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love sick

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Does it really exist. There is somebody in my life in i think iv fallen in love with her. However due to our circumstances there is little or no hope of it happening or if it did alot of people would get hurt. I can honestly say iv no appetite,find myself daydreaming of her and at times nearly weeping thinking of what might if been or could be.i can honestly say i don't think iv ever felt like this about anybody before. No she is not from this site. Id just like to know if anybody else has gone through such a thing. Helpfull comments please.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had 2 Men profess there love for me on this site... Nothing Scared me as much as having to tell them I wasn't interested

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Of course it exists, that feeling of butterflies in your stomach when that person texts you, the waking up smiling because they're the first person you think of, and the last person you think of before you sleep, it's a great feeling, but only if it's requited. We are all only human, and those feelings are special and don't happen that often in life.

Sorry to hear you're in a dilemma

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Of course it exists, that feeling of butterflies in your stomach when that person texts you, the waking up smiling because they're the first person you think of, and the last person you think of before you sleep, it's a great feeling, but only if it's requited. We are all only human, and those feelings are special and don't happen that often in life.

Sorry to hear you're in a dilemma

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that pretty much sums it up and its requested basically told me so we would both loose alot but i think it would bring a happiness level neither of us have ever had before. We have roughly the same ideas of what we want from life. But our major problem is we are both too nice and caring of other people and i don't think we could cause that pain unto others. But i fear those people we fear hurting will end up being people we grow to resent, well ffor me any way that is true. But its one life only one chance. I thought before id met my soulmate but i can see now i was wrong as this girl is quite literally the girl of my dreams

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm afraid to it mate but ya ur love sick. I've been there it's tough. It was very hard for me. Took counselling to get me over it. But don't be afraid to talk about it. It's happened most of us. Just be strong

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

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Sorry to hear you're in a dilemma

that pretty much sums it up and its requested basically told me so we would both loose alot but i think it would bring a happiness level neither of us have ever had before. We have roughly the same ideas of what we want from life. But our major problem is we are both too nice and caring of other people and i don't think we could cause that pain unto others. But i fear those people we fear hurting will end up being people we grow to resent, well ffor me any way that is true. But its one life only one chance. I thought before id met my soulmate but i can see now i was wrong as this girl is quite literally the girl of my dreams"

Did you think the last girl was when you met her as you say you thought she was your soulmate when you met her?

Just be careful as things do change and you could hurt people only to find your feelings for the new one may fade too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a tough one to give advice on as everyone's situation is so different,but I think you've answered your own question, as in,one life one shot at it. Sometimes you have to take a chance, if not, as you say you will regret and resent. Life is short, too short, take a chance and follow your heart not your head, your gut instunct, in my opinion, will rarely guide you wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry to hear you're in a dilemma

Did you think the last girl was when you met her as you say you thought she was your soulmate when you met her?

Just be careful as things do change and you could hurt people only to find your feelings for the new one may fade too."
i think the last time i was searching for a soul mate but this is different it wasn't immediately obvious to me it happened over time as we got to know each other better then bam here i am like a teenager.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love is over rated...!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" You know, I really thought it was that can't-eat, can't-sleep, reach-for-the-stars, over- the-fence, World Series kind of stuff"

Crap movie, good quote...

Unrequited feelings suck, happens the best of us, unfortunately not much you can do but try move on x

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By *aid backMan over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

if its unreqainted the only thing you can do is pick yourself up dust yourself down and try and move on. its not easy but everyone goes through it at some point

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I meet my soul mate, the way things were couldn't be together. Not a day goes by that I dont think about her

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By *ohn MingoMan over a year ago

Dublin

"if its unreqainted the only thing you can do is pick yourself up dust yourself down and try and move on. its not easy but everyone goes through it at some point"

Exactly this.

We all go through it. It seems the ones you can't have are the ones you love the most.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love and Lust are two very different emotions. Some people show their true colours and you realise that what you felt could never possibly have been love to begin with.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv been there and have caused hurt to people around me because I thought she was my soulmate and the love of my life.

Took years to get myself and friendships back to a good place.

I'd say take a step back for awhile take a breath and try to see without the love coloured glasses.

Anyhow I hope you find your way to a happy path

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv been there and have caused hurt to people around me because I thought she was my soulmate and the love of my life.

Took years to get myself and friendships back to a good place.

I'd say take a step back for awhile take a breath and try to see without the love coloured glasses.

Anyhow I hope you find your way to a happy path "

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By *ohn MingoMan over a year ago

Dublin

"Love and Lust are two very different emotions. Some people show their true colours and you realise that what you felt could never possibly have been love to begin with."

Also true. What you think is love a lot of the time is very intense lust....and that wears off eventually. Recently I've questioned if I've even been in love at all....and I was once married!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In fairness to the OP, it's sounds a bit more than lust, lack of appetite etc. For him to be feeling the way he is, there has to be feelings involved, that's more than lust.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Does it really exist. There is somebody in my life in i think iv fallen in love with her. However due to our circumstances there is little or no hope of it happening or if it did alot of people would get hurt. I can honestly say iv no appetite,find myself daydreaming of her and at times nearly weeping thinking of what might if been or could be.i can honestly say i don't think iv ever felt like this about anybody before. No she is not from this site. Id just like to know if anybody else has gone through such a thing. Helpfull comments please."

If she feels the same about u that u do about her then I say go for it, u only live once, and if u don't go for it u'll regret it when your old

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By *ohn MingoMan over a year ago

Dublin

"In fairness to the OP, it's sounds a bit more than lust, lack of appetite etc. For him to be feeling the way he is, there has to be feelings involved, that's more than lust. "

True....but there's also being in love with "being in love" if you know what I mean....and I can be very guilty of that at times.

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By *ickirishallsortsMan over a year ago

Lickie Manor

"Helpfull comments please."

You sound like a top guy and your not going crazy. You appear to be processing the situation very respectfully.

Sometimes when you love someone and you let them go, they can come back in the future, even if its the distant, if that happens then they're yours, if it doesn't then maybe it wasn't meant to be.

It's ok not to have the answers to all the questions.

Its hard to see this right now, but its temporary...things will change. You won't feel like this forever. Look to that day.

I promise you this: Its certain someone out there will love you even more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In fairness to the OP, it's sounds a bit more than lust, lack of appetite etc. For him to be feeling the way he is, there has to be feelings involved, that's more than lust. "

Oh I dunno, I've had the whole loss of appetite thing but it was just initial excitement. I'm a bit of a cynic

ill eat my words when someone sweeps me off my feet lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In fairness to the OP, it's sounds a bit more than lust, lack of appetite etc. For him to be feeling the way he is, there has to be feelings involved, that's more than lust.

True....but there's also being in love with "being in love" if you know what I mean....and I can be very guilty of that at times."

Ah the guy seems quite upset about the situation, from his post I don't doubt he has some feelings, I wouldn't insult the guy by saying it wasn't love or it's lust or whatever. I just feel for him as it's a situation we've all been in and it's not a nice one!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In fairness to the OP, it's sounds a bit more than lust, lack of appetite etc. For him to be feeling the way he is, there has to be feelings involved, that's more than lust.

Oh I dunno, I've had the whole loss of appetite thing but it was just initial excitement. I'm a bit of a cynic

ill eat my words when someone sweeps me off my feet lol

I'm just a sap at heart you see, I don't fall easily but when I do it's usually hard, which usually hurts more!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In fairness to the OP, it's sounds a bit more than lust, lack of appetite etc. For him to be feeling the way he is, there has to be feelings involved, that's more than lust.

True....but there's also being in love with "being in love" if you know what I mean....and I can be very guilty of that at times.

I wasn't trying to insult n e one by using the word lust.

sorry OP if you felt I was. I was only talking from my own experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In fairness to the OP, it's sounds a bit more than lust, lack of appetite etc. For him to be feeling the way he is, there has to be feelings involved, that's more than lust.

True....but there's also being in love with "being in love" if you know what I mean....and I can be very guilty of that at times.

I wasn't trying to insult n e one by using the word lust.

sorry OP if you felt I was. I was only talking from my own experience. "

I say that only because the OP mentioned the word love, that's why I assumed it was more than lust. I wasn't insinuating anyone was insulting him, I was saying 'I' wouldn't insult him by saying his feelings are anything other than he says they are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In fairness to the OP, it's sounds a bit more than lust, lack of appetite etc. For him to be feeling the way he is, there has to be feelings involved, that's more than lust.

True....but there's also being in love with "being in love" if you know what I mean....and I can be very guilty of that at times.

I wasn't trying to insult n e one by using the word lust.

sorry OP if you felt I was. I was only talking from my own experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nah, going by what the OP said, he's in love with the idea of being in love, surely you can't be in love with someone unless you're in/have been in a relationship with them. Haven't got a magic 8-ball? Then ask Haddaway.

Unrequited or not, I still remember those feelings from years ago.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've just been flicking through my messages. You clearly aren't that in love when you're still trying to arrange meets.

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By *avie tCouple over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Op when you say ..ppl will get hurt.....Is it adults or children......if it's kids give it a lot of thought.....if its adults go for it life is way too short

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've just been flicking through my messages. You clearly aren't that in love when you're still trying to arrange meets. "

Maybe you're his cure Snow? The antidote.

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By *avie tCouple over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"I've just been flicking through my messages. You clearly aren't that in love when you're still trying to arrange meets. "

O my op......your so busted.....lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've just been flicking through my messages. You clearly aren't that in love when you're still trying to arrange meets.

O my op......your so busted.....lol"

Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've just been flicking through my messages. You clearly aren't that in love when you're still trying to arrange meets. "

His love is one place and his lust is here.

Is that not why we are all here?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've just been flicking through my messages. You clearly aren't that in love when you're still trying to arrange meets.

His love is one place and his lust is here.

Is that not why we are all here?"

Mine are both here.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan over a year ago

Lucan

There's a bit of a flu going around at the moment. That could possibly explain the lack of appetite and the weepy eyes.

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By *avie tCouple over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

"There's a bit of a flu going around at the moment. That could possibly explain the lack of appetite and the weepy eyes.

Or hay fever......that's a killer

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks all for the very Helpfull comments and funny ones too god knows i needed a chuckle.this post has restored my faith in alot of things both fab related and in humanity itself. I have got alot of advice and iv alot of thinking and talking to do. Just to answer a few questions. There are no children involved in either relationship. We are both in long term relationships each with very similar problems. As for love and lust, its more than lust as this site is used for lust at the min in my current relationship but if i get with the one o want i guarantee i wont be here and more, well maybe as a couple haha. Once again thank you each and everyone who posted on this thread ??

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By *ohn MingoMan over a year ago

Dublin

Then end both of your relationships and get together. If neither of you are happy then move on.

If I didn't I'd still be on a sexless marriage right now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We can't find love,it finds us.

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By *ilderMan over a year ago

dublin

I'm not sure if I've ever properly been in love