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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As a single lady on here I realised I get a LOT of accusations thrown daily at me in my messages, and in sure men do too, but most recently I'm a time waster cos I don't find a guy attractive? I know I'm not verified but I'm just getting back on my feet! I have had a few coffee meets but sadly no one has been verified lol
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over a year ago
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You have to grow a thick skin on here unfortunately. Some people can get quite bold hiding behind their computer screens. However, I don't think in my on and off 3 years on here I've ever been called a timewaster for saying to someone that I'm not attracted to them.
You may want to look at how you are composing your emails and try and let them down more gently, if that's possible. I'm not saying you're not, but from my experience the nicer I treat people, the nicer they treat me. If I have a bad day I tend to get more abuse as I probably come across more defensive or harsh.
Best of luck
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You have to grow a thick skin on here unfortunately. Some people can get quite bold hiding behind their computer screens. However, I don't think in my on and off 3 years on here I've ever been called a timewaster for saying to someone that I'm not attracted to them.
You may want to look at how you are composing your emails and try and let them down more gently, if that's possible. I'm not saying you're not, but from my experience the nicer I treat people, the nicer they treat me. If I have a bad day I tend to get more abuse as I probably come across more defensive or harsh.
Best of luck
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I know! Usually I am so nice but this one guy messages me literally every hour and I have told him I'm not interested! So I had to be honest! And he got a block, I just don't understand why people can't grasp "I'm not interested" |
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"You have to grow a thick skin on here unfortunately. Some people can get quite bold hiding behind their computer screens. However, I don't think in my on and off 3 years on here I've ever been called a timewaster for saying to someone that I'm not attracted to them.
You may want to look at how you are composing your emails and try and let them down more gently, if that's possible. I'm not saying you're not, but from my experience the nicer I treat people, the nicer they treat me. If I have a bad day I tend to get more abuse as I probably come across more defensive or harsh.
Best of luck
I know! Usually I am so nice but this one guy messages me literally every hour and I have told him I'm not interested! So I had to be honest! And he got a block, I just don't understand why people can't grasp "I'm not interested""
Every hours a bit much...
I just had the opposite extreme... I messaged a woman..she asked for a pic... I sent her one...
Then..,................
Nothing!!
Not a... sorry ur not my type.. or not for me best of luck..or just a simple no lol
Its makes you feel like uv just turned up for a blind date.. the woman's looked at you.. slapped you in the face and walked out.
Common decency would be nice 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I say it out clear in my profile! I always mail someone back if I have started a conversation with them and they send a pic and there not my type! It's a bit of manners like!!
I think a few people on this site need to learn the basics in manners! |
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"I say it out clear in my profile! I always mail someone back if I have started a conversation with them and they send a pic and there not my type! It's a bit of manners like!!
I think a few people on this site need to learn the basics in manners!"
Yes, but if they don't reply you've learned they're not for you. It's a lot better than replying and leading you on a wild goose chase.  |
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Bitemebaby...
You do have a part of your profile where you say
If I don't reply I'm not interested
That in itself is bad...and makes the other person feel like they are wasting their time on here... if someone has taken the time to write..and uv taken the time to read it..at least reply.
Obviously if its just one line with .. wanna fuck.. bin that one  |
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"Bitemebaby...
You do have a part of your profile where you say
If I don't reply I'm not interested
That in itself is bad...and makes the other person feel like they are wasting their time on here... if someone has taken the time to write..and uv taken the time to read it..at least reply.
Obviously if its just one line with .. wanna fuck.. bin that one "
According to site rules, no reply is in itself a reply. |
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"I say it out clear in my profile! I always mail someone back if I have started a conversation with them and they send a pic and there not my type! It's a bit of manners like!!
I think a few people on this site need to learn the basics in manners!
Yes, but if they don't reply you've learned they're not for you. It's a lot better than replying and leading you on a wild goose chase. "
Michael... I think its the least anyone can do is say
Sorry I'm not interested.
Ignoring messages is not nice for the ignored |
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"Bitemebaby...
You do have a part of your profile where you say
If I don't reply I'm not interested
That in itself is bad...and makes the other person feel like they are wasting their time on here... if someone has taken the time to write..and uv taken the time to read it..at least reply.
Obviously if its just one line with .. wanna fuck.. bin that one
According to site rules, no reply is in itself a reply. "
Oh I didn't know that lol... my bad |
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"Bitemebaby...
You do have a part of your profile where you say
If I don't reply I'm not interested
That in itself is bad...and makes the other person feel like they are wasting their time on here... if someone has taken the time to write..and uv taken the time to read it..at least reply.
Obviously if its just one line with .. wanna fuck.. bin that one
According to site rules, no reply is in itself a reply.
Oh I didn't know that lol... my bad "
That should be in capital letters on every page... then I wouldn't of been so upset lol |
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"I say it out clear in my profile! I always mail someone back if I have started a conversation with them and they send a pic and there not my type! It's a bit of manners like!!
I think a few people on this site need to learn the basics in manners!
Yes, but if they don't reply you've learned they're not for you. It's a lot better than replying and leading you on a wild goose chase.
Michael... I think its the least anyone can do is say
Sorry I'm not interested.
Ignoring messages is not nice for the ignored "
In an ideal world it would be lovely. People are not obliged to reply to anyone though, and at least non replies don't waste anyone's time. |
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If all the woman who refuse me are "time wasters" then that must account for 95% of you lol. Im sure the majority of ladies on here are very genuine people.
Being an ugly git like myself doesnt help me at all. Any blind females on here lol.  |
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By *ichelle 2014Woman
over a year ago
Cork / limerick / tipp / Clare |
"Oh you wanna see the accusations and down right nasty mail ive been getting over the last few days....shocking disgrace...!!!! "
Oh I'd believe it I was told go kill myself the other day as apparently I don't have the right to be here |
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"If all the woman who refuse me are "time wasters" then that must account for 95% of you lol. Im sure the majority of ladies on here are very genuine people.
Being an ugly git like myself doesnt help me at all. Any blind females on here lol. "
Lmao... oh my god that's sooo funny man... and true.. a blind lady would b perfect for me too lol |
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"Oh you wanna see the accusations and down right nasty mail ive been getting over the last few days....shocking disgrace...!!!!
Oh I'd believe it I was told go kill myself the other day as apparently I don't have the right to be here "
Ouch that's nasty.. block her ass..or was it a guy lol
There are some bat shit crazy people out there lol
Don't do it babe...ur hot x x |
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"I am so Guilty of ignoring and not replying....  "
Fallen angel... hmmm
Bad bad girl... but I just found out its in the rules so ur OK
Pity I was going to say you deserve a spanking ... but u missed out lol x |
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OK I'm beginning to change my mind on the getting ignored bit..
I want take it to heart anymore.. well not as much.
BUT...
I do think if someone sends a face pic... the most private part of your body (on here lol) it deserves a reply.
Who's with me on this?? Yes=reply or No=no |
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By *ichelle 2014Woman
over a year ago
Cork / limerick / tipp / Clare |
"Oh you wanna see the accusations and down right nasty mail ive been getting over the last few days....shocking disgrace...!!!!
Oh I'd believe it I was told go kill myself the other day as apparently I don't have the right to be here
Ouch that's nasty.. block her ass..or was it a guy lol
There are some bat shit crazy people out there lol
Don't do it babe...ur hot x x"
It was a guy I take it all with a very large pinch of salt and keep on smiling |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK I'm beginning to change my mind on the getting ignored bit..
I want take it to heart anymore.. well not as much.
BUT...
I do think if someone sends a face pic... the most private part of your body (on here lol) it deserves a reply.
Who's with me on this?? Yes=reply or No=no"
No, I don't ask for face pic in first email. |
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"OK I'm beginning to change my mind on the getting ignored bit..
I want take it to heart anymore.. well not as much.
BUT...
I do think if someone sends a face pic... the most private part of your body (on here lol) it deserves a reply.
Who's with me on this?? Yes=reply or No=no
No, I don't ask for face pic in first email."
Hi sweet whispers... but if someone asked forface pic...and got it.. should that person reply or not? |
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"Oh you wanna see the accusations and down right nasty mail ive been getting over the last few days....shocking disgrace...!!!!
Oh I'd believe it I was told go kill myself the other day as apparently I don't have the right to be here
Ouch that's nasty.. block her ass..or was it a guy lol
There are some bat shit crazy people out there lol
Don't do it babe...ur hot x x
It was a guy I take it all with a very large pinch of salt and keep on smiling "
Michelle take it with a bar of chocolate..it tastes better hehe
And I'm sure you have a beautiful smile x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It just goes to show how "brave" some single men get when mailing a single woman here, they get abusive when knocked back. They dont seem to dare doing that to couples profiles.
What I find hilarious is when a guy mails us and we say thanks but no thanks....and 24 hours later is a "hi how are you" first message again! Are they thick or do think we are? Do they really think that in 24 hours we've forgotten all about them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It just goes to show how "brave" some single men get when mailing a single woman here, they get abusive when knocked back. They dont seem to dare doing that to couples profiles.
What I find hilarious is when a guy mails us and we say thanks but no thanks....and 24 hours later is a "hi how are you" first message again! Are they thick or do think we are? Do they really think that in 24 hours we've forgotten all about them? "
Even better when they send the hi how are you after you have already met and declined to take further  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It just goes to show how "brave" some single men get when mailing a single woman here, they get abusive when knocked back. They dont seem to dare doing that to couples profiles.
What I find hilarious is when a guy mails us and we say thanks but no thanks....and 24 hours later is a "hi how are you" first message again! Are they thick or do think we are? Do they really think that in 24 hours we've forgotten all about them?
Even better when they send the hi how are you after you have already met and declined to take further "
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"It just goes to show how "brave" some single men get when mailing a single woman here, they get abusive when knocked back. They dont seem to dare doing that to couples profiles.
What I find hilarious is when a guy mails us and we say thanks but no thanks....and 24 hours later is a "hi how are you" first message again! Are they thick or do think we are? Do they really think that in 24 hours we've forgotten all about them?
Even better when they send the hi how are you after you have already met and declined to take further "
Iv probably done that...re messaged someone the next day... my memory is terrible lol
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If all the woman who refuse me are "time wasters" then that must account for 95% of you lol. Im sure the majority of ladies on here are very genuine people.
Being an ugly git like myself doesnt help me at all. Any blind females on here lol. "
aaaw I wear glasses. Does that count? Or you can blindfold me lol |
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"If all the woman who refuse me are "time wasters" then that must account for 95% of you lol. Im sure the majority of ladies on here are very genuine people.
Being an ugly git like myself doesnt help me at all. Any blind females on here lol. aaaw I wear glasses. Does that count? Or you can blindfold me lol"
Dutchgold... I should of blindfolded you before I showed you my pic lol
But you did reply...so I still like you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sorry to hear you get abbusive mail. Didnt get any myself. I always reply even to just a ' hi' , so annoying though!!! If guys are nice they back off and I dont block them and sofar guys have been nice. If they hassle you, they are not nice ppl, sorry. Hope it gets better for you! Nikki xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It just goes to show how "brave" some single men get when mailing a single woman here, they get abusive when knocked back. They dont seem to dare doing that to couples profiles.
What I find hilarious is when a guy mails us and we say thanks but no thanks....and 24 hours later is a "hi how are you" first message again! Are they thick or do think we are? Do they really think that in 24 hours we've forgotten all about them?
Even better when they send the hi how are you after you have already met and declined to take further
Iv probably done that...re messaged someone the next day... my memory is terrible lol
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Well sometimes the old goldfish brain kicks in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I sent a message to a girl here recently. Her first reply was "that made me laugh" good start I think! 3rd message I send her a couple of pics (no cock shots) she says "I like your pics"! Thinking this might go somewhere I replied and haven't heard anything since 
Cest la vie, you can only do your best and move on. No point beating yourself up over it, people make there own choices on here for whatever reason, you just gotta get on with it and take a few knock backs along the way  |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"If all the woman who refuse me are "time wasters" then that must account for 95% of you lol. Im sure the majority of ladies on here are very genuine people.
Being an ugly git like myself doesnt help me at all. Any blind females on here lol. aaaw I wear glasses. Does that count? Or you can blindfold me lol"
or invest in two paper bags one for u and one for her in case ur falls off never fails for me and my mother shaved my ass and made me walk backwards for years till the movie elephant man opened peoples minds |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" I have had a few coffee meets but sadly no one has been verified lol
Anyone else have this problem?? "
Yep same here .. I asked for a couple of times but ..nothing,but i don't care , as you can see verifications are nothing worth...and on end of the day, am here for fun, meet nice woman or not ..and not to get verifi |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bitemebaby...
You do have a part of your profile where you say
If I don't reply I'm not interested
That in itself is bad...and makes the other person feel like they are wasting their time on here... if someone has taken the time to write..and uv taken the time to read it..at least reply.
Obviously if its just one line with .. wanna fuck.. bin that one "
Yeah mate, the old thing, do not do this, do not do that, read first ..[ small print of an insurance contract] - no cock pics - herself pussy pics
but as said before ..that is the game here, we can play the rules or we are wasting our time here which does not mean that you are not wasting your time if you work through the list |
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"It just goes to show how "brave" some single men get when mailing a single woman here, they get abusive when knocked back. They dont seem to dare doing that to couples profiles.
What I find hilarious is when a guy mails us and we say thanks but no thanks....and 24 hours later is a "hi how are you" first message again! Are they thick or do think we are? Do they really think that in 24 hours we've forgotten all about them? "
What we have sometimes observed here is how some people are a fan of Ctrl+V, sending multiple mails at once. Sounds like your male was a fan of those mails ;P |
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