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So here's the issue:
We're extremely new to all of this. And we had a talk last night and said- "we dont know what we like- we dont know what we dont like" So from now on, we'll just going to be bold and say to the people who we fancy and even to the people who we think are out of our league. This is us. Average couple.are ye interested.
So question is:
Are ye brave enough to do same- to confront yere hotlists and say we think yere unbelievable, would ye like to meet???
Any thoughts?
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over a year ago
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"So here's the issue:
We're extremely new to all of this. And we had a talk last night and said- "we dont know what we like- we dont know what we dont like" So from now on, we'll just going to be bold and say to the people who we fancy and even to the people who we think are out of our league. This is us. Average couple.are ye interested.
So question is:
Are ye brave enough to do same- to confront yere hotlists and say we think yere unbelievable, would ye like to meet???
Any thoughts?
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I'd be brave enough to mail anybody I could that I'm interested in on here |
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"So here's the issue:
We're extremely new to all of this. And we had a talk last night and said- "we dont know what we like- we dont know what we dont like" So from now on, we'll just going to be bold and say to the people who we fancy and even to the people who we think are out of our league. This is us. Average couple.are ye interested.
So question is:
Are ye brave enough to do same- to confront yere hotlists and say we think yere unbelievable, would ye like to meet???
Any thoughts?
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Nothing ventured....nothing gained!
Wish I were that bold too .....think it might be an Irish thing this lack of confidence n fear of rejection  |
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By *ean299Man
over a year ago
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No harm in asking to meet. The outcome may be a polite "thanks but no thanks" or message read, deleted and no reply.
But, on the other hand, there is always the possibility of a positive response.
And discussing your sexual likes (or dislikes) or something you would like to try should be easier with likeminded people. |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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yes we would and have done but as we meet for a drink first its not a big risk....and i always mail guys first that i would like to meet as we have them blocked cause we would rather do the looking |
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"So here's the issue:
We're extremely new to all of this. And we had a talk last night and said- "we dont know what we like- we dont know what we dont like" So from now on, we'll just going to be bold and say to the people who we fancy and even to the people who we think are out of our league. This is us. Average couple.are ye interested.
So question is:
Are ye brave enough to do same- to confront yere hotlists and say we think yere unbelievable, would ye like to meet???
Any thoughts?
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I definitely need to be bolder, feel like an inverted nipple these days! |
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that  "
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there.  |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. "
i understand what your saying mrs s but i agree 100% with mr s .......mrs daie t |
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OMG! so that's why we only get about one enquiry a year, everyone is shy! Awwww. Jeez, feel free to e-mail us and tell us you're shy and we'll hold you're hand and take you through the next steps  |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"OMG! so that's why we only get about one enquiry a year, everyone is shy! Awwww. Jeez, feel free to e-mail us and tell us you're shy and we'll hold you're hand and take you through the next steps "
we really are very shy lol |
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there.
i understand what your saying mrs s but i agree 100% with mr s .......mrs daie t"
I know Mrs Daviet I know he's right too it just doesn't sink into my brain lol xx |
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. "
point I'm making is, with the amount of men here I'd say no woman would be turned down by all! I'd say there is easily a man here for every woman and the only way u will no who is by throwing out mails |
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. point I'm making is, with the amount of men here I'd say no woman would be turned down by all! I'd say there is easily a man here for every woman and the only way u will no who is by throwing out mails "
I know I understand what your saying and it does sound logical but it just depends on an individuals mind set. I would be very confident in other areas just not great at approaching people why I don't know because once the ice is broken there is no stopping me |
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. point I'm making is, with the amount of men here I'd say no woman would be turned down by all! I'd say there is easily a man here for every woman and the only way u will no who is by throwing out mails
I know I understand what your saying and it does sound logical but it just depends on an individuals mind set. I would be very confident in other areas just not great at approaching people why I don't know because once the ice is broken there is no stopping me "
very true plus it should be easier here ud imagine as your talking through a screen and not face to face |
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over a year ago
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"I wouldn't be very confident and got a no thanks message ages ago so I never send a first message any more . I'd love to be bold as brass but im just too chicken! Lol.Kitty"
jesus imagine how men feel then mailing women on here and getting a "no thanks no thanks no thanks", will I go on? Lol
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. point I'm making is, with the amount of men here I'd say no woman would be turned down by all! I'd say there is easily a man here for every woman and the only way u will no who is by throwing out mails
I know I understand what your saying and it does sound logical but it just depends on an individuals mind set. I would be very confident in other areas just not great at approaching people why I don't know because once the ice is broken there is no stopping me very true plus it should be easier here ud imagine as your talking through a screen and not face to face "
I know u would imagine it should be but for me that doesn't seem to make a difference. But my confidence has grown alot here I'm here nearly 5 years but it's taking me 4 years to have the courage to have meets by myself but it's great I've finally got the confidence to do that just need to start mailing lol |
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. point I'm making is, with the amount of men here I'd say no woman would be turned down by all! I'd say there is easily a man here for every woman and the only way u will no who is by throwing out mails
I know I understand what your saying and it does sound logical but it just depends on an individuals mind set. I would be very confident in other areas just not great at approaching people why I don't know because once the ice is broken there is no stopping me very true plus it should be easier here ud imagine as your talking through a screen and not face to face
I know u would imagine it should be but for me that doesn't seem to make a difference. But my confidence has grown alot here I'm here nearly 5 years but it's taking me 4 years to have the courage to have meets by myself but it's great I've finally got the confidence to do that just need to start mailing lol "
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. point I'm making is, with the amount of men here I'd say no woman would be turned down by all! I'd say there is easily a man here for every woman and the only way u will no who is by throwing out mails
I know I understand what your saying and it does sound logical but it just depends on an individuals mind set. I would be very confident in other areas just not great at approaching people why I don't know because once the ice is broken there is no stopping me very true plus it should be easier here ud imagine as your talking through a screen and not face to face
I know u would imagine it should be but for me that doesn't seem to make a difference. But my confidence has grown alot here I'm here nearly 5 years but it's taking me 4 years to have the courage to have meets by myself but it's great I've finally got the confidence to do that just need to start mailing lol "
start mailing take it from me its great fun previn profiles and then sending a message....and guys like to think that you picked them....so its all good |
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"I'd have no worries mailing someone , if their not interested , plenty more fish in the sea ...
Different story if I actually had to approach someone "
you can approach me anytime sexy bummmmmmmmm lol get into my car hehehe heh  |
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. point I'm making is, with the amount of men here I'd say no woman would be turned down by all! I'd say there is easily a man here for every woman and the only way u will no who is by throwing out mails
I know I understand what your saying and it does sound logical but it just depends on an individuals mind set. I would be very confident in other areas just not great at approaching people why I don't know because once the ice is broken there is no stopping me very true plus it should be easier here ud imagine as your talking through a screen and not face to face
I know u would imagine it should be but for me that doesn't seem to make a difference. But my confidence has grown alot here I'm here nearly 5 years but it's taking me 4 years to have the courage to have meets by myself but it's great I've finally got the confidence to do that just need to start mailing lol
start mailing take it from me its great fun previn profiles and then sending a message....and guys like to think that you picked them....so its all good "
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Wish I were that bold too .....think it might be an Irish thing this lack of confidence n fear of rejection "
I think the fear of rejection is an international one lol! But yeah, I find it easier to approach men on here than in real life. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. point I'm making is, with the amount of men here I'd say no woman would be turned down by all! I'd say there is easily a man here for every woman and the only way u will no who is by throwing out mails
I know I understand what your saying and it does sound logical but it just depends on an individuals mind set. I would be very confident in other areas just not great at approaching people why I don't know because once the ice is broken there is no stopping me "
like i am going to say no to a coffee
its different if ur going to use my body for ur own self gratifying pleasure
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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"I know this is a different topic but at 48 why am i considered too old come on people i am 48 not 98 ageism is crap"
who said your too old and for what?....ok your too old to have a 21 st birthday but the rest is bullshit |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"I am shy but Mr slo isn't but we usually wait to meet and greets or parties to make contact as you get a better sense of what people are really like."
but u do have that glint in ur eye |
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"I am shy but Mr slo isn't but we usually wait to meet and greets or parties to make contact as you get a better sense of what people are really like.
but u do have that glint in ur eye "
Lol charmer |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. point I'm making is, with the amount of men here I'd say no woman would be turned down by all! I'd say there is easily a man here for every woman and the only way u will no who is by throwing out mails
I know I understand what your saying and it does sound logical but it just depends on an individuals mind set. I would be very confident in other areas just not great at approaching people why I don't know because once the ice is broken there is no stopping me
like i am going to say no to a coffee
its different if ur going to use my body for ur own self gratifying pleasure
and waits for his little yellow envelop at the top of his screen to light up "
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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago
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"So here's the issue:
We're extremely new to all of this. And we had a talk last night and said- "we dont know what we like- we dont know what we dont like" So from now on, we'll just going to be bold and say to the people who we fancy and even to the people who we think are out of our league. This is us. Average couple.are ye interested.
So question is:
Are ye brave enough to do same- to confront yere hotlists and say we think yere unbelievable, would ye like to meet???
Any thoughts?
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if you don't ask you will never find out and why would you hold up other couples to be "better" !! than you are ??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a lot are in the same position (no double meaning intended) but it seems a lot easier for couple and single ladies to get meets but then they probably have to deal with tons of unwanted contacts |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"Several saying im out of there age limit for fems but mr curious is grand as he is younger some crap"
ur probably better off without them get to a meet and greet or party its easy on screen to say. once people meet u and see the other benefits u bring to the bed ul find age seems to disappear out of the equation |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. point I'm making is, with the amount of men here I'd say no woman would be turned down by all! I'd say there is easily a man here for every woman and the only way u will no who is by throwing out mails
I know I understand what your saying and it does sound logical but it just depends on an individuals mind set. I would be very confident in other areas just not great at approaching people why I don't know because once the ice is broken there is no stopping me
like i am going to say no to a coffee
its different if ur going to use my body for ur own self gratifying pleasure
and waits for his little yellow envelop at the top of his screen to light up
I'm working on bit Cj !! "
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there. "
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"How can it be a lack of confidence thing for women on here? Lol Jesus there is plenty of men for ye all and even twice over at that
Confidence has nothing to do with the amount of people on here that's a mad statement. Confidence is something u either have naturally or if not u can work at it. I'm not a naturally confident person and there could be millions of men on here and it's not going to make it an easier for me to make the first contact with a male. Once they make the first contact with me im fine then but thats not fair either in my situation to expect guys to always make the first move. But what I would say to Op is if you have the courage to mail someone go for it. I contacted a male recently who was on my hot list for an age but I just hadn't the guts to mail him then one night I said here I'm going to do it I was a nervous wreck sending it off but it worked out great and has given me a bit more confidence to make the first contact I've not done it since but I'm building up to the next one. When contacting couples it's different as Mr S will do the necessary he has a different mind set to me he says what's the worst that can happen they either say yes or no and he's right just for some of us it's not as easy to adapt that attitude but I'm getting there.
A bottle of Mr Chilie helps Mrs S...."
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So.. We had 3 couples on our hotlist. Mailed em all and explained our new non shy approach.
1 was worried cos were new and werent interested in soft swap. Which is perfectly understandable.
And other 2 seem happy enough.
So thats our brave step started. Whis gonna do their's now??? |
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Great discussion folks!at least the main thing is we are here and discussing it..theres too many folks in Eire still who havnt even talked with their partners or indeed themselves on even a tenth of this subject..leading to frustation and a life less lived... |
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