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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Any couples out there where one half likes parties and clubs but doesn't like to play with others ?

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

Do u mean one half doesnt like to go to parties or goes and doesnt do anythin? Anyone who goes to a party has the right to play or not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As I said in the chatroom, noone has to do anything they don't want to, but an unverified couple where one doesn't play may be seen as a red flag by the host of a party. I'm guessing its the male who will play?

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

This guy posted in the Kind of cheating? Thread sayin its ok for guy to have cpls profile so says it all really

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile says you are a new couple looking for couples yinyin. Giving you the benefit of the doubt, you are asking for trouble if you want to attend parties and clubs as a new couple with one of you playing and one not. Why not get experience (and verifications) couple to couple first.

I would suggest clubs might be ideal for you but they are few and far between here. I also doubt a male & non playing female would have much luck there either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there on over a year and not 1 pic or a coffee meet I know every 1 doesn't have a pic up

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This guy posted in the Kind of cheating? Thread sayin its ok for guy to have cpls profile so says it all really"

What is "it all" exactly ?

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

Accordin to ur post in the thread I mentioned u think its a guys own business if he has a cpls profile.that says "it all"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"there on over a year and not 1 pic or a coffee meet I know every 1 doesn't have a pic up "

We have pics. We just keep them private and are selective about with whom we share.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Accordin to ur post in the thread I mentioned u think its a guys own business if he has a cpls profile.that says "it all""

I was referring to a comment which mentions of some profiles where the "couple no longer meets with one of the advertised partners". Effectively making them a single person. It is true, it is their own business.

You nor anyone else is not obliged to interact with such couples. So on that basis, it is their business and it shouldn't bother you. They can conduct themselves in that way if they so choose.

With regard to the "says it all", it is still unclear as to what exactly is "it all".

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

"Accordin to ur post in the thread I mentioned u think its a guys own business if he has a cpls profile.that says "it all"

You nor anyone else is not obliged to interact with such couples. So on that basis, it is their business and it shouldn't bother you. They can conduct themselves in that way if they so choose.

With regard to the "says it all", it is still unclear as to what exactly is "it all". "

"It all" is exactly the sentiments of ur last post.most ppl dont think its ok to do wat ur sayin.ur effectively a single guy advertising as a cpl.why???? Wats ur rational?? Apart from "its ur own business".

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Accordin to ur post in the thread I mentioned u think its a guys own business if he has a cpls profile.that says "it all"

You nor anyone else is not obliged to interact with such couples. So on that basis, it is their business and it shouldn't bother you. They can conduct themselves in that way if they so choose.

With regard to the "says it all", it is still unclear as to what exactly is "it all".

Whether other people think it is okay or not is irrelevant. Like I said, let it be the business of those whom present themselves as such. There are plenty of people out there who would be fine with such circumstances.

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By *oxysCouple over a year ago

I don't think to many people would agree that it's okay for a single fella to have a couples profile, if someone is doing that they are just misleading people and personally I think they should be made change their profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think to many people would agree that it's okay for a single fella to have a couples profile, if someone is doing that they are just misleading people and personally I think they should be made change their profile

There is a difference in a single PERSON having a couples profile and a couple having a couples profile where only one of them plays.

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

"Accordin to ur post in the thread I mentioned u think its a guys own business if he has a cpls profile.that says "it all"

You nor anyone else is not obliged to interact with such couples. So on that basis, it is their business and it shouldn't bother you. They can conduct themselves in that way if they so choose.

With regard to the "says it all", it is still unclear as to what exactly is "it all".

Correct me if im wrong but isnt it against the rules to have what is effectively a fake profile.I hope mods r reading this

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Accordin to ur post in the thread I mentioned u think its a guys own business if he has a cpls profile.that says "it all"

You nor anyone else is not obliged to interact with such couples. So on that basis, it is their business and it shouldn't bother you. They can conduct themselves in that way if they so choose.

With regard to the "says it all", it is still unclear as to what exactly is "it all".

Correct me if im wrong but isnt it against the rules to have what is effectively a fake profile.I hope mods r reading this"

It probably is againt the rules to have fake profile. I should hope so to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Long and short of it all is most cpls have they don't meet single men and have them blocked. ...

But some people think there intelligent putting up a cpl profile so they can contact these people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Accordin to ur post in the thread I mentioned u think its a guys own business if he has a cpls profile.that says "it all"

You nor anyone else is not obliged to interact with such couples. So on that basis, it is their business and it shouldn't bother you. They can conduct themselves in that way if they so choose.

With regard to the "says it all", it is still unclear as to what exactly is "it all".

Correct me if im wrong but isnt it against the rules to have what is effectively a fake profile.I hope mods r reading this

It probably is againt the rules to have fake profile. I should hope so to be honest."

and that my friend is what everyone is talking about here How this site and other swing site work on honesty and trust

so someone saying there a cpl when only one plays is a single. ...!!!

Weather the other half know our not is still only one so is a single profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Long and short of it all is most cpls have they don't meet single men and have them blocked. ...

But some people think there intelligent putting up a cpl profile so they can contact these people

I couldn't possibly say that for certain, although it is likely. That said, I'm sure there are plenty of genuine cases where there are couples where one of them has "retired" from playing. This could be eithter temporarily or permanently.

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By *oxysCouple over a year ago

There is a difference in a single PERSON having a couples profile and a couple having a couples profile where only one of them plays."
but why have a couples profile if there is only one of ye into this? Sorry I'm just kinda confused

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

There is a difference in a single PERSON having a couples profile and a couple having a couples profile where only one of them plays. but why have a couples profile if there is only one of ye into this? Sorry I'm just kinda confused

There are various reasons I suspect.

1. They are still a couple regardless.

2. They don't want the hassles of setting up a new profile.

3. They have build up a bank of friends / coments / verifications which they don't want to lose in the process.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Long and short of it all is most cpls have they don't meet single men and have them blocked. ...

But some people think there intelligent putting up a cpl profile so they can contact these people

yes my friend I totally agree and I am in fact one of them

my partner plays from time to time but I still have a single profile up. ..!!

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

There are various reasons I suspect.

1. They are still a couple regardless.

2. They don't want the hassles of setting up a new profile.

3. They have build up a bank of friends / coments / verifications which they don't want to lose in the process.

If wat ur sayin is true, and I doubt it, nowhere on ur profile does it say female doesnt play.as for ur points it takes 2 min to set up new profile.u dont display any veries or a summary so ur losing nothin really.id give u ring and verie u no prob

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Long and short of it all is most cpls have they don't meet single men and have them blocked. ...

But some people think there intelligent putting up a cpl profile so they can contact these people

yes my friend I totally agree and I am in fact one of them

my partner plays from time to time but I still have a single profile up. ..!!"

Good for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There is a difference in a single PERSON having a couples profile and a couple having a couples profile where only one of them plays."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

There are various reasons I suspect.

1. They are still a couple regardless.

2. They don't want the hassles of setting up a new profile.

3. They have build up a bank of friends / coments / verifications which they don't want to lose in the process.

I don't think it is a requirement that we mention that one of us doesn't play.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's redundant whether one plays,both of you plays or neither of you. If we were contacted by a profile here over a year with no visible veris,no photos,and very little effort put into the profile ... We would not reply.

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

This is a waste of time.as most ppl wud say if u contacted them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"This is a waste of time.as most ppl wud say if u contacted them"

Well we contact relatively few people. In fact, we receive more contact than we send out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my opinion a couple who want to meet together, but only one play should have a couples profile but state that only one of them plays on the profile. This would save a lot of wasted time as people who weren't into that wouldn't message them. Its NOT a site rule, but it's common sense.

A single guy with a couples profile IS against the rules and should have the profile changed by a mod.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it's redundant whether one plays,both of you plays or neither of you. If we were contacted by a profile here over a year with no visible veris,no photos,and very little effort put into the profile ... We would not reply. "

Same

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are various reasons I suspect.

1. They are still a couple regardless.

2. They don't want the hassles of setting up a new profile.

3. They have build up a bank of friends / coments / verifications which they don't want to lose in the process.

I don't think it is a requirement that we mention that one of us doesn't play."

yes it is!it says yur a cpl but if its only u (male)luking to meet yur decieving ppl!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Same"

Being here over a year with no verifications etc doesn't mean the profile is fake.

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

Same

Being here over a year with no verifications etc doesn't mean the profile is fake. "

Ur partner doesnt play!!!!! Ur advertised as a cpl!!!!

Ur a guy lookin for meets!!! Ur a fake.end of

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Same

Being here over a year with no verifications etc doesn't mean the profile is fake.

Ur partner doesnt play!!!!! Ur advertised as a cpl!!!!

Ur a guy lookin for meets!!! Ur a fake.end of"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Same

Being here over a year with no verifications etc doesn't mean the profile is fake.

Ur partner doesnt play!!!!! Ur advertised as a cpl!!!!

Ur a guy lookin for meets!!! Ur a fake.end of"

Who said I was male ?

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

Ur a clown.clowns usually are

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You need to stop with the condescending tone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Same

Being here over a year with no verifications etc doesn't mean the profile is fake. "

No but it does make people suspicious and put them off meeting, same if it was a single female.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Agreed, Sofia.

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By *at2Couple over a year ago

north Down

Same

Being here over a year with no verifications etc doesn't mean the profile is fake.

Ur partner doesnt play!!!!! Ur advertised as a cpl!!!!

Ur a guy lookin for meets!!! Ur a fake.end of

It doesn't work mate your just wasting your time why the hell your on here arguing when plainly your a single male there's lots more like you and your easily spotted .

Who said I was male ?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

[It doesn't work mate your just wasting your time why the hell your on here arguing when plainly your a single male there's lots more like you and your easily spotted .]

Sorry, there seems to be a typo. Is this your comment Kategaz ?

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

There are various reasons I suspect.

1. They are still a couple regardless.

2. They don't want the hassles of setting up a new profile.

3. They have build up a bank of friends / coments / verifications which they don't want to lose in the process.

I don't think it is a requirement that we mention that one of us doesn't play."

If only one person on a couples profile is involved it should be a single profile.

If its a single profile and someone else is involved it should be a couples profile.

Those are the site rules.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We disagree. If only one person on a couples profile plays, it should still be a couples profile.

There have been plenty of instances of people complaining about individuals with single profiles, then finding out they have a partner behind the scenes.

If you are a couple, then that is what your profile should portray. Whether you both play or not is another matter. That is for people to establish through conversation or otherwise. Different peoples have different dynamics.

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"We disagree. If only one person on a couples profile plays, it should still be a couples profile.

There have been plenty of instances of people complaining about individuals with single profiles, then finding out they have a partner behind the scenes.

You may well disagree but those are the site rules.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why don't you just put a line in your profile explaining who does/doesn't play..surely that would solve the issue?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"We disagree. If only one person on a couples profile plays, it should still be a couples profile.

There have been plenty of instances of people complaining about individuals with single profiles, then finding out they have a partner behind the scenes.

You may well disagree but those are the site rules."

Can you post a link or excerpt of these rules please ?

If this is the case, we shall leave the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why don't you just put a line in your profile explaining who does/doesn't play..surely that would solve the issue?"

This is a pretty good suggestion. It is also pleasantly and politely put across. Thanks for your input.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why don't you just put a line in your profile explaining who does/doesn't play..surely that would solve the issue?"

Because if they do that the messages will dry up. They don't want to solve the issue.

I wouldn't count the profile as fake myself, but waiting until someone messages you to tell them that only one part of the couple plays has the hallmarks of a timewaster.

Its also false advertising. What does your partner do when you meet? Stay at home? Watch and not take part? You need to be more honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why don't you just put a line in your profile explaining who does/doesn't play..surely that would solve the issue?

Because if they do that the messages will dry up. They don't want to solve the issue.

I wouldn't count the profile as fake myself, but waiting until someone messages you to tell them that only one part of the couple plays has the hallmarks of a timewaster.

Its also false advertising. What does your partner do when you meet? Stay at home? Watch and not take part? You need to be more honest."

This suggests we are being dishonest.

We are being honest. If we are guilty of anything, it is not updating our profile as quickly as some would like.

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By *avie tCouple over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

we met this cpl at a party over the weekend,we are well verified the hosts of the party are well verified and all the guests that were there are well verified not sure if one or both played we were a bit busy to notice lol but we did chat for a while so they are real and not a figment of our imagination so what if at the moment their both not sure if they want to play ppl have to be entitled to go at their own pace surley?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

YINYIN has the type of profile that (for us) raises so many red flags and sets off so many alarm bells it's an immediate no-no. No profile pic, no public pics, no private pics, no verifications after a year. No fun.

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

"we met this cpl at a party over the weekend,we are well verified the hosts of the party are well verified and all the guests that were there are well verified not sure if one or both played we were a bit busy to notice lol but we did chat for a while so they are real and not a figment of our imagination so what if at the moment their both not sure if they want to play ppl have to be entitled to go at their own pace surley?"

Firstly dont call me surley

Secondly the op needs to express himself more clearly.the reason I jumped on him was of his post in another thread about single guys having couple profiles.and he needs to be clear on his progile which he isnt

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Firstly dont call me surley

So, are you the self-appointed fabswinger police ?

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

Firstly dont call me surley

So, are you the self-appointed fabswinger police ?"

Well I do have the truncheon.no _ezebel is and she told u the rules

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In my opinion a couple who want to meet together, but only one play should have a couples profile but state that only one of them plays on the profile. This would save a lot of wasted time as people who weren't into that wouldn't message them. Its NOT a site rule, but it's common sense.

A single guy with a couples profile IS against the rules and should have the profile changed by a mod."

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By *avie tCouple over a year ago

otherside of nowhere

Firstly dont call me surley

a please i really want to call you surley it will do it for me lol just sayin we met these guys but it was a halloween party so maby their not real just ghosts of swingers past sorry thats christmas aint it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You need to stop with the condescending tone."

I agree some people here (incl myself) have worded responses too strongly and thoughtlessly, but you havent helped yourself with incomplete and obstructive responses.

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By *al2001Man over a year ago

kildare

"You need to stop with the condescending tone.

I agree some people here (incl myself) have worded responses too strongly and thoughtlessly, but you havent helped yourself with incomplete and obstructive responses."

Reason hal turned all green like was his post in another thread sayin its ok for single guys to have couple profiles.on my first post here I asked him to clarify and he didnt so only himself to blame.anyhoos enough of this sillyness.hal is of to message some ladies

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You need to stop with the condescending tone.

I agree some people here (incl myself) have worded responses too strongly and thoughtlessly, but you havent helped yourself with incomplete and obstructive responses.

Who is this "he" ?

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