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over a year ago
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awww a guy ive been chatting to for ages has just mailed me and said he couldnt take the guilt and was deleting his acc.its sad coz he was lovely....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"cat , do you seriously think all swingers are cheating on a unsuspecting partner ?  "
no i didnt say that.i asked in ur opinion what was the difference?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"cat , do you seriously think all swingers are cheating on a unsuspecting partner ?
no i didnt say that.i asked in ur opinion what was the difference??"
Cheating, your partner doesnt know (or doesnt let on they do) and swinging, your know knows and joins in ...to me, that is the difference between cheating and swinging |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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heres my version of the difference ...there are people who see swinging as a lifesyle choice which includes openness and honesty with their partners there is no room for guilt because neither is cheating on the other , then there are people who see swing as a way to cheat on their partner because they figure types who swing have fuck all morals anyway . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"heres my version of the difference ...there are people who see swinging as a lifesyle choice which includes openness and honesty with their partners there is no room for guilt because neither is cheating on the other , then there are people who see swing as a way to cheat on their partner because they figure types who swing have fuck all morals anyway ."
Each to there own just because someone is married we should not judge them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sure in that case half of us are on the wrong site...!!!!"
I was married and i prefer meeting married people to single people.
You know what your getting with them they always play safe. There is no mind games and no hassle with married people and I find them to be more relaxed and easy going |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're married and you have a single profile on a swinger site and you're actively meeting other people for sexual encounters and your partner doesnt know then you're cheating. (or to be more technical, a swinging cheater)
If you're doing the above and your partner knows and approves, you're in an open relationship.
I'm sorry but that's simply the fact of the matter.
I swung as a single guy in my late 20's and when i got involved with (and eventually married) someone who wasnt into the lifestyle I gave up.
For many reasons the marriage didnt work out and became sexless towards the end. Did i consider cheating? yes the thought crossed my mind. Did i consider using a swinger site to cheat? yes, even as far as joining up. Did I actually do it? No. Did I miss the lifestyle? I suppose I did.
Now i'm involved with an amazing woman who's interested in the lifestyle and am now lucky enough to see it from both sides, as a single guy and a swinging couple.
If you're using swinging as an excuse to escape a bad marriage take my advice: DON'T. Just end the marriage and move on. We prolonged it, and thankfully it ended amicably, but it could have ended a year earlier.
Swinging away from an unknowing partner is not a good idea.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're married and you have a single profile on a swinger site and you're actively meeting other people for sexual encounters and your partner doesnt know then you're cheating. (or to be more technical, a swinging cheater)
If you're doing the above and your partner knows and approves, you're in an open relationship.
I'm sorry but that's simply the fact of the matter.
I swung as a single guy in my late 20's and when i got involved with (and eventually married) someone who wasnt into the lifestyle I gave up.
For many reasons the marriage didnt work out and became sexless towards the end. Did i consider cheating? yes the thought crossed my mind. Did i consider using a swinger site to cheat? yes, even as far as joining up. Did I actually do it? No. Did I miss the lifestyle? I suppose I did.
Now i'm involved with an amazing woman who's interested in the lifestyle and am now lucky enough to see it from both sides, as a single guy and a swinging couple.
If you're using swinging as an excuse to escape a bad marriage take my advice: DON'T. Just end the marriage and move on. We prolonged it, and thankfully it ended amicably, but it could have ended a year earlier.
Swinging away from an unknowing partner is not a good idea.
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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"im really not being smart here but what is the difference??"
Swinging is where everybody knows whats going on between cpls or people ,cheating is where one person know nothing of whats going on . There is a huge difference espically if ur the one been cheated on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok less of the "come on curvy" please.it was only a question 
No offence Curvy, but it's a question you should know the answer to."
why???????????????????????????? |
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"thats it gang up on me "
Interesting question alright curvy. I meet married and single women. One once explained to me it was her nature. She divided love and lust almost surgically. I could actually appreciate exactly what she meant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Goodness me the lady only asked a question, no need to call for the church elders or owt, i'll dole out punishment.....Curvy bendover girl
I judge nobody and expect the same in return, unless you've walked a mile in them. Nobody on here can truly stand on the moral high ground. Yes shock, horror even you couples in open relationships on here ......i bet ma and pa and the rest of your family don't know you like to invite others to bed/car/forest park ( delete as appropriate ) how would that go down if they did. In short leave judgement at the door, it aon't what fab's about |
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over a year ago
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"Goodness me the lady only asked a question, no need to call for the church elders or owt, i'll dole out punishment.....Curvy bendover girl
I judge nobody and expect the same in return, unless you've walked a mile in them. Nobody on here can truly stand on the moral high ground. Yes shock, horror even you couples in open relationships on here ......i bet ma and pa and the rest of your family don't know you like to invite others to bed/car/forest park ( delete as appropriate ) how would that go down if they did. In short leave judgement at the door, it aon't what fab's about"
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over a year ago
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"Goodness me the lady only asked a question, no need to call for the church elders or owt, i'll dole out punishment.....Curvy bendover girl
I judge nobody and expect the same in return, unless you've walked a mile in them. Nobody on here can truly stand on the moral high ground. Yes shock, horror even you couples in open relationships on here ......i bet ma and pa and the rest of your family don't know you like to invite others to bed/car/forest park ( delete as appropriate ) how would that go down if they did. In short leave judgement at the door, it aon't what fab's about"
thats a nonsense example , what business would it be of your familys what you do in your sex life ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thats it gang up on me "
Not ganging up at all, if you want to meet married guys who are straying, and you dont have a problem with it fair play. we're all here for different reasons but the end result is the same: No strings sex.
I was just making the point that you asked of another poster what the difference between swinging and cheating was, implying that you saw no difference.....when we all know there is.
I'm not judging you at all, we all have our rules. we ourselves have a rule that we wont meet anyone if there's kids in the house (asleep or not). We wont swing in the vicinity of kids, but we dont judge people who do. Same we wont meet people who are cheating on their partner, but we dont judge people who do. |
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over a year ago
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"Goodness me the lady only asked a question, no need to call for the church elders or owt, i'll dole out punishment.....Curvy bendover girl
I judge nobody and expect the same in return, unless you've walked a mile in them. Nobody on here can truly stand on the moral high ground. Yes shock, horror even you couples in open relationships on here ......i bet ma and pa and the rest of your family don't know you like to invite others to bed/car/forest park ( delete as appropriate ) how would that go down if they did. In short leave judgement at the door, it aon't what fab's about
thats a nonsense example , what business would it be of your familys what you do in your sex life ? "
surly the ones you hold dear would be affected by the type of personality you are and surely that is influnced by all aspects of your life including sex??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Goodness me the lady only asked a question, no need to call for the church elders or owt, i'll dole out punishment.....Curvy bendover girl
I judge nobody and expect the same in return, unless you've walked a mile in them. Nobody on here can truly stand on the moral high ground. Yes shock, horror even you couples in open relationships on here ......i bet ma and pa and the rest of your family don't know you like to invite others to bed/car/forest park ( delete as appropriate ) how would that go down if they did. In short leave judgement at the door, it aon't what fab's about
thats a nonsense example , what business would it be of your familys what you do in your sex life ? "
Ok take the example out. You're right no need but some find it morally wrong to cheat, some see inviting another
man/girl to bed with your partner wrong. Obviously i think all acts of lust are great. Curvy wondered how people dealt with guilt, didn't see a lecture response. My point and i standby it is, what right has anybody to cast judgement on anybody on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thats it gang up on me
Not ganging up at all, if you want to meet married guys who are straying, and you dont have a problem with it fair play. we're all here for different reasons but the end result is the same: No strings sex.
I was just making the point that you asked of another poster what the difference between swinging and cheating was, implying that you saw no difference.....when we all know there is.
I'm not judging you at all, we all have our rules. we ourselves have a rule that we wont meet anyone if there's kids in the house (asleep or not). We wont swing in the vicinity of kids, but we dont judge people who do. Same we wont meet people who are cheating on their partner, but we dont judge people who do."
ah see now that's clearer and props to ya. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guilt is for the weak!its only a word folks!we ain't nothing but mammals and then sure don't do guilt  "
sssh, there's a serious discussion going on. go back to your hookers! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guilt is for the weak!its only a word folks!we ain't nothing but mammals and then sure don't do guilt
sssh, there's a serious discussion going on. go back to your hookers! "
well she told you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"heres my version of the difference ...there are people who see swinging as a lifesyle choice which includes openness and honesty with their partners there is no room for guilt because neither is cheating on the other , then there are people who see swing as a way to cheat on their partner because they figure types who swing have fuck all morals anyway ."
this is so true as when u turn a guy down they cant believe it,thinking you would fuck anyone on here |
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over a year ago
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"heres my version of the difference ...there are people who see swinging as a lifesyle choice which includes openness and honesty with their partners there is no room for guilt because neither is cheating on the other , then there are people who see swing as a way to cheat on their partner because they figure types who swing have fuck all morals anyway .
this is so true as when u turn a guy down they cant believe it,thinking you would fuck anyone on here"
i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that. |
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"heres my version of the difference ...there are people who see swinging as a lifesyle choice which includes openness and honesty with their partners there is no room for guilt because neither is cheating on the other , then there are people who see swing as a way to cheat on their partner because they figure types who swing have fuck all morals anyway .
this is so true as when u turn a guy down they cant believe it,thinking you would fuck anyone on here
i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that."
............He just told u!! |
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i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that."
I'm assuming you mean "belief" and "nsa", and while a lot are here looking for nsa fun, it doesnt mean they'll fuck anyone.....hookers will fuck anyone, for a price. there are no hookers here, at least there aren't meant to be. |
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over a year ago
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i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that."
And this is what bugs the hell oh of me. Thus is a swinging site where sex happens not a I will Fuck anything site. People have preferences be that married or single, fat or slim, man or woman, etc etc. Those preferences should be respected not judged, just cos someone is looking for nsa doesn't mean they have left morals and or their preferences when they log on here. And another point nsa is different for everyone, which people tend to forget and nowhere when you sign up to this site does it specify what type of nsa sex you have to have! |
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over a year ago
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i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that.
I'm assuming you mean "belief" and "nsa", and while a lot are here looking for nsa fun, it doesnt mean they'll fuck anyone.....hookers will fuck anyone, for a price. there are no hookers here, at least there aren't meant to be."
a i dont think even hookers will fuck anyone ,,, but heres hoping |
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over a year ago
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i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that.
And this is what bugs the hell oh of me. Thus is a swinging site where sex happens not a I will Fuck anything site. People have preferences be that married or single, fat or slim, man or woman, etc etc. Those preferences should be respected not judged, just cos someone is looking for nsa doesn't mean they have left morals and or their preferences when they log on here. And another point nsa is different for everyone, which people tend to forget and nowhere when you sign up to this site does it specify what type of nsa sex you have to have!"
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i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that.
And this is what bugs the hell oh of me. Thus is a swinging site where sex happens not a I will Fuck anything site. People have preferences be that married or single, fat or slim, man or woman, etc etc. Those preferences should be respected not judged, just cos someone is looking for nsa doesn't mean they have left morals and or their preferences when they log on here. And another point nsa is different for everyone, which people tend to forget and nowhere when you sign up to this site does it specify what type of nsa sex you have to have! "
why , who said this should be a fuck site???????????? |
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i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that.
And this is what bugs the hell oh of me. Thus is a swinging site where sex happens not a I will Fuck anything site. People have preferences be that married or single, fat or slim, man or woman, etc etc. Those preferences should be respected not judged, just cos someone is looking for nsa doesn't mean they have left morals and or their preferences when they log on here. And another point nsa is different for everyone, which people tend to forget and nowhere when you sign up to this site does it specify what type of nsa sex you have to have!
why , who said this should be a fuck site???????????? "
Ah you did about two posts before my previous one |
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i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that.
And this is what bugs the hell oh of me. Thus is a swinging site where sex happens not a I will Fuck anything site. People have preferences be that married or single, fat or slim, man or woman, etc etc. Those preferences should be respected not judged, just cos someone is looking for nsa doesn't mean they have left morals and or their preferences when they log on here. And another point nsa is different for everyone, which people tend to forget and nowhere when you sign up to this site does it specify what type of nsa sex you have to have!"
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I don't judge anyone's reasons for being on here as I haven't lived a perfect life, far from it, but I just know I couldn't live with the guilt of repeatedly cheating on someone who had feelings for me , I'd rather be single. |
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"Goodness me the lady only asked a question, no need to call for the church elders or owt, i'll dole out punishment.....Curvy bendover girl
I judge nobody and expect the same in return, unless you've walked a mile in them. Nobody on here can truly stand on the moral high ground. Yes shock, horror even you couples in open relationships on here ......i bet ma and pa and the rest of your family don't know you like to invite others to bed/car/forest park ( delete as appropriate ) how would that go down if they did. In short leave judgement at the door, it aon't what fab's about"
Perfect |
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over a year ago
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"I don't judge anyone's reasons for being on here as I haven't lived a perfect life, far from it, but I just know I couldn't live with the guilt of repeatedly cheating on someone who had feelings for me , I'd rather be single."
some dont have it that easy to make the choice to be single...!!! |
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i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that.
And this is what bugs the hell oh of me. Thus is a swinging site where sex happens not a I will Fuck anything site. People have preferences be that married or single, fat or slim, man or woman, etc etc. Those preferences should be respected not judged, just cos someone is looking for nsa doesn't mean they have left morals and or their preferences when they log on here. And another point nsa is different for everyone, which people tend to forget and nowhere when you sign up to this site does it specify what type of nsa sex you have to have!
why , who said this should be a fuck site????????????
Ah you did about two posts before my previous one "
dont think i did |
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"Goodness me the lady only asked a question, no need to call for the church elders or owt, i'll dole out punishment.....Curvy bendover girl
I judge nobody and expect the same in return, unless you've walked a mile in them. Nobody on here can truly stand on the moral high ground. Yes shock, horror even you couples in open relationships on here ......i bet ma and pa and the rest of your family don't know you like to invite others to bed/car/forest park ( delete as appropriate ) how would that go down if they did. In short leave judgement at the door, it aon't what fab's about
Perfect "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ok ok ok I will admit it. I'm guilty of using fab while sitting on the loo. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed. Now you will be all thinking did I do this post in the loo. |
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"I don't judge anyone's reasons for being on here as I haven't lived a perfect life, far from it, but I just know I couldn't live with the guilt of repeatedly cheating on someone who had feelings for me , I'd rather be single.
some dont have it that easy to make the choice to be single...!!! "
I didnt say it was easy, it's my own personal feelings on cheating, as someone who has been cheated on in the past I know how it feels, I can cope with anything but being lied to. As I said though , everyone has their own reasons for being on here, you don't need to justify yourself to anyone , it is you who lives your life. |
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"ok so moral of the story is each to their own....cheater or swinger...!!!!!!!!!
dont use the word moral....lol  "
true because apparently i have none....!!!!! |
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"ok so moral of the story is each to their own....cheater or swinger...!!!!!!!!!
dont use the word moral....lol
true because apparently i have none....!!!!!"
no, because we all seem to have self directing moral compasses |
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"ok so moral of the story is each to their own....cheater or swinger...!!!!!!!!!
dont use the word moral....lol
true because apparently i have none....!!!!!"
I don't think its aimed directly at you cat u not the only one on site |
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i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that.
And this is what bugs the hell oh of me. Thus is a swinging site where sex happens not a I will Fuck anything site. People have preferences be that married or single, fat or slim, man or woman, etc etc. Those preferences should be respected not judged, just cos someone is looking for nsa doesn't mean they have left morals and or their preferences when they log on here. And another point nsa is different for everyone, which people tend to forget and nowhere when you sign up to this site does it specify what type of nsa sex you have to have!
why , who said this should be a fuck site????????????
Ah you did about two posts before my previous one
dont think i did"
Read what I quoted from it was part of one of your posts |
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i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that.
And this is what bugs the hell oh of me. Thus is a swinging site where sex happens not a I will Fuck anything site. People have preferences be that married or single, fat or slim, man or woman, etc etc. Those preferences should be respected not judged, just cos someone is looking for nsa doesn't mean they have left morals and or their preferences when they log on here. And another point nsa is different for everyone, which people tend to forget and nowhere when you sign up to this site does it specify what type of nsa sex you have to have!
why , who said this should be a fuck site????????????
Ah you did about two posts before my previous one
dont think i did
Read what I quoted from it was part of one of your posts "
have a read of what i post , and what you said i posted ,, they dont mactch |
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i dont know, but i have a thought,,, i think people come onto a sex site with the belife that most are lookin for nas ,,,, and it is far from that.
And this is what bugs the hell oh of me. Thus is a swinging site where sex happens not a I will Fuck anything site. People have preferences be that married or single, fat or slim, man or woman, etc etc. Those preferences should be respected not judged, just cos someone is looking for nsa doesn't mean they have left morals and or their preferences when they log on here. And another point nsa is different for everyone, which people tend to forget and nowhere when you sign up to this site does it specify what type of nsa sex you have to have!
why , who said this should be a fuck site????????????
Ah you did about two posts before my previous one
dont think i did
Read what I quoted from it was part of one of your posts
have a read of what i post , and what you said i posted ,, they dont mactch "
Ah yes they do I just didn't include the bumf that you replied to, but whatever you don't seem to get that  |
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"If you're married and you have a single profile on a swinger site and you're actively meeting other people for sexual encounters and your partner doesnt know then you're cheating. (or to be more technical, a swinging cheater)
If you're doing the above and your partner knows and approves, you're in an open relationship.
I'm sorry but that's simply the fact of the matter.
I swung as a single guy in my late 20's and when i got involved with (and eventually married) someone who wasnt into the lifestyle I gave up.
For many reasons the marriage didnt work out and became sexless towards the end. Did i consider cheating? yes the thought crossed my mind. Did i consider using a swinger site to cheat? yes, even as far as joining up. Did I actually do it? No. Did I miss the lifestyle? I suppose I did.
Now i'm involved with an amazing woman who's interested in the lifestyle and am now lucky enough to see it from both sides, as a single guy and a swinging couple.
If you're using swinging as an excuse to escape a bad marriage take my advice: DON'T. Just end the marriage and move on. We prolonged it, and thankfully it ended amicably, but it could have ended a year earlier.
Swinging away from an unknowing partner is not a good idea.
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"Relax every why can't we all agree to disagree
everyone is entitled to give their opinions "
I never said that just saying to relax the froms are for fun and have in a laugh so why can't we all just agree to disagree |
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"If you're married and you have a single profile on a swinger site and you're actively meeting other people for sexual encounters and your partner doesnt know then you're cheating. (or to be more technical, a swinging cheater)
If you're doing the above and your partner knows and approves, you're in an open relationship.
I'm sorry but that's simply the fact of the matter.
I swung as a single guy in my late 20's and when i got involved with (and eventually married) someone who wasnt into the lifestyle I gave up.
For many reasons the marriage didnt work out and became sexless towards the end. Did i consider cheating? yes the thought crossed my mind. Did i consider using a swinger site to cheat? yes, even as far as joining up. Did I actually do it? No. Did I miss the lifestyle? I suppose I did.
Now i'm involved with an amazing woman who's interested in the lifestyle and am now lucky enough to see it from both sides, as a single guy and a swinging couple.
If you're using swinging as an excuse to escape a bad marriage take my advice: DON'T. Just end the marriage and move on. We prolonged it, and thankfully it ended amicably, but it could have ended a year earlier.
Swinging away from an unknowing partner is not a good idea.
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Very well put sexxy slut. People are here for their own reasons but I personally have less time for those who are economical with the truth. I just don't see why people cannot mention that they are married on the profile in the first place.
I like to make informed choices about who I meet with and not feel the wool has been pulled over my eyes when you find out after they're married. Then it's not only them that's feeling the guilt |
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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago
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"I don't judge anyone's reasons for being on here as I haven't lived a perfect life, far from it, but I just know I couldn't live with the guilt of repeatedly cheating on someone who had feelings for me , I'd rather be single."
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By *cjoyCouple
over a year ago
Galway |
"If you're married and you have a single profile on a swinger site and you're actively meeting other people for sexual encounters and your partner doesnt know then you're cheating. (or to be more technical, a swinging cheater)
If you're doing the above and your partner knows and approves, you're in an open relationship.
I'm sorry but that's simply the fact of the matter.
I swung as a single guy in my late 20's and when i got involved with (and eventually married) someone who wasnt into the lifestyle I gave up.
For many reasons the marriage didnt work out and became sexless towards the end. Did i consider cheating? yes the thought crossed my mind. Did i consider using a swinger site to cheat? yes, even as far as joining up. Did I actually do it? No. Did I miss the lifestyle? I suppose I did.
Now i'm involved with an amazing woman who's interested in the lifestyle and am now lucky enough to see it from both sides, as a single guy and a swinging couple.
If you're using swinging as an excuse to escape a bad marriage take my advice: DON'T. Just end the marriage and move on. We prolonged it, and thankfully it ended amicably, but it could have ended a year earlier.
Swinging away from an unknowing partner is not a good idea.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"its a terrible thing.some just cant handle the pressure of the guilt and delete their profiles which is sad.we all need fun in our lives "
surely swinging is about having an orgasm and self gratification, it isn't about having a good time or fun, just about emptying your balls.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"its a terrible thing.some just cant handle the pressure of the guilt and delete their profiles which is sad.we all need fun in our lives
surely swinging is about having an orgasm and self gratification, it isn't about having a good time or fun, just about emptying your balls. "
I sincerely hope you're joking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its a terrible thing.some just cant handle the pressure of the guilt and delete their profiles which is sad.we all need fun in our lives
surely swinging is about having an orgasm and self gratification, it isn't about having a good time or fun, just about emptying your balls. "
lmao, never heard anything so ridiculous on here in quite some time. |
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By *ilderMan
over a year ago
dublin |
"its a terrible thing.some just cant handle the pressure of the guilt and delete their profiles which is sad.we all need fun in our lives
surely swinging is about having an orgasm and self gratification, it isn't about having a good time or fun, just about emptying your balls. "
Wrong!!! That's what my hand is for. Or if I'm feeling adventurous my other hand!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting question alright curvy. I meet married and single women. One once explained to me it was her nature. She divided love and lust almost surgically. I could actually appreciate exactly what she meant."
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
Gods Own Country |
"Isn't that what all swingers do though, have sex with strangers for the lust aspect, certainly not for the love anyway.
Hell yeah.......and a gold star
Where do you get the gold stars? "
Round the front from the brown ones mate   |
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By *em4ejacWoman
over a year ago
Cougarville |
I'm receiving 3rd party hate mail on here because of a recent verification. I've been here for over 2 years and never have I been spoken to in the manner of this person . Criticising , name calling and down right ignorant . Trying to drag my name down .
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"Isn't that what all swingers do though, have sex with strangers for the lust aspect, certainly not for the love anyway."
Not necessarily. Possibly is what most believe when enter scene but like most things in life the tangents make us see and feel more sometimes. It's truly a voyage if discovery or at least has been for me. |
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"Isn't that what all swingers do though, have sex with strangers for the lust aspect, certainly not for the love anyway.
Hell yeah.......and a gold star
Where do you get the gold stars?
Round the front from the brown ones mate "
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
Gods Own Country |
"I'm receiving 3rd party hate mail on here because of a recent verification. I've been here for over 2 years and never have I been spoken to in the manner of this person . Criticising , name calling and down right ignorant . Trying to drag my name down .
Any advice ??"
Block and report to the moderators |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm receiving 3rd party hate mail on here because of a recent verification. I've been here for over 2 years and never have I been spoken to in the manner of this person . Criticising , name calling and down right ignorant . Trying to drag my name down .
Any advice ??"
u shud just ignore,block and report them |
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
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"I'm receiving 3rd party hate mail on here because of a recent verification. I've been here for over 2 years and never have I been spoken to in the manner of this person . Criticising , name calling and down right ignorant . Trying to drag my name down .
Any advice ??
u shud just ignore,block and report them"
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"I'm receiving 3rd party hate mail on here because of a recent verification. I've been here for over 2 years and never have I been spoken to in the manner of this person . Criticising , name calling and down right ignorant . Trying to drag my name down .
Any advice ??"
I have found myself these people live reaction or argument. Normally egomaniacal or control freaks. So I agree ignore block and report. Life is too short fem. |
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By *andytownMan
over a year ago
Gods Own Country |
"I'm receiving 3rd party hate mail on here because of a recent verification. I've been here for over 2 years and never have I been spoken to in the manner of this person . Criticising , name calling and down right ignorant . Trying to drag my name down .
Any advice ??
I have found myself these people live reaction or argument. Normally egomaniacal or control freaks. So I agree ignore block and report. Life is too short fem."
And he's probably getting off or enjoying the attention of this.....let the mods do their job and forget about the lowlife |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm receiving 3rd party hate mail on here because of a recent verification. I've been here for over 2 years and never have I been spoken to in the manner of this person . Criticising , name calling and down right ignorant . Trying to drag my name down .
Any advice ??
I have found myself these people live reaction or argument. Normally egomaniacal or control freaks. So I agree ignore block and report. Life is too short fem.
And he's probably getting off or enjoying the attention of this.....let the mods do their job and forget about the lowlife"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm receiving 3rd party hate mail on here because of a recent verification. I've been here for over 2 years and never have I been spoken to in the manner of this person . Criticising , name calling and down right ignorant . Trying to drag my name down .
Any advice ??"
Why would anyone take the time out of their day to attack a stranger on the internet like that, sounds like one sad bastard whoever they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm receiving 3rd party hate mail on here because of a recent verification. I've been here for over 2 years and never have I been spoken to in the manner of this person . Criticising , name calling and down right ignorant . Trying to drag my name down .
Any advice ??
Why would anyone take the time out of their day to attack a stranger on the internet like that, sounds like one sad bastard whoever they are."
ppl like tht are brave behind a screen!but total wimps in real life! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm receiving 3rd party hate mail on here because of a recent verification. I've been here for over 2 years and never have I been spoken to in the manner of this person . Criticising , name calling and down right ignorant . Trying to drag my name down .
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report and block , some of the folk here behave worse than a playground . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Delete your profile and join again and filter out the men thats what id do hun"
why shud she delete her profile?inconvieniencing herself cos of sum dickhead? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Delete your profile and join again and filter out the men thats what id do hun"
That's a bit drastic!!...
And why would she filter out the men? That's what she's looking for and we're not all the same either!  |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
hertfordshire |
"sure in that case half of us are on the wrong site...!!!!
I was married and i prefer meeting married people to single people.
You know what your getting with them they always play safe. There is no mind games and no hassle with married people and I find them to be more relaxed and easy going "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm receiving 3rd party hate mail on here because of a recent verification. I've been here for over 2 years and never have I been spoken to in the manner of this person . Criticising , name calling and down right ignorant . Trying to drag my name down .
Any advice ??
report and block , some of the folk here behave worse than a playground . "
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