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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to swing as a single guy years ago (2001-2004) and it wasnt easy, it took work. I averaged about 2 MMF's a year and there werent that many sites like this around at the time, AND my cock is nowhere near the size of yours. here's my advice for any would be single male swingers.
1. Patience, patience, PATIENCE! if you chat a couple today, dont expect to meet them tomorrow, next week or even next month. A lot of couples want to get to know the guy attached to the spare cock in the threesome, to make sure he's not a nutter. this takes time. this leads onto:
2. Dont be a nutter. be nice, polite, respectful. manners cost nothing, and can yield untold rewards.
3. Know your place. as i said before, you're the spare cock. you're lucky to be there. remember that. the couple hold the position of power.
4. Read the profile. if it says no single males, DO NOT MESSAGE THEM. you're wasting your time. instead, work on your own profile, see it as a swinging CV, WHAT CAN YOU OFFER? if you stand out from others, couples will find you.
5. Learn the red flags. work on your bullshit meter. the advantage you have today over when i was doing it years ago was that nowadays everyone has a decent laptop or smartphone, and should be able and willing to verify themselves. be wary of anyone who wont go on cam, email a pic, or take a phonecall (in fact buy a cheap prepay phone just for swinging) if they're avoiding questions about verifying, you can start smelling a rat. use the tools available, there are tons, skype, facetime....whatever you can.
6. If you're attached and doing this behind your partners back, stop now. I was involved with someone for 8 years that wasnt into the lifestyle and wouldnt have liked it if i was, so i didnt do it. and doing it behind her back would be too much work, and you're too easily caught. JUST DONT DO IT.
Thats just some of the hard lessons i learned along the way, and in that time i've had 13 MMF's some of which were with the same people. you know you're doing right when you're invited back!
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,,any tips on getting noticed id loved to hear from you all cheers 
