol...jk |
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"No and no are the answers to the last two posts.
Seems like the majority opinion is that more shouldn't matter, but very few does? Sound right to you?
If it's sex ones I'd say more would matter whether people admit it or not. But then again everyone's idea of too many sex ones will differ. Since there's no naming and stuff I came across a lady who played with the equivalent of one a day in the first week. Can't know whether they were safe or not so I'd be weary of meeting the guys I'd already met (the ones she met in the few days). Although you could commend someone for going out to get what they want there's nothing wrong with refusing a meet based on too many sexual verisagain its all assumption,I could assume from your veri summary(6 men ,6 meets last 4 weeks ago online 3 months)that you had h sex every 10 days but that would we just an assumption and probably nowhere near the reality.
The lady in question had her veris displayed so there was no assumptions being made. Only thing I was wondering was whether protection was used or not. My veris are hidden and everyone can make any assumptions they want which is why I mentioned that I was told that 6 was just too much. If anyone were to get in contact though and I was interested in meeting them then I'd happily let them see the veris "
6 is way lower than average. And so far inside the line it's not even close.
I was chatting to a lovely lady who had six sexual veri's from one night.
She said that her max was 15 once. But it got a bit annoying as to many had no clue how to please or enjoy, it felt to wham bam thank you mam! She felt used and cut down on group stuff. |
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"No and no are the answers to the last two posts.
Seems like the majority opinion is that more shouldn't matter, but very few does? Sound right to you?
If it's sex ones I'd say more would matter whether people admit it or not. But then again everyone's idea of too many sex ones will differ. Since there's no naming and stuff I came across a lady who played with the equivalent of one a day in the first week. Can't know whether they were safe or not so I'd be weary of meeting the guys I'd already met (the ones she met in the few days). Although you could commend someone for going out to get what they want there's nothing wrong with refusing a meet based on too many sexual verisagain its all assumption,I could assume from your veri summary(6 men ,6 meets last 4 weeks ago online 3 months)that you had h sex every 10 days but that would we just an assumption and probably nowhere near the reality.
The lady in question had her veris displayed so there was no assumptions being made. Only thing I was wondering was whether protection was used or not. My veris are hidden and everyone can make any assumptions they want which is why I mentioned that I was told that 6 was just too much. If anyone were to get in contact though and I was interested in meeting them then I'd happily let them see the veris
6 is way lower than average. And so far inside the line it's not even close.
I was chatting to a lovely lady who had six sexual veri's from one night.
She said that her max was 15 once. But it got a bit annoying as to many had no clue how to please or enjoy, it felt to wham bam thank you mam! She felt used and cut down on group stuff. "
Each to their own I guess. I'm a bit prudish so I couldn't even do two in a day esp after realising that I won't do certain stuff again. So we can clear the air, only played with three so that brings me down even more  but I guess I'm picky |
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" So we can clear the air, only played with three so that brings me down even more but I guess I'm picky "
I really hate to be nitpicking but to be fair that comes across as we're not(seeing as you were answering me)and "picky" is a funny word.the 20 veris we dont show are all coffee or m and g or people we met at partys but did'nt play with(yet in some cases)but the reason we hav'nt is not because we are "picky"which would denote they were somehow below our"standards" but because we simply did'nt feel any chemistry with them or they with us. |
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" So we can clear the air, only played with three so that brings me down even more but I guess I'm picky I really hate to be nitpicking but to be fair that comes across as we're not(seeing as you were answering me)and "picky" is a funny word.the 20 veris we dont show are all coffee or m and g or people we met at partys but did'nt play with(yet in some cases)but the reason we hav'nt is not because we are "picky"which would denote they were somehow below our"standards" but because we simply did'nt feel any chemistry with them or they with us."
Not what I meant. There's gotta be an attraction for me to consider playing, the same way ye'd look for chemistry. I guess I just phrased it wrong and apologies if I offended you |
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"Not what I meant. There's gotta be an attraction for me to consider playing, the same way ye'd look for chemistry. I guess I just phrased it wrong and apologies if I offended you"
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Not what I meant. There's gotta be an attraction for me to consider playing, the same way ye'd look for chemistry. I guess I just phrased it wrong and apologies if I offended you"
apologies for taking you up wrong no offence taken |
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I will admit if somone is talking to me and ,i look them up and see a wall of veries,,,, it does make me...reconsider a bit.
Years and years of the society we live in maybe?, or perhaps, im greedy and want first dibs , either way , i tend more towards ppl that have met less., I dunno? , its too complex to work out why , even I dont know |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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This has being one of the best veries thread posted having seen a good few previous. Read the above U get a feeling there is two camps those who see a lot as off putting and those who see veries for what they are. To me a veri is confirmation that a person is as decribed in their profile and turned up anything else I get from a veri is an assumption. Lots of sexual veris has to be considered as to the amount of time they have being on the site even then its just telling me they use the site in different way to me. I don't display mine unless I think a meet is possible due to a lady telling me she would not meet me cause I had met someone she didn't get on with, to me it said that I was as unsavoury as the person she had as blocked which was unfair but that's life. when people read veris they tend to interpret them differently and that's what it is your own interpretation of someone elses view feck if I was to believe mine i think I am a real gent with a golden cock a tongue and fingers of the master pussy whisperer enjoy ur time on the site and use it the way U want |
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"We been here many yrs now and most of ours are meet n greet or party veris,personally hate graphic verifications "
I agree theres no real need to say how good a woman sucked them off posting abt someones oral skills is fine but we don't need to know they can suck a coconut thru a keyhole |
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"To me is not enough to just say they are a person and turned up. . This is a way of trying to appreciate if someone is safe, decent,discreet and genuineBut people with glowing verifications have been very unsafe and have been very loose lipped.
Fact is you will never see a verification ever, saying "this person is not safe".
I'll go even further, if you openly called someone unsafe with a claim you would probably get banned yourself for naming and shaming.
The verifications in my mind should never be used to verify someone as safe or discreet but only that they are a real person that really meets.
Verifications are people wearing their best suit, its not the real them."
Hence why we make extensive use of "private notes".....any time someone is indiscreet in chat room / forum or expresses lack of respect for ladies or maybe even bombards us with pms when asked not to - a little private note is made to ensure we don't meet them.
This works for us - to date anyway!
Regarding the numbers of veri's people may have...... fab is a broad church and each to their own.
At the end of the day, it's ALL about respect.
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By *azsinsMan
over a year ago
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Maybe I am stupid or senile or both but I would just assume pics of unprotected sex were of the cpl of them selves
we would assume that as well. an awful lot of judgement going on based on assumptions.we've met people with many veri's and few and find no difference between them.people are here for their own reasons, playing in the way that suits them best and its not my place to judge them or make assumptions about them because of it,each to their own.Well the girls all had different colour hair, bodies and tattoos, so I don't think i was going out on a limb thinking he was having unprotected sex with multiple women.
If you don't judge people or make assumptions about them, then you're not being clever or safe. That would mean you have the standards of a wild animal, after all our standards are just judgements about people, assumptions about people.
Even a one night fling with a stranger you should make a quick judgement about them before going trough with it. Doing otherwise sounds like insanity to me."
Being safe is not about judging anyone, it is about having your own rules and sticking to them!
That way you play as safely as you want! As for standards they are based only on the judgement of oneself and no one else, based on your beliefs and experience.
As for the one night stand, I would say 95% of them occur after imbibing alcohol. So you would have to say your judgement is impaired inferring it is insane to begin with. |
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By *azsinsMan
over a year ago
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"Too many veri's?
Too many people at once?
To many........?
Is it a different number for guys and girls?
What is extreme to you?
I have to say 50+ sexual veri's would put me off. Not because of the fact that they has that many sexual encounters just the fact they are all posted. Oh and M&G is different though. That's actually cool!
One women/guy loads of guys/women (30)+ isn't a flattering thing in my eyes either! I'm just a prude though.
Not that I'm judging just that's a bit of a turn off in a way for me!
So what about you?
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great thread man!
waiting for an intelligent topic to discuss since i was last in the forums
I have veris up nearly them all, i am happy and, I hope without vanity, proud of them as they came from genuine good people I have met!
I never post sexual play veris, nor do i give veris out like that.
I consider the veris are ther to prove the person is real, will meet and match the description in their profile.
If I have spent some time in their company and enjoyed their personality, I will pick out a trait that represents that!
if this is the case and used to determine their reliability, the more veris the better!
This way we can establish a network of genuine swingers in Ireland that will meet and maybe we can play with! Thereby removing the time wasters, dangerous and false profiles.
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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Really don't like the terms picky and animal....it seems even on Fab we are harking back to the days when ppl were looked down on for enjoying sexual freedom.....
By the way Davie is picky and I am a animal so we have our options covered.....as well as every thing else ....just in case any one is worried about our sexual practices |
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"Really don't like the terms picky and animal....it seems even on Fab we are harking back to the days when ppl were looked down on for enjoying sexual freedom.....
By the way Davie is picky and I am a animal so we have our options covered.....as well as every thing else ....just in case any one is worried about our sexual practices"
There is deffo nothing wrong with yer sexual practices mrs davie |
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"Really don't like the terms picky and animal....it seems even on Fab we are harking back to the days when ppl were looked down on for enjoying sexual freedom.....
By the way Davie is picky and I am a animal so we have our options covered.....as well as every thing else ....just in case any one is worried about our sexual practices
There is deffo nothing wrong with yer sexual practices mrs davie "
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over a year ago
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"Really don't like the terms picky and animal....it seems even on Fab we are harking back to the days when ppl were looked down on for enjoying sexual freedom.....
By the way Davie is picky and I am a animal so we have our options covered.....as well as every thing else ....just in case any one is worried about our sexual practices
There is deffo nothing wrong with yer sexual practices mrs davie
I'll second that I can't comment but if any of ye want to influnce opinion feel free hehe "
A cj I want to surprise you |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Really don't like the terms picky and animal....it seems even on Fab we are harking back to the days when ppl were looked down on for enjoying sexual freedom.....
By the way Davie is picky and I am a animal so we have our options covered.....as well as every thing else ....just in case any one is worried about our sexual practices
There is deffo nothing wrong with yer sexual practices mrs davie
I'll second that I can't comment but if any of ye want to influnce opinion feel free hehe
A cj I want to surprise you"
I'll be very suprised haha |
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Lifes journey is not about arriving at the grave in a well preserved body..but skid in sideways shouting holy shit what a ride!!
Each to there own. Enjoy it while ya can..
No matter how many veris someone has it shudnt make a difference once your playing safe.
We are all here for same thing..
Fun an frolics an day time lollies lol
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"Lifes journey is not about arriving at the grave in a well preserved body..but skid in sideways shouting holy shit what a ride!!
Each to there own. Enjoy it while ya can..
No matter how many veris someone has it shudnt make a difference once your playing safe.
We are all here for same thing..
Fun an frolics an day time lollies lol
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i have very few full sex veris.mostly coffee and m&g so although it looks like plenty its not really.i have seen guys with plenty of veris and its a bit of a put off but only because of my own lack if confidence not because of their sexual activity |
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"Lifes journey is not about arriving at the grave in a well preserved body..but skid in sideways shouting holy shit what a ride!!
Each to there own. Enjoy it while ya can..
No matter how many veris someone has it shudnt make a difference once your playing safe.
We are all here for same thing..
Fun an frolics an day time lollies lol
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Think this says it right. If the playing is safe what issue?
P.s that first paragraph is up iny team's office wall, love it |
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"If i see a lady with loads off verfi in one shot it would kind off put me off a small bit i think."
But i bet if it was a man.he would get a pat on the back. |
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"If i see a lady with loads off verfi in one shot it would kind off put me off a small bit i think.
But i bet if it was a man.he would get a pat on the back."
Probably  hes on a site to meet women who might want to have nsa sex with him and is put off because she has nsa sex with other people |
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"If i see a lady with loads off verfi in one shot it would kind off put me off a small bit i think.
But i bet if it was a man.he would get a pat on the back.
Probably hes on a site to meet women who might want to have nsa sex with him and is put off because she has nsa sex with other people "
have to say biggles... Why would it be off putting. ... Either way. .?.(Not being snippy or funny. . Just genuinely curious)
If someone plays safe why should it matter. .. If the veris are social. .. Why should it matter. .. You can read and decide if you are interested in someone. As is everyone's right but I really don't understand why the amount should make a difference. ... doesnt that seem a little of hypocritical. .. .??
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"If i see a lady with loads off verfi in one shot it would kind off put me off a small bit i think.
But i bet if it was a man.he would get a pat on the back.
Probably hes on a site to meet women who might want to have nsa sex with him and is put off because she has nsa sex with other people
have to say biggles... Why would it be off putting. ... Either way. .?.(Not being snippy or funny. . Just genuinely curious)
If someone plays safe why should it matter. .. If the veris are social. .. Why should it matter. .. You can read and decide if you are interested in someone. As is everyone's right but I really don't understand why the amount should make a difference. ... doesnt that seem a little of hypocritical. .. .??
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I'd bet a lot of the guys who say a lot of veris close together put them off would'nt turn down the chance to play with say, 4 or 5 different women at a party. |
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I do not care about the number of verifications that people have. If it is many, bravo to them. They obviously have a great sex drive and enjoy the lifestyle, which is great.
If there is a great number of verifications, it might mean that many left satisfied after meeting that person/people/couple, so this would in my opinion be a strong indication that I might enjoy spending some time on naughty business with her/them as well :D
I remember a chat years back with one of my friends (a guy). He used to have sex with almost every girl he met (fucker had a skill to attract nice girls). One day, he told me that one girl was a whore, because she sleept with almost everybody. I replied to him, just like you, so it makes you a male whore in that case. Needless to say, he wasn't pleased with my reply. He learnt something that evening though and never disrespected any lady in from of me again...
People judge too much and too easily. Everybody should focus on their own life. Just because somebody has less verifications, it does not mean that the person actually plays safe (which is the most important thing in my opinion) and also, it does not mean that the person did not play more often to those that received many verifications (there can be so many reasons why verifications are not provided i.e. discretion).
I would pay attention to who provided verifications and what they say though.
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"I'd bet a lot of the guys who say a lot of veris close together put them off would'nt turn down the chance to play with say, 4 or 5 different women at a party."
It's the age old scenario..... Woman enjoys sex with multiple partners is a slut/whore/insert derogatory term here.
Man enjoys sex with multiple partners is a legend.
As open minded and free as the scene is, double standards and utter hypocrisy still stand. |
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"I'd bet a lot of the guys who say a lot of veris close together put them off would'nt turn down the chance to play with say, 4 or 5 different women at a party.
It's the age old scenario..... Woman enjoys sex with multiple partners is a slut/whore/insert derogatory term here.
Man enjoys sex with multiple partners is a legend.
As open minded and free as the scene is, double standards and utter hypocrisy still stand."
totaly agree but what a pity people should feel free to use the site in whatever way they wish without judging people or being judged for using it differently.especially it seems to me the women here,who are sometimes castigated for behaving in the same manner as the men who are castigating them.Double standards much? |
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"Sorry didnt mean too offend anyone with my comment earlier .
you didn't offend me at all hun. .. I've seen you post often and I know it's not your style... But I am genuinely curious to know? "
i think it a kind off confidence thing that i have i be worried that i be judged by on how good the others were. |
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"Sorry didnt mean too offend anyone with my comment earlier .
you didn't offend me at all hun. .. I've seen you post often and I know it's not your style... But I am genuinely curious to know?
i think it a kind off confidence thing that i have i be worried that i be judged by on how good the others were."
really! ... I've never thought of it like that. ..I take each person as I find them tbh... everyone is different. . There is no point in someone being something they're not. . They can't keep it up. . Just be yourself and Have a little more faith in you |
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"Sorry didnt mean too offend anyone with my comment earlier .
you didn't offend me at all hun. .. I've seen you post often and I know it's not your style... But I am genuinely curious to know?
i think it a kind off confidence thing that i have i be worried that i be judged by on how good the others were.
really! ... I've never thought of it like that. ..I take each person as I find them tbh... everyone is different. . There is no point in someone being something they're not. . They can't keep it up. . Just be yourself and Have a little more faith in you"
Sorry sometimes i kind off get a confidence thing im just only after getting over a relationship where my ex wasnt really big into sex i tried everything to help her out but i was dumpd so just taking here slowly at the mo and getting back into the swinging world. |
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"Lifes journey is not about arriving at the grave in a well preserved body..but skid in sideways shouting holy shit what a ride!!
Each to there own. Enjoy it while ya can..
No matter how many veris someone has it shudnt make a difference once your playing safe.
We are all here for same thing..
Fun an frolics an day time lollies lol
Think this says it right. If the playing is safe what issue?
P.s that first paragraph is up iny team's office wall, love it"
Exactly I really don't get the issue at all..iv a lot of veris but 80% of them are m&g or party's or coffee meets..im deadly for the coffee lol..
Iv also had coffee meets 3 days running as its how I can fit my schedule around. .does this make or shud it look bad..nope I dont really care what anyone thinks..but for people to be judging how many veris someone has there in the wrong place if there so conservative or put off! !!
Ps I was sounding good with that paragraph until ya ratted lol lol
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"Lifes journey is not about arriving at the grave in a well preserved body..but skid in sideways shouting holy shit what a ride!!
Each to there own. Enjoy it while ya can..
No matter how many veris someone has it shudnt make a difference once your playing safe.
We are all here for same thing..
Fun an frolics an day time lollies lol
Think this says it right. If the playing is safe what issue?
P.s that first paragraph is up iny team's office wall, love it
Exactly I really don't get the issue at all..iv a lot of veris but 80% of them are m&g or party's or coffee meets..im deadly for the coffee lol..
Iv also had coffee meets 3 days running as its how I can fit my schedule around. .does this make or shud it look bad..nope I dont really care what anyone thinks..but for people to be judging how many veris someone has there in the wrong place if there so conservative or put off! !!
Ps I was sounding good with that paragraph until ya ratted lol lol
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see. . I'm a coffee Queen to lol... love meeting and chatting to people of the same mind set...I look forward to meeting you at Cork! ! ... I do ask if anyone verifying me other than after a m&g to leave it until a different day or a few days as I had someone who seemed to want to follow my movements For a while. . And i hated the idea they thought they knew what I was doing and when!
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"Lifes journey is not about arriving at the grave in a well preserved body..but skid in sideways shouting holy shit what a ride!!
Each to there own. Enjoy it while ya can..
No matter how many veris someone has it shudnt make a difference once your playing safe.
We are all here for same thing..
Fun an frolics an day time lollies lol
Think this says it right. If the playing is safe what issue?
P.s that first paragraph is up iny team's office wall, love it
Exactly I really don't get the issue at all..iv a lot of veris but 80% of them are m&g or party's or coffee meets..im deadly for the coffee lol..
Iv also had coffee meets 3 days running as its how I can fit my schedule around. .does this make or shud it look bad..nope I dont really care what anyone thinks..but for people to be judging how many veris someone has there in the wrong place if there so conservative or put off! !!
Ps I was sounding good with that paragraph until ya ratted lol lol
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Most of mine are social too tbh, if you read closer a lot are the same
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"Lifes journey is not about arriving at the grave in a well preserved body..but skid in sideways shouting holy shit what a ride!!
Each to there own. Enjoy it while ya can..
No matter how many veris someone has it shudnt make a difference once your playing safe.
We are all here for same thing..
Fun an frolics an day time lollies lol
Think this says it right. If the playing is safe what issue?
P.s that first paragraph is up iny team's office wall, love it
Exactly I really don't get the issue at all..iv a lot of veris but 80% of them are m&g or party's or coffee meets..im deadly for the coffee lol..
Iv also had coffee meets 3 days running as its how I can fit my schedule around. .does this make or shud it look bad..nope I dont really care what anyone thinks..but for people to be judging how many veris someone has there in the wrong place if there so conservative or put off! !!
Ps I was sounding good with that paragraph until ya ratted lol lol
see. . I'm a coffee Queen to lol... love meeting and chatting to people of the same mind set...I look forward to meeting you at Cork! ! ... I do ask if anyone verifying me other than after a m&g to leave it until a different day or a few days as I had someone who seemed to want to follow my movements For a while. . And i hated the idea they thought they knew what I was doing and when!
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Jeez Louise r u serious?? Thats a bit messed up!!!
The pleasure will be all mine..
Its going to be a cracker I reckon..
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"Lifes journey is not about arriving at the grave in a well preserved body..but skid in sideways shouting holy shit what a ride!!
Each to there own. Enjoy it while ya can..
No matter how many veris someone has it shudnt make a difference once your playing safe.
We are all here for same thing..
Fun an frolics an day time lollies lol
Think this says it right. If the playing is safe what issue?
P.s that first paragraph is up iny team's office wall, love it
Exactly I really don't get the issue at all..iv a lot of veris but 80% of them are m&g or party's or coffee meets..im deadly for the coffee lol..
Iv also had coffee meets 3 days running as its how I can fit my schedule around. .does this make or shud it look bad..nope I dont really care what anyone thinks..but for people to be judging how many veris someone has there in the wrong place if there so conservative or put off! !!
Ps I was sounding good with that paragraph until ya ratted lol lol
see. . I'm a coffee Queen to lol... love meeting and chatting to people of the same mind set...I look forward to meeting you at Cork! ! ... I do ask if anyone verifying me other than after a m&g to leave it until a different day or a few days as I had someone who seemed to want to follow my movements For a while. . And i hated the idea they thought they knew what I was doing and when!
Jeez Louise r u serious?? Thats a bit messed up!!!
The pleasure will be all mine..
Its going to be a cracker I reckon..
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"Lifes journey is not about arriving at the grave in a well preserved body..but skid in sideways shouting holy shit what a ride!!
Each to there own. Enjoy it while ya can..
No matter how many veris someone has it shudnt make a difference once your playing safe.
We are all here for same thing..
Fun an frolics an day time lollies lol
Think this says it right. If the playing is safe what issue?
P.s that first paragraph is up iny team's office wall, love it
Exactly I really don't get the issue at all..iv a lot of veris but 80% of them are m&g or party's or coffee meets..im deadly for the coffee lol..
Iv also had coffee meets 3 days running as its how I can fit my schedule around. .does this make or shud it look bad..nope I dont really care what anyone thinks..but for people to be judging how many veris someone has there in the wrong place if there so conservative or put off! !!
Ps I was sounding good with that paragraph until ya ratted lol lol
see. . I'm a coffee Queen to lol... love meeting and chatting to people of the same mind set...I look forward to meeting you at Cork! ! ... I do ask if anyone verifying me other than after a m&g to leave it until a different day or a few days as I had someone who seemed to want to follow my movements For a while. . And i hated the idea they thought they knew what I was doing and when!
Jeez Louise r u serious?? Thats a bit messed up!!!
The pleasure will be all mine..
Its going to be a cracker I reckon..
I can't wait! ! It is going to be brilliant! ! "
Oooh I reckon soo lol..
Excited alright. .
Just need to get the frigging costume lol...
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