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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you were a single guy/girl who fell deeply in love with someone who is not on fab, would you........
1. Tell them about fab?
2. Be shocked if someone off fab you had meet saw you with them and said hello.
3. Leave them if they didn't want to swing.
How would it effect you swinging?
(No I haven't! Yes I know I haven't swung yet! Before you ask) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We met when we were on an other site, hubby was open and honest first and that was 6 years ago  no secrets  No regrets  "
That's cool, but say he wasn't here or even imagine he was but you weren't and found out with him telling you.
It a hard one.....
Hi I'm __________ I like going to cinema, long walks, good food, filming my partner while she gets shagged and group sex.
Bit of a scary one to come out with, that's why most pics on here are faceless, there is a stigma to get passed first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was to start a relationship with someone from outside fab I think I would have to be fairly open with them if there was any sign that it was going to go somewhere. Not necessarily straight away but reasonably early on otherwise it would feel too much like lying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suppose in an ideal world we'd all like to think we'd be open and honest in a meaningful relationship. I suppose it comes down to how sexually adventurous you both are. |
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"We met when we were on an other site, hubby was open and honest first and that was 6 years ago no secrets No regrets
That's cool, but say he wasn't here or even imagine he was but you weren't and found out with him telling you.
It a hard one.....
Hi I'm __________ I like going to cinema, long walks, good food, filming my partner while she gets shagged and group sex.
Bit of a scary one to come out with, that's why most pics on here are faceless, there is a stigma to get passed first. "
He told every one he was with before me, and most of them joined, some backed away some still here some some stayed for a short while whan they parted  |
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He told every one he was with before me, and most of them joined, some backed away some still here some some stayed for a short while whan they parted "
Most realised he had struck gold and came here to see if they could be so lucky. There's only one of you though!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting question.
If I was suddenly single, I don't think I would be swinging - it's something we do as a couple, and enjoy. But I wouldn't do it as a single girl.
So I'm now a single ex-swinger - if we're talking a serious relationship that's likely to go somewhere I think swinging has been too big a part of my life to realistically hide so I'd need to talk about it. If imaginary new partner (let's call him "bob") showed an interest we might experiment a little to test the water.
But if "Bob" wasn't interested - and we're talking "deeply in love" here - then I'd have no issue whatsoever with being in a monogamous relationship.
I like swinging, but don't need it.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Interesting question.
If I was suddenly single, I don't think I would be swinging - it's something we do as a couple, and enjoy. But I wouldn't do it as a single girl.
So I'm now a single ex-swinger - if we're talking a serious relationship that's likely to go somewhere I think swinging has been too big a part of my life to realistically hide so I'd need to talk about it. If imaginary new partner (let's call him "bob") showed an interest we might experiment a little to test the water.
But if "Bob" wasn't interested - and we're talking "deeply in love" here - then I'd have no issue whatsoever with being in a monogamous relationship.
I like swinging, but don't need it.
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What a great and well thought out answer, ty  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm not sure I have any interest in monogamy, I've been involved in poly relationships for years now. I don't think realistically one person can meet all your needs and vice versa. But I'm totally honest with the people involved, cheating and hurting others isn't my style. So they would know, and they can make an educated decision if its for them on not. If they issued an ultimatum, Id be out the door on principle! |
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By *azsinsMan
over a year ago
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"Interesting question.
If I was suddenly single, I don't think I would be swinging - it's something we do as a couple, and enjoy. But I wouldn't do it as a single girl.
So I'm now a single ex-swinger - if we're talking a serious relationship that's likely to go somewhere I think swinging has been too big a part of my life to realistically hide so I'd need to talk about it. If imaginary new partner (let's call him "bob") showed an interest we might experiment a little to test the water.
But if "Bob" wasn't interested - and we're talking "deeply in love" here - then I'd have no issue whatsoever with being in a monogamous relationship.
I like swinging, but don't need it.
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Hi my name is Bob  |
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By *avie tCouple
over a year ago
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mrs _avie t here if i was single i wouldent be on fab cause i know myself well enough to know that i need my emotional needs meet just as much as my sexual ones so it just wouldent work for me....so if i ever have a single profile here look out cause i will be looking for a relationship lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks Fun4 - so what would you do? "
Truthfully, I have no clue.
I'm a newbie that hasn't had a meet that wasn't a total disaster yet!
I'm not ready to date properly as I just come out of a long relationship.
I guess I would tell them If it got serious, and if they were against it stop. (Haven't really started though lol)
Honestly, last time I dated it was so different to today with all the online stuff. I'm not technophobic, more the opposite, but what people can do to meet and explore new things has blown my mind.
I see that swinging is of mutual consent and not forced on someone so I would def tell them. They sont want to the im off. IF (such a small word that means so much) I fall in love again I guess swinging would just be a "back in the day" memory. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"mrs _avie t here if i was single i wouldent be on fab cause i know myself well enough to know that i need my emotional needs meet just as much as my sexual ones so it just wouldent work for me....so if i ever have a single profile here look out cause i will be looking for a relationship lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if someone started a new relationship after fabs, should that person just come out and tell their BF/GF they were on fabs. im not so sure.
is a persons sexual history best left in the past and not brought up. it could cause problems.
it would be terrible if you met the love of your life and you went and told them about you fabs history and it messed things up.
as long as you are physically healthy (no STI's etc) should the past stay in the past and just get on enjoying the present day and look forward to the future?
like the OP ive only a green flag also so im probably not in the best position to comment? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you were a single guy/girl who fell deeply in love with someone who is not on fab, would you........
1. Tell them about fab?
2. Be shocked if someone off fab you had meet saw you with them and said hello.
3. Leave them if they didn't want to swing.
How would it effect you swinging?
(No I haven't! Yes I know I haven't swung yet! Before you ask)"
if i fell in love i wudnt have sex with anyone else!i wudnt need to if i was in love with the guy!and no i dont think id tell him i was on fab well unless i met him on fab lol or he was into swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you were a single guy/girl who fell deeply in love with someone who is not on fab, would you........
1. Tell them about fab?
2. Be shocked if someone off fab you had meet saw you with them and said hello.
3. Leave them if they didn't want to swing.
How would it effect you swinging?
(No I haven't! Yes I know I haven't swung yet! Before you ask)
if i fell in love i wudnt have sex with anyone else!i wudnt need to if i was in love with the guy!and no i dont think id tell him i was on fab well unless i met him on fab lol or he was into swinging "
Does that mean that you believe all the couples on here aren't in love? Or don't love each other enough because they have sex with other people? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you were a single guy/girl who fell deeply in love with someone who is not on fab, would you........
1. Tell them about fab?
2. Be shocked if someone off fab you had meet saw you with them and said hello.
3. Leave them if they didn't want to swing.
How would it effect you swinging?
(No I haven't! Yes I know I haven't swung yet! Before you ask)
if i fell in love i wudnt have sex with anyone else!i wudnt need to if i was in love with the guy!and no i dont think id tell him i was on fab well unless i met him on fab lol or he was into swinging
Does that mean that you believe all the couples on here aren't in love? Or don't love each other enough because they have sex with other people? "
no i didnt say tht!i said I wudnt have sex with anyone else if i was in love,I wudnt feel the need to,thts the way i feel!just my opinion
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