Have to ask a question and feel I'll get a different of answers here.its not to so with me but I was out last night with friends. One of my pals brought his girlfriend out for drinks with us but someone she knew walked into the pub and she jumped up and gave kiss now this man has a few years in here but took us all by surprise when she done he got pissed off bit she just said ah it's so and so it's nothing. Is he right to go mad about it and is she in he wrong for doing it |
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Only your friend knows the boundaries set in his relationship.
If he is pissed off then it's obviously something he isn't comfortable with.
But sounds like something only the 2 of them can come up with a "correct answer" for the rest of us would only be speculating and applying our own standards and boundaries to |
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I know my mate pretty well and his isn't into that sort of thing his old school I'm yours your mine none wanted to ask how he felt after it cause it looked like he was about to burn he place down with anger |
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Your mate sounds a bit controlling with his 'I'm yours, you're mine' bullshit. I wouldn't be staying if I was his girlfriend.
But I wasn't there and didn't see how she acted. Maybe she was out of order, maybe she wasn't. It's for them to sort out.
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No idea. Like Kakapo says - their relationship, their boundaries to establish.
Apart from that, there's a big difference between jumping up and giving someone a friendly kiss, and a full on tonsil tickler in the middle of the pub 🤷 |
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"Your mate sounds a bit controlling with his 'I'm yours, you're mine' bullshit. I wouldn't be staying if I was his girlfriend.
But I wasn't there and didn't see how she acted. Maybe she was out of order, maybe she wasn't. It's for them to sort out.
Mrs."
Sorry now but just because someone wants a monogamous relationship doesn't make them controlling.
Which is clearly all that was mentioned by the above phrase |
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I kiss female friends to say hi sometimes. I don't think it's strange for a girl to do the same.
I guess if it was a full on snog then most people might have a problem. I guess it wasn't though.
How did your friend react? Was he angry and shouting? If so perhaps he has some issues and he is best off dealing with them himself.
If she was my daughter and her boyfriend reacted like that I would be encouraging her to get the fuck away from him. |
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To be fair to him his the most laid back person I know I think it all took him by surprise how fast she jumped up and went for the kids no wasn't a full on snog big was definitely longer then it should have been. Think what tipped him over the edge was that we were talking about trust and he had nothing but praise for her then that happened was he angry yeah shouting no |
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"Your mate sounds a bit controlling with his 'I'm yours, you're mine' bullshit. I wouldn't be staying if I was his girlfriend.
But I wasn't there and didn't see how she acted. Maybe she was out of order, maybe she wasn't. It's for them to sort out.
Mrs.
Sorry now but just because someone wants a monogamous relationship doesn't make them controlling.
Which is clearly all that was mentioned by the above phrase"
It all depends on what was meant by 'I'm yours, you're mine'. It reeks of a controlling man to me. I wouldn't put up with that whether we were monogamous or not. |
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"To be fair to him his the most laid back person I know I think it all took him by surprise how fast she jumped up and went for the kids no wasn't a full on snog big was definitely longer then it should have been. Think what tipped him over the edge was that we were talking about trust and he had nothing but praise for her then that happened was he angry yeah shouting no "
Would he have felt the same if it was a female friend? |
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I live in a very kissy European world of people where it's very normal to kiss in greeting so I wouldn't personally see any problems.
It sounds to me like the disconnect is between the protagonists in this story. She acted in a way that was unexpected and this upset him. Neither of those things are particularly egregious in and of themselves but together and for a couple it looks like they don't understand or don't respect each others boundaries. |
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"Have to ask a question and feel I'll get a different of answers here.its not to so with me but I was out last night with friends. One of my pals brought his girlfriend out for drinks with us but someone she knew walked into the pub and she jumped up and gave kiss now this man has a few years in here but took us all by surprise when she done he got pissed off bit she just said ah it's so and so it's nothing. Is he right to go mad about it and is she in he wrong for doing it "
Sorry i dont actually fully understand what youre saying. Your language and lack of punctuation makes it confusing.
What does 'now this man has a few years in here'?
Did she kiss him on the mouth or just the cheek?
Where were her hands and where were his? |
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"Your mate sounds a bit controlling with his 'I'm yours, you're mine' bullshit. I wouldn't be staying if I was his girlfriend.
But I wasn't there and didn't see how she acted. Maybe she was out of order, maybe she wasn't. It's for them to sort out.
Mrs.
Sorry now but just because someone wants a monogamous relationship doesn't make them controlling.
Which is clearly all that was mentioned by the above phrase
It all depends on what was meant by 'I'm yours, you're mine'. It reeks of a controlling man to me. I wouldn't put up with that whether we were monogamous or not."
The OP used that terminology, not his friend.
I also suspect its obvious terminology used to describe a monogamous relationship, like all those in a monogamous relationship would think |
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