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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please  "
You put out on first date to so does that make you a bad sign....  |
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over a year ago
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please "
yur asking this q on a sex site??
why is it a bad sign?its no different than when a guy does it! |
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"So she saw what she wanted and went for it don't see a problem "
true but whatever happened to the three date rule but was not complainin at time but today thinking differ
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please "
She could be thinking the same thing about you lol  |
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please -
You put out on first date to so does that make you a bad sign.... "
be rude too turn it down and she looked dam good |
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over a year ago
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is it the whole "it's ok when guys do it, but women are sluts when they do it?" thing?
in all honesty, if you liked this girl and thought she may be a possible future girlfriend then maybe you shouldn't have had sex with her if it bothers you?
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"is it the whole "it's ok when guys do it, but women are sluts when they do it?" thing?
in all honesty, if you liked this girl and thought she may be a possible future girlfriend then maybe you shouldn't have had sex with her if it bothers you?
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I just think myself when you have to wait makes it mean more if your into the person but differnt folks differnt strokes..so basically its common thing now from the feedback so I shall count myself lucky |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kettle pot black .. Kinda funny your seeking fees back from members of a swing site !! Did you mention your membership to her ?? Lol the hypocrisy
Are we still in an era where a girl is a slut if she has sex and a guy is a stud .. Omg I don't miss vanilla sex |
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"So she saw what she wanted and went for it don't see a problem true but whatever happened to the three date rule but was not complainin at time but today thinking differ"
so whats the problem,u think shes a slag now cos she shagged u? |
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"is it the whole "it's ok when guys do it, but women are sluts when they do it?" thing?
in all honesty, if you liked this girl and thought she may be a possible future girlfriend then maybe you shouldn't have had sex with her if it bothers you?
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"I just think myself when you have to wait makes it mean more if your into the person but differnt folks differnt strokes..so basically its common thing now from the feedback so I shall count myself lucky "
thts a very immature way of luking at things!if u had any feelings for her in the first place surely it wudnt matter |
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"is it the whole "it's ok when guys do it, but women are sluts when they do it?" thing?
in all honesty, if you liked this girl and thought she may be a possible future girlfriend then maybe you shouldn't have had sex with her if it bothers you?
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Absofukkinglutely!!! |
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"Who mentioned anything about slag I just wanted feedback to see if was more common than I tought "
ok sorry about tht,no u didnt but thts kinda what yur imlpying,tht if she shagged u she wud shag anyone,am i rite? |
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"Who mentioned anything about slag I just wanted feedback to see if was more common than I tought
ok sorry about tht,no u didnt but thts kinda what yur imlpying,tht if she shagged u she wud shag anyone,am i rite?"
Thats the way I read it too.....maybe he needs to rewrite it |
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please "
I think you were right to wait till 29 for your first date very sensible, if there were more like you we wouldnt have a teenage pregnancy pandemic, well done young man,,,  |
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please
I think you were right to wait till 29 for your first date very sensible, if there were more like you we wouldnt have a teenage pregnancy pandemic, well done young man,,, "
pmsl.......  |
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please
I think you were right to wait till 29 for your first date very sensible, if there were more like you we wouldnt have a teenage pregnancy. pandemic, well done young man,,, "
I walked straight into that one |
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please
I think you were right to wait till 29 for your first date very sensible, if there were more like you we wouldnt have a teenage pregnancy pandemic, well done young man,,, "
proabaley shooting blanks anyway  |
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"Is the Chase not have the thrill when dateing someone new once you get it first night its like winning a race without takeing part"
Your making the girl out to be the bad one but you could have behaved like a gentleman and not made a move  |
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"Is the Chase not have the thrill when dateing someone new once you get it first night its like winning a race without takeing part"
if u enjoy the chase just think of it as a sprint rather than a marathon lol |
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"Is the Chase not have the thrill when dateing someone new once you get it first night its like winning a race without takeing part
are u really 29?lol"
allways did think was mix up with the birth cert |
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"Is the Chase not have the thrill when dateing someone new once you get it first night its like winning a race without takeing part
if u enjoy the chase just think of it as a sprint rather than a marathon lol"
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"Is the Chase not have the thrill when dateing someone new once you get it first night its like winning a race without takeing part"
Be prepared to be crowned a champion on here so if u get it the first night on every meet arranged through this site..
U have us all scratching our heads here |
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"Is the Chase not have the thrill when dateing someone new once you get it first night its like winning a race without takeing part
Your making the girl out to be the bad one but you could have behaved like a gentleman and not made a move "
I honestly didnt make the move and no the girl is very pleasant |
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"So....just to clarify....are you boasting or complaining???? 
I think he's just met his sister  "
that wud be ptetty dam hilarious if it didnt walk all over someomes grave disgusting |
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"So....just to clarify....are you boasting or complaining????
I think he's just met his sister
Or was it Pamela and her 5 sisters
Wile close to the knuckle there..... "
Lol well maybe he's just not happy at not having to chase Pamela and those sisters anymore |
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
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"So....just to clarify....are you boasting or complaining????
I think he's just met his sister that wud be ptetty dam hilarious if it didnt walk all over someomes grave disgusting "
English please !! |
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By *j47Man
over a year ago
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Give the guy a break all he was asking has dating changed i think there are girls live by the three or more dates before as is said they put out and there are girls who go out and take what they want doesn't mean they are bad in fact i think they are the smart ones playing the field and exploring their sexuality so when they do find the one they have a better idea of what they want from a serious relationship |
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please "
so its ok for you to put out on a first date but not her, what does that say about you think about it  |
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Sex on the first date? Nope.... not happening. If I went out on a date with a girl and we ended up shagging. It wouldn't last for me...just a personal thing. It's like basing the thing on sex. I'd rather base seeing someone on connection intellectually first then the sex will follow. That way the passion and desire builds and it's more special.
If I liked her and wanted to see her again and felt real potential. I'd be a gentleman and say my goodbyes at the end of the date. Maybe steal a kiss. |
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If I liked her and wanted to see her again and felt real potential. I'd be a gentleman and say my goodbyes at the end of the date. Maybe steal a kiss. "
this |
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I think life is too short enjoy yourself when you can, if I was attracted to a guy and one thing led to another and we had sex I would be happy that awkward bit is out of the way you can really get to know them now |
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please "
I did this on a first date once ..... In 1989.... 21st wedding anniversary this yer
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please "
I did this on a first date once ..... In 1989.... 21st wedding anniversary this yer
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Personally think it's a bad sign to have sex on first date as it would mean more to be craving each other and getting to know each other better on different occassions and over a space of time. Just wondering if sex was any good if you felt bad about it the next day???? |
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
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"I think life is too short enjoy yourself when you can, if I was attracted to a guy and one thing led to another and we had sex I would be happy that awkward bit is out of the way you can really get to know them now"
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"Personally think it's a bad sign to have sex on first date as it would mean more to be craving each other and getting to know each other better on different occassions and over a space of time. Just wondering if sex was any good if you felt bad about it the next day????"
personally, I don't think it's a bad sign. However, if this is about a potential longterm relationship, I would try and wait a bit longer (if I can) to make it feel more special.
I understood that this thread is about potential longterm relationships and not NSA. Obviously if it's NSA... well I don't think we need to go into that on here haha |
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I have had 5 serious relationships in my life. I ended up in bed with each of them the first date night. It's all bollocks. If you like and fancy each other, go for it. I'll never forget them, painfully at least a couple granted, but I regret nothing. Honestly? You need to ask the question of yourself cause it's a question only you can answer! Life's a bitch buddy but, you have to live it... |
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"Sex on the first date? Nope.... not happening. If I went out on a date with a girl and we ended up shagging. It wouldn't last for me...just a personal thing. It's like basing the thing on sex. I'd rather base seeing someone on connection intellectually first then the sex will follow. That way the passion and desire builds and it's more special.
If I liked her and wanted to see her again and felt real potential. I'd be a gentleman and say my goodbyes at the end of the date. Maybe steal a kiss. "
i dissagree,i think if u meet sumone and really click with them,and feel comfortable enough to want to have sex with them on the first nite ,whats the problem?imagine meeting a guy and waiting a few wks and when u have sex its awful!he just doesnt do it for u,what do u do then?lol |
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"Sex on the first date? Nope.... not happening. If I went out on a date with a girl and we ended up shagging. It wouldn't last for me...just a personal thing. It's like basing the thing on sex. I'd rather base seeing someone on connection intellectually first then the sex will follow. That way the passion and desire builds and it's more special.
If I liked her and wanted to see her again and felt real potential. I'd be a gentleman and say my goodbyes at the end of the date. Maybe steal a kiss.
i dissagree,i think if u meet sumone and really click with them,and feel comfortable enough to want to have sex with them on the first nite ,whats the problem?imagine meeting a guy and waiting a few wks and when u have sex its awful!he just doesnt do it for u,what do u do then?lol"
I want the girl to know that I'm not just after a ride. Holding back on the first, second, third , forth or more dates....proves that I want to be with the girl and like her for her personality. Not just because I want to shoot my load, so to speak. |
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"Sex on the first date? Nope.... not happening. If I went out on a date with a girl and we ended up shagging. It wouldn't last for me...just a personal thing. It's like basing the thing on sex. I'd rather base seeing someone on connection intellectually first then the sex will follow. That way the passion and desire builds and it's more special.
If I liked her and wanted to see her again and felt real potential. I'd be a gentleman and say my goodbyes at the end of the date. Maybe steal a kiss.
i dissagree,i think if u meet sumone and really click with them,and feel comfortable enough to want to have sex with them on the first nite ,whats the problem?imagine meeting a guy and waiting a few wks and when u have sex its awful!he just doesnt do it for u,what do u do then?lol
I want the girl to know that I'm not just after a ride. Holding back on the first, second, third , forth or more dates....proves that I want to be with the girl and like her for her personality. Not just because I want to shoot my load, so to speak."
ah yea i understand tht,but what if were on a first date with a girl and unexpectatley things got really steamy and u did have sex with her and then u realised u really liked her,wud u still pursue a realationship with her? |
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please
yur asking this q on a sex site??
why is it a bad sign?its no different than when a guy does it!"
that's exactly what I was thinking it's a sex / swingers site not plenty of fish if you are on here it a a leg over you are after not a wife or husband lol |
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ah yea i understand tht,but what if were on a first date with a girl and unexpectatley things got really steamy and u did have sex with her and then u realised u really liked her,wud u still pursue a realationship with her?
Honestly....I wouldn't let it get that far if I really felt it was something I wanted to grow. If we did end up in bed on the first date...it wouldn't lead to anything for me. |
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"ah yea i understand tht,but what if were on a first date with a girl and unexpectatley things got really steamy and u did have sex with her and then u realised u really liked her,wud u still pursue a realationship with her?
Honestly....I wouldn't let it get that far if I really felt it was something I wanted to grow. If we did end up in bed on the first date...it wouldn't lead to anything for me. "
what about the second or third nite?how long wud u wait like? |
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"ah yea i understand tht,but what if were on a first date with a girl and unexpectatley things got really steamy and u did have sex with her and then u realised u really liked her,wud u still pursue a realationship with her?
Honestly....I wouldn't let it get that far if I really felt it was something I wanted to grow. If we did end up in bed on the first date...it wouldn't lead to anything for me. "
I know it can happen in extreme circumstances but its rare that you realise you want a relationship with a person after just one date. |
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"Ok recently had first date(not a fab meet)
and got lucky first NIGHT I myself think this is a bad sign..ladys and gents toughts please "
And youre complaining...lol. Its only all good in my book unless youre after something more than what it was |
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"ah yea i understand tht,but what if were on a first date with a girl and unexpectatley things got really steamy and u did have sex with her and then u realised u really liked her,wud u still pursue a realationship with her?
Honestly....I wouldn't let it get that far if I really felt it was something I wanted to grow. If we did end up in bed on the first date...it wouldn't lead to anything for me.
I know it can happen in extreme circumstances but its rare that you realise you want a relationship with a person after just one date. "
I didn't say relationship. I said grow. That is definitely one thing I will know during a first date. |
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"ah yea i understand tht,but what if were on a first date with a girl and unexpectatley things got really steamy and u did have sex with her and then u realised u really liked her,wud u still pursue a realationship with her?
Honestly....I wouldn't let it get that far if I really felt it was something I wanted to grow. If we did end up in bed on the first date...it wouldn't lead to anything for me.
what about the second or third nite?how long wud u wait like?"
There's no set time or date. You know when you know. When that moment hits you, when you're in the right place, when you see that look.... |
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"ah yea i understand tht,but what if were on a first date with a girl and unexpectatley things got really steamy and u did have sex with her and then u realised u really liked her,wud u still pursue a realationship with her?
Honestly....I wouldn't let it get that far if I really felt it was something I wanted to grow. If we did end up in bed on the first date...it wouldn't lead to anything for me.
what about the second or third nite?how long wud u wait like?
There's no set time or date. You know when you know. When that moment hits you, when you're in the right place, when you see that look...."
ok but can tht moment not happen on the first date?im just curious really,like if u had sex on the first nite wud u think she mite be promiscuous and cos she had sex with u ,she cud do it with anyone,wud tht put u off? |
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Right let me clear this up. 1. I don't care if people have sex on a first date. It's up to them. I am not judging anyone.
And 2. It is just my way. I'm not after sex on a first date. I go out on a date with a girl because I fancy them and want to get to know them. It's not about sex for me. Date one, for ME, is getting to know a girl. Not trying to get her into bed. So at the end of a date. I'll make sure she gets in a taxi ok.
Any questions? |
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"Right let me clear this up. 1. I don't care if people have sex on a first date. It's up to them. I am not judging anyone.
And 2. It is just my way. I'm not after sex on a first date. I go out on a date with a girl because I fancy them and want to get to know them. It's not about sex for me. Date one, for ME, is getting to know a girl. Not trying to get her into bed. So at the end of a date. I'll make sure she gets in a taxi ok.
Any questions? "
chillax,im not saying yur judging,i was just curious,thts all,its just gud to hear different opinions on the subject |
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"I kinda thought. ... listen, I dunno, but you just might be an idiot! If you're on this site and involved in this conversation. . "
Really?
You think that the chat and forums are only for chat regarding sex. That's a little narrow minded. Fabswingers is not just a site where like minded individuals can get together. It also provide other ways of amusement. The forums are for anything. Do you really think that the people here are so addicted to sex that they don't have the ability to talk or have an opinion about anything else? If you do, I feel sorry for you. |
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"I kinda thought. ... listen, I dunno, but you just might be an idiot! If you're on this site and involved in this conversation. . "
who are u calling an idiot?hope its mot me! |
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"I kinda thought. ... listen, I dunno, but you just might be an idiot! If you're on this site and involved in this conversation. .
who are u calling an idiot?hope its mot me! "
I would say he is calling everyone on the thread an idiot. You could rightly report it if it offended. I've been reported for less and recieved forum time outs! |
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"I kinda thought. ... listen, I dunno, but you just might be an idiot! If you're on this site and involved in this conversation. .
who are u calling an idiot?hope its mot me!
I would say he is calling everyone on the thread an idiot. You could rightly report it if it offended. I've been reported for less and recieved forum time outs!"
Not required on this thread! |
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For an update on original post:: second date was very _aid back indeed very at ease maybe naked first dates is the future and maybe il be deleting the profile soon enough and don't think il be posting a thread again after all that reaction crazy peeps  |
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"For an update on original post:: second date was very _aid back indeed very at ease maybe naked first dates is the future and maybe il be deleting the profile soon enough and don't think il be posting a thread again after all that reaction crazy peeps "
it definitely started quite a conversation haha
I hope everything will work out for you two !! |
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"For an update on original post:: second date was very _aid back indeed very at ease maybe naked first dates is the future and maybe il be deleting the profile soon enough and don't think il be posting a thread again after all that reaction crazy peeps "
it's a crime what ye did on the first date, a pure and utter crime |
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"For an update on original post:: second date was very _aid back indeed very at ease maybe naked first dates is the future and maybe il be deleting the profile soon enough and don't think il be posting a thread again after all that reaction crazy peeps
it definitely started quite a. conversation haha and so wud the next one if was brave enough to post it
I hope everything will work out for you two !! "
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"For an update on original post:: second date was very _aid back indeed very at ease maybe naked first dates is the future and maybe il be deleting the profile soon enough and don't think il be posting a thread again after all that reaction crazy peeps "
Congrats, I had similar situation just over ten years ago and went on to have nearly eight years of happiness. I wish you the same and more |
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"For an update on original post:: second date was very _aid back indeed very at ease maybe naked first dates is the future and maybe il be deleting the profile soon enough and don't think il be posting a thread again after all that reaction crazy peeps
Congrats, I had similar situation just over ten years ago and went on to have nearly eight years of happiness. I wish you the same and more"
ha now thats getting bit ahead off the game |
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