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By *og-ManMan 2 weeks ago
somewhere |
All depends on the meet
Social coffee ....no
Someone's house ....never go empty handed ....bottle of wine or chocolates or flowers is what I'd bring
House party ....the same for the hosts
Hotel....stuff to share...bottles of water,some goodies....fruit or chocolates if staying for a few hours |
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"Hi OP, this will depend on the person, I personally wouldn't appreciate it... as that might be giving the wrong signals.
Lina "
Totally agree, it's just an interesting lesson that could be learned here and not experienced poorly  |
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"All depends on the meet
Social coffee ....no
Someone's house ....never go empty handed ....bottle of wine or chocolates or flowers is what I'd bring
House party ....the same for the hosts
Hotel....stuff to share...bottles of water,some goodies....fruit or chocolates if staying for a few hours "
This exactly
I was,always brought up never arrive to someone's house with one arm as long as another so when I've accommodated I've always appreciated be it a bottle of wine fancy biscuits or cutest one kitten milk cos I'd a new litter
And i would do the same if I'm going to someone's house or like u said bog for hotel some drinks and snacks |
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"All depends on the meet
Social coffee ....no
Someone's house ....never go empty handed ....bottle of wine or chocolates or flowers is what I'd bring
House party ....the same for the hosts
Hotel....stuff to share...bottles of water,some goodies....fruit or chocolates if staying for a few hours "
Same sir. |
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"All depends on the meet
Social coffee ....no
Someone's house ....never go empty handed ....bottle of wine or chocolates or flowers is what I'd bring
House party ....the same for the hosts
Hotel....stuff to share...bottles of water,some goodies....fruit or chocolates if staying for a few hours "
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This.
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Christ no. Way too forward
Coffee or a drink first. See how it goes
Maybe it could depend on conversation before that though. In certain cultures it could be an insult not to bring a gift
If I was given a gift on a first meet/first date, I’d run a mile |
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I think gifts only work if it’s a longer term arrangement. Certainly no gifts for a first meet. But if you have a buddy you meet regularly enough then perhaps something if you meet at each others homes. |
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For me I used to bake the person a dessert as a surprise and I suppose you could call it a gift. They were always well received and a good ice breaker specially for those with a sweet tooth though I did do raspberry and white chocolate scones for someone who didn’t want a dessert. |
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By *iscuits8Man 2 weeks ago
Meath / Dublin / Birmingham |
Much the same
Out for a coffee, I'll usually insist on buying it and if they want anything to go with it
Heading to a house I'll have at least a bottle of vino and probably something with it |
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On a first meet, it comes on too strong.
That person is still figuring out if they like you or not. You're clearly trying to push them to like you but it feels like pressure.
Like, they want you to feel bad about turning them down if it's not a match. |
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"So what I'm getting from this thread is I'm wasting money on donuts 
Maybe the cream pies? 🤔🤣
I brought a box the last time
Did I give you one "
No you teased me with the idea and then gave me a donut instead  |
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By *s LollyWoman 2 weeks ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
Over the year's ive had two people to my home one brought breakfast which was lovely the other nothing, ive booked and paid for expensive hotels and they've arrived with there hands hanging....🤷 |
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"With regards to giving wine, there's no guarantee they drink red or white so do you give them a rosé wine instead!! And what if they don't drink, well that would be an embarrassment! "
Worse... what if they are a recovering alcoholic |
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By *s LollyWoman 2 weeks ago
The pub then supermacs ... |
"Sure isn’t meeting me gift enough……
I’ve brought gifts to meets, nothing that make the recipient uncomfortable I hope, more a joke or token sort of thing."
I still think of you when using my gift 😝😂 |
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"With regards to giving wine, there's no guarantee they drink red or white so do you give them a rosé wine instead!! And what if they don't drink, well that would be an embarrassment!
Worse... what if they are a recovering alcoholic "
Indeed....   |
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By *og-ManMan 2 weeks ago
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"Sure isn’t meeting me gift enough……
I’ve brought gifts to meets, nothing that make the recipient uncomfortable I hope, more a joke or token sort of thing.
I still think of you when using my gift 😝😂"
I think of him too when I'm using mine |
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"With regards to giving wine, there's no guarantee they drink red or white so do you give them a rosé wine instead!! And what if they don't drink, well that would be an embarrassment! "
I've been given wine i don't drink as presents, no big deal, I thank them politey and pass it on to someone who would drink it at a later time. It's really not that complicated |
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"With regards to giving wine, there's no guarantee they drink red or white so do you give them a rosé wine instead!! And what if they don't drink, well that would be an embarrassment!
I've been given wine i don't drink as presents, no big deal, I thank them politey and pass it on to someone who would drink it at a later time. It's really not that complicated "
True true!! It's the thought that counts more!! |
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"With regards to giving wine, there's no guarantee they drink red or white so do you give them a rosé wine instead!! And what if they don't drink, well that would be an embarrassment!
I've been given wine i don't drink as presents, no big deal, I thank them politey and pass it on to someone who would drink it at a later time. It's really not that complicated
True true!! It's the thought that counts more!!"
Its nice to be nice. Me personally i wouldnt bring a gift just incase someone may take it the wromg way. I would just pay for the meal or coffee that you may be having to be on the safe side. |
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"With regards to giving wine, there's no guarantee they drink red or white so do you give them a rosé wine instead!! And what if they don't drink, well that would be an embarrassment!
I've been given wine i don't drink as presents, no big deal, I thank them politey and pass it on to someone who would drink it at a later time. It's really not that complicated
True true!! It's the thought that counts more!!
Its nice to be nice. Me personally i wouldnt bring a gift just incase someone may take it the wromg way. I would just pay for the meal or coffee that you may be having to be on the safe side."
Depending on what type meet it was. I agree with this also, Just pay for the coffee or food that would be sufficient enough |
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I'd bring something so share if I'm going to someone's house. Gifts aren't something that would even cross my mind unless I'm really into someone and it feels appropriate.
I don't buy the whole men pay for coffee/dinner thing either. |
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"With regards to giving wine, there's no guarantee they drink red or white so do you give them a rosé wine instead!! And what if they don't drink, well that would be an embarrassment!
I've been given wine i don't drink as presents, no big deal, I thank them politey and pass it on to someone who would drink it at a later time. It's really not that complicated
True true!! It's the thought that counts more!!
Its nice to be nice. Me personally i wouldnt bring a gift just incase someone may take it the wromg way. I would just pay for the meal or coffee that you may be having to be on the safe side.
Depending on what type meet it was. I agree with this also, Just pay for the coffee or food that would be sufficient enough"
I'd only bring a bottle of wine to a party not to a coffee meet!! |
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I’ve had guys bring small gifts to coffee meets.
Chocolate or something we may have spoken about. But I don’t expect a gift.
If I was going to theirs then I’d bring something.. maybe cake if it’s daytime or vino if I was staying over.. ya know.. |
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"I'd bring something so share if I'm going to someone's house. Gifts aren't something that would even cross my mind unless I'm really into someone and it feels appropriate.
I don't buy the whole men pay for coffee/dinner thing either. "
But you bought my lunch the day we managed to meet up.... I didn't mention but I was actually really skint that day so it was very much appreciated thanks again  |
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I usually ask someone what they're drinking, if they're hosting I'll bring it. Sometimes they say thanks, sometimes they say you get yours and I'll get mine, sometimes they offer to get mine. It's always different. Asking is a pretty good tactic xx |
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"I'd bring something so share if I'm going to someone's house. Gifts aren't something that would even cross my mind unless I'm really into someone and it feels appropriate.
I don't buy the whole men pay for coffee/dinner thing either.
But you bought my lunch the day we managed to meet up.... I didn't mention but I was actually really skint that day so it was very much appreciated thanks again "
Did I? 😂
To be fair I was in a VERY good mood that morning.
I don't mean I never spring for the cheque just that I don't believe in the tradition that because I'm a guy I always should.
I've had coffees, meals, and even hotels covered and I've really appreciated it too.
Whatever feels right in the moment is usually fine. |
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I haaaaate the assumption that the guy should pay for coffees/meals/hotels/whatever. It’s nice for a meet to offer to pay for your coffee but just as nice that you offer to pay for theirs.
Gifts…not from a random person. If it was someone I knew and it was based on a conversation or something then all for it. Otherwise, feels a bit weird. |
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By * BlackMan 2 weeks ago
Laois/ Dublin |
"All depends on the meet
Social coffee ....no
Someone's house ....never go empty handed ....bottle of wine or chocolates or flowers is what I'd bring
House party ....the same for the hosts
Hotel....stuff to share...bottles of water,some goodies....fruit or chocolates if staying for a few hours "
This  |
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