Just out of curiosity I know personal preferences etc are factors but when u get on really well chatting and the other person asks for a face pic to put a face behind the nice chats , and when you do they block u, anyone else find this fairly childish? Like everyone here is somewhat like minded and convos were great if someone is not attracted just say it lol the whole block thing is pretty crappy tbh |
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It’s hard not to take being blocked in that case personally, but some people use the block tool as a form of admin. They block coz they aren’t interested and it saves them from accidentally getting into the chats again coz they might forgot that they already seen a face pic and weren’t interested. It’s harsh but everyone uses fab the way they see fit 🤷🏻♀️ |
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"It’s hard not to take being blocked in that case personally, but some people use the block tool as a form of admin. They block coz they aren’t interested and it saves them from accidentally getting into the chats again coz they might forgot that they already seen a face pic and weren’t interested. It’s harsh but everyone uses fab the way they see fit 🤷🏻♀️"
Yes, but if you were chatting it would be nice to have some manners and not just simply block people. It can feel as if they just want to get a face pic to find out who you are. |
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"It’s hard not to take being blocked in that case personally, but some people use the block tool as a form of admin. They block coz they aren’t interested and it saves them from accidentally getting into the chats again coz they might forgot that they already seen a face pic and weren’t interested. It’s harsh but everyone uses fab the way they see fit 🤷🏻♀️
Yes, but if you were chatting it would be nice to have some manners and not just simply block people. It can feel as if they just want to get a face pic to find out who you are. "
It would be the polite thing to do, I can only speak from a females perspective and when you politely decline, it’s usually met with an abusive reply |
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"It’s hard not to take being blocked in that case personally, but some people use the block tool as a form of admin. They block coz they aren’t interested and it saves them from accidentally getting into the chats again coz they might forgot that they already seen a face pic and weren’t interested. It’s harsh but everyone uses fab the way they see fit 🤷🏻♀️
Yes, but if you were chatting it would be nice to have some manners and not just simply block people. It can feel as if they just want to get a face pic to find out who you are.
It would be the polite thing to do, I can only speak from a females perspective and when you politely decline, it’s usually met with an abusive reply"
Definitely the block button then! |
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It's not great... BUT.. If they know they don't fancy you after seeing your facepic then what's the point in sending theirs. It's pointless. It's also very hard to say to someone's face that you find them unattractive. I understand it.
You were a little silly to send your facepic when requested without seeing theirs. Use the phrase "you first". Although intimately nothing extra would have been achieved if they didn't fancy you, it would have ended there anyway. |
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Sorry but I do this. I ask for a pic from the start and happy to share mine too. I’m here for sex, not a pen pal. If no attraction then I just block. I used to try and be polite but in a lot of cases was met with nasty replies- so now I just block. |
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It is difficult I've swapped face pictures or even gone to coffee and there's no attraction for me. I'll never forget one coffee when I told him I wasn't attracted to him will never forget his words he said this is Fab we don't need to be attracted to each other. My vagina tells me otherwise! |
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Its not nice when it happens but try not to dwell on it ,you wherent for them for whatever reason .As said above if they're asking for a face pic ,dont be so quick to send without having received one from them first . |
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People just hunting for photos is all. I don’t want to hear that it’s a mitigation process. To me not having the courtesy to even reply and say sorry not my type reveals the level of person you are encountering. |
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Blocking after sharing face pic or first message is childish and a lot of woman shud just be honest and say they’re not interested , but this is fab and they’re prefer to string you along.
Best thing to do is not give a fuck & move on , let them move into the next arsehole who treats them badly then they give out about no decent men in Fab, Yawn !!!! |
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It happens and it feels a bit shit but try not to let it put you off.
I've had people say no thanks after swapping pics then spend half the night chasing me at a social night out.
There are plenty of others who you will click with I'm sure |
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I can totally understand your frustrations and I absolutely agree with you that the decent respectful thing to do would be to say thanks but no thanks.
Very few have the backbone for that honesty here it seems.
To be fair, if people have previously been abused for same said honesty then it's no wonder they simply take the block route.
It's happened to us all, so you'll just have to chalk it and move on. Least you haven't wasted any further time making small talk with someone who isn't for you.
As I always say.....NEXTTTT!! 😂 |
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By * BlackMan 1 day ago
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This place is full of different types of people , sharing a face pic first can work for some as it saves time with a person being a match or not, I've had several requests for face pics from different types of humans, for me if I can't have a conversation with someone, which is the staring point. If it moves to Face pic exchange, and it's not a match no hard feeling, thank them for their time and move on, if I'm blocked I understand it, in my mind. it's thier loss,there's loads fish in the sea. it's like chase and catch as kids ya catch the human ya wanna kiss they says NO Im not playing anymore!!!, you chase the next human." It's all part of it".  |
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Been blocked for my initial message with face pic and then came across them at a party and we get along well now, it goes both ways but the major issue is the sheer number of message women get that makes them use the block button quiet often 🤷🏽♂️ |
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They might have recognised you from out in the real world and want to keep things separate.
Or, as others have said, they might simply be fed up receiving dogs abuse for gently letting men down. Happens all the time on here, men's fragility can be astonishing. Even in some of the posts in this thread the vitriol is palpable.
Nobody's for everybody, and most people aren't for you. Just the way it goes.  |
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"It is difficult I've swapped face pictures or even gone to coffee and there's no attraction for me. I'll never forget one coffee when I told him I wasn't attracted to him will never forget his words he said this is Fab we don't need to be attracted to each other. My vagina tells me otherwise! "
Not much going on between his ears lol |
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"Beauty comes from within so getting judged or judging someone because of looks or body would tell me you had a lucky escape. Oh of course I’d say that because I’m a ugly man"
Really? Attraction has to start somewhere and I've turned down women because I wasn't attracted to what I saw in their photos. I have to believe that's true for anyone to whom physical/facial attraction is important.
Even more so when I'm swiping left on an app and not sending a polite refusal each time
That's a totally reasonable response.
Granted a lot of men will try to fuck anyone (I don't mean you Dom)
Guys can't be expected to know that women get abuse for saying no thanks so it's good to ask and learn how fab works but once you know you know. |
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"Blocking after sharing face pic or first message is childish and a lot of woman shud just be honest and say they’re not interested , but this is fab and they’re prefer to string you along.
Best thing to do is not give a fuck & move on , let them move into the next arsehole who treats them badly then they give out about no decent men in Fab, Yawn !!!! "
Maybe a “sorry not interested “ reply and then block before the abusive reply comes back ? |
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"Beauty comes from within so getting judged or judging someone because of looks or body would tell me you had a lucky escape. Oh of course I’d say that because I’m a ugly man"
I make no apologies for wanting/needing to be physically attracted to the people I share my body with. If people consider me a shallow cunt for that, then we weren't compatible anyway. I also want those I share my body with to find me physically attractive, so it's a two-way street. I don't want someone to be with me just because I'm jolly nice.
Physical attraction is just one factor but *for me* it is equally important as the non-physical aspects.
OP, I have no issue with saying someone isn't for me but I guess it could become more awkward the longer you converse with someone. And yes, they could tell you and then block but the result is the same. They aren't into you. Others will be. |
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By *om TangoMan 23 hours ago
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Maybe I worded that wrong above and maybe I’m wired wrong. But for me I find the attraction in peoples personalities and the energy I get from them. I might be after different things than most people. I enjoy meeting people, making new friends and connections so therefore I don’t care what anyone looks like. Maybe I should have made that clear in my comment above. I enjoy meeting people from the lifestyle and sharing experiences and stories. I’m sorry if I offended anyone. Just some of us are after different things on our journey in this lifestyle. Once again sorry if I offend anyone |
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I've a face only a mother could love so I don't send face pictures but I'll stick a brown paper bag over my head before they ride me. Actually I'm a Two Bagger I'll stick one over your head in case mine falls off. Sure as my Granny used to say you don't look at the mantlepiece when your poking the fire  |
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By *om TangoMan 23 hours ago
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"I've a face only a mother could love so I don't send face pictures but I'll stick a brown paper bag over my head before they ride me. Actually I'm a Two Bagger I'll stick one over your head in case mine falls off. Sure as my Granny used to say you don't look at the mantlepiece when your poking the fire "
Love your sense of humour girl |
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"Maybe I worded that wrong above and maybe I’m wired wrong. But for me I find the attraction in peoples personalities and the energy I get from them. I might be after different things than most people. I enjoy meeting people, making new friends and connections so therefore I don’t care what anyone looks like. Maybe I should have made that clear in my comment above. I enjoy meeting people from the lifestyle and sharing experiences and stories. I’m sorry if I offended anyone. Just some of us are after different things on our journey in this lifestyle. Once again sorry if I offend anyone "
I enjoy these things too and I don't need physical attraction for that. But that's very different to doing the sex. Or potentially doing the sex. For that they ALSO need to be physically attractive, and attracted, "to me".
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"It's not great... BUT.. If they know they don't fancy you after seeing your facepic then what's the point in sending theirs. It's pointless. It's also very hard to say to someone's face that you find them unattractive. I understand it.
While most of what you say is correct, saying "you first" would get you blocked also. It's a tough game, I just avoid people who has for face pics immediately.
You were a little silly to send your facepic when requested without seeing theirs. Use the phrase "you first". Although intimately nothing extra would have been achieved if they didn't fancy you, it would have ended there anyway."
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"Sorry but I do this. I ask for a pic from the start and happy to share mine too. I’m here for sex, not a pen pal. If no attraction then I just block. I used to try and be polite but in a lot of cases was met with nasty replies- so now I just block. "
Couldn't you do both. Thank you but you're not for me. Block |
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"I've a face only a mother could love so I don't send face pictures but I'll stick a brown paper bag over my head before they ride me. Actually I'm a Two Bagger I'll stick one over your head in case mine falls off. Sure as my Granny used to say you don't look at the mantlepiece when your poking the fire "
Isn't that what your man says to the auld fella in the film "the butcher boy". Sure there you are now missus they will think I'm crazy |
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" I enjoy these things too and I don't need physical attraction for that. But that's very different to doing the sex. Or potentially doing the sex. For that they ALSO need to be physically attractive, and attracted, "to me".
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I totally agree LK with all of your comments here, I love people and personalities are so very attractive but there needs to be a good chemistry between both of us to have great sex. I am at the stage why bother otherwise. I also know some hot looking people who I think uuurrrggghhhhhh not a chance because they are twats lol. |
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I get where your coming same thing happen to me now on a few occasions I actually put a post up about it and got slated but it is annoying getting blocked after you send a face pic especially when u been chatting for a bit before that but fab got really bad for fake accounts time wasters and plp just hounding you for pictures, as you say just be honest and say your arnt for me and move on be an adult about it I've been blocked more times now after sending a picture weather they know me are maybe I'm not there type but I won't be everyone cup of tea which is fine with me I take it on the chin amd move and say best of luck on fab but it is annoying when u get blocked especially after chatting for abit and maybe you think it could be going somewhere and then bang your block fab strange old world lol |
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By * BlackMan 14 hours ago
Laois/ Dublin |
"I've a face only a mother could love so I don't send face pictures but I'll stick a brown paper bag over my head before they ride me. Actually I'm a Two Bagger I'll stick one over your head in case mine falls off. Sure as my Granny used to say you don't look at the mantlepiece when your poking the fire "
U wouldn't touch her with a telephone pole  |
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"I've a face only a mother could love so I don't send face pictures but I'll stick a brown paper bag over my head before they ride me. Actually I'm a Two Bagger I'll stick one over your head in case mine falls off. Sure as my Granny used to say you don't look at the mantlepiece when your poking the fire "
Great titties though 😁 |
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