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By *obbie65 OP Man
over a year ago
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What do you reckon is the attrition rate on here - what % of people would leave each year.
I'm only here a short time so have no idea.
I would imagine it would be like 50% or so. This place could really fuck you up!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"bullied off the site  thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?"
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet |
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"Whatever the percentage is that leave I bet the percentage of those that return under another alias is seriously high, 80% possibly more as it is an addiction!
Only if a person has come on for the wrong reasons will they leave n never come back  
Dont think so.alot move on.swingin only an experience.alot find love.and alot bullied off site."
That's my point though as a lot if on here looking for love on for wrong reasons so best leaving before get corrupted lol!
Those bullied off site isn't on but as have the site to hide behind should use it as their chance for the first time to stand up for themselves n fight back as faceless n perhaps change their real life world as a result but if can't prob again on here for wrong reasons.
So that leaves a good percentage on for the experience n from what see once hooked on swinging may take a break but nearly always at some point come back again for fun.
Then again just speaking from my experiences on here n people know others may not agree  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"jebus , well that certainly isnt on, why dont the admins block the bullies from the site and ban there ip address from future accounts? "
oh because technically they are not doing anything wrong.like proper bullies they dont name and shame but more like turn everyone against them....its a regular occurance round these parts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
absolutely bullied off the site...its hard to keep afloat here sometines
You've a lovely pair of floats   "
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet"
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?  |
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"jebus , well that certainly isnt on, why dont the admins block the bullies from the site and ban there ip address from future accounts?
oh because technically they are not doing anything wrong.like proper bullies they dont name and shame but more like turn everyone against them....its a regular occurance round these parts"
How can someone bully a person off the site without doing anything technically wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them? "
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet"
To be fair now it's not just guys harassing females Women aren't all whiter then white. Seen many a smear campaign against guys ( and other females) over the years I've been here, not just the forums but chat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"jebus , well that certainly isnt on, why dont the admins block the bullies from the site and ban there ip address from future accounts?
oh because technically they are not doing anything wrong.like proper bullies they dont name and shame but more like turn everyone against them....its a regular occurance round these parts
How can someone bully a person off the site without doing anything technically wrong? "
he askedwhy they were not banned or ip blocked. well that would mean breaking the rules would it not...and those "bullies" dont brake the rules.they just nit pic and slag a person in a subtle way forcing a person to leave or at least not to post on the forums.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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well why dont the admins block the ip address of people who get banned? or can they even do that? seems like the handiest way to solve the problem of persistant trolls/fakes/bullies..... |
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard"
You also have to choose to read someone's messages as well. I think people forget that they don't actually have to read every message they get. You can just ignore them or even delete them. That's why I find it hard to buy into the whole "bullied off the site" thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"well why dont the admins block the ip address of people who get banned? or can they even do that? seems like the handiest way to solve the problem of persistant trolls/fakes/bullies....."
yes they can do it and have done.... |
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard
You also have to choose to read someone's messages as well. I think people forget that they don't actually have to read every message they get. You can just ignore them or even delete them. That's why I find it hard to buy into the whole "bullied off the site" thing. "
If it's constant abuse thou Mick , it's hard to ignore and can grind someone down...it's cowardly to hide behind a keyboard. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard
You also have to choose to read someone's messages as well. I think people forget that they don't actually have to read every message they get. You can just ignore them or even delete them. That's why I find it hard to buy into the whole "bullied off the site" thing.
If it's constant abuse thou Mick , it's hard to ignore and can grind someone down...it's cowardly to hide behind a keyboard."
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard
You also have to choose to read someone's messages as well. I think people forget that they don't actually have to read every message they get. You can just ignore them or even delete them. That's why I find it hard to buy into the whole "bullied off the site" thing.
If it's constant abuse thou Mick , it's hard to ignore and can grind someone down...it's cowardly to hide behind a keyboard."
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard
You also have to choose to read someone's messages as well. I think people forget that they don't actually have to read every message they get. You can just ignore them or even delete them. That's why I find it hard to buy into the whole "bullied off the site" thing.
If it's constant abuse thou Mick , it's hard to ignore and can grind someone down...it's cowardly to hide behind a keyboard."
It's still possible to ignore it though. People like that get fed up if they don't get a reaction. It's the only way to deal with them, that and blocking them. If they harass you on the forum they're breaking the rules. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard
You also have to choose to read someone's messages as well. I think people forget that they don't actually have to read every message they get. You can just ignore them or even delete them. That's why I find it hard to buy into the whole "bullied off the site" thing.
If it's constant abuse thou Mick , it's hard to ignore and can grind someone down...it's cowardly to hide behind a keyboard.
It's still possible to ignore it though. People like that get fed up if they don't get a reaction. It's the only way to deal with them, that and blocking them. If they harass you on the forum they're breaking the rules. "
But what if it's sly mick being singled out by someone for that kind of thing can't be easy and very difficult to not bite back then getting yourself in trouble |
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
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True Mick but it takes strength of character to ignore such constant abuse and lets face it we are all made of different stuff .
it's the lack of values in these bullies that get me , and why they get off on it.....really are pond life . |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard
You also have to choose to read someone's messages as well. I think people forget that they don't actually have to read every message they get. You can just ignore them or even delete them. That's why I find it hard to buy into the whole "bullied off the site" thing.
If it's constant abuse thou Mick , it's hard to ignore and can grind someone down...it's cowardly to hide behind a keyboard.
It's still possible to ignore it though. People like that get fed up if they don't get a reaction. It's the only way to deal with them, that and blocking them. If they harass you on the forum they're breaking the rules. "
Maybe for you. But not everyone has a thick skin. We all have good days and bad ones and it just takes that one remark at the wrong time to really hurt.
It's being human. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard
You also have to choose to read someone's messages as well. I think people forget that they don't actually have to read every message they get. You can just ignore them or even delete them. That's why I find it hard to buy into the whole "bullied off the site" thing.
If it's constant abuse thou Mick , it's hard to ignore and can grind someone down...it's cowardly to hide behind a keyboard.
It's still possible to ignore it though. People like that get fed up if they don't get a reaction. It's the only way to deal with them, that and blocking them. If they harass you on the forum they're breaking the rules.
But what if it's sly mick being singled out by someone for that kind of thing can't be easy and very difficult to not bite back then getting yourself in trouble"
my point exactly.....its the subtle snide remarks that bullies do. and of course their croupies follow them around like little ducklings |
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard
You also have to choose to read someone's messages as well. I think people forget that they don't actually have to read every message they get. You can just ignore them or even delete them. That's why I find it hard to buy into the whole "bullied off the site" thing.
If it's constant abuse thou Mick , it's hard to ignore and can grind someone down...it's cowardly to hide behind a keyboard.
It's still possible to ignore it though. People like that get fed up if they don't get a reaction. It's the only way to deal with them, that and blocking them. If they harass you on the forum they're breaking the rules.
But what if it's sly mick being singled out by someone for that kind of thing can't be easy and very difficult to not bite back then getting yourself in trouble my point exactly.....its the subtle snide remarks that bullies do. and of course their croupies follow them around like little ducklings"
There are plenty of abusive fellas here with groupies who will actually back them up as well, and they're not all one gender either. It isactually possible to turn off the laptop or phone as well. |
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard
You also have to choose to read someone's messages as well. I think people forget that they don't actually have to read every message they get. You can just ignore them or even delete them. That's why I find it hard to buy into the whole "bullied off the site" thing.
If it's constant abuse thou Mick , it's hard to ignore and can grind someone down...it's cowardly to hide behind a keyboard.
It's still possible to ignore it though. People like that get fed up if they don't get a reaction. It's the only way to deal with them, that and blocking them. If they harass you on the forum they're breaking the rules.
But what if it's sly mick being singled out by someone for that kind of thing can't be easy and very difficult to not bite back then getting yourself in trouble my point exactly.....its the subtle snide remarks that bullies do. and of course their croupies follow them around like little ducklings
There are plenty of abusive fellas here with groupies who will actually back them up as well, and they're not all one gender either. It isactually possible to turn off the laptop or phone as well."
Then are you not proving the point that you are being bullied off |
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Maybe for you. But not everyone has a thick skin. We all have good days and bad ones and it just takes that one remark at the wrong time to really hurt.
It's being human. "
I'm as sensitive as anyone. I'm also an adult though, on an adult website where I would certainly not be if I didn't have an ability to ignore bullying behaviour. I would suggest that if people take the comments of anonymous bullies to heart, then maybe they'd be better off staying away from here altogether. As long as I've been here, the one constant I've noticed is the abusive ones who constantly appear, eventually get banned, but show up soon after with a new profile, so bullying here is a fact of life. All I'm saying is that on a relatively anonymous site like this, it is so much easier to deal with it than it is in the real world. |
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Apparently not, one of them said as soon as she blocked one he just set up another profile. Personally speaking I found appropriate use of filters and blocking all single males works quite well in that regard
You also have to choose to read someone's messages as well. I think people forget that they don't actually have to read every message they get. You can just ignore them or even delete them. That's why I find it hard to buy into the whole "bullied off the site" thing.
If it's constant abuse thou Mick , it's hard to ignore and can grind someone down...it's cowardly to hide behind a keyboard.
It's still possible to ignore it though. People like that get fed up if they don't get a reaction. It's the only way to deal with them, that and blocking them. If they harass you on the forum they're breaking the rules.
But what if it's sly mick being singled out by someone for that kind of thing can't be easy and very difficult to not bite back then getting yourself in trouble my point exactly.....its the subtle snide remarks that bullies do. and of course their croupies follow them around like little ducklings
There are plenty of abusive fellas here with groupies who will actually back them up as well, and they're not all one gender either. It isactually possible to turn off the laptop or phone as well.
Then are you not proving the point that you are being bullied off "
What? Turning off the phone is hardly being bullied into leaving the site. |
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
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Woah woah...hold on a wee second lads...by implying that ladies havnt proved to you or satisfied your criteria of bullying , you are in effect continuing it !!!
It's each individuals feelings or indeed uncomfortableness that makes them feel bullied....just saying we are not all the same. |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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Maybe for you. But not everyone has a thick skin. We all have good days and bad ones and it just takes that one remark at the wrong time to really hurt.
It's being human.
I'm as sensitive as anyone. I'm also an adult though, on an adult website where I would certainly not be if I didn't have an ability to ignore bullying behaviour. I would suggest that if people take the comments of anonymous bullies to heart, then maybe they'd be better off staying away from here altogether. As long as I've been here, the one constant I've noticed is the abusive ones who constantly appear, eventually get banned, but show up soon after with a new profile, so bullying here is a fact of life. All I'm saying is that on a relatively anonymous site like this, it is so much easier to deal with it than it is in the real world. "
And im saying it may be for you but we all have different personalities and for some the online world is their real world. Their only contact with others. |
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied."
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them. |
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"Woah woah...hold on a wee second lads...by implying that ladies havnt proved to you or satisfied your criteria of bullying , you are in effect continuing it !!!
It's each individuals feelings or indeed uncomfortableness that makes them feel bullied....just saying we are not all the same."
As I mentioned, nobody is saying that people aren't being bullied. |
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Maybe for you. But not everyone has a thick skin. We all have good days and bad ones and it just takes that one remark at the wrong time to really hurt.
It's being human.
I'm as sensitive as anyone. I'm also an adult though, on an adult website where I would certainly not be if I didn't have an ability to ignore bullying behaviour. I would suggest that if people take the comments of anonymous bullies to heart, then maybe they'd be better off staying away from here altogether. As long as I've been here, the one constant I've noticed is the abusive ones who constantly appear, eventually get banned, but show up soon after with a new profile, so bullying here is a fact of life. All I'm saying is that on a relatively anonymous site like this, it is so much easier to deal with it than it is in the real world. "
im not sure if you are being deliberatly obtuse or what. an adult can still be bullied mick. regardless of wether they are on an adult site or in work or wherever. Its not over sensitive either. |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them. "
Because maybe that person has opened a new profile and I personally do not possess the skills to see whats in a message without opening it!!! |
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
Can't you turn on your phone again when you've calmed down? "
are you asking me personally here??? |
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them.
Because maybe that person has opened a new profile and I personally do not possess the skills to see whats in a message without opening it!!!"
So you read one. If it's abusive, you block. One message hardly constitutes constant bullying. |
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them. "
And Fairplay to you....not everyone can do that !!
I've been abused several times in the past day , my tongue is sharp enough to come back at them and my backbone too.....but others may not.
They shouldn't have to deal with Mick....simples !! |
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Maybe for you. But not everyone has a thick skin. We all have good days and bad ones and it just takes that one remark at the wrong time to really hurt.
It's being human.
I'm as sensitive as anyone. I'm also an adult though, on an adult website where I would certainly not be if I didn't have an ability to ignore bullying behaviour. I would suggest that if people take the comments of anonymous bullies to heart, then maybe they'd be better off staying away from here altogether. As long as I've been here, the one constant I've noticed is the abusive ones who constantly appear, eventually get banned, but show up soon after with a new profile, so bullying here is a fact of life. All I'm saying is that on a relatively anonymous site like this, it is so much easier to deal with it than it is in the real world.
im not sure if you are being deliberatly obtuse or what. an adult can still be bullied mick. regardless of wether they are on an adult site or in work or wherever. Its not over sensitive either."
Did someone say that bullying doesn't exist? I certainly didn't. I did say that it's easier to prevent yourself from being bullied here than it is in the real world. |
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them.
And Fairplay to you....not everyone can do that !!
I've been abused several times in the past day , my tongue is sharp enough to come back at them and my backbone too.....but others may not.
They shouldn't have to deal with Mick....simples !! "
You and I don't need to block people because we can handle the abuse. It's the people that can't handle it who need to block. That way they don't have to deal with it. |
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
Can't you turn on your phone again when you've calmed down?
are you asking me personally here??? "
Why would you think that? |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them.
Because maybe that person has opened a new profile and I personally do not possess the skills to see whats in a message without opening it!!!
So you read one. If it's abusive, you block. One message hardly constitutes constant bullying. "
Bullying is bullying whether it's constant or a one of remark. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Maybe for you. But not everyone has a thick skin. We all have good days and bad ones and it just takes that one remark at the wrong time to really hurt.
It's being human.
I'm as sensitive as anyone. I'm also an adult though, on an adult website where I would certainly not be if I didn't have an ability to ignore bullying behaviour. I would suggest that if people take the comments of anonymous bullies to heart, then maybe they'd be better off staying away from here altogether. As long as I've been here, the one constant I've noticed is the abusive ones who constantly appear, eventually get banned, but show up soon after with a new profile, so bullying here is a fact of life. All I'm saying is that on a relatively anonymous site like this, it is so much easier to deal with it than it is in the real world.
im not sure if you are being deliberatly obtuse or what. an adult can still be bullied mick. regardless of wether they are on an adult site or in work or wherever. Its not over sensitive either.
Did someone say that bullying doesn't exist? I certainly didn't. I did say that it's easier to prevent yourself from being bullied here than it is in the real world. "
you are suggesting removing yourself from a situation where u are being bullied. In turn letting a bully win. just go away and come back when you have calmed down after getting upset that you are being bullied....mick i thought better of you than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What would constitute as bullying??? People are saying constant bullying but is it constantly criticising everything a person says no matter what it is or disagreeing with them over one topic because they don't share the same they on it . You are going to have to clarify bullying a bit clearer, what some people derive as bullying might not be in another persons eyes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's all about having a thick skin when on the net! Your going to meet all different types of people on sites like these so if your a sensitive soul your gonna struggle at times |
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"It's all about having a thick skin when on the net! Your going to meet all different types of people on sites like these so if your a sensitive soul your gonna struggle at times "
ks that is the whole point...why should one have to struggle. as has been said we are all adults. why should one person be made little of just to satisfy anothers bullyish attitude |
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them.
Because maybe that person has opened a new profile and I personally do not possess the skills to see whats in a message without opening it!!!
So you read one. If it's abusive, you block. One message hardly constitutes constant bullying.
Bullying is bullying whether it's constant or a one of remark. "
Not so sure about that. Surely for it to be bullying there has to be a repeat element? Again, aren't we talking about how to deal with it? Am I the only one who has thought of this novel way of trying to deal with it? |
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over a year ago
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them.
And Fairplay to you....not everyone can do that !!
I've been abused several times in the past day , my tongue is sharp enough to come back at them and my backbone too.....but others may not.
They shouldn't have to deal with Mick....simples !!
You and I don't need to block people because we can handle the abuse. It's the people that can't handle it who need to block. That way they don't have to deal with it. "
We arnt going to agree on this subject buddy so drop me out...but I'll say this to you .
if you'd have seen some of the case studies I've been going through recently about online abuse,bullying,grooming etc...and the devastating effects it leaves apon a person you may just change your mind .
One persons bit of craic maybe another person's time to crack
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Maybe for you. But not everyone has a thick skin. We all have good days and bad ones and it just takes that one remark at the wrong time to really hurt.
It's being human.
I'm as sensitive as anyone. I'm also an adult though, on an adult website where I would certainly not be if I didn't have an ability to ignore bullying behaviour. I would suggest that if people take the comments of anonymous bullies to heart, then maybe they'd be better off staying away from here altogether. As long as I've been here, the one constant I've noticed is the abusive ones who constantly appear, eventually get banned, but show up soon after with a new profile, so bullying here is a fact of life. All I'm saying is that on a relatively anonymous site like this, it is so much easier to deal with it than it is in the real world.
im not sure if you are being deliberatly obtuse or what. an adult can still be bullied mick. regardless of wether they are on an adult site or in work or wherever. Its not over sensitive either.
Did someone say that bullying doesn't exist? I certainly didn't. I did say that it's easier to prevent yourself from being bullied here than it is in the real world. you are suggesting removing yourself from a situation where u are being bullied. In turn letting a bully win. just go away and come back when you have calmed down after getting upset that you are being bullied....mick i thought better of you than that."
I suggest you go back and have another read.I suggested ignoring them, blocking them, deleting their messages. If for some reason those things don't appeal to you, and you're getting riled and about to get yourself in trouble, stand back from the situation. It's pretty logical actually. |
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them.
And Fairplay to you....not everyone can do that !!
I've been abused several times in the past day , my tongue is sharp enough to come back at them and my backbone too.....but others may not.
They shouldn't have to deal with Mick....simples !!
You and I don't need to block people because we can handle the abuse. It's the people that can't handle it who need to block. That way they don't have to deal with it.
We arnt going to agree on this subject buddy so drop me out...but I'll say this to you .
if you'd have seen some of the case studies I've been going through recently about online abuse,bullying,grooming etc...and the devastating effects it leaves apon a person you may just change your mind .
One persons bit of craic maybe another person's time to crack
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We're talking about this website, nothing else.The tools are there to be used. I haven't seen any suggestions from yourself as to how to deal with it. |
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This is not specifically in mails.blocking is the easy part....its forum bullies that has been spoken of here also. But look mick you dont believe it goes on here so we will just end the conversation here.its a no win situation this topic.just count ur blessings that ur not the one being bullied. |
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them.
And Fairplay to you....not everyone can do that !!
I've been abused several times in the past day , my tongue is sharp enough to come back at them and my backbone too.....but others may not.
They shouldn't have to deal with Mick....simples !!
You and I don't need to block people because we can handle the abuse. It's the people that can't handle it who need to block. That way they don't have to deal with it.
We arnt going to agree on this subject buddy so drop me out...but I'll say this to you .
if you'd have seen some of the case studies I've been going through recently about online abuse,bullying,grooming etc...and the devastating effects it leaves apon a person you may just change your mind .
One persons bit of craic maybe another person's time to crack
We're talking about this website, nothing else.The tools are there to be used. I haven't seen any suggestions from yourself as to how to deal with it. "
I'd tar n feather the tools......no wait.....that's bullying. |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them.
Because maybe that person has opened a new profile and I personally do not possess the skills to see whats in a message without opening it!!!
So you read one. If it's abusive, you block. One message hardly constitutes constant bullying.
Bullying is bullying whether it's constant or a one of remark.
Not so sure about that. Surely for it to be bullying there has to be a repeat element? Again, aren't we talking about how to deal with it? Am I the only one who has thought of this novel way of trying to deal with it? "
I doubt you get the same level of abuse that I do. Your way isn't novel. I use it , others use but guess what not everyone has the same defense mechanism. Walk a mile in someone else's shoes before doling out advice. |
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"This is not specifically in mails.blocking is the easy part....its forum bullies that has been spoken of here also. But look mick you dont believe it goes on here so we will just end the conversation here.its a no win situation this topic.just count ur blessings that ur not the one being bullied."
May I refer you back to almost every post I've made on the subject. You might notice that I've mentioned about five times that bullying goes on.
On your final point, you may actually remember a period where everytime I posted, a certain someone would follow me like a lost puppy posting abusive bile. It took a few months before that stopped. |
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
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"This is not specifically in mails.blocking is the easy part....its forum bullies that has been spoken of here also. But look mick you dont believe it goes on here so we will just end the conversation here.its a no win situation this topic.just count ur blessings that ur not the one being bullied.
May I refer you back to almost every post I've made on the subject. You might notice that I've mentioned about five times that bullying goes on.
On your final point, you may actually remember a period where everytime I posted, a certain someone would follow me like a lost puppy posting abusive bile. It took a few months before that stopped. "
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them.
Because maybe that person has opened a new profile and I personally do not possess the skills to see whats in a message without opening it!!!
So you read one. If it's abusive, you block. One message hardly constitutes constant bullying.
Bullying is bullying whether it's constant or a one of remark.
Not so sure about that. Surely for it to be bullying there has to be a repeat element? Again, aren't we talking about how to deal with it? Am I the only one who has thought of this novel way of trying to deal with it?
I doubt you get the same level of abuse that I do. Your way isn't novel. I use it , others use but guess what not everyone has the same defense mechanism. Walk a mile in someone else's shoes before doling out advice."
Well then why don't you suggest an alternative strategy? I haven't seen you getting much abuse on the forum? |
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"This is not specifically in mails.blocking is the easy part....its forum bullies that has been spoken of here also. But look mick you dont believe it goes on here so we will just end the conversation here.its a no win situation this topic.just count ur blessings that ur not the one being bullied.
May I refer you back to almost every post I've made on the subject. You might notice that I've mentioned about five times that bullying goes on.
On your final point, you may actually remember a period where everytime I posted, a certain someone would follow me like a lost puppy posting abusive bile. It took a few months before that stopped.
I was only trying to get a hug "
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
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"This is not specifically in mails.blocking is the easy part....its forum bullies that has been spoken of here also. But look mick you dont believe it goes on here so we will just end the conversation here.its a no win situation this topic.just count ur blessings that ur not the one being bullied.
May I refer you back to almost every post I've made on the subject. You might notice that I've mentioned about five times that bullying goes on.
On your final point, you may actually remember a period where everytime I posted, a certain someone would follow me like a lost puppy posting abusive bile. It took a few months before that stopped.
I was only trying to get a hug
Lol, just in case that's misconstrued, it wasn't him folks! "
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"This is not specifically in mails.blocking is the easy part....its forum bullies that has been spoken of here also. But look mick you dont believe it goes on here so we will just end the conversation here.its a no win situation this topic.just count ur blessings that ur not the one being bullied.
May I refer you back to almost every post I've made on the subject. You might notice that I've mentioned about five times that bullying goes on.
On your final point, you may actually remember a period where everytime I posted, a certain someone would follow me like a lost puppy posting abusive bile. It took a few months before that stopped. "
i dont know who done that to u mick hand on heart. it disgusts me that people do that believe me. Alot of people are bullied off here and the mere fact u shruged that person off and ur still here is admirable.ur a strong character.not all of us are the same tho. |
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"This is not specifically in mails.blocking is the easy part....its forum bullies that has been spoken of here also. But look mick you dont believe it goes on here so we will just end the conversation here.its a no win situation this topic.just count ur blessings that ur not the one being bullied.
May I refer you back to almost every post I've made on the subject. You might notice that I've mentioned about five times that bullying goes on.
On your final point, you may actually remember a period where everytime I posted, a certain someone would follow me like a lost puppy posting abusive bile. It took a few months before that stopped.
I was only trying to get a hug
Lol, just in case that's misconstrued, it wasn't him folks!
TART "
OMG... It's a bully! |
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By *imwildWoman
over a year ago
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"Exactly...bullied into turning off ur phone or laptop....bullied into leaving
True. If someone has to resort to turning off phone/laptop to avoid/ignore abuse then they are being bullied.
Nobody said they're not being bullied. It's about choice. If you get a message from someone who's been abusing you, why in the name of God would you open it? Delete! Block them, nó more messages from them.
Because maybe that person has opened a new profile and I personally do not possess the skills to see whats in a message without opening it!!!
So you read one. If it's abusive, you block. One message hardly constitutes constant bullying.
Bullying is bullying whether it's constant or a one of remark.
Not so sure about that. Surely for it to be bullying there has to be a repeat element? Again, aren't we talking about how to deal with it? Am I the only one who has thought of this novel way of trying to deal with it?
I doubt you get the same level of abuse that I do. Your way isn't novel. I use it , others use but guess what not everyone has the same defense mechanism. Walk a mile in someone else's shoes before doling out advice.
Well then why don't you suggest an alternative strategy? I haven't seen you getting much abuse on the forum? "
ive had plenty. But I can stand my own. If I could post the pms I receive you'd see. I can't suggest an alternative because I view things differently to how someone else does. And like you I can ignore quite easily but I understand that others don't find they can. |
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Also this will strike a cord with some! You have "strange" people right left and centre on sites like these and if your not expecting downgrading mail and everything to be rosy, your gonna get one hell of a bounce! I personally believe certain individuals are to sensitive for the internet! I know it's easier said then done but try take no notice of a persons comments, a person whose a stranger to u and will never effect your life in any way |
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I've been called a bully before on here simply cos I don't share the same opinion as others and am not worried about voicing it. Way I look at it is, if yer on the internet and posting publicly you are going to attract this kind of thing, just the way of the net and I can't see it changing |
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"I've been called a bully before on here simply cos I don't share the same opinion as others and am not worried about voicing it. Way I look at it is, if yer on the internet and posting publicly you are going to attract this kind of thing, just the way of the net and I can't see it changing"
How could a cute wee thing like you be called a bully |
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"I've been called a bully before on here simply cos I don't share the same opinion as others and am not worried about voicing it. Way I look at it is, if yer on the internet and posting publicly you are going to attract this kind of thing, just the way of the net and I can't see it changing
How could a cute wee thing like you be called a bully"
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them? "
Yes we block them and then they set up another profile to message us again, vicious circle, So another reason why we leave and set up another profile ourselves |
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"bullied off the site thats a bit extreme... you know of these people hal?
Its not extreme, I know of at least three females that have left the site due to obnoxious twats who tried to bully them into a meet
What? Couldn't they just have blocked them?
Yes we block them and then they set up another profile to message us again, vicious circle, So another reason why we leave and set up another profile ourselves"
and the same merry go round will continue to occur! The only real way to stamp down on it is to block the IP address |
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"d the same merry go round will continue to occur! The only real way to stamp down on it is to block the IP address "
You obviously don't know how ip addresses work
Everytime you turn your router on you are allocated a new IP address. So how can you be blocked via that?
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"d the same merry go round will continue to occur! The only real way to stamp down on it is to block the IP address
You obviously don't know how ip addresses work
Everytime you turn your router on you are allocated a new IP address. So how can you be blocked via that?
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because a friend of mine was blocked on a site! He went to resign up using diff details and it was the same result! I know nothing about ip addresses but I do no they are used to block people off sites |
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"d the same merry go round will continue to occur! The only real way to stamp down on it is to block the IP address
You obviously don't know how ip addresses work
Everytime you turn your router on you are allocated a new IP address. So how can you be blocked via that?
because a friend of mine was blocked on a site! He went to resign up using diff details and it was the same result! I know nothing about ip addresses but I do no they are used to block people off sites "
No they aren't
Some sites used to block a range of ip addresses , back in the day of dial up, but nowadays many thousands of innocent people can be caught up in the cross fire so that's no longer feasible
All anyone needs to do to change their IP address is to reboot their router
Please don't tell us how things are done when you admit you don't have a clue yourself |
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"d the same merry go round will continue to occur! The only real way to stamp down on it is to block the IP address
You obviously don't know how ip addresses work
Everytime you turn your router on you are allocated a new IP address. So how can you be blocked via that?
because a friend of mine was blocked on a site! He went to resign up using diff details and it was the same result! I know nothing about ip addresses but I do no they are used to block people off sites
No they aren't
Some sites used to block a range of ip addresses , back in the day of dial up, but nowadays many thousands of innocent people can be caught up in the cross fire so that's no longer feasible
All anyone needs to do to change their IP address is to reboot their router
Please don't tell us how things are done when you admit you don't have a clue yourself"
i didn't tell you how things were done! I said I know a lad whose IP addresse was blocked! He went to resign up using diff details and got the same message! that's all I'm saying! |
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You would argue night is day
And what is so very said, it's never from your own personal experience. It's always someone you know, someone you spoke to, or something you read
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"You would argue night is day
And what is so very said, it's never from your own personal experience. It's always someone you know, someone you spoke to, or something you read
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im just telling u a situation! Your the one arguing not me! Not everybody knows the way to get a different IP address |
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