Men,
You’re interviewing for a job and the interviewer is a woman. She says, “We’ve had issues with problematic men at this company and we’re determined to put a stop to it. Convince me you’re a safe man.”
What do you say?
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Get up and leave...banging door behind me. ✌🏽 out.
On a serious note though,
I take being a good coworker seriously because I want everyone to feel respected and valued — myself included.
I believe in clear boundaries and mutual respect, especially when it comes to interactions with colleagues. |
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This is a very good question but a tough one to answer as a new hire.
What's the correct way of saying I'd sniff out the pricks that are causing the issues and report them while making sure everyone especially female staff knows they can come to me with any issues or problems they're having and trying to create a safer and more friendly environment for all without sounding like I'm going to go in and act as HR or a team lead and go on the hunt for anyone being an asshole to women 😂?
If it was for a leadership role you could answer something along those lines (in a more professional manner lol) but if it's an entry level role all you can do really is report it to the higher ups while trying your best to better the atmosphere and call people out on their bullshit lol |
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Thank you for the giving me the opportunity to get this far and considering me for this interview as this is not the type of question I would expect a company or an interviewer to be asking. Out the door thank you. That company might want to have a thorough check at its staffs and policies |
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I'd tell her they needed to look at their recruitment policy if they had a lot of issues with problematic men.
They should be using references from previous employers and stop relying on applicants giving themselves a character reference. |
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I would say no thank you but I'd prefer not to work in such a divisive situation. Openly pre-judging prospective employees and suggesting they justify themselves because of the 'sins' of others in the past certainly portrays a toxic environment to work in.
It's a big no thank you. Plenty of nice people to work with out there.
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I'd say stick your job up your hole.
Bear and a man in the woods bullshit , same as dog or a woman in the desert.
Convince me you're a safe woman. Men and women are both aggressive and prone to unsafe behaviors, the most aggressive people will generally be males but all males are not as aggressive as all females.
But yeah, stick your job up your hole twice.
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Put this question in a fab context.
Would you meet anyone here based on them telling you that they were nice or genuine?
The general consensus is that anyone describing themselves as such are anything but if they have to continually reinforce it.
Would you tell a prospective employee that you had been having issues with staff pilfering and ask them to convince you that they weren't a thief? |
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That’s not an appropriate question to ask in an interview. If the tables were turned and a woman was asked a question regarding what she intended to wear to her workplace, all hell would break loose and said company would get reported. Vetting via references would have been carried out long before the interview process got to this stage |
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"Men,
You’re interviewing for a job and the interviewer is a woman. She says, “We’ve had issues with problematic men at this company and we’re determined to put a stop to it. Convince me you’re a safe man.”
What do you say?
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"I suppose a ride is out of the question then?"  |
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"Men,
You’re interviewing for a job and the interviewer is a woman. She says, “We’ve had issues with problematic men at this company and we’re determined to put a stop to it. Convince me you’re a safe man.”
What do you say?
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"I suppose a ride is out of the question then?" "
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"Put this question in a fab context.
Would you meet anyone here based on them telling you that they were nice or genuine?
The general consensus is that anyone describing themselves as such are anything but if they have to continually reinforce it.
Would you tell a prospective employee that you had been having issues with staff pilfering and ask them to convince you that they weren't a thief? "
Completely agree, also why they would think that all it takes is a promise from the job applicant not to misbehave is very naive. Sounds like the type of practice that would take place in a university or a public service department.
Pointless box ticking. |
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By *hekMan 2 weeks ago
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"I would say no thank you but I'd prefer not to work in such a divisive situation. Openly pre-judging prospective employees and suggesting they justify themselves because of the 'sins' of others in the past certainly portrays a toxic environment to work in.
It's a big no thank you. Plenty of nice people to work with out there.
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This, being asked this question waves all the red flags, be glad to find this out during the interview process |
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I’d say thank you for your time in seeing me however this position is not for me, I prefer to be judged on my previous roles and work ethic and I don’t wish to be considered anymore for a company that appears to have a lack of inclusivity, gender-related biases that appear prevalent, poor leadership and unrealistic expectations that I will “fix” dynamics beyond my control in the company culture. Probably some of this could be applied to Fab too where there seems to be a bit of general ‘calling out’ behaviours that are tarring every man with the same brush. |
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I'd be running out the door. Questions in interviews show as much about the company as it does them trying to find out about you. A question like this shows a toxic culture in the company which is the reason I left my last 3 jobs and I was at a senior level with those toxic men! |
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"Men,
You’re interviewing for a job and the interviewer is a woman. She says, “We’ve had issues with problematic men at this company and we’re determined to put a stop to it. Convince me you’re a safe man.”
I'd flop my knob out, roll a rubber on it and say,
"Safe enough now?"
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id stand up....
wait for a couple of seconds...
then take out my wallet ,open it and take out some condoms and throw them onto the desk....
then ask...
is this what you have in mind regarding safety |
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I'd ask for written copies of any notes from the interview and also tell them I was making notes on the questions asked.
Then I'd take them to the fucking cleaners for asking gender specific questions in a work interview |
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With me and my stepbrother wearing our tuxs, I’d continue to answer the question as a big rasper of a fart is let out..
Hopefully then she would know that issues she was thinking of were the least of her problems.. |
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Totally inappropriate question to be asked maybe the person asking is the problem herself
Id certainly not want to be working for them because straight away before you start you’ve a target on your back simply because of other men previously so basically you dare step out of line and you’re fecked..
spin it around and if it was a male asking the question in an interview what would the women think |
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I’ll create a monitoring committee, where men are required to log daily acts of ‘safe man behavior’—like holding doors, agreeing with women even when they are wrong, and refraining from starting every meeting with sports talk, talk about cars or other complicated things.
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Looks like a lot of the guys got butt hurt on this one. Himself works in female dominated role and zero issues. References exist for a reason. And you can be asked for Garda clearance. Nothing wrong with checking male behaviour. I for 1 have been sexually assaulted at work last year. So YES this happens in real life. |
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"Looks like a lot of the guys got butt hurt on this one. Himself works in female dominated role and zero issues. References exist for a reason. And you can be asked for Garda clearance. Nothing wrong with checking male behaviour. I for 1 have been sexually assaulted at work last year. So YES this happens in real life. "
I worked for a female boss for more than 2 decades. In all that time we had 20+ male employees and 3 female. The only person to be dismissed for inappropriate behaviour in all that time was one of the women and the boss took great offence at how she spoke to and treated some of the male staff.
In another job I personally disciplined a male member of my dept for inappropriate behaviour towards one of the women he was working with.
His response to that was to physically attack me and immediately play the mental health card while I was suspended for gross misconduct because I hit him back in self defence.
With a week a female member of staff was reported by a number of male employees all under the age of 20 for her sexually charged comments towards them and wolf whistling when they entered a room.
She was never disciplined because management felt it wasn't a good look taking action against a long standing member of staff and it would send out the wrong message to the other women who worked in her dept.
Am I butt hurt over the op? Not in the slightest but don't make me out to be part of a problem or expect me to be part of a solution to an issue you as a company have allowed to develop.
I have interviewed lots of men and women over the years for various positions.
I have asked them to put meat on the bones of their CVs and talked to them about what they could bring to the company.
I show them the respect they deserve and don't back them into a corner with triggering questions. |
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I was asked at an interview by a prospective lady boss, who always dressed immaculately herself, if I felt comfortable dressing as I was, i.e. suit and tie. I said I was as I felt it demonstrated an effort to show myself at my best and this would also be reflected in how I represented the company.
Got the job and spent a number of very happy years working for that lady. |
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I would need someone who is always available. And obedient. Someone who will follow my instructions without hesitation. This job will also require someone who can attend evening events, social gatherings, business meetings. And there will be weekends away from home, hotel stays. Do you think you are a good candidate? |
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"Men,
You’re interviewing for a job and the interviewer is a woman. She says, “We’ve had issues with problematic men at this company and we’re determined to put a stop to it. Convince me you’re a safe man.”
What do you say?
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I am an individual before I am a man. Ultimately I can only try to gain your respect and trust. I would rather do those things than say that I would. |
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"Looks like a lot of the guys got butt hurt on this one. Himself works in female dominated role and zero issues. References exist for a reason. And you can be asked for Garda clearance. Nothing wrong with checking male behaviour. I for 1 have been sexually assaulted at work last year. So YES this happens in real life. "
Oh it's not the fact that it's a female environment, a question like that is a sign of a toxic environment. |
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"I would need someone who is always available. And obedient. Someone who will follow my instructions without hesitation. This job will also require someone who can attend evening events, social gatherings, business meetings. And there will be weekends away from home, hotel stays. Do you think you are a good candidate?"
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Pick me, pick me....
I will wear a suit and tie or whatever dress code you stipulate.
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"Looks like a lot of the guys got butt hurt on this one. Himself works in female dominated role and zero issues. References exist for a reason. And you can be asked for Garda clearance. Nothing wrong with checking male behaviour. I for 1 have been sexually assaulted at work last year. So YES this happens in real life. "
Very sorry to hear that happened to you and I genuinely hope that justice was done.
If you think that all men should have to assure a job interview committee that they won't sexually assault someone kinda shows that you may have a low opinion of men.
Using language like "butt hurt" to describe the reaction of men who honestly answered the initial question is also quite telling.
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"Looks like a lot of the guys got butt hurt on this one. Himself works in female dominated role and zero issues. References exist for a reason. And you can be asked for Garda clearance. Nothing wrong with checking male behaviour. I for 1 have been sexually assaulted at work last year. So YES this happens in real life.
Very sorry to hear that happened to you and I genuinely hope that justice was done.
If you think that all men should have to assure a job interview committee that they won't sexually assault someone kinda shows that you may have a low opinion of men.
Using language like "butt hurt" to describe the reaction of men who honestly answered the initial question is also quite telling.
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No justice was Not done! I was his manager and had to work with him still, and got assaulted for a 2nd time. They refused to dismiss him as they couldn't get people so I left. As for the rest of your comment "DITTO" |
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"Men,
You’re interviewing for a job and the interviewer is a woman. She says, “We’ve had issues with problematic men at this company and we’re determined to put a stop to it. Convince me you’re a safe man.”
What do you say?
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"You say that you have had issues with problematic men (plural) in your company. This is worrying and I am glad you are taking this seriously as I do not wish to work in a toxic environment alongside others exhibiting these tendancies. I understand that your question is an attempt to stop more "problematic men" joining your company, and as well intended as this may be, I believe this is a misguided method which will not solve your problem. I would suggest a top to bottom review of your business and how it deals with issues of gender equality and ensure that your business investigates best practice in this area and implements procedures that create an inclusive and safe environment for all your employees " |
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"Looks like a lot of the guys got butt hurt on this one. Himself works in female dominated role and zero issues. References exist for a reason. And you can be asked for Garda clearance. Nothing wrong with checking male behaviour. I for 1 have been sexually assaulted at work last year. So YES this happens in real life.
Very sorry to hear that happened to you and I genuinely hope that justice was done.
If you think that all men should have to assure a job interview committee that they won't sexually assault someone kinda shows that you may have a low opinion of men.
Using language like "butt hurt" to describe the reaction of men who honestly answered the initial question is also quite telling.
No justice was Not done! I was his manager and had to work with him still, and got assaulted for a 2nd time. They refused to dismiss him as they couldn't get people so I left. As for the rest of your comment "DITTO" "
It sounds to me like you have a nice lucrative legal case there. Loss of future earnings etc. |
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"Looks like a lot of the guys got butt hurt on this one. Himself works in female dominated role and zero issues. References exist for a reason. And you can be asked for Garda clearance. Nothing wrong with checking male behaviour. I for 1 have been sexually assaulted at work last year. So YES this happens in real life.
Very sorry to hear that happened to you and I genuinely hope that justice was done.
If you think that all men should have to assure a job interview committee that they won't sexually assault someone kinda shows that you may have a low opinion of men.
Using language like "butt hurt" to describe the reaction of men who honestly answered the initial question is also quite telling.
No justice was Not done! I was his manager and had to work with him still, and got assaulted for a 2nd time. They refused to dismiss him as they couldn't get people so I left. As for the rest of your comment "DITTO"
It sounds to me like you have a nice lucrative legal case there. Loss of future earnings etc. "
100% No organisation could withstand accusations like this.
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No justice was Not done! I was his manager and had to work with him still, and got assaulted for a 2nd time. They refused to dismiss him as they couldn't get people so I left. As for the rest of your comment "DITTO" "
I'm sorry to hear the ordeal you went through. Sounds terrible and very badly dealt with.
If you retained any of those communications from management I would follow up with that for sure.
You can complain to the Workplace Relations Commission (WRC), under the Employment Equality Acts 1998-2015. I won't link it here but just Google the act.
The WRC or Labour Court may:
Award compensation of up to a maximum of €40,000 or 2 years’ pay (whichever is greater)
Order the employer to take measures to prevent harassment or sexual harassment going forward, including by way of implementing appropriate training or policies.
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"Men,
You’re interviewing for a job and the interviewer is a woman. She says, “We’ve had issues with problematic men at this company and we’re determined to put a stop to it. Convince me you’re a safe man.”
What do you say?
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I'm glad you are taking actions to prevent these 'issues' happening in your organisation in the future. I'm not here to convince you or anyone else that I am 'safe' based solely on my gender. I'll end the interview now as I'm no longer interested in the opportunity. Thank you and goodbye. |
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That’s a great answer that last one.
In all seriousness, what sort of organisation would ask this question or reputable organisation.
To he honest, ridiculous thread and mods would do well to be banning garbage like this. |
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I’ve already posted to this thread and tend to agree with the last two comments. If you (OP) are looking for ideas on how to tell if a possible meet is safe or not ! This isn’t the way to find out . |
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