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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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this is mainly to cpls,just wondering when cpls meet other cpls or single girls for fun has either partner ever got jealous or felt uneasy if their other half is paying more attention to the other guy/girl,and if so wud u tell yur other half or say nothing?wud u continue to swing even if u felt uneasy about it just to please yur other half? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"this is mainly to cpls,just wondering when cpls meet other cpls or single girls for fun has either partner ever got jealous or felt uneasy if their other half is paying more attention to the other guy/girl,and if so wud u tell yur other half or say nothing?wud u continue to swing even if u felt uneasy about it just to please yur other half?"
When we first started out i had a few wobbles seeing mr with someone...but thats normal its all new...now i know there are no feelings involved the way we have sex...its just dirty sex...no feelings..and then we have even naughtier dirty sex after...thats the best lol.. !!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In our early days, we were terrible.. lots of of our friends on here can vouch for this lol..
We would be in middle of playing and one of us would call the other to the side and give them a right mouthful, and not in a good way, sometimes leading to an argument and a storm out of the party..
As the years have gone by, were so much more relaxed..
but.. id dare say.. the old jealous head can always be hanging around.. if everyones being honest..
what we wouldn't like is for us to have no feelings at all.. I think that would be far worse not 'givin a fk' about the other half..
Been at this 15 years, so, have learned how to control feelings and also how to help others in the same boat.. cus this is a hard thing to do when married / attached at the start !!
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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago
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Thankfully there has been no jealousy or anything like that with us but we have discussed it before and agreed that any feelings like that would be talked through with each other...... No matter how small the issue may be.
Miss Mcjoy  |
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By *aid backMan
over a year ago
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oh this is a great topic...
well i was in a swinging relationship before and jealousy crept into it to the point of she would go nuts and row if i came with the other women and we ended up giving up swinging because of it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our first 'meet' was mmf ... Hubby was as keen as I was , we've had many different experiences now after three years , jealousy has never been an issue no  |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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weve never had a problem as we discussed things before we became a cpl on here, and also the fact that we play with one another during a meet which we find very important to us caus if both are not happy there is no point swinging !!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i met a cpl a gud while bak and everything was going great untill we got bak to the hotel room,to cut a long story short they had a huge row and i was mortified so i just left |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i met a cpl a gud while bak and everything was going great untill we got bak to the hotel room,to cut a long story short they had a huge row and i was mortified so i just left "
I wouldn't leave you alone  |
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"i met a cpl a gud while bak and everything was going great untill we got bak to the hotel room,to cut a long story short they had a huge row and i was mortified so i just left "
ohhhh awakward classy
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i met a cpl a gud while bak and everything was going great untill we got bak to the hotel room,to cut a long story short they had a huge row and i was mortified so i just left ohhhh awakward classy"
oh it was,it put me off swinging to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"this is mainly to cpls,just wondering when cpls meet other cpls or single girls for fun has either partner ever got jealous or felt uneasy if their other half is paying more attention to the other guy/girl,and if so wud u tell yur other half or say nothing?wud u continue to swing even if u felt uneasy about it just to please yur other half?"
No, would say something (subtly) & no, if one of us was uneasy we would both abstain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lovely to hear such honesty.. plus it gives encouragement to those who feel the same starting off and thinking because they don't take to it like a duck to water that they don't belong here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were at a party recently and I went downstairs for a wander while Ms Slut remained upstairs....she was not playing at that moment. I began to play with a nice lady but felt a little guilty that Ms Slut was not involved, so I excused myself and said i'd go get her for a threeway and my playmate agreed....I went back upstairs and saw Ms Slut involved in 6-way! I stopped feeling guilty and even watched her have her fun for a little bit.
....sorry what was the question again? |
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Good question and is an important topic for discussion. There's a broad specrum I believe. Some couples have no hang ups and some are tittering on the edge each time they play. The majority are somewhere in the middle I'd say.
Thankfully and so far, we've had no hang ups. We're both very open minded and love seeing each other enjoying ourselves with other people and we've learned that its anything goes with us.
At the end of the night, when its all over a little cuddle and we know its all good, and we go home together.
Regarding single girls meeting us, we know that its important to make sure that the lady is comfortable as we know its a quite a big deal for her, entering into someone elses relationship, albeit for a short while
Happy swinging xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's good to see people being honest about having wobbles etc , I have thought at times that I shouldn't be here etc, but we are human beings and aren't always going to feel exactly the same way about things at all times. Fair play to anyone who has never felt even slightly jealous, I definitely have in the past, not so much jealous as more insecure, it is such a different thing to what you are used to in a one on one relationship can take a while to get used to! |
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Expectations have to be set up front and spoken about. We are just taking or first steps now and going through this. But everyone is different....for instance in your original post you say would you be jealous if your partner was focusing more on the other person....well to be honest I'd kinda expect that! But as well as different expectations, everyone had different ways of dealing with it....my wifes view is that we are strong enough to overcome anything this could throw at us, so doesn't worry really. Me, I go through every 'what if' in my head first. But we both end up happy.
As said above though communication and total honesty are requirements. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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An ex arranged an mff for us, i already voiced my jealousy concerns, she waved them away. All went great, i watched them together, started to get involved. My ex flipped out |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's good to see people being honest about having wobbles etc , I have thought at times that I shouldn't be here etc, but we are human beings and aren't always going to feel exactly the same way about things at all times. Fair play to anyone who has never felt even slightly jealous, I definitely have in the past, not so much jealous as more insecure, it is such a different thing to what you are used to in a one on one relationship can take a while to get used to!"
Very true indeed...i have banned Mr from having leggy blondes..only room for one of them and thats meee..anything else in the sweet shop he can have...lol... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"An ex arranged an mff for us, i already voiced my jealousy concerns, she waved them away. All went great, i watched them together, started to get involved. My ex flipped out "
Ahh the Ol emotional switcheroo... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"An ex arranged an mff for us, i already voiced my jealousy concerns, she waved them away. All went great, i watched them together, started to get involved. My ex flipped out
Ahh the Ol emotional switcheroo..."
yep, it was not pretty  |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
otherside of nowhere |
"No room for jealousy here....
We trust each other....
I think your in the wrong game if your getting jealous  "
Agree 100% no point if either one has any issues....great to see this being discussed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No room for jealousy here....
We trust each other....
I think your in the wrong game if your getting jealous
wise words speccsy "
Knew it was you!!!!!! Lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I still think that there are probably more people on here than would like to admit who have at the start of their journey in this scene didn't even at least find it slightly weird, when you go from having one on one relationships for years to then inviting other people into it there has to be some kind of adjustment, maybe more for some than others, same as anything when you try it for the first time surely? No regrets on anything we have done though, even mistakes that have been made we have learnt from and definitely have a stronger relationship now than ever, weird that swinging can actually make you closer to your partner, contrary to some of the opinions on here that you must be lacking something in your relationship if you are on here. |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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"I still think that there are probably more people on here than would like to admit who have at the start of their journey in this scene didn't even at least find it slightly weird, when you go from having one on one relationships for years to then inviting other people into it there has to be some kind of adjustment, maybe more for some than others, same as anything when you try it for the first time surely? No regrets on anything we have done though, even mistakes that have been made we have learnt from and definitely have a stronger relationship now than ever, weird that swinging can actually make you closer to your partner, contrary to some of the opinions on here that you must be lacking something in your relationship if you are on here. "
totally agree swinging just seems to have a knack of making a relationship stronger , maybe its caus u have to communicate and everything is talked about unlike a vanilla relationship |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No room for jealousy here....
We trust each other....
I think your in the wrong game if your getting jealous
wise words speccsy
Knew it was you!!!!!! Lol "
what gave it away?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No room for jealousy here....
We trust each other....
I think your in the wrong game if your getting jealous
wise words speccsy
Knew it was you!!!!!! Lol
what gave it away?? "
I recognize that package anywhere!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No room for jealousy here....
We trust each other....
I think your in the wrong game if your getting jealous
wise words speccsy
Knew it was you!!!!!! Lol
what gave it away??
I recognize that package anywhere!!! "
 pick it out oof a lineup, could you?? |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"I still think that there are probably more people on here than would like to admit who have at the start of their journey in this scene didn't even at least find it slightly weird, when you go from having one on one relationships for years to then inviting other people into it there has to be some kind of adjustment, maybe more for some than others, same as anything when you try it for the first time surely? No regrets on anything we have done though, even mistakes that have been made we have learnt from and definitely have a stronger relationship now than ever, weird that swinging can actually make you closer to your partner, contrary to some of the opinions on here that you must be lacking something in your relationship if you are on here. "
i agree found it more then slightly weird i can tell you after 22 years of marriage to see your partner with someone else....wasent sure how i felt hubby always knew it would be something he would enjoy...but i can say its great fun was worried it would change our relationship that has remained the same in fact has got better its just our hobbies have changed.....it also annoys me when ppl asume theres something lacking like if your married you must not be getting enough at home lol..... |
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